online my honesty makes people think i'm trolling, baiting, etc.😒

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• sundray@lemmus.org ⁨16⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  “People who are brutally honest get more satisfaction out of the brutality than out of the honesty.” – Richard J. Needham

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  • StrongHorseWeakNeigh@piefed.social ⁨16⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    As a teenager of about 15 or 16, I identified myself as brutally honest but I quickly got over that phase and realized that sometimes people want lies. Still, if somebody asks my opinion on something, then I will give it. I try to be tactful about it if it’s negative though.

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    • sundray@lemmus.org ⁨16⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Good old fashion vanilla honesty is a good start!

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    • Janx@piefed.social ⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      It doesn’t even have to be lies! I think the key word you said is “tact”. We are adults, not toddlers. Most people actually empathize with the person they are talking to, not just blurt out whatever comes to mind…

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    • Tyrq@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨13⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      I think it’s interesting where our minds go, mine went to being brutally honest about myself to other people, so it goes into tmi sometimes, and sometimes I do it to watch them squirm about something they asked

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• sin_free_for_00_days@sopuli.xyz ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  You’re not wrong, you’re just an asshole

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• Janx@piefed.social ⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Change my mind: people who “tell it like it is” are just assholes who don’t want to improve themselves. Like, I’m bad at social situations as well, but I’ve actually spent the time improving and I don’t say everything that comes to mind. Considering the other person goes a long way…

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  • EmpathicVagrant@lemmy.world ⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    That phrase is largely used by assholes trying to make their rude commentary come off as honesty. I haven’t ever heard someone say that in good faith instead of trying to avoid angry backlash for something said.

    Telling the truth, while sometimes harsh, is vital in a good communicative friendship where challenging our peers helps them to grow and leads to closer connections in the long term.

    Considering the other person goes deeper than ‘does the truth hurt their feefees and should I lie about it’ but yes, there’s often a kind and unkind way to share hard information with someone.

    TL;DR Context is huge for when to apply it, though largely honesty is the way to go and someone claiming they’re ‘telling it like it is’ is just a way to twist out of responsibility for their lack of tact or empathy

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    • ulterno@programming.dev ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      If you need to lie about it, perhaps consider if you really need to speak about it.

      There is a difference between considering someone’s feelings and assuming someone’s feelings. And I have experienced the difference enough times when I just need information and all I get is misplaced consolation.

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• Rampsquatch@sh.itjust.works ⁨17⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  “You Really Think Someone Would Do That? Just Go On the Internet and Tell Truths?”

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• Kolanaki@pawb.social ⁨12⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  I was accused of trolling not more than an hour or so ago because I said I never liked Sonic the Hegehog on Sega Genesis.

  I didn’t say it sucked or was a shitty game; I just said I never got into it and why. 😮‍💨

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  • bestagon@lemmy.world ⁨11⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Wtf? sonic probably hasn’t been good in my entire lifetime

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  • thatradomguy@lemmy.world ⁨11⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    I just don’t like Sonic. 🤷‍♂️

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• Electricd@lemmybefree.net ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Yea I have kids in my basement now what

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• yermaw@sh.itjust.works ⁨16⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  I tell the truth in all but the most necessary psychological self-defence because I’m having difficulty remembering that I need to get stuff for dinner tonight, I dont need to keep track of an intricate web of lies on top of that.

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• finallymadeanaccount@lemmy.world ⁨10⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  If sitcoms taught me anything early on in life, it’s that lies are just too much trouble to keep track of.

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• UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world ⁨16⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Actually, that’s not the truth. That’s propaganda from <insert person or group I don’t like>.

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  • blarghly@lemmy.world ⁨9⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    schill

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  • bizarroland@lemmy.world ⁨15⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    You would say something like that, wouldn’t you?

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