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• Kolanaki@pawb.social ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  I automatically block communities that put requirements like that on participation. If they don’t want me interacting with it, I don’t want to even see it. I also don’t think it’s appropriate for a public forum. Go make your own private thing somewhere if you want to immediately start off as an echo chamber.

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  • deacon@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    I think you just described two things working almost exactly as designed.

    You should use block liberally to curate your feed.

    Similarly, communities should have whatever rules make sense for them. If that keeps the community small, that might be the desired outcome for them.

    I think blocking was the right call here.

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    • Kolanaki@pawb.social ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      There’s only one side of this that is using things as designed, and that would be me blocking things I don’t want to engage with. If a community wants to cater to a very specific group of people, they should be using the tools of the platform that allow them to do so by being set to private snd creating a whitelist instead of leaving it public and expecting everyone to follow the honor system of not engaging if they are not part of the accepted group.

      There is no benefit to leaving it public and being private doesn’t make it invisible.

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  • Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    How are new women to find it if it never appears in All? Feel free to block/remove it, just as you would any niches that don’t interest you and clog up your feed. Or just scroll past, like I do for Linux and gaming and moe.

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    • BigBananaDealer@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      but linux doesnt tell you you cant comment here if you dont use linux

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    • Kolanaki@pawb.social ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      You invite them. The same as any other kind of private group.

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  • Angelusz@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Yeah, unfortunately I did the same after I got warned off for a perfectly fine interaction.

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    • Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      That’s okay. I mean, if you want to open it up again and read it to get a perspective on how women speak when they’re in their own space, nobody minds. But if you don’t want it cropping up in your feed, that’s cool. Obviously the reason it shows up in All is so new women can find it. Being reminded not to comment is just that, a reminder of the rules, and not necessarily a criticism of the content. If women didn’t face so much denial of their voices it wouldn’t be necessary.

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  • Taleya@aussie.zone ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    I mean this very kindly but “i don’t think it’s appropriate” is never a good reason to dictate the actions of others.

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  • Impassionata@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    I didn’t want to see your comment, but that won’t stop me from complaining about having to see your comment anyway.

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  • WillFord27@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

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  • JoshuaFalken@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Often find yourself inside many stores you find irrelevant when strolling around town? All those unlocked doors must be such temptation.

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    • Kolanaki@pawb.social ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      I don’t recall ever seen a sign on such a locked door that said “Open to the public; Come on in” only to walk in and then be shouted at for not beinf an employee.

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• Taleya@aussie.zone ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  The fucking comments on here are insane. It’s not a private comm, and pretty much every comment that’s been deleted for being posted by a male user was because they explicitly stated they were male. As in started off a comment (usually on women’s issues) with “as a guy…”

  Go on a linux forum and post “as a windows user…”

  Go on PC gamers and post “as a console gamer…”

  Would have a problem with being told “this is not for you” then? No, you wouldn’t. You’re literally just not used to being told it’s not your turn to speak. Get over it.

  And to those who demand it be taken off all: fucking learn how to curate your own experience. Skip over or block it the same way you would other communities that have nothing for you

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  • skisnow@lemmy.ca ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Go on a linux forum and post “as a windows user…”

    Go on PC gamers and post “as a console gamer…”

    Would have a problem with being told “this is not for you” then? No, you wouldn’t.

    This is a terrible example, because yes absolutely I would indeed consider the mods to be militant over-the-top a-holes if they deleted and blocked all comments from Windows or console users.

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    • zqps@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Consider what the word “majority” means and how that impacts the balance of such discussions. Especially on a platform where people vote on each other’s comments.

      In the Linux forum example, the occasional “as a Windows user…” comment isn’t a problem, but it does become one when it makes up 80-90% of comments / visitors. Try to understand how this shapes a community when the fewer directly affected people are annoyed by this and stop contributing.

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  • recklessengagement@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Facts right here. Learn how to let people have their own space. Sometimes a thing isn’t meant for you, and that’s okay.

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    • KombatWombat@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Saying “you are not allowed here” is a step up from saying “this isn’t meant for you”

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    • absolutejank@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      this reminds me way too much of the “let women have their own spaces” rhetoric when it comes to cis women wanting to exclude trans women. you can’t expect the people who you are actively excluding from your group not to be a little hurt by it, even if it isn’t something they’d be interested in.

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  • AA5B@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    BS, we had the same argument on Reddit

    • TwoX was militant about no guys
    • whatever men’s subreddit was welcoming to women’s reply but wanted them to be honest what gender they were

    So as a guy on some men only subreddit, I also welcomed the opinion of women while expecting them to clarify.

    As a nerd in many “year of Linux on the desktop” debates, I welcomed constructive opinions from the benighted fools

    As a PC gamer I want to game with my buddies so yes I want the opinion of those on consoles

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    • Taleya@aussie.zone ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      So as a guy on some men only subreddit, I also welcomed the opinion of women while expecting them to clarify.

      So you’re ok with a community defining how it wants people outside its demographic to interact with it?

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  • GaMEChld@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Yeah, I concur. When I learned I wasn’t allowed to speak there, I simply blocked it and moved on. They can have whatever rules they want. No one is obligated to be there.

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    • leftthegroup@lemmings.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      I feel based on the name of the community, some rules would be obvious. But a “absolutely nothing from you, male scum” isn’t obvious.

      I posted one there yesterday or this morning, haven’t checked on it, but it’s probably deleted now. No harm no foul. It wasn’t meant to break a rule, and they can do what they want. But I would’ve never even known if not for this post.

      But I will be blocking the sub now. Both because I’m apparently not welcome, and because I will probably accidentally do it again otherwise.

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    • Taleya@aussie.zone ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Eh, irkers can sit down. It’s long been a thing about paying attention to community rules before posting, and if you don’t and violate them, you don’t get to whinge.

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  • Jarix@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    You’re literally just not used to being told it’s not your turn to speak.

    I respect their rules on that community as browsing Everything (Sync) it shows up for me fairly regularly and I haven’t had any issues.

    I reject the part I literally quoted.

    I care about precision in communication and fighting against entropic decay in his we communicate so I can’t compelled to respond to this quote.

    I am a male have no turn to speak there so you are flat out wrong. It will never be my turn, it is inaccurate what you are saying. Please consider reframing what you said, and using literally there makes your error much more egregious, literally

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    • Taleya@aussie.zone ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Mate, i’m ASD and saying dial it back.

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  • KombatWombat@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    I expect in most online communities if you made a post like “As a windows user, I am looking into linux and have heard that some common apps don’t run well. Is that an issue you all run into much?” or “As a console gamer, I find myself envying some of the mods I see through Steam/Nexus and am thinking about switching platforms. Is it hard to get controllers working well in most games?” or something similar, you would be welcomed by the people there. You just need to be respectful and on-topic.

    I imagine that community probably has frustrating behaviors that men do as a common topic. Having men reply about why they would do a particular behavior or the sorts of strategies that could get other men to stop it would be not only acceptable, but valuable. Silencing their voices without cause then does a disservice to not only those users, but to the community as a whole. By not letting men reply, you’d be criticizing a large group of people while also preventing any member of the group from having a chance to defend themselves.

    You can try to justify discriminating a place, but it is a high bar to clear, especially on a core part of someone’s identity like gender. It’s akin to preemptively banning someone based on that characteristic. There’s a difference between “this is not for you” and “you are not allowed here”. I can only really think of that much restriction being necessary in a very private community where content can reasonably identify someone or the members are very vulnerable.

    IIRC, r/BlackPeopleTwitter had country club threads where only users the mods had verified were black could participate in. So there’s probably a compromise to have restrictions on a post-by-post basis. As it stands, if they’re primarily banning the users that include “as a guy…” in their replies then they are really just selecting against the ones that are being upfront about it. I really don’t want to see another r/FemaleDatingStrategy develop and a big contributor for that toxicity was silencing diverse opinions.

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    • Feathercrown@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Very well said

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    • ano_ba_to@sopuli.xyz ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Reminds me of the dude who came in here complaining about being banned from r/nintendo or something, because he was part of the r/fucknintendo sub. Everyone was supportive of him here. The playstation sub on reddit is dominated by PC masterrace preachers too. That’s a bit annoying to me, but I don’t make the rules.

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  • Tabula_stercore@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    To add the most blatant and widespread version of “as a man”:

    “But in the usa…”

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  • Feathercrown@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    You’re literally just not used to being told it’s not your turn to speak. Get over it.

    Isn’t the goal to move past this behavior when based on immutable qualities rather than merit? The ethical value of a reverse country club model is pretty controversial.

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    • eupraxia@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      the rule isn’t based on an immutable quality - the community accepts AMAB trans women and nonbinary folks. It’s in line with the goal of the community being to discuss experiences with womanhood - people that don’t identify with any aspect of it aren’t who the community is for.

      Usually self-policing is good enough for this kind of thing. as an American, I don’t have much reason to comment in European centered communities, and while I do occasionally see Americans posting there, it’s pretty rare.

      That changes when it’s a community of people that are vastly outnumbered by those that have strong feelings about them. take vegan communities for instance. Check the comments of any vegan community post that gets popular, it’s often a shit fest due to the influx of carnivore opinions, and I can understand mods not feeling able to keep up when this happens.

      Ideally I think this rule doesn’t exist, ideally this could be like other communities where people recognize their opinion isn’t needed here and move on - but that’s absolutely not going to happen with a women’s community.

      You can very easily block it if you don’t like the idea of a community that isn’t for you, but e.g. as an American I do like checking in on European communities to see what’s going on over there. Even if they’re clowning on us. That’s ok.

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  • nekbardrun@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Also similar to why religious (online) comunities will usually deny the talk if “dissents” (also atheist comunities having rules against proselytizing, which do makes sense)

    In the end, it sums up to “Don’t be an asshole” rule

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  • absolutejank@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    i genuinely wouldn’t have a problem with windows users on linux forums or console gamers on pc forums. maybe you should get over it.

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  • MintyAnt@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Ftfy: “Go on Lemmy and post ‘as a windows user…’”

    Heheh. Oh and… by the way loads gun what flavor of Linux do you use?

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• mugthol@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  I’ll try to explain why women want and need a women only space here.

  It is actually quite easy and has mostly to do with how many men there are on Lemmy compared to women.

  Let’s say I post a question on WomensStuff. I might get 10 answers from women and one answer from a very nice and respectful men. So, no harm was done, right?

  Well if you allow everybody to participate you will quickly get a lot of “not a woman, but …” type of answers. The 10 original comments made by the demographic that was actually targeted will be quickly drowned out.

  This is how every post is on here. That is just how it is but that’s ok. What we want is just one small part of Lemmy where we can talk among ourselves without being overshadowed. Just accept that because our lovely mods will not back down.

  If you’re tired of seeing our posts, no worries! Just block the community or asked to be banned. No harm will be done and we can continue with our nice supportive community.

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  • Logical@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Not a woman but- No that actually makes a lot of sense :)

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  • Reachtea@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Everyone knows creating segregated groups ends well

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    • Olhonestjim@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Sounds like someone has never been with a woman enough to understand she needs time with just the girls. If they’re in the house chatting, you can either leave, or shut up and bring snacks. Either way, give them space.

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    • rockstarmode@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      You’re being obtuse. Men’s and women’s clubs work just fine IRL. Sports, social, and charity are just a few examples in my local community which are thriving.

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    • mugthol@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      If you take that away after reading my comment I cannot help you. WomensStuff is ONE community out of hundreds, just block it and move on with your life.

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    • SwingingTheLamp@midwest.social ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Lemmy is like a house party, where everybody has the freedom to talk to whomever they so choose. Segregated groups, creating segregated groups. If one butts in to a conversation, the participants are free to ask one not to participate, and are free to walk away if one insists. (In this metaphor, the WomensStuff community doesn’t even mind if you listen in.) For a house party, though, the host is well within their rights to not invite anybody, or even ask guests to leave. That’s a very strictly segregated group.

      What’s been the ripple of evil from allowing house parties, or companies to pay only a select group of employees, private clubs, family dinners et cetera? Has the existence of the chain of women’s-only gyms destroyed men’s lives?

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  • Olhonestjim@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    I really appreciate reading those posts, but I have mistakenly replied and had to preemptively delete my post several times now. I wouldn’t mind a ban that would allow me to read without making that mistake again.

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    • mugthol@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      I saw a comment on a post in the community once from somebody like you who asked politely to be banned. The mods were glad to help and it was a very wholesome exchange!

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  • ThirdConsul@lemmy.ml ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Just block the community or ask to be banned

    Yup, that’s what I did. It leaves… bad taste in my mouth when it goes to my main page, the topic is interesting, I go to read it, and then I see someone silencing the participants with a very smug “You’re not a woman, so please kindly fuck off from here, flowers and smiles”.

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    • TranscendentalEmpire@lemmy.today ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Yeah… No. I’ve posted on that sub not knowing the community rules and had a mod thank me for my insight and then politely inform me of the rules.

      You know what I did…? I apologized for not reading the rules before posting and then took my leave. It’s perfectly fine if you’re not a whiny little dweeb about it. People deserve private spaces, especially considering I don’t own or contribute to the cost of that server space.

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• hildegarde@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  WomensStuff is also trans affirming so the solution is obvious.

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  • First_Thunder@lemmy.zip ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    On the one hand, boobs, on the other, not being able to pee standing and less rights

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    • flandish@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      i mean. technically everyone can pee standing (barring medical concerns). it just might be slipperier than intended.

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    • shittydwarf@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      How about just a little HRT, as a treat?

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    • hildegarde@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      You don’t have to get bottom surgery, unless you want to.

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    • samus12345@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Having a penis doesn’t cause dysphoria in all trans women. You can be a woman and still pee standing up! Unless you’re in a public bathroom in a red state.

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    • BeardedGingerWonder@feddit.uk ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Urgh, as a man, “fewer rights”

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• Rivalarrival@lemmy.today ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Blocked that comm, just so I wouldn’t accidentally violate that rule. No sense in getting emotionally invested in a post I’m not allowed to discuss.

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  • DragonTypeWyvern@midwest.social ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Right? Pretty easy solution.

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  • Itdidnttrickledown@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    I wouldn’t have commented except they made the main feed. I wasn’t given a warning I was just banned. That is why I’m pretty sure OP here is lying about what happened. I’m fine with them having their own thing but I don’t have feel bad about their agnst. I didn’t cause it so I am in no way responsible for their innate hostility.

    Had they given me a warning and explained the situation I would have been more than happy to delete the comment and block their echo chamber. Which I did anyway.

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  • TheFinn@discuss.tchncs.de ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    I once commented on a pancake recipe post. The recipes they posted were weak but I deleted mine when I learned about the rule. It felt very much like the image here lol. Oh well

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• WillFord27@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Why are there so many dudes here that can’t handle the concept of not sharing their opinion on everything? I think it’s valuable to learn to just listen sometimes. A community for people commonly talked over, mansplained to, and not taken seriously should be seen as a good thing. As a cis man, I think there’s a lot of value in that for my demographic as well, because diversity is interesting.

  Also I think a lot of people are willingly missing the point of this post! Nobody is going to crucify you for accidentally commenting, it’s up to you to realize your mistake. Honor system.

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  • SwingingTheLamp@midwest.social ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Consider that the Father of All Selection Biases at work here: Of course we’ll hear comments, from all the men who can’t handle the concept of not sharing their opinion, sharing their opinion of not being able to share their opinion.

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  • Modern_medicine_isnt@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    I will say that the urge to share an opinion rather than listen is not really based on sex.

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  • morphballganon@mtgzone.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Well, as someone with a moral compass, when I see disinformation being spread, I feel obligated to dispute it…

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    • Randomgal@lemmy.ca ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Take it easy on the arrogance bro.

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      That’s rich, coming from some claiming month/date/year is objectively the best way to write dates xD

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• UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  I’ve just blocked the community entirely, because apparently I’m not a woman based on… idfk.

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  • domdanial@reddthat.com ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Yeah I didn’t know about the rule when I replied to a post. I was thanked by the OP, then had my comment deleted by mods (based on username only).

    Blocked the community, why shouldn’t I if I can’t even participate?

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    • PyroNeurosis@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      More power to you and all, but this sounds like getting mad at the radio DJ. Not everything has to be two-way communication, sometimes it’s fun to watch others’ interactions.

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  • faythofdragons@slrpnk.net ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Yeah, I’m afab agender, and I’ve got it blocked too. Nothing they’ve done to me, just because of past women’s spaces saying I’m not woman enough to be there. Like, I was never really taught how to do my hair or makeup because neglectful mother, but I keep running into women that get angry because I see it as a hobby? I’m just too old for gatekeeping, and have zero desire to prove that I “deserve” to post in a restricted community.

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    • Feathercrown@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      They do explicitly allow agender individuals

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• TSG_Asmodeus@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Well, aren’t the majority of these replies depressing. Imagine looking at a minority group that tries to make a private corner for themselves and going “yeah but they haven’t heard my take yet!”

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• samus12345@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Not a big fan of an attribute you were born with making you ineligible to comment in a community, but their community, their rules.

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• henfredemars@infosec.pub ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Yep, blocked this one. No harsh feelings but I don’t think it’s meant to be public. They should be free to do what they want to do with their space. On the other hand, private would hurt discoverability. I sort of understand where they’re coming from.

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• dethedrus@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  I’ve been tempted to reply to a a couple posts in support. But am not woman, so upvotes are enough.

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• ShaggySnacks@lemmy.myserv.one ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  I’m fairly sure that only people that use Lemmy are: communist trans women that are Linux aficionados. They may or may have also dabbled in being a femboy and being a furry.

  Joking aside, it’s time to get serious.

  Dear Men,

  If you a man who understands why women need to feel space. This comment isn’t for you. Feel free to upvote me and downvote all my enemies.

  When women (cis and trans) don’t feel safe they leave spaces. This also applies to men too. No one wants to be somewhere were they don’t feel safe. When a bunch of women leave that means the ratio of men to women goes higher until critical mass of all men and no women. When that happens, we have what is called a "sausage party". Now some men would love a sausage party. Ask yourself, do you want a sausage party?

  If no, stop getting your balls in a twist. WomensStuff is not hurting anyone, they’re not going out brigarding or harassing or picking fights with other people. All users of WomensStuff want is a place where they can get together and talk about things that matter to them. If women feel safe on Lemmy, you don’t get a sausage party. There is also the risk of scaring off all the wonderful original women content creators of Lemmy NSFW. The fact is women are awesome and there should be more of them.

  Now, if you want a sausage party and recognizance that women are people who deserve to feel safe. You can create your own sausage party community. You do you.

  Now, if you want don’t want/want sausage party and are toxic asshole. Go start your own instance, where you all can circle jerk each other while complaining why women don’t want to be around you. Hopefully, one day you’ll come to the realization the reason why women don’t want to be around you is because your asshole. With that realization you’ll come to the conclusion that women want to feel safe in a world that doesn’t allow them that freedom.

  Cause at the end of the day, WomensStuff **DOES NOT AFFECT YOUR LIFE IN ANY MEANINGFUL WAY. ** Go be angry at the slow stripping of rights of anyone who isn’t a white male. Or how major countries are taking their sweet ass time to recognizance the Israel is committing genocide. Or that the rich keep getting richer while the rest of us worse off each year. Or how global climate change is going to end us as a species. If you have the time and energy to get mad at small community on Lemmy, you’re life is fucking easy.

  Sincerely,

  Me

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• Jax@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  I just want to point out that ITT there are people who simultaneously refuse to recognize how men only spaces are demonized and refuse to back down about women needing women only spaces.

  You fucking idiots are the reason the Proud Boys happen. Your thoughts are stupid and destructive in the same way that someone driving too slow on the highway is.

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• gift_of_gab@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Reading over these comments brings me back to why I came out as non-binary, and the gender euphoric boost is quite nice.

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• TempermentalAnomaly@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Image

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• Asmodeus@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  This entire thread makes me embarrassed to be on lemmy. On the other hand, a college course one of my kids is taking is using this thread as an example of men simultaneously demanding inclusion in all spaces while also actively antagonizing other people out of spaces. Say hi to Langara College, whiny men! I’m embarrassed to be counted as one of you.

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• Bosht@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  I didn’t even get a chance. Post came up, I didn’t check the sub, posted a comment, Admin told me politely to get fucked and banned me.

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• IAmNorRealTakeYourMeds@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  I politely asked to get banned.

  disagree with the rules, but ain’t my community, I ain’t invited, and I will politely respect it.

  imagine walking into someone’s private party, only to complain that I wasn’t invited, and how dare they exclude me!!!

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• LucidNightmare@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Yayyy, echo chambers! :)

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• Track_Shovel@slrpnk.net ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  I’m just here for the bruised male egos. I’m male, and I find the but what do you mean I’m not welcome there comments entertaining.

  I’m with you, OP: they shouldn’t have to restrict their visibility to avoid a demographic they don’t want to have in their community. Women should have a space to talk to women only, if they so desire. Those complaining about it need to realize that places where men are not welcome exist in the real world, and yet there aren’t a bunch of dudes protesting to be allowed into a women’s change room at the Rec center.

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• Darth_Lemmy@lemmy.zip ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  imagine the outcry if there was a male version of this LOL

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• ZombiFrancis@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  What I find interesting here is that this all self identification and self reporting.

  There’s no mechanism in Lemmy to force a user into such identification, so it is all voluntary.

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• Surp@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Just block the sub if it bothers you and wipe your mind free. That’s all there ever was to it.

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• sharkfucker420@lemmy.ml ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  I too have made this mistake 😔

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• NigelFrobisher@aussie.zone ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  “Men don’t feel as deeply as people like to imagine they do” - an idiot who has apparently never read men acting like absolute fannies literally all over the internet forever.

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• burgerpocalyse@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  this is a trap

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• Gradually_Adjusting@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Kinda hilarious how the most cis dude thing possible is to joke about becoming trans to gain the privileges of a woman.

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• JokeDeity@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  This has always been one of the top tier funniest meme images to me.

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• zipsglacier@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Shout out to OP for recognizing the struggle and respecting the rule (I thought this was a 196 post at first!)

  Men will lurk for years without ever commenting in some communities, and then (ITT) lose their minds when confronted with the possibility of a community they are welcome to read, but asked not to comment. Bros, you were already doing that!! Yes, it’s hard, that’s what this post is about. But you can do it!!

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• driving_crooner@lemmy.eco.br ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  This discussion reminds me of a party/orgy/something I saw being promoted and in the description it says that it was female/trans oriented (female and male trans included), but that they weren’t going to police anyone’s gender, but asked cis males to respect and didn’t participate.

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