Madzielle
@Madzielle@lemmy.dbzer0.com
- Comment on YSK about 15 bean soup. 13 hours ago:
I watched cow chase a grown man up a tree when I was a young teen. Near died laughing at him
- Comment on YSK about 15 bean soup. 13 hours ago:
I can’t ever get over imitation vanilla comes from beaver ass holes.
- Comment on YSK about 15 bean soup. 19 hours ago:
The Walmart ones were just plain beans
- Comment on YSK about 15 bean soup. 19 hours ago:
Just use real ham
- Comment on YSK about 15 bean soup. 20 hours ago:
Right and this is fine. But adding “ham flavorings” to a bag of dried beans weirded me out.
- Comment on YSK about 15 bean soup. 20 hours ago:
I watched Earthlings while I was nursing my newborn. Thats all it took.
Regular milk was easy to give up, I like coconut milk better anyway, cheese was much harder to be honest. Still milk, but cheese was rough. Hummus was the only thing that could satiate the creving.
I’m pretty certain soy won’t give you “big boobs” unless you had a quantum fuckton of it, so much so, it’s impossible for a human to consume naturally.
- Comment on YSK about 15 bean soup. 20 hours ago:
I really didn’t mean to compare it to religion lol
- Comment on YSK about 15 bean soup. 1 day ago:
I had to buy beans at Walmart the other day… I don’t normally get them there. I was looking for white beans. They had this brand in both fhe 15soup pack, and they also had a white bean pack. I saw in the white bean pack, they add “ham flavoring”. I was so grossed out, what is ham flavoring in dried beans? I had to buy the great calue brand. No ham flavoring added.
- Comment on YSK about 15 bean soup. 1 day ago:
Asking the real questions
- Comment on YSK about 15 bean soup. 1 day ago:
Even when I’m not a practicing vegan, I dislike cream cheese and sour cream. I cant order many things just because if you ask them to leave it off, you might not only get a look for it, but they may just put it on there anyway.
I threw a crunch wrap out the window about ten years ago. Not my finest moment, but fuck sour cream, I was starving and it just ruined everything. Aye.
- Comment on YSK about 15 bean soup. 1 day ago:
any of the white beans have been my jam lately, but ive also had a spot for fava beans, and of course, my spicy beans wouldn’t be the same with out the pinto
- Comment on YSK about 15 bean soup. 1 day ago:
When I boil my beans, I add bay leaf to the water. I think it helps.
But I made a white bean, cabbage, bacon, chop tomato soup for dinner last night, no gas. My husband didn’t have gas…
I didn’t do the bay leaf thing this time, so idk. I think beans just have hella fiber, and idk if your from the US or not, but I’ve read a few times over the years, many people here don’t get enough fiber day to day in the states.
I think the gas has more to do with folks who don’t often eat high fiber foods. When you then, do, it gives you issues.
You’re probably at least somewhat right, if you have beans often, they digest more easily. I had guessed it was because they have high fiber though. It also could have to do with eating under cooked beans, which is never a good idea.
- Comment on YSK about 15 bean soup. 1 day ago:
I was on a work crew once when I was vegan. We cut trees and all rode to the locations in the same work van. One day we stopped for Ice Cream at a really popular place before calling it the day. Yay on the clock shenanigans, boo, it’s ice cream. They asked if I was cool with it, and of course I said I didnt mind, and just waited in the van.
I almost cried when my supervisor brought me out a slushy. I didn’t know they had them. It was very kind of my supervisor. No one ever made fun of me, but it was definitely obvious to everyone in day to day talk/life I had the dietary restriction.
- Comment on YSK about 15 bean soup. 1 day ago:
Odd numbers are better than even numbers.
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 2 weeks ago:
Lol yeah, she recently got divorced and her husband was accusing her of cheating/sleeping with every man in the group, my husband included. I laughed when she told me, he’s the one who got a girlfriend within two weeks of the separation, she’s still single and focused on her children/work, even a year later.
It is rare, but I could tell she was just a friend. She’s just the only one who survived the friend group 20 years. It did cause a riff once in the beginning, I pretty rudely asked him why he didn’t have male friends in a fight. He was upset, and just shouted how everyone he was friends with back then went down shitty roads: drugs, suicide, prison, or women beaters, the few ladies he still knew from the group were the only ones who didnt fall into chaos. He really painted the picture for me so I could understand his pov. I’ve never worried since, and I’m better friends with them now anyway, he really has reclused himself, but he keeps in touch with his family and has their support.
He is happy as he could be given you know, life’s continued beatings. The only reason he didn’t fall to chaos himself, which he nearly did, he says, is because he’s always had his father’s support. He says I gave him reason to get sober, but his father absolutely saved his life multiple times over the years by being there for him.
I dated someone who was friends with thier now married ex. I tolerated it, and I trusted her, but I didnt trust him. I wanted to leave him, but he wouldn’t let me, and none of my efforts worked. Finally, after some time I managed to find support so I could leave him. He broke down, it was a whole thing, but he said to me one fight, I can’t love you because I’m still in love with her. Then.why.wouldnt.he.let.me.leave. ugh. I used to get lectures from him on love and loyalty, and he dropped that bit, I laughed in his face when he said it.
I will say its much easier to become an introvert when you are living with someone you trust and love. Outside validation becomes moot. Finding someone like that, is a very lucky thing, And often a treacherous road, for everyone, sex/gender non comforming alike, there isn’t discrimination in the pains of finding a person right for oneself.
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 2 weeks ago:
My husband is similar to this. We only hang out with our family these days.
I was unsure when we first started dating, and he seemed to only have a couple female friends. But he introduced me, and they were lovely. He never sexualized women, never pressured me for sex, and feeling unsure soon wore off realizing he was extremely loyal after not long.
He’s withdrawn quite a bit since getting sober and older. I hung out at a small party one of his friends was having. He didn’t want to/couldn’t go, so I went.
Everyone was kind of dumb, they only talked about other people they knew, and told drunken stories about being drunk before- it was boring. I’m understanding why he withdrew from the crowd.
One guy showed me a tiktok of some Ai looking lady who recovered from drug addiction, praising her, this person he never met, telling me how good she looked now, clearly super excited about it (drunk af), all while his girlfriend sat right there. We’re all mid to lat 30’s. He acted like he was 15. I couldn’t handle it lol. The only friend I liked was his old BF, a girl who is like a sister to him. She doesn’t drink. This girl said she was drinking white wine, before I left the wine I brought for her in the fridge, I saw her bottle not even cracked open and laughed. Anyway.
You only need a few people to feel whole I find. My husband and his parents are great. That party felt like torture to me. But the tiktok guy and his gf were telling me about thier pool club. The play pool in the community a lot, and its definitely their third space. I may have found him dumb, but they had a whole crew of folks in their built community. I did compliment that. You gotta build the life you want.
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 2 weeks ago:
Human nature is evolutionary.
Never say never.
- Comment on If your happiness is derived from your enjoyment of a false (i.e. fictional) stories, is that truely happiness, or is that technically a delusion? 4 weeks ago:
Reading a story that brings happiness is real happiness.
Most often, when I finish a good book, usually one that has altered my world view, or changed some aspect of thinking, is profound, absolutely can even bring joy. The sustained feelings from the thoughts that came from the media are real. If they are happy and joyful thoughts they are real, if they are negative, the emotion is real.
To be delusional in this aspect, you’d have to see the peice of fiction as real life, as in, you may meet the fictional character one day so you are happy at that chance to meet them.
- Comment on GrapheneOS Under Threat: EU Age Verification And Google Changes Endanger Privacy-Focused Android 4 weeks ago:
It will be inconvenient, but I’m right there with you.
- Comment on what's the best material for wiping out a cast iron skillet? 4 weeks ago:
I’ve gone paper towel free in my house. Every need for a paper towel has been replaced in my home care, except for this one purpose.
I use a coffee filter.
- Comment on ‘Why didn’t you tell me?’: the Australian push to have all adopted people told their full history and identity 5 weeks ago:
Idk, I’ve 3 siblings not raised by this man, and we all would rather know, than not. Honestly, I feel, is important.
I’d be interested to hear from someone who wishes they didnt ever find out they were adopted. Im sure people like that exist.
Should the government get involved? I personally don’t think they should, but, an interesting social concept to discuss.
- Comment on ‘Why didn’t you tell me?’: the Australian push to have all adopted people told their full history and identity 1 month ago:
My half sister didnt know her step father wasnt her real father. She found out when she was 19 because another half sister of ours (my father got around) found her on Facebook.
It shattered her.
I was told when I was 5 years old by my mom I was adopted by my step father. She did it in a shitty way, (during their messy kids in the middle divorce) but at least she was honest.
Definitely prefer the way I found out, to the way my sister did. Finding out young, I think it was easier for me to adapt, and have support. My sister still doesn’t have a great relationship with her mom and step father, and it’s been some years.
Kids don’t like it when their parents lie to them, who knew.
- Comment on We all sleep alone soundly; Maybe the key to a happy marriage is separate beds 1 month ago:
My husband used to have night terrors before he got sober. That shit was scary! He would sleep talk, and not sound human. I’ll never forget I woke up early one day while he stayed asleep and I heard him yelling “help” over and over. I was so scared, I ran to him, and woke him.
Thank goodness it stopped when he got sober. I feel for anyone who gets night terrors, it’s no fun
- Comment on We all sleep alone soundly; Maybe the key to a happy marriage is separate beds 1 month ago:
I struggle to sleep without my husband. I need my feet to touch his, at least. We share a queen bed, even use the same blanket (it is a King blanket though). Im really surprised so many folks don’t sleep in the same bed at their partner here. Nothing wrong with it, I’m just surprised.
Maybe things will change when we are older, but I couldn’t imagine.
- Comment on [Horses] Phones Ruined Everything 1 month ago:
I found this really interesting and thought provoking. I loved the line how ultimate optimism is not always misplaced.
- Comment on How do you all keep the area around the toilet paper dust-free? 2 months ago:
Couldn’t you just buy other toilet paper and leave his dusty roll for his use only?
- Comment on How do you all keep the area around the toilet paper dust-free? 2 months ago:
Yeah, that dust is getting on your vulva, I have a bidet too. I prefer papers that are similar to scotts, where there is no dust. That extra soft stuff is aweful.
I’d buy what I wanted and just use it myself if my husband cared.
- Comment on Having the ability to lie and manipulate with no remorse will get you much further in this world than having morals and being correct 2 months ago:
“control what you can” is my largest crutch.
- Comment on Having the ability to lie and manipulate with no remorse will get you much further in this world than having morals and being correct 2 months ago:
I just had a talk with my son, 12, this morning about the bad feelings we get when we lie, trick, or cheat and are caught. For me, I explained, it can even physically hurt because my chest tightens. Sometime around when I was my son’s age, I decided I wanted to avoid that feeling at all costs, and just stopped trying to lie, or trick, or get away with something wrong, because the risk was never worth it.
I may not be rich, or powerful, or hell even interesting, but I do sleep well at night and nearing middle age, I’ve more love in my life than I’ve ever had before. I hope to pass that to my son. Honest man’s living is superior.
My neighbor will tell me all about her grown son (who I know as a racist shit bag, and his son bullys mine) is so successful financially, yet in the same breath tells me she doesn’t bother wasting money on her garden because she can get free tomatoes from the food bank.
Money doesn’t mean one is successful in my opinion. Are they happy? Do they love themselves? Do they treat others kindly? Do the add to their community in positive ways? Do they never take more than they need so that others can have too? That’s success.
I prefer to have my conscience clean, and be the brokest person out there, than to lie, sceme, cheat to gain some arbitrary “success”.
- Comment on Young men are 'playing videogames all day' instead of getting jobs because they can mooch off of free healthcare, claims congressman 2 months ago:
What free healthcare?
Young men have to jump through the most hoops to get state level health insurance.