As someone with ADHD I’d describe the experience more like profound boredem with everything in life. You seek obsession because you can’t generate excitement for normal activities on your own
It shouldn't be called ADHD; it should be called restless brain syndrome.
Submitted 1 year ago by Track_Shovel@slrpnk.net to showerthoughts@lemmy.world
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tdawg@lemmy.world 1 year ago
remotelove@lemmy.ca 1 year ago
There are very few videos games I can play because of this. I love gaming, but finding one that I like is extremely challenging.
v4ld1z@lemmy.zip 1 year ago
Same, dude. Recently it’s been Skyrim for me. Started it up on a whim for umpteenth time and have sunk 80ish hours into a save file again and have rented a PS VR to try Skyrim VR. Aside from Overwatch, that’s the only game I currently see myself playing regularly lol
bro_munkey@lemmy.world 1 year ago
If I’m playing with my friends the excitement of making jokes and having fun is enough for me. But if I’m alone no game brings me joy if it’s not my current hyper fixation.
lechatron@lemmy.today 1 year ago
Or ones that I like too much, see my 15 year addiction to WoW. So many little dopamines to find!
gazter@aussie.zone 1 year ago
But once you find one that hits that hyperfixation itch, ohhhh maaaaaan.
For me it’s gotta be the right level of challenge. I want to like the loop in Souls games but can’t get past the frustration. Hollow Knight, however, was just right and I loved it.
Other things that work for me is the Factorio style- especially Satisfactory because when you fuck up you don’t need to tear it all down and rebuild.
tdawg@lemmy.world 1 year ago
Feel this pretty hard. I tend to like the ones with a really good tactile feedback. Anything with tight melee combat gets a gold star from me. (Fury is probably one of my favorite games of all time)
CarolineJohnson@sh.itjust.works 1 year ago
I just saw someone on Reddit who claimed this profound boredom with everything was why they didn’t have ADHD. Apparently the list of symptoms they were reading did not accurately describe the depths of ADHD boredom, and they thought theirs was a worse breed that indicated some far worse mental problem.
Had to tell 'em.
Solarius@lemmy.sdf.org 1 year ago
I have no hobbies I enjoy longer than about a month except gaming, and even then I still get like a month mileage out of each game. I can’t hold a job because every time I start a new one it’s like a ticking timebomb in my brain until I can’t handle it anymore. Even if the job is easy and the people are nice. Something about the repetitive schedule and saying/hearing/doing the same thing every day brings me to a near panic attack level of restlessness and anxiety.
Track_Shovel@slrpnk.net 1 year ago
I’m probably undiagnosed inattentive. I’m also not one to make a statement like that lightly. I’m notorious among my social circle for diving down rabbitholes and sending them endless mental lint articles. I wish I could turn it off sometimes.
Kolanaki@yiffit.net 1 year ago
Turning it off is why I cling to weed since I first tried it. It dulls the noise and allows for a single line of thought to come through unobstructed, in my case.
ElPussyKangaroo@lemmy.world 1 year ago
Oh my god this is so accurate. I’m barely on the spectrum, and I can only imagine what it must feel like to have full ADHD.
Zaphod@discuss.tchncs.de 1 year ago
Whenever I read a description from someone with ADHD I can almost always 100% relate to that experience, but whenever I read something from “professional” source I start thinking I might not have it and just killed my attention span with social media consumption…
SirNuke@kbin.social 1 year ago
Buddy if you are waiting for a Sign, this is it. It'll never get more concrete than this message I'm typing for you right now. Having a lot of doubts is common. It wasn't truly real for me until I started medication.
My broad advice is to find a good psychiatrist (and don't be afraid to switch if you aren't happy) and dig as deep as possible for evidence both for and against. Go in with confidence that you have ADHD symptoms, but keep an open mind since there are alternative explanations. A diagnosis of "no you don't have ADHD it's actually ____" is also important information to know, and you will regret letting it drag out if you do have ADHD.
cubedsteaks@lemmy.today 1 year ago
This might sound silly but I’m trying to attract someone who told me in the past they have ADHD. Should I be doing anything differently?
Tippon@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 year ago
Leave out a few pieces of cheese, and sit very quietly. If the cheese doesn’t work, try cookies, they tend to attract most things
Skiv@lemmy.world 1 year ago
Take a genuine interest in their obsessions. Not a performative “I want you to see I like this for you” but a real “I’ve been going out and doing this on my own for the past few weeks/months and I want to talk about it”
You do actually have to do it, they’ll spot your bullshit before you speak it.
LegionEris@feddit.nl 1 year ago
The show I’m a Virgo has a character who’s superpower is basically adhd. She moves extremely fast and is constantly bored. I identify deeply with Flora, especially at work. I struggle with boredom and unstructured time, so I do like twice as much work as most of my coworkers. I’m routinely sales lead without really trying. I thrive on the busy days that most people find overwhelming.
boredtortoise@lemm.ee 1 year ago
Sorry that’s a shared experience, minus the obsession
dbilitated@aussie.zone 1 year ago
I think attention modulation disorder… I have the longest AND the shortest attention span ever. I might not finish typing this but also I’ll research black holes unblinkingly for 16 hours.
theangryseal@lemmy.world 1 year ago
And then forget all of it when you go to talk to someone about it.
I hate my brain.
theangryseal@lemmy.world 1 year ago
Oh, but on a positive note. I’ve been able to go back and rewatch my favorite shows like every season is brand new except for a few episodes that really really stood out to me.
MrScottyTay@sh.itjust.works 1 year ago
The biggest impact from my adhd is actually a shorter than average shirt term memory span. Mine was found to be about 8.5 second, with the average humans being 18.
My long term memory is fine, probably better than most but it’s getting stuff in there that’s the issue.
BruceTwarzen@kbin.social 1 year ago
I remember things from my early early childhood. My older sister doesn't remember shit from back then. She has no idea what our forst apartment looked like and when we moved and all that. I remember everything.
But when i put my screwdriver somewhere, 4 seconds later, the screwdriver might as well not exist anymore.theangryseal@lemmy.world 1 year ago
I seriously remember breastfeeding. I remember sleeping in a crib beside my brother. I can close my eyes and tour every place I spent time as a child.
And like your sister, my brother remembers none of it. I’ll bring up something that meant a lot to me and he always replies the same, “I don’t remember that time.”
Like this one weekend. We rented Turner and Hooch, We’re Back: A Dinosaur Story, and Fern Gully. We intended to stay up and watch them so we pulled out the bed from the couch and instead talked until we fell asleep. We got up early and watched all three. My brother was nuts about the character Batty and wanted everything Robin Williams was in after that. He went around all day saying “are you sure? Are you positive? Only fools are positive.” I seen the cartoons only once and I still remember character names and plot lines.
I tear up thinking about that morning. Him, “I wish I could remember it.” And that’s his answer for all of it.
Now ask me what I did two days ago. My answer will be the same as his for what we were doing then. I legit can’t remember past yesterday.
Flax_vert@feddit.uk 1 year ago
I hate it when I forget about my shirt
tdawg@lemmy.world 1 year ago
I’m in the same boat. What generally works for me is writing it down and learning from physical books. For whatever reason those two things combined help get things passed the poor short term and into the long term storage
MrScottyTay@sh.itjust.works 1 year ago
Yeah writing down is a big help, I think it’s too do with multiple things. You have to focus more on what you’re actually writing. As well as you have chance for multiple memories, the thinking itself, think of writing it, actually writing it, the muscle memory of writing it, and then reading it again afterwards.
RememberTheApollo_@lemmy.world 1 year ago
Nothing like having to constantly remind yourself about things so you don’t forget, even little things like transcribing a measurement or something, or sit immobilized over a pending event because you don’t want to do anything that might distract you from engaging in said thing. Having to re-read things several times to keep it in short term memory and then having to check that yes, indeed, you did it right, and then check a couple more times to remember that yes, you did check it, and it’s still right.
Fffuuuhhh…. hate that.
kiranraine@reddthat.com 1 year ago
Nah should be Dopamine attention variability executive disorder(I’m misremembering it I’m sure somehow). Otherwise known as DAVE
Cue the “God >!FUCKING!< DAMMIT DAVE” Audio lol
rez_doggie@lemmy.world 1 year ago
Dave’s not here man
kiranraine@reddthat.com 1 year ago
Sorry should’ve posted what it was referencing
whyNotSquirrel@sh.itjust.works 1 year ago
I miss that ref, could somebody elaborate?
kiranraine@reddthat.com 1 year ago
kiranraine@reddthat.com 1 year ago
It was a meme on tt trying to rename it and people used a audio from something else that said that. It’s been so long I forgot about it until seeing this. I’ll have to search it up
Ragerist@lemmy.world 1 year ago
Or DDD, dopamin deficiency disorder
NightAuthor@lemmy.world 1 year ago
Yeah, I’ll call it whatever Dr. Russell Barkley says to call it.
PunnyName@lemmy.world 1 year ago
Jesus, take the wheel!
…no, not like that!
Izzy@lemmy.world 1 year ago
I don’t even think it should be labeled as a disorder. Or at least people should be more aware of what a disorder means. It doesn’t necessarily mean there is anything wrong with the person. The behavior just happens to not be suitable for the particular environment they are in and causes difficulties. If you change environments to one that allows that behavior to no longer be a problem then they no longer have a disorder.
Madrigal@lemmy.world 1 year ago
You clearly don’t understand ADHD.
Izzy@lemmy.world 1 year ago
This is how a mental order is defined. What are you suggesting?
zero_spelled_with_an_ecks@programming.dev 1 year ago
Here’s an expert talking about outcomes youtube.com/watch?v=26V6LCbKXJU&si=Mu1mO845lv…
Tldw: worse outcomes in education, relationships, careers, automobile safety, finance. So all you have to do is not be in school, drive, be in a relationship (romantic or not), have a career, have credit, etc. Your suggestion that it’s just the environment and all we have to do is change how finance, the job market, education, and human relationships work and get fully self driving cars right now is not only woefully uninformed but also such a massive undertaking to the point of being a joke.
Izzy@lemmy.world 1 year ago
I suggested no such thing. You are coming to wild conclusions on your own. Please read it again more carefully. I have in no way suggested that it is possible to change the environment.
Scrof@sopuli.xyz 1 year ago
Nope, it’s definitely in my head.
Kolanaki@yiffit.net 1 year ago
My thoughts are definitely disordered.
brygphilomena@lemmy.world 1 year ago
It causes significant impairment on my ability to live my life, regardless of the environment I am in.
There is no change in environment that will solve ADHD.
NocturnalMorning@lemmy.world 1 year ago
It most certainly is a disorder. Makes everything in my life more challenging.
Izzy@lemmy.world 1 year ago
You have misunderstood what has been said. It’s more challenging because society has built an environment that is not suitable for you and many others. This is just a matter of semantics and how to attribute fault with definitions. It’s not your fault who you are is not suitable for the way things are. It’s the way things are that are not suitable for you.
nal@lib.lgbt 1 year ago
you’re like almost getting at the social model of disability, but framing it in a way that invalidates people’s lived experiences of having a brain that works fundamentally differently from the norm.
Izzy@lemmy.world 1 year ago
I’m not doing any such thing. Everyone has just had some weird misunderstanding. The topic of the thread is about putting a positive spin on the term and I am agreeing to that as it is something I personally deal with. I find that the term “disorder” has an unfair negative connotation and could possibly be called something else. Preferably with a more positive connotation that doesn’t imply there is something wrong being born this way. If that isn’t possible then people should at least understand the medical definition of what a disorder is to help remove the negative connotation.
Saneless@sh.itjust.works 1 year ago
Aka if you didn’t want me to fidgety in this box, don’t put me in a box, dipshit
Track_Shovel@slrpnk.net 1 year ago
Hello fellow cubical mouse
Kahlenar@lemmy.world 1 year ago
Everyone else is boring af - syndrome
BedSharkPal@lemmy.ca 1 year ago
Given they are both mediated by dopamine signaling this actually makes sense?
NocturnalMorning@lemmy.world 1 year ago
What about just ‘Wheeeeeee!’?
YIj54yALOJxEsY20eU@lemm.ee 1 year ago
Thanks for making fun of a disability! Really fucking ignorant.
minch@lemmy.world 1 year ago
Dude, lighten up. People with ADHD regularly make/laugh at these jokes. If you don’t believe me, check out want ADHD memes community.
source: I have ADHD and an not about to curse at and insult someone for a silly joke
YIj54yALOJxEsY20eU@lemm.ee 1 year ago
Take it to the adhd community then, diminishing a legitimate mental illness that wrecks havoc on millions of people isn’t cute or funny and most definitely not a shower thought. It perpetuates the belief we can’t focus for more than 10 seconds rather than having a fundamental issue with executive function. My ADHD (that you assumed I do not have) does not manifest by getting distracted, and summing it up as so is patronizing at best. This isn’t an adhd space for people with the illness to try to cope with humor, it’s for shower thoughts.
countzero@feddit.de 1 year ago
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Madrigal@lemmy.world 1 year ago
I like “Executive Function Disorder” as it actually describes the underlying issue and not just the symptoms that other people can see.
BloodSlut@lemmy.world 1 year ago
The problem is that there are many other mental disorders that have a profound effect on executive function as well
uniqueid198x@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 year ago
I was watching a video from dr berkely and he said its the only disorder that hits all factors of executive function.
Then he said adhd people can’t do digitspan backwards so e went to try it and I was like 😦
Madrigal@lemmy.world 1 year ago
This is true, and suggests maybe a broader recategorisation is in order.
I’ve heard one expert suggest that while many disorders feature executive dysfunction, ADHD is executive dysfunction.
whyNotSquirrel@sh.itjust.works 1 year ago
It’s a disorder in our society, because it require you to do task you’ve been ask to do, but if you would just live your life I don’t think you would call it a disorder, more like a different way of processing tasks
Someology@lemmy.world 1 year ago
Well, in the wild, if you couldn’t concentrate on one thing long enough to hunt/gather/fish, then you wouldn’t eat, and would weed yourself out of the gene pool.
myplacedk@lemmy.world 1 year ago
The more I learn about ADHD, the less I see it as a disorder. I see it more as a personality trait. Unfortunately most of our society is based on people not having that personality trait, making it harder to fit in.
On the other hand, if you’re lucky enough to find a lifestyle that fits your personality type, that personality type is actually very helpful, the opposite of a disorder.
Kolanaki@yiffit.net 1 year ago
This is what I would vote for if there was a vote on it.