Being a 22-year-old virgin or being 22 and never having been in a relationship is something to be shameful about.

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• itkovian@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨hour⁩ ago

  I am a 35-year old virgin. And I am probably going to die lonely and virgin. I did ask to be brought up as a mentally fucked up dude, who is so scared of rejection that it is much better to not try at all.

  Your ‘shower thought’ lacks basic empathy and understanding about people. But, then again, most people do.

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• pixeltree@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨38⁩ ⁨minutes⁩ ago

  Do better

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• PrincessLeiasCat@sh.itjust.works ⁨30⁩ ⁨minutes⁩ ago

  Actually it’s fine. This was me until I finally met the person who I decided I felt comfortable being intimate with.

  I was raised religious but by that time I wasn’t, but that shame and guilt are still legit.

  Anyway, it’s been decades since and we’re still together. I have no regrets.

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• railway692@piefed.zip ⁨1⁩ ⁨hour⁩ ago

  I’m blocking you.

  You should’ve been moderated already, for spamming the comm with stuff that has to be against Rule 1 (All posts must be shower thoughts).

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• Ksij82@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  No dude you are misinformed

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• psx_crab@lemmy.zip ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  It’s okay to be virgin at 25 dude, but writing this sort of thing will 100% not getting you any fuck.

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  • Grimreaper@sopuli.xyz ⁨2⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    It’s okay to be virgin at 25 dude

    No, it isn’t. Like I said, most people love their virginity before that age. If you are a 25-year-old man who’s a virgin, no woman who’s 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30 or 31 years old will want to date you because they don’t want to date a virgin, and that goes for most adult men and women who have sexual experience.

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    • psx_crab@lemmy.zip ⁨45⁩ ⁨minutes⁩ ago

      It sounds like a projection but okay 🤷

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• Grenfur@pawb.social ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Didn’t get my DL until I was 18. Didn’t have sex until I was 22. Best friend was a virgin when he got married at 30. Everyone is different. Everyone’s experience is different. You shouldn’t feel bad. Just do you.

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• queermunist@lemmy.ml ⁨2⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  I was too dysphoric as a teenager to even think about being naked around another person.

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• pH3ra@lemmy.ml ⁨1⁩ ⁨hour⁩ ago

  The reason I didn’t enjoy sex in my teens/20s as much as I do in my 30s was mainly because of the social pressure about it that made me anxious all the time.
  So screw this mentality for spoiling my early experiences.

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• gigachad@piefed.social ⁨2⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  You should watch less movies

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• Mediocre_Bard@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Why are you so concerned with who fucks whom? you’re saying that shame could be a good motivator for someone to fuck someone they otherwise wouldn’t. Touch grass.

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• moseschrute@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  If you’re <= 22 and writing this, are you ok?

  If you’re > 22 and writing this, everyone is on their own journey. They may just prefer being single, and that’s totally ok. They may also not respond to negative comments. Instead, they might need someone to encourage their confidence.

  Sincerely, someone who met their partner at age 23 :)

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  • JasonDJ@lemmy.zip ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    If you’re >22 and you’re wasting brain-cycles on what age people are losing their virginity at, perhaps you need a bit of introspection.

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  • Grenfur@pawb.social ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    As a side note to this I didn’t meet me partner until I was 26. And honestly I’m glad. Enjoy your life. Its hard to see that from the other side but its fine but you should be ready to settle down before you do.

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    • moseschrute@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Also the idea that meeting your partner is this single point in time you have to hit by 22 is rediculous. Relationships are a journey. Even if you met you’re partner at 22, chances are by 33 you will have grown as people. I think it’s more of an escelator you hop on at any age, if you desire a romantic relationship.

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    • Grimreaper@sopuli.xyz ⁨2⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Like I said, most people love their virginity before that age. If you are a 25-year-old man who’s a virgin, no woman who’s 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30 or 31 years old will want to date you because they don’t want to date a virgin, and that goes for most adult men and women who have sexual experience.

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• Lumelore@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  I guess I should be very ashamed of myself then. I got my license at 21. I’m now 22 and still a virgin. I’ve known for a long time that I move slower than others and I really don’t care. Like genuinely why do some people think having sex at a young age is like the most important thing ever?? Like why do you even care?

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• Witchfire@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  I didn’t have a partner nor sex til I was 30. Both have changed by now, but turns out I’m just asexual and uninterested shrug

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• Lumidaub@feddit.org ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  It’s like never getting your driver’s license until you’re 21 or something.

  Good news: I’m 42 and I don’t have a driver’s license - and I haven’t died from it.

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  • FancyPantsFIRE@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    and I haven’t died from it.

    Yet.

    Results inconclusive.

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    • Lumidaub@feddit.org ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      I’ll make sure to keep you updated.

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• Contramuffin@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  You are fundamentally wrong. Look at any high schooler and try telling me with a straight face that they get pussy.

  It takes all their energy to not be completely consumed by TikTok brainrot, do you really think they have the social competence to be able to maintain a serious relationship for long enough that they have sex?

  I can tell you with absolute certainly that at max 2 people in my entire high school cohort actually lost their virginity in high school

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• turbowafflz@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Why specifically 22? Is this about a specific person?

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• Greg@lemmy.ca ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  I think your shower is too hot there bud

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• Darkcoffee@sh.itjust.works ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Image

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  • aubeynarf@lemmynsfw.com ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    do you mean “psych” like we said in the 80s/90s?

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• sunzu2@thebrainbin.org ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Wrong place for this sort of post. Should hit unpopular opinions to farm the upvotes

  People can do as they please. Lack of experience from not dating will adversely affect their marriages and overall social abilities.

  People bitching about being lonely but don't bother to develop social skills to get SO or friends. With that being said, it definitely ain't as natural it used to be prior to the damn spy devices.

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• Solumbran@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Lol, at 22 your body is not even finished, let alone your mind, but you think it’s mandatory to have sex?

  And sex early is a better “decision”?

  And being different is something to feel bad about and that is worth shame?

  What the heck are you on dude, there is not a single angle at which this reasoning would even remotely make sense.

  Don’t write this out of the weird 4chanish incel hellhole you found that cra.

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• twinklefruit@lemmings.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  I agree with you, and especially your last point.

  Don’t let the losers on the internet convince you that it’s okay to be a loser, too. Misery loves company, and they have no problem tarnishing other people’s lives so they can feel better about themselves.

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• betterdeadthanreddit@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  You should take fewer showers.

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• JeeBaiChow@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Lol. I’m not on WhatsApp either, in spite of everyone else. I must be a slow developer.

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• JeeBaiChow@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  So your measure of a person’s worth is based on how many people they fuck before a certain age? I’m sure there’s a word for that sort of thing…

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