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• squaresinger@lemmy.world ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  I really like that showerthoughts is apparently far less harshly moderated than r/showerthoughts. Posting over there feels like a mine field where the chances of getting your post deleted over a trivial mistake seem to be much higher than the chances of being able successfully post there.

  I’m sure this post wouldn’t have survived at r/showerthoughts and I would have missed out on it.

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• LadyButterfly@lazysoci.al ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  I had a horrible childhood and I’m not in touch with my parents, so I’m really glad you said this. I dread mother and fathers day each year. Have you found !dadforaminute@lemmy.world it’s great for people like us

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  • zipsglacier@lemmy.world ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    I didn’t know about that one; seems cool.

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    • LadyButterfly@lazysoci.al ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      It’s a good group hope it helps

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• Agrivar@lemmy.world ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Is this really a showerthought?

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  • surewhynotlem@lemmy.world ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    If you cry in the shower it saves on water and tissues.

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  • trungulox@lemm.ee ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    I always think of shower lights as things like: “I wonder what an animal that evolved wheels would look like”

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  • ivanafterall@lemmy.world ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Seems like a really difficult, odd thing to gatekeep. It’s defined as “thoughts that pop into your head while you’re doing everyday things like taking a shower, driving, or just daydreaming.” It’s literally almost meaningless.

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• pezhore@infosec.pub ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  They’re also no picnic for people who want kids but can’t have them despite years of trying.

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  • LadyButterfly@lazysoci.al ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Yep or have lost a child

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• DarkMetatron@feddit.org ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Problem with anxiety is that literally anything can be a trigger, that makes it so complicated (even impossible) to create a world without them.

  I don’t want to belittle the point that you are raising, I for myself have more then enough other anxieties to know better then that, and you have my fullest sympathies.

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  • beirdobaggins@lemmy.world ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    yep bullshit holidays.

    I’m a dad and I love spending time with my kids. I absolutely don’t want them to ever feel obligated to hang out with me or buy me a card or present or anything because of some bullshit holiday.

    My wife is on all the normal social media, insta, Facebook and such, and has such high expectations for mothers day because it seems to have become some sort of requirement to make a post bragging about what your family did for you on mother’s day.

    I hate it all so much.

    I spend time with the people I love and I frequently tell them how much I love them and do things to demonstrate it too.

    mother’s day, father’s day, valentine’s day and Christmas gift giving expectations can all go fuck right off.

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    • Madzielle@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      As a mother I don’t really care for mothers day either. Nor to I care for Valentine’s day.

      I am a mother everyday, and I love my husband everyday, I don’t need a capitalistic holiday that requires spending money to celebrate this.

      I’ll take the cake on mother’s day, but mostly it’s for my kid and husband feel good for doing something, not because I expect it. Corpo holidays can fuck off wirh their expectations, yes

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• psx_crab@lemmy.zip ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  My sympathy for the chinese with abusive and unsupportive parents growing up and then being shoved in their face by multimillion companies guilt-tripping ads telling them to go home and visit their parents and cherish them on every lunar new year.

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  • throwawayacc0430@sh.itjust.works ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

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    • yetAnotherUser@discuss.tchncs.de ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Keep in mind in Germany this only applies to children making 100,000€ per year or more with impoverished parents provided the parents did not abuse the children. If you can prove you were abused and it would be an undue hardship to provide support then you can be exempted.

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    • Jax@sh.itjust.works ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Is this not just slavery?

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    • kautau@lemmy.world ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Which just keeps the cycle of “My retirement plan is having kids,” which generally leads to people not having kids to enrich new human lives and make new beings that learn and improve from their parents, but rather to systemically guide new humans through enforced potential financial success in the self-interest of a high return when retirement comes.

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• then_three_more@lemmy.world ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Also for people who’ve lost one or both.

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• toy_boat_toy_boat@lemmy.world ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  they’re hallmark holidays. it’s all marketing. santa was co-opted by coca-cola. easter was co-opted by nestle. most of the others (mothers day, fathers day, valentine’s day) are all just manufactured occasions created specifically to sell stuff.

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  • irmoz@lemmy.world ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    What exactly are you trying to do with this comment?

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    • squaresinger@lemmy.world ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      It does explain why Amazon (and every other company and by extension large parts of society) entirely focusses on “buy X for your mother/father right now” instead of even acknowledging hardships and difficult situations (abusive parents, dead parents, parents with dead children/miscarriages, people who want to have children but can’t, parents with difficult relationships with their children, …).

      There’s no room for subtlety and compassion when money can be made.

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  • Mothra@mander.xyz ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    That’s true but OP is making a point that people who were abused by their parents are a relatively common minority, as opposed to people abused by Santa Claus or the Easter Bunny which, for sure, there may be some out there but probably not that many.

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    • irmoz@lemmy.world ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Don’t bother, seems people just aren’t ready to be told they’re being insensitive

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• CaptDust@sh.itjust.works ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  I’ve had some sites offer an opt out of marketing for these days. That was a nice surprise.

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• j4k3@lemmy.world ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Trauma is a tough thing to deal with. I hope you find peace and happier times. I have to throw myself into projects and do my best to block out the thoughts. The anniversary of the crash that disabled me has been hard for the last few years. The 10 year, was the worst though. I hope your life is less impacted than being forced to lay in bed most of your days.

  Other people’s problems certainly do not make your own any better, but it can add perspective, like if they can do x, y, or z, than I might be able to do this other thing.

  Anyways, condolences on your interpersonal loss and feelings of difficulty - from a random digital neighbor that cares to share a few words. Exercise is the easiest form of accessible endorphins and a path out of depression.

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