Double edged sword, since it’s good that we can actually remember said experiences and maybe pass the wisdom down.
My recent ex girlfriend would take certain things we were about to do together (traveling, going to the spa, going to a particular restaurant close to my house, spending the day at a museum, etc.) and would just automatically assume that I had already done that same thing with some unspoken past ex of mine, and get preemptively sad, upset, and self-conscious that she wasn't "the first"... What? Life isn't all about firsts, why even get upset about that? So what if I've already done something before with someone else, I am still going to enjoy it with YOU right NOW. Maybe a lot of people do compare past experiences to current ones, but I don't find that very fulfilling, so I just don't. It's a lot easier to just live day to day.
cloudless@piefed.social 3 weeks ago
You can still have lots of first experiences if you seek.
The bigger problem is with increased responsibility, less time and less energy.