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Being asked "Have you gotten the tour yet" upon entering a house for the first time is the adult equivelent of the kids asking: "Do you want to see my room?"
Submitted 2 days ago by yaroto98@lemmy.world to showerthoughts@lemmy.world
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pulsewidth@lemmy.world 1 day ago
Kolanaki@pawb.social 1 day ago
I still say “do you wanna see my room?” ae an adult because
A) It’s the only space that is mine.
and
B) I have ulterior motives involving the bed. 😈
SatansMaggotyCumFart@piefed.world 2 days ago
I usually ask them if they've seen my sex dungeon.
errer@lemmy.world 1 day ago
Sex cauldron?! I thought they shut that place down!
ayyo@sh.itjust.works 2 days ago
User checks out
KryptoSynth@ani.social 1 day ago
dang how popular is your sex dungeon?
klemptor@startrek.website 1 day ago
I never understood this - I think giving people a tour of your house is such a weird thing to do.
smh@slrpnk.net 1 day ago
I really just want to know where the bathrooms and sitting areas are.
yaroto98@lemmy.world 1 day ago
I honestly just think it’s to show off. The only houses I’ve gotten the tour of have been the really big expensive houses.
TrickDacy@lemmy.world 1 day ago
That’s weird. I’ve given and received tours in all sorts of apartments and homes. It is a little weird but it’s a social convention. People mainly wanna know where the bathrooms are and if they’re a house guest, get an idea of where they should especially respect privacy.
McDropout@lemmy.world 1 day ago
I have cool posters and easter eggs around the kitchen and living room that I love to show to people (and some party tricks like a folding couch). It’s not flexing really 🤷♂️
M137@lemmy.world 1 day ago
I live in a small apartment, and when standing in the middle of the kitchen you can see almost all of if. So when I have new people over I like to ask if they want a tour then point to that spot and tell them to go there, then I say “ok, look around, that’s everything! Nice, huh?” There are generally only two different reactions: “Haha! Yeah, it is nice!” or “Oh, come on, it’s not that bad!”. I never say it in a way that makes it sound like I think it’s bad or too small, but people who have the second reaction generally like bigger and “more”.
It’s the perfect size for me, wouldn’t choose a bigger one even for the same price.
atomicbocks@sh.itjust.works 2 days ago
Yeah… no. It’s so you don’t have to ask me where the bathroom is later.
RaivoKulli@sopuli.xyz 1 day ago
I guess some don’t want to ask for the bathroom but it’s pretty common to be curious about someone’s home
atomicbocks@sh.itjust.works 1 day ago
I wasn’t saying it wasn’t, I was just disagreeing with the OP. Personally I find it pretty uncomfortable to be in a house I don’t know the layout of.
Perspectivist@feddit.uk 1 day ago
Stand in the middle of my living room and look around. Now you’ve seen my house. Want to see my tools shed too?
PriorityMotif@lemmy.world 1 day ago
!dull_mens_club@lemmy.world
Perspectivist@feddit.uk 1 day ago
The gatekeepers have deemed my shed too interesting for that community so I no longer post pictures from there.
porksnort@slrpnk.net 1 day ago
Yes! What’s your favorite tool? Why didn’t the tour start here, your shed is amazing!
DarrinBrunner@lemmy.world 1 day ago
The correct answer is, “Yes. I saved all the pictures from Zillow.”
colourlessidea@sopuli.xyz 1 day ago
I’m not sure. For me entering someone else’s home is a slightly disconcerting experience. Things are similar but obviously different. Being given a house tour immediately makes me feel a lot more relaxed and … at home in that similar-but-different space.
YaDownWitCPP@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Oddly enough, the bedrooms aren’t always included in a house tour.
RaivoKulli@sopuli.xyz 1 day ago
Too private I guess
RBWells@lemmy.world 1 day ago
This is not something I’ve ever offered, only show the rooms of the house if someone asks to see the house.
Jericho_One@lemmy.world 1 day ago
x00z@lemmy.world 1 day ago
Here’s me enjoying getting a tour and giving tours. It’s nice because you include each other in each others life.
SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Yes.
PhobosAnomaly@feddit.uk 2 days ago
I dated a girl once who came round. She asked “are you going to give me the tour?”
I was like “uh, okay sure” so showed her around the living room, kitchen and back yard, before heading upstairs. I showed her the guest rooms and my room, and she sat on the bed and was like “it seems comfy in here”.
Right then I did what any guy would do, stopped for a moment, and said “it sure is. Now let’s head back downstairs and see what there is to watch”.
It was a good couple of years later when I thought back about it and it hit me like a train, “you fucking idiot”
eestileib@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 days ago
Good to know that straight men do this too, cause this is an absolutely classic lesbian scenario.
Goodlucksil@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 days ago
This is absolutely a “women work in mysterious ways” scenario.
SeductiveTortoise@piefed.social 1 day ago
I was visiting a friend who I had a crush on some many years ago and late at night she came into the guest room I was sleeping in, slid under my blanket, took my hand and placed it on her naked chest. I though “boob! 😃” and went back to sleep.
It took me years to understand she wanted to tell me something.
PhobosAnomaly@feddit.uk 2 days ago
I was just clueless as fuck. I’ve got the sun total of zero game when it comes to dating, not that it matters now I’ve settled down.
I did learn my lesson though. Met a girl who was absolutely stunning, like cover girl model looks, and she was lovely. Asked her out on a date expecting to be shot down, and she said yes. At that point I was like a dog that had chased a car and caught up with it, I didn’t know what the fuck to do.
Anyway, we went out a couple of times - nice restaurant, bowling, the cinema… had a great time with her but it wasn’t really moving forward and just kinda started to fizzle out, which was no big deal.
One evening she phones me, saying she was at a house party two or three towns over, and was getting bored - and asked me to take her home. No worries there, I wasn’t doing anything, so I drove over to get here and she hopped in, a bit worse for wear after a glass or twelve of wine but not absolutely munted.
Halfway down, she’s like “actually, can we go back to yours? I don’t really want to get in and my parents see me like this”. Not a problemo, took her back to mine, got her a coffee and sat and chatted. She came through to my room when I was getting changed and crashed out on the bed beside me, faced me, and said “maybe I’ll sleep here tonight?”
I’d learned my lesson, I could see that she wanted all two inches of this rage and disappointment. So I said “sure, no problem, I’ll sleep on the sofa”.
I drove her home the following morning and she never said a word. I desperately wished I could have taken that opportunity, but the whole consent thing after her sesh at the party made it a little bit dicey. I never did get another opportunity. She was absolutely lovely though and I hope she found a guy that made her happy. 😊
RaivoKulli@sopuli.xyz 1 day ago
Sounds like it’s just a people thing
dalekcaan@feddit.nl 2 days ago
youtube.com/watch?v=xa-4IAR_9Yw
DarrinBrunner@lemmy.world 1 day ago
Girls read this and say “A couple of years? Are you serious?”
Guys read this and nod their head. Every guy has a story like this, at least one.
zout@fedia.io 2 days ago
I once had a girl in a bar tell me (after some flirting and kissing) that she was wearing white panties with pink hearts, to which I responded "That's nice".
wreckedcarzz@lemmy.world 1 day ago
In high school, I had a classmate that I was not yet in the ‘friends’ territory, but we knew each other and would make small talk. One day she asked me to come around and look at her family computer, usual ‘slow and acting weird’ stuff. Sure.
I go over, all prepped with a flash drive full of utilities, and get straight to work. After a bit, maybe an hour of just chatting while I run programs and make changes, she offers to show me her room. I mean, I’m just waiting for the progress bar, why not. So she leads me back and it’s a cozy room, all neat and tidy, and I stop in the doorway while she sits on the bed. I survey the room, I remember the bed being pink, like that of a flowers pedals (I don’t know names of flowers but you all know that one I’m talking about, pink with a shade of white making it a light pink). I said something about the room being nice or something, and she pats the bed next to her and offers that I sit.
“No thanks, I should probably get back to the computer to see how it’s doing.”
And I do just that. She asks for help twice more after that - and I’m just like ‘how are you this bad at computers’ but strangely the follow-up visits don’t show much for me to fix. Strange, why would she ask for help - and pay me - when it’s basically in pristine shape now?
About a decade later, it clicked. She was cute, tall, quite intelligent, and nice to talk to, but I’m both an idiot, and like 99.4% gay, so that makes sense. Had it been a guy, I would have connected the dots immediately.
Ah well, she had a better-than-new pc for quite a while, at least.
pipe01@programming.dev 1 day ago
Well at least you have the gay excuse, but some people really are that dense lol
fruitycoder@sh.itjust.works 1 day ago
Decades later “You are more of a cuddler then I expected” still echos in my head after spending the night with a girl that clearly liked me that spent all day telling dirty jokes to.
Beacon@fedia.io 2 days ago
Sigh, at least I'm not alone in my obliviousness. Can i stop beating myself up about it now? How about all those other unrelated past mistakes i made, can i stop beating myself up about those too? Sigh.
PhobosAnomaly@feddit.uk 2 days ago
Life’s too short to get hung up on it, friend.
I know it’s easy for me to say, but each success; mistakes; and blatantly oblivious sign that they’re DTF missed are all learning experiences.
It makes you who you are now, and that’s kinda awesome. You’re better than who you were before. Onwards and upwards!