It would solve all their problems.
Two sides with unrealistically high standards which they themselves don’t meet. Plus they hate the others almost as much as they hate themselves.
I don’t see this working out, guys.
Why do the femcels and the incels not.... date each other?
Submitted 1 week ago by aeternum@lemmy.blahaj.zone to showerthoughts@lemmy.world
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rustyfish@lemmy.world 1 week ago
Lightor@lemmy.world 1 week ago
This. My wife’s brother isn’t a bad looking dude. I’d say maybe a solid 6. But he is exclusively attracted to women who are models or could be. A girl could be at a bar that most would find gorgeous, way out of his league, and he would be physically repulsed by her. He would nit pick every aspect of her build, hair, etc. He’s currently 35 and alone, living in his dad’s basement. Oh and he is a corrections officer, so there’s that.
chonglibloodsport@lemmy.world 1 week ago
Incels don’t actually want to solve their problems. They’ve adopted them as an identity and joined a cult.
Stern@lemmy.world 1 week ago
The incels want vaginas that cook them dinner, and the femcels want girlfriends… well the femcels on here anyhow
RVGamer06@sh.itjust.works 1 week ago
We should spread femcelmemes to other platforms to reclaim the word “femcel”
ZILtoid1991@lemmy.world 1 week ago
Weirdly enough the whole “involuntary celibate” thing originated from a queer woman, then the internet desided to hate her and to “reclaim” the term “incel” to people that are truly alone: extremely misogynistic men.
Deceptichum@quokk.au 1 week ago
You can’t reclaim a word that’s always meant what it means.
pixeltree@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 week ago
The term femcel isn’t as universal as incel. Please compare the female dating strategy subreddit to blahaj zones femcel memes community
And to actually answer your question, because many of them don’t actually want a partner, they want someone to blame and hate for not having a partner.
Diddlydee@feddit.uk 1 week ago
Because they are mostly awful hate-filled specimens.
MentalEdge@sopuli.xyz 1 week ago
Two people with no game, still means there’s no game.
Zero plus zero is still zero.
Fondots@lemmy.world 1 week ago
Because they mostly all have terrible personalities and would find each other totally unbearable just like the rest of us do.
They also generally don’t really want to date any sort of actual human that exists in the real world. They want to date a perfect parody of the opposite sex, incels are looking for someone who looks like Barbie (or whatever their idea of a perfect body type is, some go for a the petite almost childlike look after all) who wakes up looking like she just left the salon, who is totally subservient to all of his wants and needs, never speaks up unless it’s to stroke his ego, a perfect cook and maid, an oversexed freak in the sheets, who will bear however many children his twisted ego wants to inflict on the world but never gain a pound or show any stretch marks, wrinkles, or grey hair
In short they don’t want to date a real person, they want a real doll who does their laundry and squeezes out children.
And they’re convinced that these mythical creatures exist out in the real world but that someone is conspiring to keep them from them, because obviously they’re the perfect example of masculinity and why wouldn’t these perfect females be flocking to them otherwise?
And I’m not certain exactly what sort of fictitious Superman feels are after, but the same overall sentiment applies.
Or else they’re just deeply in the closet.
Fecundpossum@lemmy.world 1 week ago
There’s a lot more incels than femcels, and they’re all equally insufferable, toxic, and broken.
ehpolitical@lemmy.ca 2 days ago
They’re still intimidated by the opposite sex regardless?
BrokenGlepnir@lemmy.world 1 week ago
The term incel came from a bisexual woman around 20 years ago. I think she started a support group online for it. The problem was that most of the people who wanted help, got it and left. This left… the people who would not be helped and that’s what it is. Still the original incel I believe ended up with a woman, it just so happened that she was one.
Opinionhaver@feddit.uk 1 week ago
I guess this is kind of like asking why don’t ugly people date eachother - because they don’t want to date an ugly person.
MoonManKipper@lemmy.world 1 week ago
Because their problems are nothing to do with not having dates
Vinny_93@lemmy.world 1 week ago
I’m not sure but I would guess that there are ‘standards’ involved. Usually guys who go incel see a physical relationship as some sort of conquest.
They are more interesed in the act than the person. And for that act, they want it to be some sort of achievement so rather than getting to know someone they only go by shallow characteristics.
But usually incels are either physically unattractive or socially (very) awkward or a combination of both, making them unable to complete their conquest. Get rejected enough times and they’ll tell themselves the problem lies with women in general.
I dunno about femcels, mostly because I’ve never seen one irl. I imagine they are also physically unattractive and/or socially awkward so they would never be ‘targeted’ by incel types.
The guys I knew that fit the profile would also not be too keen on personal hygiene, healthy habits like proper food and drink and exercise and they dismissed pretty much anything mainstream society deems positive. Most of what they say or do comes from a negative place. I can imagine girls don’t really go for a guy like that, regardless if they are femcels or not.
FlyingSquid@lemmy.world 1 week ago
Then what would they have to complain about?
M137@lemmy.world 1 week ago
As with too many posts here, you really didn’t think for more than a second about this. This community is great at showing that many people have a thought and just stops right there, not further thinking or action about of of any kind. It’s so weird, especially like here when they go an posts it online for others to see.
TempermentalAnomaly@lemmy.world 1 week ago
This is c/showerthoughts. You’re looking for c/fartsmarts
gandalf_der_12te@discuss.tchncs.de 1 week ago
Well … just like the US economy is kept alive by the constant threat of unemployedness and therefore homelessness, the US society is kept moving by the constant “winning group”/“losing group” divide. If you would heal incels, there would be no “losing grouo” to look down upon anymore, and the US would have to create a new one, thus perpetuating the probldm.
11111one11111@lemmy.world 1 week ago
FYI “unemployedness” = unemployment
philpo@feddit.org 1 week ago
Possibly they think of themselves as unlovable,are so incompetent in relationships (any, not just a partner/SO)? Or because they just want a slave with a vagina&a silent mouth attached.
When I was younger a friend of mine, for some reason I will never understand, fell for a Incel. They knew each other from Uni. She was/is cute, intelligent, witty, definitely not someone who is unable to find another partner. But wherever loves falls,right. She basically woed him for half a year,was treated shitty (dates ignored, multiple ghosting phases with idiotic reasons like “he didn’t like what dress she wore in class”,etc). The later confessed that they actually had sex once and it was beyond horrible because he literally told her he did not care for her wellbeing (not pleasure)at all.
After that she thankfully decided to pursue other options. He had a long online rant about how she is a slut for leaving him, etc.
(While our friendship didn’t last I know that she is happily married with kids now)
themurphy@lemmy.ml 1 week ago
Just because you are an incel or femcel doesnt mean you dont have unrealistisc expectations about yourself. Sometimes, thats their problem to begin with.
FelixMortane@lemmy.ca 1 week ago
Both are equally intolerable and they don’t even want to be around each other.
samus12345@lemm.ee 1 week ago
When they do, it’s generally a super toxic relationship.
DragonsInARoom@lemmy.world 1 week ago
Someone’s been watching milliania thinker, good man
rah@feddit.uk 1 week ago
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