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Honestly? Congrats, you’re the dad many people wish they had. I’m not going to do that with my nephews, but I hope I get close to that aperture and understanding.
Not weird in my book! I used to shower with my parents when I was little.
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Submitted 3 days ago by Constantine_@sh.itjust.works to nostupidquestions@lemmy.world
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Lemminary@lemmy.world 3 days ago
Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.world 3 days ago
I remember showering with my little brother. We would pretend we were puppies, taking turns “playing in the rain.”
GrayBackgroundMusic@lemmy.zip 3 days ago
Nah, you’re good. You asked and he answered. If it’s something that would happen at a doctor’s office, you’re good. If it’s something that would happen at a brothel, then that’s a problem. It’s all technical and you got consent.
I do the same when it comes to bodies. I ask my kids if they are comfortable or give them options. Let them know they’re in control of their bodies. Give them options. Example, we had a showering demonstration and I asked if they wanted to wear a swim suit or be naked.
SnotFlickerman@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 days ago
www.usa.philips.com/c-m-pe/…/oneblade-intimate
If you or your son ever want a slightly simpler option, I recommend this. It has been a game changer for me personally.
Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 3 days ago
SonOfAntenora@lemmy.world 3 days ago
That’s better…
samus12345@sh.itjust.works 3 days ago
mechoman444@lemmy.world 3 days ago
So the short answer is yes. It’s weird.
The long answer is, and I have a 15 year old girl, is that pretty much everthing we do at this point is going to be weird or awkward.
This what you did more awkward than normal also yes.
I’m not trying to save you from this sir.
TheVeryBrave@lemmy.ml 2 days ago
You need to tell them even if they dont adk
Venus_Ziegenfalle@feddit.org 3 days ago
Trust your gut when it comes to these things - which it seems to me like you did. Doesn’t matter if everyone around you agrees. Still kudos for seeking a reality check. Better safe than sorry.
NastyNative@mander.xyz 3 days ago
No boundaries were crossed. If anything you created a memory for him and when his son ask him for help he will remember this moment and repeat what you showed him. A+ dad!
Zwuzelmaus@feddit.org 3 days ago
I can’t help but wonder if people around me would think it crossed a boundary.
More details please: How many people have been around when you did that?
(You don’t need to tell the others)
CompactFlax@discuss.tchncs.de 3 days ago
It’s only weird if you keep shaving them for him. Open conversations like that are a sign of great communication and trust!
I know that removing pubes can have a health impact for vagina owners. I don’t know if that holds true for penis owners. That may be something to investigate and advise.
onslaught545@lemmy.zip 3 days ago
As a penis owner who sweats a lot, keeping things shaved helps prevent things from smelling funky.
lightnsfw@reddthat.com 3 days ago
I find it to be itchy as fuck so I just knock it down with the trimmer but leave enough for that not to happen.
davidagain@lemmy.world 3 days ago
I think it’s weird to shave your pubes, and I think that based on who started that trend, why they started it and why it became popular, but people younger than me who don’t remember any different disagree strongly.
But the fact that your son trusts you with that question and that you calmly helped him and didn’t make a big deal out of it, is an absolute parenting win. Who does your teenaged son go to when he’s worried about something personal and sensitive and embarrassing? He goes to you, and you help him and he is right to trust you.
You are doing excellently as a dad.
atk007@lemmy.world 3 days ago
Proud of you man. Growing up didn’t have dad around, so I remember being embarrassed when my school mates were talking about shaving. Then out of the blue, one of my uncles gifted me this gift pack of razors, and went on to explain how to do it. Also explained why you need to separate razors for pubic hair from other uses anywhere else.
Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.world 3 days ago
Damn, Uncle for the win!
TriflingToad@sh.itjust.works 2 days ago
While you’re at it and if you didn’t already PLEASE teach him how to exfoliate his skin. I felt so gross that I went YEARS not doing properly it because my parents were kinda… iffy on some things.
altphoto@lemmy.today 2 days ago
Looking forward to 2078 when we’ll be forced to show our kids how to copulate for procreation and what to use the tools of procreation for personal and group recreation.
Anyway kids, you then grab it and you do this back and forth motion on it. Yes billy, just like the jiggler dumbbell commercial!
Doxatek@mander.xyz 3 days ago
If he’s reasonably intelligent I’m sure you could just explain it to him and give some tips. It’s not rocket science.
GaMEChld@lemmy.world 3 days ago
Maybe atypical, but I wouldn’t call it weird like it was wrong or something. Though I’m not entirely sure what there is to show. I feel like you kinda just have to get the hang of it yourself. The risks and fears are not irrational. No one wants to knick down there. But the concept is pretty straight forward.
Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 3 days ago
there is one extremely important thing to teach: pull the skin taut
so long as the skin is taut you’re way way less likely to cut yourself
GaMEChld@lemmy.world 3 days ago
This is true, but I felt like I already learned that lesson shaving my face, ya know the classic chin up position to make the neck skin taught. But you right it’s far far more important down there. Way more room for error.
RaivoKulli@sopuli.xyz 3 days ago
Personally I’d think that as too much. Verbally describing it would be the limit for me.
FeelzGoodMan420@eviltoast.org 3 days ago
[deleted]Zwuzelmaus@feddit.org 3 days ago
Not helpful.
tomcatt360@lemmy.zip 3 days ago
Sometimes you just want to try something new, even if it’s just for yourself. If you like it, you can keep doing it. If not, you gained valuable life experience.
AdolfSchmitler@lemmy.world 3 days ago
Yes but only if he asks you and not the other way around