Madzielle
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- Comment on Why is the manosphere on the rise? UN Women sounds the alarm over online misogyny 2 days ago:
Bruh 🤢
- Comment on Why is the manosphere on the rise? UN Women sounds the alarm over online misogyny 2 days ago:
But as you describe, is that every man?
Certainly not.
I’m mom and I’m the rollercoaster, the house repair gal, and I have a higher drive than my husband, though I would never describe our booty time as, “getting my balls emptied” or some female equivalent. It’s more like, activity time with my best friend, alas,
You just sterotyped an entire cohort of people in your description, I hope you understand that.
I refuse to sterotype my fellow women. I know women, we are all different, and I myself, don’t hit many of the sterotypical markers.
You describe your version of the every man’s day, here and then say anyone who lives differently has issues, if that isn’t satisfying to them. Is that kind towards your fellow men you think?
- Comment on I'm not okay. 2 days ago:
I have participated in No Mow May for three years now. I also have a spot in the yard I let be free (weeded it for invasives) for the same amount of time.
This summer, for the first time since I have lived here, exsists an abundance of fireflys in my yard. They are everywhere, in a way I’ve never seen since I was a child.
No Mow May, (even if just a part of your yard) gives insects a place. Bugs live in the leaves and natural debris, by keeping it undisturbed, from fall to winter is important for many bugs’ survival.
If you like bugs, consider dedicating space in your yard for them to live. Don’t keep grass in the typical american perfect lawn way. I suggest not to spray, and look at native grasses and plants first when seeking your landscaping needs.
I’ve noticed a real difference this year in my yard. Maybe its some coincidence, I don’t know. Either way I’m happy to see lightning bugs again
- Comment on Why is the manosphere on the rise? UN Women sounds the alarm over online misogyny 2 days ago:
I would agree here. Shelters are hell for both genders.
I was homeless with a three months old. Without a kid, I would have done as I always did and couch hopped or slept on benches til I got back on my feet, but I had a baby and wanted to get stable fresh out of a DV situation.
The shelter I stayed at had a “single” floor with both men and womed (divided by rooms) and the top floor was families.
Everyone likes helping a single moms out. And I made it out, got stable and its been 12 years without homelessness. It was because of those programs.
I know a lot of men slip through the cracks. I have met a handful who chose homelessness because thats where they find thier community. I get that, the most community I ever felt was in low places surrounded by others also in low places.
I’ve also met men like my bio father, who after years of addiction, homelessness, violence and prison time, was able to reach resources and get housed and remains comfortable.
These resources, especially now, are being cut. It’s definitely scary. I do think there are a lot of well, Walter Whites of the world, where rather than take help and admit vulnerability, they do it their own way, on thier own terms, fuck the consequences. All because being vulnerable and admitting you need help are like, anti-masculine traits in our current culture.
I think there are a lot of things that lead to men being homeless. There are programs, but usually worh strict requirements and some people, you just cant box them.
I will say for people with children, there are many more programs available.
To note, you don’t see many homeless women, and there is reason you don’t see them. When my mother was homeless she lived deep in the woods and moved around constantly as to avoid being detected. You wouldn’t have known she was homeless, if only because she had a car, but still.
- Comment on Why is the manosphere on the rise? UN Women sounds the alarm over online misogyny 2 days ago:
I read the first paragraph, and as a woman, I feel the same! Solidarity!
Poverty isn’t just for men
- Comment on Why is the manosphere on the rise? UN Women sounds the alarm over online misogyny 2 days ago:
If you’re hearing men are evil, you may be spending too much time online, or in the wrong places.
You and your ex are not the whole of society. I’ve dated shit bags too, I’ve seen both women and men be shit bags. This is what needs to be avoided, you cant generalize the entire female population because you and your ex wife had a shit fallout. Women shouldn’t generalize men in the same way either. I’ve seen it on the womens side, I call it out or leave the space.
Sometimes people just arnt meant for eachother. Keep hope and find new love.
It’s good practice to try and not judge new people in your life, based on how an old one treated you. Learn red flags sure, learn your own boundaries, learn what things in life you value, but the whole population is not you, nor your ex.
I completely agree if you call someone a bitch/dog/liar/asshole/whatever long enough, some people will respond by giving em what they ask. It’s tough. I hope youve found healing post divorce and feel happier today
- Comment on Why is the manosphere on the rise? UN Women sounds the alarm over online misogyny 2 days ago:
I just want to point out, men are not by default worth less.
- Comment on Why is the manosphere on the rise? UN Women sounds the alarm over online misogyny 2 days ago:
Well said, I will note Women have been the target of beauty ads for over 100 years already. Media will make us feel ugly so we buy thier products. They feed on our insecurities for profit, and it’s been this way for generations of women.
In the last 10-20 years, I have definitely noticed an uptick with capitalization on men’s insecurities. The whole manosphere schtick is about just that, exploiting insecurity.
I can’t reject the idea that with the current P2025 goals, and the billionaires pushing for their techno fudalism, that these things are related in some way.
- Comment on Why is the manosphere on the rise? UN Women sounds the alarm over online misogyny 2 days ago:
Honestly, as a women, so it’s not my opinion that matters, but even that meme/joke/trend that “men are simple creatures”, “keep your belly fully and balls empty and we’re happy” ect, like, is that not demeaning to men?
The men in my life are just as complicated and multifaceted as anyone else. These kinds of jokes, or online rhetoric, to me, feel like y’all are calling men simple and dumb.
The men in my life are not simple and dumb.
- Comment on Why is the manosphere on the rise? UN Women sounds the alarm over online misogyny 2 days ago:
Not all women are becons of morality.
While statistically women are more likely to have empathy and emotional understanding and more communication thus, we are not perfect by any sense.
Your underlying rhetoric here is deeply divisive. I agree men are more prone to violent action, whether in a leadership role or just as a person. It’s why more women attempt suicide but more men are successful.
We cant just throw men away. We start with the culture, we start with teaching boys emotional intelligence, language, and how to reach for support. Then, we don’t reject them for reaching for such support.
It should be considered masculine to show vulnerability, it is one of the hardest things to get used to, if you’ve not been allowed/able to for so long. However, vulnerability leads to personal growth. Real vulnerability, followed by acceptance from peers, will give personal growth, understanding, and acceptance.
Fathers, hug your sons and tell them you love them. Teach our sons better. Cultural change is slow, you jumping on to say it’s always mens fault is a shallow and lazy thought. You’ve put so little thought into the “whys”.
- Comment on Why is the manosphere on the rise? UN Women sounds the alarm over online misogyny 3 days ago:
- Comment on What do you think the solution to selling progressive politics to young men is ? 4 days ago:
I’m so sorry, genuinely, what? Could you further explain what you mean?
- Comment on What do you think the solution to selling progressive politics to young men is ? 4 days ago:
Where did it call them “the enemy”?
It didn’t, it’s asking how we can reach them and help support them, no?
- Comment on What do you think the solution to selling progressive politics to young men is ? 4 days ago:
This is a better expression of what has happened/is happening than “they have no role models”.
The world has been changing faster and faster since the industrial revolution. Our culture seems to be experiencing growing pains from such rapid growth. There is less hope than ever,
“The comforting lie that gets you through to tomorrow” Absolutely, the propaganda has been layed on these men thick.
- Comment on What do you think the solution to selling progressive politics to young men is ? 4 days ago:
I cant see why you called yourself lazy
- Comment on What do you think the solution to selling progressive politics to young men is ? 4 days ago:
As a white lady I don’t know who the fuck my role model is either
Role models are absolutely important, but it’s more than what the op comment is saying.
- Comment on Meta rolled back protections. Now hate is surging. 1 week ago:
I think most of us, here, have. It really is mostly old folks and idiots left now.
Someone mentioned here, their hoa uses fb as their digital square, and my park union does too. I just don’t get to get involved with the park union, Facebook unfortunately, has become ingrained in many community oriented organizations. I hate it. I refuse to go back there.
I don’t understand why people are ao eager to give their money and privacy to billionaires.
- Comment on A game you "didn't know it was bad 'til people told you so"? 1 week ago:
Yeah I think you’re right with it being good in a vacuum. That makes complete sense because it was different than the other games.
I have panic disorder, so most games with combat overwhelm me as I’m just constantly afraid. I never got that with this game. Just give me a bow so i can stand hella far away and clear the area before entering it. Plus, it was really beautiful and emersive. Exploring the map was super fun.
- Comment on Study: Remote working benefits fathers while childless men miss sense of community 1 week ago:
Maybe they used the wrong language. You roll your eyes, so you don’t hate life, heard.
So then why, genuinely, do you reject the idea of community with such conviction?
- Comment on Study: Remote working benefits fathers while childless men miss sense of community 1 week ago:
Eh, I became a stay at home mom over the pandemic, and while I’ve never worked in an office, but on the shop floor, I do miss the shenanigans. But its almost like a trauma bond, where its like, hey, we’re all stuck here, best make the nest of it and try snd have fun while we are here.
I’m fully isolated now, and at this point terrified of crowds, when i never was before.
Not arguing at all people who can work remotely shouldn’t, they should, for a litter or reasons. But I do miss my coworkers from my employee owned factory where culture was held in high standard. Im also not arguing this should be the only place one finds community, I’m only saying, for a person like me, it helped sometimes to joke around on the new guy or collectively bitch about issues at work or hear other folks problems and offer advice or help when I could.
We socialized outside of work too. I can’t get invited to a party, or a wedding, or anything if I literally don’t know anyone. I’ve only ever known how to make friends in structured environments. But that’s wierdo me.
- Comment on Study: Remote working benefits fathers while childless men miss sense of community 1 week ago:
I’m sorry to hear this. What makes you say this?
- Comment on A game you "didn't know it was bad 'til people told you so"? 1 week ago:
Assassin’s Creed Odyssey apparently, according to reddit a few years ago, was looked at as being shitty I guess? Not the best one?
It’s the only one I played, and I played it 3 times with ~240 hours. Kassandra is my favorite character ever, in any video game. I loved the world, its beauty, the ships and sea, and shooting arrows through rocks as a demo god.
I’ve still not touched any other assassins game.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 weeks ago:
I wouldn’t be shocked your mother is processing shame/guilt in this comment she made.
I’ve always tried to remain curious and open minded in my life. Do you know what I didn’t expect coming into motherhood? Needing to learn how to segregate my sense of self from my kid’s.
It was instinctual to feel my child’s embarrassment/guilt/pain as my own, or as a reflection apon me. While some actions kids make are a reflection of parenting, some are not. It’s hard to distinguish in the early years, I imagine it carried through the life stages if not adressed. Basically it’s learning to see a literal dna extension of yourself as their own being. Your mom caught some adrenaline from hearing you’re feeling depressed or she wouldn’t have said something so emotional and targeted.
I bet she’s overwhelmed and clearly doesn’t have the coping. Don’t take it personally, like, don’t internalize that shit. She too, her own person, and you didn’t ask for this. Feel free to keep your distance from her for a time. If you feel comfortable when you’re both in better headspace, tell her what she said hurt your feelings.
If she responds poorly, well mom’s a shit head and now you know it. If she responds kindly and apologizes, you’ve ground to work with.
I haven’t talked to my mom in 15 years, she responded poorly.
- Comment on I can't believe it's necessary to ask the question... 2 weeks ago:
Pot roast? Cook pot roast? No, beef is too expensive, I just cook the pot.
- Comment on [deleted] 3 weeks ago:
As a mother I don’t really care for mothers day either. Nor to I care for Valentine’s day.
I am a mother everyday, and I love my husband everyday, I don’t need a capitalistic holiday that requires spending money to celebrate this.
I’ll take the cake on mother’s day, but mostly it’s for my kid and husband feel good for doing something, not because I expect it. Corpo holidays can fuck off wirh their expectations, yes
- Comment on I'm so tired. 4 weeks ago:
I too habe my best existential crisis while in the showe
- Comment on I'm so tired. 4 weeks ago:
I like my junk pile of analog human experience
- Comment on I'm so tired. 4 weeks ago:
I slept nearly 12 hours last night, woke up, had a panic attack, then took a nap for four hours.
Woke up, put on The Elephant Graveyard Radio Hour, danced and cleaned my house happy.
It’s also been a long time since a nap like that worked so well. Sometimes ya just need to sleep.
- Comment on [deleted] 4 weeks ago:
I laughed too, until I raised a toddler with ADHD. He wasn’t diagnosed yet, but lord was it obvious he had the markers. Never leashed him, but definitely ran after him a lot, and had to keep a hyperfocused eye on him at all times.
I don’t laugh as hard now, I still giggle, but just not as hard
- Comment on Spotify caught hosting hundreds of fake podcasts that advertise selling drugs 5 weeks ago:
Fine, yes. I was just throwing an idea out there. I don’t know how to pirate shit anymore, and am to an age where I can afford to support artists directly, so if one can, one should.
Where did the music to pirate come from back in the day? Was it not uploaded from a CD and then file shared?
I did learn in this thread there are numerous other streaming services I was completely unaware of, so thats cool