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- Comment on European Graphic Novels+ is moving to PieFed.Social (link & info in post) 8 hours ago:
The format you want is !communityname@instance.tld
So !eurographicnovels@piefed.social
- Comment on European Graphic Novels+ is moving to PieFed.Social (link & info in post) 8 hours ago:
Make sure you make a sticky post in the old community with the new address before lemm.ee shuts down. That way it will stick at the top of folks feeds, even after the instance is down, and people who find the old community will be able to tell at a glance what the new address is
- Comment on Large apartments are a solution to Australia's housing crisis 10 hours ago:
To be fair, it says "a" solution, not "the" solution :P
- Comment on Large apartments are a solution to Australia's housing crisis 21 hours ago:
I'd be in one in a heart beat if they were reasonably available!
- Comment on Why does good faith matter ? 2 days ago:
There are better ways of convincing non involved participants than debate, especially it's an argument around human rights, bigotry, transphobia, racism etc. Getting in to a debate normalises the idea that "both sides" of these arguments have similar validity and value.
- Comment on Trial finds age assurance can be done, as social media ban deadline looms 2 days ago:
How does that work for folks that don't have any need to run age verification software? I'm sure as hell not installing it
- Comment on The bizarre, dismal page you see if you open YouTube without an account. 2 days ago:
Honestly, I like it. I run google and all of its platforms in their own tab containers, without signing in and that's what my Youtube looks like. It's great, I can search for the thing I need, and otherwise interact with google ad spam as little as possible
- Comment on [deleted] 4 days ago:
Honestly, I think they're worse than people say. There might be the odd good news story to come out of them, but they are designed to get you to fork out cash, and stay around and keep forking out cash, so their whole goal is to feed you hope, without ever causing you to be successful enough to leave.
- Comment on wanderer v0.17.0 released — Federation support is here 6 days ago:
That was my immediate question too!
- Comment on [deleted] 6 days ago:
If it we weren't Google, I'd be ok with paying too. As it is, the content creators will have to get by with their individual sponsorships, rather than getting ad revenue from me.
- Comment on [deleted] 6 days ago:
There is no tolerable amount of ads, because not only are they an awful experience, they explicitly drive user hostile growth and decisions in the future (ie enshitification).
I used to pay for YouTube to avoid ads, before I got sick of Google and refused to give them any more money. Now I use a pihole and a browser based adblocker, as well as 3rd party front ends, because fuck Google. I don't give a shit if I'm denying them income.
- Comment on Dear Kevin 1 week ago:
Archaea and Everything Else (I can't remember the other domain)
- Comment on is there is any Lemmy server that care about privacy(does not require email), Does not impose limits on community posts like my current instance and does not have high amount of restrictions? 1 week ago:
It's entirely possible to host an instance that doesn't require emails to sign up. Blahaj lemmy and piefed don't for example. We don't have a spam problem though, because we require manual approvals of new accounts. Lack of email verification is only a problem when it's combined with open signup
- Comment on is there is any Lemmy server that care about privacy(does not require email), Does not impose limits on community posts like my current instance and does not have high amount of restrictions? 1 week ago:
I make an exception to that rule for the /c/superbowl. I love seeing a bunch of owls suddenly appear in my feed :)
- Comment on Firefox is dead to me – and I'm not the only one who is fed up 1 week ago:
Exactly. I'm not running to chrome with it's defanged ad blockers and Google stink.
- Comment on What's the best way to respond to someone who says "transracial is just as valid as transgender"? 1 week ago:
People see the same ideas echoed over and over again, and eventually it shapes how they think. That’s why regular, everyday people, people who aren’t even political start parroting right-wing talking points. Even my kids and their friends are saying this stuff.
You are 100% correct on this part.
The problem is, arguing with them magnifies that effect, it doesn't challenge it.
That's not to say you shouldn't push back. I don't mean smile and agree, or just ignore them. Deplatforming works, protests work, proud visibility works, civil disobedience works. Responding negatively works. Making it so that there is a social cost to being a transphobe works.
But debating them isn't any of those things. Debating them is engaging with them, and in the act of arguing with you, they actually solidify the beliefs they already hold, and this is especially true of heavily polarised issues. Here's some research on it https://www.nature.com/articles/s41562-023-01623-8 (PDF link), and an article that goes in to the topic a bit https://www.discovermagazine.com/mind/why-is-it-that-even-proven-facts-cant-change-some-peoples-minds
As much as it feels right to argue with them, all you are doing is strengthening their already held beliefs when you do. It might feel like its helping, but it isn't. You'll read my response, and you'll likely go "screw that, you're wrong, I'm going to keep arguing". And that's the exact effect I'm talking about at play. Every time you argue with someone, they have that same internal reaction to your comments, no matter what you say, or how strongly you believe it.
- Comment on What's the best way to respond to someone who says "transracial is just as valid as transgender"? 1 week ago:
So you allow them to influence other people with their ideas?
No, absolutely not. I run instances to give gender diverse folk safe spaces. I ban transphobes the instant they appear, I don't debate them. Offline, I'm visible, active and proud. I am an volunteer at my local parkrun, I've spoken openly with people at my workplace, I've hosted a queer community radio show, I host a vodcast, and I used to be active in organising events for my local gender diverse community. Because what gets people to change their minds, is an emotional connection with the group they're targeting. When they start to see us as people, just the same as them, then they start to make choices that aren't harmful to us, and they start to wind back their own arguments.
Pushing back is incredibly important, but debating them isn't effective. Like most people, when confronted with debate points in regards to a topic they hold on to for emotional reasons, they will shift goal posts, and only see the things that validate what they already believe, whilst ignoring the things that challenge it. When they get to the point where they're ready to challenge their ideas (because their emotional position has shifted) then, lots of the talking points you would normally debate become relevant, but by that stage, it's a discussion, not a debate.
- Comment on Why do some people hate drinking water? 1 week ago:
I drink lots of water, but I add coffee...
- Comment on What's the best way to respond to someone who says "transracial is just as valid as transgender"? 1 week ago:
You can't rationally debate someone out of a position they didn't reach through rational consideration.
- Comment on Are foldable phones as good/bad as they say? 1 week ago:
I use a Galaxy fold, and honestly, you can take my folding phone from my cold dead hands, because there is no other way in giving them up.
- Comment on Ok where is this ? 2 weeks ago:
It feels like somewhere in the Glasshouse Mountains, looking towards the Sunshine Coast, but I can't pin down where.
- Comment on YouTube relaxes moderation rules to allow more controversial content. Videos are allowed if "freedom of expression value may outweigh harm risk" 2 weeks ago:
Peertube is also a thing. Obviously, someone can't make it on Peertube alone, but lots of folk out there upload to YouTube and to Peertube
- Comment on YouTube relaxes moderation rules to allow more controversial content. Videos are allowed if "freedom of expression value may outweigh harm risk" 2 weeks ago:
I mean, if your requirement for a youtube alternative is that it's as big as YouTube, you're just guaranteeing that there will never be a YouTube alternative...
- Comment on YouTube relaxes moderation rules to allow more controversial content. Videos are allowed if "freedom of expression value may outweigh harm risk" 2 weeks ago:
The alternatives are there. They don't have the volume of course, but they're very much born...
- Comment on Friendica's marketing is terrible. 2 weeks ago:
I tried to love it. It's one of the most feature rich fediverse platforms out there. It has groups built in out of the box, it talks to Diaspora as well as Activitypub... But it's just... not nice to use.
- Comment on ChatGPT 'got absolutely wrecked' by Atari 2600 in beginner's chess match — OpenAI's newest model bamboozled by 1970s logic 2 weeks ago:
No thank you. The only winning move is not to play
- Comment on An earnest question about the AI/LLM hate 2 weeks ago:
It's a hugely disruptive technology, that is harmful to the environment, being taken up and given center stage by a host of folk who don't understand it.
Like the industrial revolution, it has the chance to change the world in a massive way, but in doing so, it's going to fuck over a lot of people, and notch up the greenhouse gases. In a decade or two, we probably won't remember what life was like without them, but lots of people are going to be out of jobs, have their income streams cut off and have no alternatives available to them whilst that happens.
And whilst all of that is going on, we're getting told that it's the bes most amazing thing that we all need, and it's being stuck in to everything, including things that don't benefit from the presence of an LLM, and sometimes, where the presence of an LLM can be actively harmful
- Comment on Should I apologize to this person? 2 weeks ago:
5 years ago, you contacted someone you met when you were both adults, which was presumably years before that? And her parents were mad at you? I'm not sure how her parents opinion on this matters to anyone but her parents?
- Comment on Do De-Transitioners validate some right wing talking points? 2 weeks ago:
"trans identified individuals", with an hour old account...
Sure, you're "just asking questions"
- Comment on The Expanse: Osiris Reborn Announcement Trailer 2 weeks ago:
Well, I'm a little bit excited