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Take it easy on yourself, everything changes when your kid comes along (if you care about them)
Take the epidural, take the drugs. “Natural” is for masochists.
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Submitted 7 months ago by mrs_Ana2006@lemmy.world to [deleted]
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ileftreddit@piefed.social 7 months ago
ZkhqrD5o@lemmy.world 7 months ago
You go girl. I don’t want kids myself, so pick up the slack for me. Thanks. ;)
7U5K3N@lemmy.dbzer0.com 7 months ago
Find a day care that’s reputable and get on the waiting list now.
Now!!!
Especially if you live in a metro area. Shits wild at how long you have to wait.
Track_Shovel@slrpnk.net 7 months ago
I can’t speak for the birthing part, but you’ll do fine OP. Every mother has gone through this, and they likely all shared the same worries and concerns. When the time comes, you’ll have a whole team around you helping you through the process.
Others touch on the sleep deprivation after, and that’s a real thing, especially for moms since they have to feed the baby every time. For our first, I was was up every time with my wife, for moral support. I felt pretty useless, but at least we were in it together. One time she was talking to me while feeding baby shovel (trowel?) and I fell asleep during her sentence for exactly one head nod and loud snore before waking up. It’s tough. The first 6-8 months is a grind, but after that things settle down a bit and you really get to enjoy them.
Remember_the_tooth@lemmy.world 7 months ago
ieatpwns@lemmy.world 7 months ago
More common to shit on the baby than You think
JoMiran@lemmy.ml 7 months ago
Sibbo@sopuli.xyz 7 months ago
There’s a medium happy “being pregnant” missing in the middle :)
But congratulations. Bad advice from my wife: take all the pain medication they offer you
infinitevalence@discuss.online 7 months ago
Enjoy it as much as you can, none of us knew WTF we were doing the first time.
Wizard_Pope@lemmy.world 7 months ago
You’ll pull through. Just hope it happens at a normal time of day. My mother said the worst part was that borh of my 2 younger brothers decided that they want out at like 3 in the morning.
SugarCatDestroyer@lemmy.world 7 months ago
The main thing is, don’t name the child a strange name, even Ethan. I have nothing against Ethans, I just can’t find a suitable example.
simplejack@lemmy.world 7 months ago
Gen X:
May I interest you in an Aiden, Braiden, Camden, or something else that ends in a den, don, or dan?
spongebue@lemmy.world 7 months ago
Ethyn
unknown1234_5@kbin.earth 7 months ago
wish I could think of something funny to say. medicine is pretty good these days so I'm sure you'll be fine.
The_Picard_Maneuver@piefed.world 7 months ago
Congrats and good luck! You'll do fine!
UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world 7 months ago
They’ve got some pretty good drugs now. Just, like, have your hospital and your doctor picked out well in advance. Don’t skip your lamaze classes. It’s not fun, but you’ll make it through. And the best part is that your brain releases chemicals so you forget the worst bits.
Eq0@literature.cafe 7 months ago
About your brain chemicals rewriting reality: I remember giving birth as totally chill time, nothing difficult, all smooth. While I also know for a fact I was crying that I couldn’t make it and my kid ended up overnight at the NICU. Somehow, your brain still tells you “all is great”
sturlabragason@lemmy.world 7 months ago
You’re gonna do great. Laugh it off. Congrats.
ArgumentativeMonotheist@lemmy.world 7 months ago
A good friend of mine had her first recently at the age of 36 and it all went well! And she hasn’t complained about the pain and physical consequences as much as she has about sleeplessness, lol. God willing, it should be fine. And thank you for your service! 😁❤️
thericofactor@sh.itjust.works 7 months ago
Service?
ArgumentativeMonotheist@lemmy.world 7 months ago
Baking, raising and loving the little ones, with great risks to one’s health and sacrificing the more superficial wants and ‘free time’, is probably one of the greatest services one can do for mankind, right? 😅
indulgence@lemmy.world 7 months ago
Kids are awful. I’d be terrified too.
UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world 7 months ago
Kids are fantastic when you have time to care for them and a nightmare when you don’t.
I’ve spent twenty years in my profession and four years as a parent. There are plenty of days I wake up and think about my job and question my life choices. Never been a minute when I’ve regretted bringing kids into my home and making their lives as happy and fun as I can manage.
ArgumentativeMonotheist@lemmy.world 7 months ago
Should your mom have aborted you or have you forgotten being a child is on the way to becoming an adult?!
Morganica@lemmy.world 7 months ago
Should your mom have aborted you
Yes
sturlabragason@lemmy.world 7 months ago
You can think they are awful and love them at the same time
Gradually_Adjusting@lemmy.world 7 months ago
Sleep while you can
Mac@mander.xyz 7 months ago
Reminds me of this from the before-times:
Randelung@lemmy.world 7 months ago
Mom: Dad! Come help with the kid!
Dad: I can’t, I have to do data entry!
Track_Shovel@slrpnk.net 7 months ago
This is really true. The sleep deprivation is probably the hardest part. My first kid would fall asleep with his eyes open so if you moved, HE. WOKE. UP.
Gradually_Adjusting@lemmy.world 7 months ago
My heart quails
billwashere@lemmy.world 7 months ago
Dad of four kids and two grandchildren. Enjoy every minute of sleep. Take a nap in the middle of the day for no reason other than you’re bored. Remember that day. It will get you through the dark times. 🤣
aeronmelon@lemmy.world 7 months ago
Just take a nap until your water breaks. :)
Gradually_Adjusting@lemmy.world 7 months ago
Given I’m a dude, I’d be okay with this
derry@midwest.social 7 months ago
Pro tip right there.
yermaw@sh.itjust.works 7 months ago
So real. So very very very fucking real. Mine just turned 2 and has only just started sleeping properly. Most nights.
billwashere@lemmy.world 7 months ago
I just had six days with grandchildren 2 & 6 (parents were in Alaska) and I have no idea how I did this before.
Gradually_Adjusting@lemmy.world 7 months ago
The first half a year nearly broke me. I haven’t entirely recovered, seven years on. Sleep dep is the great enemy.
Mine was rock solid from 6 months to almost 3 years, when latent ADHD broke the spell and laid low my highly disciplined bedtime regimen.
My kid is the morning lark to my night owl, fully time blind, restless to the point of disability, and haunted by bad dreams. I’ve got no right answers to that. Bags under his eyes at seven. Wish I knew how to improve his sleep to how it was 5 years ago. He used to sleep like a rock from 7pm to 7am, every single night, even if I had loud guests. I miss it.
twinnie@feddit.uk 7 months ago
Giving birth is the easier part. At least you’re surrounded by doctors. When you get home and you don’t have a clue, that’s relentless.