17 years old: “You are really mature for your age”
Introverts Rock
Submitted 11 hours ago by King@sh.itjust.works to [deleted]
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TheImpressiveX@lemmy.today 4 hours ago
mfed1122@discuss.tchncs.de 1 hour ago
I wonder if this introvert/extrovert dichotomy really exists this much or if it’s just psychological astrology. Personally, I find it completely irrelevant to myself, but maybe that’s just me.
I will be extremely extroverted around people I like and extremely introverted around people I don’t like. I can feel recharged by interactions with people I like and discharged by interactions with people I don’t like. Isn’t that obvious?
With strangers it’s all based on my perception of them, derived from their appearance, their context, and any other clues I have.
In groups it’s based on the composition of the group. The percentage of people I like or dislike, and also the context. When I’m alone, I’m perfectly content alone. I love being alone and I love hanging out with my friends.
To be honest, I suspect my situation is how pretty much everyone is. I feel like my friends who describe themselves as extroverts and my friends who describe themselves as introverts are really just doing the same thing as each other and as me. I suspect that people who are very pronounced one way or the other, are doing so out of a self-fulfilling prophecy effect resulting from having decided at some point in the past to conceive of themselves as introverted or extroverted. The same way an astrology fan may unwittingly begin to behave according to their sign stereotype.
HalfSalesman@lemmy.world 50 minutes ago
Ehhh, I wouldn’t place it at the same level as astrology. I do think people do the self fulfilling prophecy shit with it though.
I thought I was an introvert for a long time so I kind of became an insular hermit for like 5 years of my life after college and then I realized I was horribly miserable at the end of it.
And then when I forced myself to socialize I realized I actually fucking loved it and my introversion was from bad early social experiences due to autism and living in a backwards rural hellhole.
TheFunkyMonk@lemmy.world 11 hours ago
Again, I feel introversion is being convoluted with social anxiety. I’m totally fine with and even enjoy being around people, I just need a lot of alone time to recharge my battery. Though people see my confidence in social situations and never believe I’m introverted.
fdon48g6dj53gj7idh7k@feddit.online 6 hours ago
convoluted
conflated
TheFunkyMonk@lemmy.world 1 hour ago
Thank you!
TommySoda@lemmy.world 10 hours ago
Yeah, as someone that is an introvert and had social anxiety, the mixup does get a little annoying. Being an introvert with social anxiety when growing up was a absolute nightmare in my experience. Especially because I wanted to socialize but couldn’t bring myself to do it. It’s a constant back and forth between “I need alone time” and “I wish I could talk to people” and it made me hate myself for being introverted. Luckily I’ve managed to mostly get over it as I’ve gotten older and now I’m happy with being an introvert. Now I’m in your boat and most people don’t even realize I’m introverted until they get to know me more personally.
Digestive_Biscuit@feddit.uk 5 hours ago
That was the same for me. I didn’t realise I had high anxiety especially around people interaction. I just went with what people told me, that I’m introverted. It took me way too long to figure this out and I only did so because my anxiety was getting worse and about more things. Once I was on medication I realised holy shit, I needed this like 20 years ago!
I’m now able to join clubs, meet in large groups. But like you it’s now a choice. I generally do the social thing then leave or take some time out when batteries are low.
brrt@sh.itjust.works 8 hours ago
And there are even more layers to this. How much do you know and like the people you are interacting with? How comfortable are you in the setting/circumstances? How interesting are the activities/conversations?
5in1k@lemmy.zip 3 hours ago
Get interesting or knowledgable and you go from creepy to mysterious. Introversion isn’t just sitting in a corner by yourself not talking to other people in social situation, that’s anxiety.
blarghly@lemmy.world 1 hour ago
50% of lemmy is mostly normal high functioning autists who have crippling social anxiety about the idea that anyone might find them creepy.
The other 50% are creeps
olafurp@lemmy.world 1 hour ago
I’m introverted and I got invited everywhere all the time. People liked inviting me because I always showed up and was dependable. Those people who invited me are still my friends today.
AllNewTypeFace@leminal.space 7 hours ago
If introversion is not socially acceptable (as “creepy” implies), it follows that public healthcare systems should provide free cocaine to those afflicted.
Johanno@feddit.org 5 hours ago
I as an introvert learned to be more extroverted because if not I would be alone. I mean nothing wrong with that, but sometimes I want to see people.
However when I do sth with people it drains my energy. I need to recover. And I will happily stay in my room for days without seeing someone.
And that is what extroverts don’t understand. They often gain energy from being with other people.
AnUnusualRelic@lemmy.world 4 hours ago
That’s my main problem with group/family vacations. A whole week (or more) with people everywhere all the time. It takes me a lot of time to recover. It’s absolutely exhausting.
Sam_Bass@lemmy.world 2 hours ago
I see all the people I need to see when I go into town to resupply ;)
SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 hours ago
I was an annoying kid. Found out a few years ago that I was a brat growing up.
At 17, I can safely say I was annoying. I probably still am.
Now, I’m just lonely.
lightnsfw@reddthat.com 1 hour ago
Don’t stress over it. All kids are annoying. If you weren’t you probably had some social anxiety problems.
SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 hour ago
Por que no los dos
ummthatguy@lemmy.world 11 hours ago
Around 40: They’ve figured out how to live right.
Cringedrif@lemmy.world 4 hours ago
Uhhhh…damn I must’ve missed something…
psx_crab@lemmy.zip 8 hours ago
60: this boomer is alright.
not_me@piefed.social 11 hours ago
Welcome to the club I’m 62
CallMeAnAI@lemmy.world 6 hours ago
Big difference between introverted and creepy 🤣
Soulg@ani.social 6 hours ago
Heavily depends on how attractive they are or aren’t
Sam_Bass@lemmy.world 2 hours ago
Yeah we rock in the privacy of our own homes
TrickDacy@lemmy.world 11 hours ago
I prefer most of these panels to “you’re so quiet!”
eager_eagle@lemmy.world 11 hours ago
joining the creepy team this year
ODGreen@lemmy.ca 2 hours ago
Welcome to the club. I saw a deer skeleton in the woods behind the park, wanna go see?
bryndos@fedia.io 10 hours ago
18+ you drink too much
FistingEnthusiast@lemmynsfw.com 11 hours ago
lightnsfw@reddthat.com 1 hour ago
I found an extrovert that collects introvert friends so I have a social life now. We recently acquired a second extrovert friend who comes up with stuff for us to do when the first one isn’t available. All I need to do is show up and maybe bring some food/beer. It’s pretty nice all in all.
Leg@sh.itjust.works 43 minutes ago
Hell yeah! Sounds like a sweet deal.
bystander@lemmy.ca 1 hour ago
Aaah mutualism.