Opinionhaver
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- Comment on Is there a community dedicated for serious discussion? 1 day ago:
This looks promising. Funnily enough I’m even subscribed to it.
- Comment on Is there a community dedicated for serious discussion? 1 day ago:
I’m not sure I get what you mean. I don’t see why one community couldn’t cover all these topics under the same set of moderation principles. I’m imagining something like a philosophers’ conference, where you can seriously discuss even seemingly ridiculous topics — like “why can’t we eat unwanted babies?” — and no one would be tempted to accuse the person of actually advocating for such a thing.
- Comment on Is there a community dedicated for serious discussion? 1 day ago:
It’s not criticism of my takes that hurts me, but the mean-spirited responses when they target me personally rather than my ideas — especially considering the effort I personally put into being fair and decent, even toward those I disagree with but then seem to get next to none of it in return.
You’re right about me getting hurt, though. I’m a real person with real feelings, and I’m not immune to cruelty. Dealing with rude, indecent people here does make me feel pretty bad on a regular basis.
- Comment on Is there a community dedicated for serious discussion? 1 day ago:
It’s not really politics I’m looking to discuss. At least not exclusively.
- Comment on Has the use of a comma instead of the word "and" in English news headlines always been a thing? 1 day ago:
As a non-native english speaker this headline format bothers me to no end. I guess the intention is to make it shorter but I simply just find it confusing.
- Comment on Is there a community dedicated for serious discussion? 1 day ago:
I not only block political communities here, but I also filter out every post containing terms related to current political events or specific political figures. While I might touch on topics that are political by nature - like the Israel-Palestine conflict - I rarely engage directly with politics in a broad sense.
For example, yesterday I tried making a post about the concept of “sigma males,” where I even preemptively acknowledged my doubts about its scientific validity and criticized how it tends to frame even negative traits in a positive light. Yet all the responses I received were ridicule, personal attacks, and accusations. Apparently, I overlooked the fact that the term “sigma male” acts like a lightning rod for a certain kind of person - people who completely disregard the actual question and just start spewing hatred and negativity.
I’d really just like a place where I can indulge in my cold and analytical, autistic topics of interest with other like-minded people. I don’t even mind disagreement - on the contrary, I enjoy it, as long as it’s done in good faith.
- Comment on Is there a community dedicated for serious discussion? 1 day ago:
What exactly is your problem here? Do you not have even a drop of self-awareness to realize that you’re now acting exactly like the kind of person that made me want to find a community free of people like you in the first place? You’re being a textbook example of someone who just can’t stay on topic and insists on making it about the person asking the question rather than addressing the question itself.
My comment history is open for anyone to see what kinds of topics I like to explore. I’m not going to start listing them here, because that’s not relevant to my question.
- Comment on Is there a community dedicated for serious discussion? 1 day ago:
You want a completely theoretical discussion where people cannot point out to you that you aren’t flawless either.
This is just yet another completely baseless accusation which both isn’t true nor in any way related to the topic at hand. I don’t understand your insistence on making this about me. Like I said: I’m not interested discussing people.
r/samharris, r/zombiesurvivaltactics and r/suomi are the subs I miss from reddit. I’m not aware of not having addressed any other questions you’ve posed to me.
- Comment on Is there a community dedicated for serious discussion? 1 day ago:
And there it is. I wonder what really triggered your post?
This is exactly why I’d like to find - or create - the kind of community I described above. These kinds of accusations, even when implicit, don’t bring any value to a conversation. I’m looking for a place to discuss ideas - not people or tribes.
- Comment on Is there a community dedicated for serious discussion? 1 day ago:
it really is a much nicer place to be than reddit
I can see how that would be the case for a certain type of person - perhaps even the majority - but interestingly, my personal experience has been almost the opposite. The people here tend to lean in the same political or ideological direction, and they’ve become extremely sensitive to any ideas that seem to go against their worldview. They’ve dealt with so many bad actors in the past that the moment someone starts making the kind of noises that trigger their alarms, it becomes almost impossible to engage with them meaningfully. You quickly end up having to defend yourself against preconceptions formed simply because you’re willing to touch on a sensitive topic.
I think the contrast within the userbase here is actually sharper than on Reddit. There’s a large number of incredibly decent, mature, and thoughtful people - likely due to the higher average age - but there’s also a surprisingly large group of extremely vicious activist types who will dogpile on you the moment you say anything even halfway critical of their cause, or not critical enough of what they oppose.
- Comment on Is there a community dedicated for serious discussion? 1 day ago:
Based on my experience trying to have deep and sometimes difficult conversations here, I’ve come to believe that if such a community did exist and gained even a bit of popularity, it would likely result in a large number of the currently active users here getting themselves banned from it. In the end, it might just be a small group of users left - the ones actually interested in playing fair. I don’t necessarily see that as a bad thing, though. You really don’t need that many people to have insightful discussions. Often, even one person is enough, as long as they’re approaching it in good faith.
Moderation would definitely be an issue, though. Dealing with the worst offenders is easy - it’s the gray areas that are challenging. The space wouldn’t just need to be heavily moderated; that same standard would also need to apply to the moderators themselves.
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- Comment on Industrial Light & Magic's Chief Creative Promotes AI Slop During His TED Talk 2 days ago:
It’s crazy how it sometimes feels like it’s no longer enough to simply not like something - instead, one has to make actively hating it a part of their identity. People get conditioned to be triggered by certain keywords, and it doesn’t seem to matter what is said afterward or what the nuances of the particular case are - they’ve already decided how to react.
- Comment on What techniques do bad faith users use online to overwhelm other users in online discussion and arguments? 2 days ago:
It’s actually somewhat effective in my experience. Another thing I’ve recently started doing is calling out mean comments. Nobody wants to think of themselves as a mean person but it’s quite difficult accusation to argue against when the evidence is right there in front of their face.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 days ago:
The discussion wasn’t about them being insistent on grandkids - it was about you being insistent on inheritance. If you think they’re being unreasonable, then it’s worth recognizing that your own insistence might be just as unreasonable.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 days ago:
You’re not obligated to have children - just like your dad isn’t obligated to leave you an inheritance.
- Comment on What techniques do bad faith users use online to overwhelm other users in online discussion and arguments? 2 days ago:
False dichotomy - Assuming that because someone doesn’t agree with one viewpoint, they must fully support the opposite. Framing the issue as if there are only two mutually exclusive positions, when in fact there may be many shades in between.
Strawmanning - Misrepresenting someone’s argument - usually by exaggerating, distorting, or taking it out of context - so it’s easier to attack or refute.
Ad hominem -Attacking the character, motives, or other traits of the person making the argument rather than addressing the substance of the argument itself.
Reductionism - The tendency to reduce every complex issue to a single cause - like blaming everything on capitalism, fascism, patriarchy, etc. - while ignoring other contributing factors.
Moving the goalposts - Changing the criteria of an argument or shifting its focus once the original point has been addressed or challenged - usually to avoid conceding. Hasty generalizations - Treating entire groups as if they’re uniform, attributing a trait or behavior of some individuals to all members of that group.
Oversimplification - Ignoring the nuance and complexity inherent in most issues, reducing them to overly simple terms or black-and-white thinking. - Comment on Lemmy feels less anonymous than Reddit, because there are less users and its easier to be remembered. Similar to a small town where everyone knows each other. 2 days ago:
That’s why I keep making new accounts every time the last one hits around 1,000 comments. I already recognize quite a few users here who’ve only written around 3,000 comments total - so by that metric, if I’d just kept using my first account, I’d probably be instantly recognizable to a ton of people by now.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 days ago:
They’ll not going to be around forever so they want to know you’ll be able to look after yourself.
- Comment on The Collapse of GPT: Will future artificial intelligence systems perform increasingly poorly due to AI-generated material in their training data? 2 days ago:
Artificial intelligence isn’t synonymous with LLMs. While there are clear issues with training LLMs on LLM-generated content, that doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with the kind of technology that will eventually lead to AGI. If AI hallucinations are already often obvious to humans, they should be glaringly obvious to a true AGI - especially one that likely won’t even be based on an LLM architecture in the first place.
- Comment on Is it weird to sometimes wonder wether everything you know is wrong? 2 days ago:
There’s one single thing in the entire universe that I’m absolutely certain of - something nothing could ever change my mind about: the fact that it feels like something to be. That there’s qualia, subjective experience. I could be a simulation, a brain in a vat, or something else entirely - but it’s undeniable that it is like something to be whatever “me” is. Everything else is up for debate.
Now, sure - there are things it would take a lot to convince me otherwise about, but I’m also not married to my ideas. I don’t attach my identity to them. I’ve been wrong before, and I’m almost certainly wrong about plenty of things even now. I don’t reject ideas just because I don’t like them. There are uncomfortable truths in this world, and not believing them doesn’t make them untrue. Even politically, it would be statistically absurd to think one side is right about everything and the other side is wrong about everything. It’s a mix. The challenge is figuring out where you are mistaken.
As for the examples you mentioned - homosexuality and transsexuality are human-made labels, ways to describe patterns we see. But like all labels, they’re rough generalizations. The differences between individuals even within these groups are vast - so much so that it starts to put the usefulness of the label itself into question. Personally, I’m just me. Tomorrow I’ll be a slightly different version of me. I don’t even fully identify with who I was yesterday - let alone some rigid label that society wants to stick on me.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 days ago:
It’s quite hard for someone who haven’t done it before. It’ll take months if not years of daily driving for you to get good enough that you don’t need to constantly think about it. There’s differences between vehicles too, especially with how the clutch feels. I’ve been driving manual for over 15 years and if I jump into a unfamiliar car it’ll take me a while to get the handle of it as well.
- Comment on Student Demands Tuition Refund After Catching Professor Using ChatGPT - Slashdot 3 days ago:
Time after time, I see people who should know better fail at basic things like this.
Even I don’t get called out for AI-written responses, even though a big number of my messages here are technically written by AI. The key difference is that I actually take the time to write a first draft of what I want to say, then run it through ChatGPT to help clean up my word salad - and finally, I go over the output again to make it sound like me. The thinking is mine. AI just helps me communicate more clearly.
I’d never ask it to write an entire response from scratch without providing structure or points I want to make. All I want is for the person reading my message to understand what I’m actually trying to say - so they can respond to that, not to a misinterpretation of what I was trying to say.
I’ll just leave that first draft here to illustrate my point:
Time after time I see people that should know better to fail at basic things like this.
Even I don’t get called out for AI responses even though a huge number of my messages posted here are technically written by AI. However, the difference here is that I actually took time to first write the first draft of what I want to say only then to give it for chatGPT to make sense of my word salad only for me to then go over it’s output to make it sound like me again. The thinking is done by me - AI only helps me to communicate more clearly. I’d never ask it to write the entire response from ground up without providing any structure and points about what I want to say. All I want is the person reading this message to get as clear of an understanding as possible of what I’m trying to say so that they can respond to that rather than to misintrepretation of what I was trying to say.
- Comment on The gender pay gap is at average 15% in North America. When shopping though, items that are marketed for Men or Women specifically seem to be on average priced the same. 3 days ago:
If I’m not mistaken, the gender pay gap has already reversed when you look specifically at Millennials and Gen Z. On average, women in these generations are both more highly educated and earning more than their male peers.
- Comment on OpenAI says its latest models outperform doctors in medical benchmark 5 days ago:
The bar exam isn’t created by OpenAI, yet the outdated GPT-4 model still ranked in the 90th percentile on it.
- Comment on [deleted] 6 days ago:
Me and my SO have a shared Google Keep note with our wishlists we update thorough the year. It’s still kind of a surprise as there are many items on that list and I can’t know what I’m getting.
- Comment on Did they already take the porn? 6 days ago:
Who are they?
- Comment on [deleted] 6 days ago:
lemmy.ca##div.post-listing:has(span:has-text(“/trump/i”))Put that into your ablocker custom rules.
- Comment on [deleted] 6 days ago:
Nazis were and are a political group. Opposing them is political.
- Comment on [deleted] 6 days ago:
I have quite extensive content filter list that hides every post containing popular terms related to US politics. Often that means hiding two thirds of my front page. However, what remains is still all politics.
Why is it like this? I have no idea. Maybe they’re trying to keep this place as unattractive for new users as possible.