did the same, in my case i would say “needed” more than “worth it”, it was not easy
Growing up in a conservative house hold where as far back as I could remember running away from these people was my strongest instinct. Its good to know I was 100% correct.
Submitted 3 weeks ago by Daft_ish@lemmy.dbzer0.com to showerthoughts@lemmy.world
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expatriado@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
DarrinBrunner@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
It often skips a generation, like red hair.
Spacehooks@reddthat.com 3 weeks ago
I dk grandpa was way worst than dad.
HonoraryMancunian@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Uh oh, keep an eye on your kids OP!
BarneyPiccolo@lemmy.today 3 weeks ago
Recognizing danger is a deeply internalized ancient instinct. If you feel danger, there is almost always danger. Heed your brain’s warning.
baguettefish@discuss.tchncs.de [bot] 3 weeks ago
does not apply to people with paranoid schizophrenia and persecutory delusions
SirEDCaLot@lemmy.today 2 weeks ago
Also, the brain sometimes presents useful information like this in a not useful manner.
I am among other things a Private pilot, several years back I attended a seminar on this subject. The presenter was an accomplished pilot and mechanic who owned his own airplane. One day, he had just finished engine maintenance and he went out to fly. Just as he got out to the runway, he got a strong sense of dread, of ‘my airplane is gonna kill me today’. So rather than take off he went back to the hangar to investigate.
He started walking around the airplane, running his hands over the metal, until he got to one specific spot on the engine cowling where his mind said ‘there! Something in here wants me dead’.
So he starts disassembling the airplane in that spot and eventually gets to a thing called an oil separator. It’s a simple device, just an empty box basically. A mixture of oil and air is pumped into it, the oil falls to the bottom and exits through a tube back to the engine, the air goes out the top.
Inside the oil separator he found a little loose bolt. It was right next to the hole that went back to the engine. If he took off, when the plane rotated the little bolt would have been sucked into the engine, causing massive mechanical damage. If he lost his engine on early takeoff that can be a very dangerous accident.
Obviously, he is not psychic. His airplane doesn’t want to kill him. It’s just a piece of metal. But, when he was doing maintenance the previous day, part of his brain remembered that he didn’t secure that bolt correctly. And thus, the brain presented useful information (you didn’t tighten the bolt and it’s going to destroy your engine) in a non-useful way (your airplane wants to kill you).
The moral of the story here for pilots was if something feels wrong, don’t assume it’s just nerves. Look for a reason, look for a cause, trust your instinct.
This isn’t limited to pilots though. Over a million years we have evolved it. It’s the same reason why little noises at night freak you out, because a million years ago when we lived in caves a little noise might mean the saber-tooth tiger was trying to sneak up on you and eat you.
BarneyPiccolo@lemmy.today 2 weeks ago
Like when you’re leaving the house, and you have that feeling that you’re forgetting something? You almost always are.
xSikes@feddit.online 3 weeks ago
Dude, same.
themurphy@lemmy.ml 3 weeks ago
Breaking the chain is both equally hard and important. Your own future family will be a better place.
Abundance114@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
I’m going to write a vague anecdotal post summarizing my entire childhood and absolutely rake in the upvotes by inserting a charged key word so that everyone on a left leaning platform will agree with me.
Daft_ish@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 weeks ago
You do you king
4grams@awful.systems 3 weeks ago
But think of the internet points. You are hoarding all of them, Abundance114 needs some too!
Aside… I totally agree with your original post. 40 years I’ve been bitching about my awful family. For 39, the rest of them have been telling me what an asshole I am for speaking my mind. For some reason, they have been agreeing with me more and more over the past year.
Jax@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
Struck a nerve?
Abundance114@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
No, I thought it was a funny statement by a sad person.
MedicPigBabySaver@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Shut up, donkey.
RememberTheApollo_@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
I grew up under Old Conservatism. The one that still kinda made sense. The one you could still discuss issues with. They wanted the same things you did, just how you got them was the difference. I guess I was a Conservative, though I definitely remember having early awareness of some of the issues with it. It took some years and a lot of growing up before all the hypocrisy, racism, shitty economic policy, misogyny and all the rest soaked in. Sort of a convergence of my awareness increasing along with the mask coming off of Republicans. My parents are/were rabid republicans; racist, fearful, stingy in that welfare- and homeless-hating way, fine with the violence against peaceful protests, etc. Nothing dissuades from voting Republican.
Thing is, I could actually still be a republican IF they actually did what they said they stood for. Fiscal conservative, keep government out of people’s personal lives, smaller government, “real” christian values, take care of the small towns and little people, etc. But that’s not who they are. The exact opposite of everything they claim to be. Even now the Democrats are republican-lite and too far Right for me, they just give us bread and circuses arguing over painted sidewalks while losing every important real policy battle that prevents the slide into fascism.
tomiant@piefed.social 3 weeks ago
You got out before you got bit. Once a bite breaks your skin, you’re done for. You’re gonna become one of them.
DaedalousIlios@pawb.social 3 weeks ago
Cap. I was a formerly incredibly devoute conservative evangelical. I found my way out. People find their way out all the time, they just get buried under all the other discourse.
BeardededSquidward@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 weeks ago
When a person wants to change I’ll help them. But they have to truly want to change and be open minded, that’s much rarer amongst those who grew up in such areas where it’s rehearsed or you get ostracized.
anomnom@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
Similar but with religion intend of political insanity. I don’t remember ever believing in their bullshit, but even tried a few times (since it was my only choice as a youngster). Always annoyed by their stores that didn’t make any logical or scientific sense and as soon as I could have a weekend job I got one and left.
BeardededSquidward@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 weeks ago
Grew up in a conservative area in general. My mom wasn’t as oppressive as conservatives go but my father was Trump without the money. Being racist was acceptable, they just called it sparkling prejudice though. Confederate flags were the norm, you’re supposed to love this country no matter what, etc. It’s all brain washing and reinforced propaganda that’ll take generations to remove. I don’t have much in the way of good childhood memories because of that and my father. It’s why I consider conservatism in any stripe reprehensible, it generates broken, unthinking people.
Tollana1234567@lemmy.today 2 weeks ago
sometimes, but weve seen them double down on the conservatism, which makes them more extreme than thier parents.
supersquirrel@sopuli.xyz 3 weeks ago
Yeah, you get a huge bonus multiplier on your human score for that. Don’t discount it!