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I can’t help but wonder if people around me would think it crossed a boundary.
More details please: How many people have been around when you did that?
(You don’t need to tell the others)
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Submitted 10 months ago by Constantine_@sh.itjust.works to nostupidquestions@lemmy.world
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Zwuzelmaus@feddit.org 10 months ago
Venus_Ziegenfalle@feddit.org 10 months ago
Trust your gut when it comes to these things - which it seems to me like you did. Doesn’t matter if everyone around you agrees. Still kudos for seeking a reality check. Better safe than sorry.
Lemminary@lemmy.world 10 months ago
Honestly? Congrats, you’re the dad many people wish they had. I’m not going to do that with my nephews, but I hope I get close to that aperture and understanding.
Not weird in my book! I used to shower with my parents when I was little.
Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.world 10 months ago
I remember showering with my little brother. We would pretend we were puppies, taking turns “playing in the rain.”
Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 10 months ago
people are expected to teach their kids to wash under the foreskin, and some people apparently think it’s just dandy to perform genital mutilation on their children, so no teaching them to shave doesn’t register on the weirdness scale.
charade_you_are@sh.itjust.works 10 months ago
No, it’s just weird to ask about it on a public forum
pishadoot@sh.itjust.works 10 months ago
Wish I could downvote you more than once.
charade_you_are@sh.itjust.works 10 months ago
It’s an opinion, fucking relax. I stand by my opinion on this and fuck yourself more than once. I’ll leave.
angrystego@lemmy.world 10 months ago
I feel like no stupid questions includes no weird questions as well. Please don’t attack people for posting here.
LesserAbe@lemmy.world 10 months ago
Yeah! First, I don’t think it would be weird to ask it elsewhere, but definitely ok to ask it here.
atk007@lemmy.world 10 months ago
Proud of you man. Growing up didn’t have dad around, so I remember being embarrassed when my school mates were talking about shaving. Then out of the blue, one of my uncles gifted me this gift pack of razors, and went on to explain how to do it. Also explained why you need to separate razors for pubic hair from other uses anywhere else.
Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.world 10 months ago
Damn, Uncle for the win!
qwestjest78@lemmy.ca 10 months ago
When I was a kid I asked my dad this same question and I will never forget how frazzled he was by it. He told me some b.s. answer like, “Oh, I don’t know. You don’t really need to do that.”
He made me feel humiliated for asking. At a certain point I could not ignore it anymore though, so when I experimented and tried to figure it out myself, I did cut myself and there was blood everywhere. I was terrified and thought I was going to bleed out. Luckily it wasn’t really that bad and I managed it on my own, but I remember how scared I was.
After going through all that, I told myself that I would help my future son if he ever asked me a question like that. You are a better dad than mine was in this situation. It’s your job to help them with whatever they need, and it would have meant a lot to me back then if my dad had helped me the way you did. I can guarantee your son appreciated it and will remember how you looked out for him.
GaMEChld@lemmy.world 10 months ago
Maybe atypical, but I wouldn’t call it weird like it was wrong or something. Though I’m not entirely sure what there is to show. I feel like you kinda just have to get the hang of it yourself. The risks and fears are not irrational. No one wants to knick down there. But the concept is pretty straight forward.
Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 10 months ago
there is one extremely important thing to teach: pull the skin taut
so long as the skin is taut you’re way way less likely to cut yourself
GaMEChld@lemmy.world 10 months ago
This is true, but I felt like I already learned that lesson shaving my face, ya know the classic chin up position to make the neck skin taught. But you right it’s far far more important down there. Way more room for error.
davidagain@lemmy.world 10 months ago
I think it’s weird to shave your pubes, and I think that based on who started that trend, why they started it and why it became popular, but people younger than me who don’t remember any different disagree strongly.
But the fact that your son trusts you with that question and that you calmly helped him and didn’t make a big deal out of it, is an absolute parenting win. Who does your teenaged son go to when he’s worried about something personal and sensitive and embarrassing? He goes to you, and you help him and he is right to trust you.
You are doing excellently as a dad.
cRazi_man@europe.pub 10 months ago
No
I can’t see how people would find out unless your son tells them.
If you’re wondering if ANYONE out there would find this weird, then the answer is yes. There are lots of people who have strange ideas and odd thoughts about what is inappropriate. So if you told lots of people, I’m sure someone would find it weird.
But that doesnt actually make it weird or wrong. You were right to do what you did. Anyone who tried to judge you for it would be wrong.
nickwitha_k@lemmy.sdf.org 10 months ago
I would say that I think it’s weird because I think shaved pubes are weird (and experienced horrific razor burn when I tried it back in college).
Sounds like you are a fucking rockstar dad though. That’s a very vulnerable thing to think about asking your parent for a teenage boy. Lots of self-consciousness and trying to figure oneself out. That he felt comfortable asking you says a lot. That you stepped up to ensure that he knew how to do so safely says a lot too.
ada@piefed.blahaj.zone 10 months ago
You've shown your kid that he's in charge of his own body, and shown him that you can be trusted if he approaches you with sensitive or embarassing topics.
What other people think is irrelevant, because your relationship with your kid will be forever better because you've shown him you can be trusted.
SnotFlickerman@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 months ago
www.usa.philips.com/c-m-pe/…/oneblade-intimate
If you or your son ever want a slightly simpler option, I recommend this. It has been a game changer for me personally.
Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 10 months ago
SonOfAntenora@lemmy.world 10 months ago
That’s better…
gon@lemmy.dbzer0.com 10 months ago
My dad helped me shave my face, it’s really not very different. It’s just personal grooming.
PlutoniumAcid@lemmy.world 10 months ago
You’re a good dad. Not just because you helped your son, but even more so because he already had the confidence of knowing he can ask you a question like that.
Keep on doing what you’re doing. You’re a good dad.
con_fig@programming.dev 10 months ago
This. The fact that your son asked you is incredible and shows so much trust, good for you op.
Gieselbrecht@feddit.org 10 months ago
I mean, this is not something I would necessarily recount to my colleagues or some acquaintances, but I would say you did good. You can be proud of yourself that you were able to create an atmosphere at home where your son felt comfortable asking this question, as you said it yourself.
If it hasn’t already happened, this might also be a good time to talk about safer sex to him.
This is a very european perspective, so depending on your location and other factors, your kilometrage may vary.
FuglyDuck@lemmy.world 10 months ago
I feel like it’s weird to talk about kids learning hygiene or bathing or grooming at work is weird.
But super important to actually teach your kid- and id put this in that category.
Tywele@lemmy.dbzer0.com 10 months ago
How would that even come up in conversation? Or how would the people around you know?
Constantine_@sh.itjust.works 10 months ago
[deleted]Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.world 10 months ago
Hey man, I appreciate your post for setting an amazing example of what being a father is. Some young men are reading this and seeing all these supportive comments, and that’s going to inform how they behave if they become fathers someday. So, thank you for posting your question. It’ll probably end up helping a lot more people than just your son.
JASN_DE@feddit.org 10 months ago
On one hand, I’m proud that I created the open environment I always wanted growing up.
And congratulations on that!
On the other hand, I can’t help but wonder if people around me would think it crossed a boundary.
You’d have to ask the people around you. But does it really matter? Also, who would go around and tell other people things like that?
FeelzGoodMan420@eviltoast.org 10 months ago
tomcatt360@lemmy.zip 10 months ago
Sometimes you just want to try something new, even if it’s just for yourself. If you like it, you can keep doing it. If not, you gained valuable life experience.
Zwuzelmaus@feddit.org 10 months ago
Not helpful.