Humans BY DEFAULT do not want to commit violence towards other humans, otherwise things like Killer's Remorse and PTSD would not exist.

Submitted ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩ by ⁨SalamenceFury@lemmy.world⁩ to ⁨showerthoughts@lemmy.world⁩

People constantly say that humans are terrible by default, selfish, and violent, but BY DEFAULT, if you ARE a well adjusted human being with empathy, you will ALWAYS feel conflicted about committing violence towards another human, even if they 100% deserve it. In fact, if you kill or severely maim someone, you’ll always feel conflicted about it if you are a good human, and doing it several times (or hell, even ONCE if it’s traumatizing enough) will give you severe PTSD. The problem of humans being terrible to each other is always created by indocrination, propaganda, and the fact that being a selfish idiot is rewarded in capitalist society. This is one of the reasons why I think humanity is inherently good, and that evil people are the ACTUAL deviants, who just happen to be rewarded by the way capitalist society is structured.

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TheLeadenSea@sh.itjust.works ⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
People (that aren’t psychopaths or sociopaths) are very good at individually being empathetic to other members of their in group, that haven’t broken their ideological rules. However, even normal, empathetic people can shut off their empathy when people of a certain group belong to another out group, or are dehumanised (eg ‘well dark skinned people aren’t really human like light skinned people are, so it’s fine to enslave them’) or if they break your moral code (eg ‘well they’re gay, so it’s morally justifiable to kill them’)

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- SalamenceFury@lemmy.world ⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
  TBH I think this is more of a conditioning thing. Like, very young toddlers (up to like, 5-6 years old) literally cannot understand racism. This is actually lampshaded in Wolfenstein II, when BJ just talks to a black girl and tells her about all the shit his father says about her race but he straight up says he doesn’t understand his reasons at all.
  
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  - shalafi@lemmy.world ⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
    (I’m replying to you and the post you’re replying to, if that makes sense.)
    
    Racism is a single aspect of in and out groups. We didn’t evolve to work in groups of more than 150, maybe 200 individuals max. People of any skin tone can be in my Monkeysphere, but if they’re outside of it, they’re somewhat less than human, less real. No one is above this.
    
    I’m sure I’ll get comments from people who think they are above it. “Fuck you, you inhuman monster! I value ALL human life equally!” Nah, no one does.
    
    It’s like this: which would upset you more, your best friend dying, or a dozen kids across town getting killed because their bus collided with a truck hauling killer bees? Which would hit you harder, your Mom dying, or seeing on the news that 15,000 people died in an earthquake in Iran?
    
    cracked.com/article_14990_what-monkeysphere.html
    
    Plenty of research out there, aside from what’s included in the article. The author is mostly explaining Dunbar’s Number.
    
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  - masterspace@lemmy.ca ⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
    Some hate, at least reactionary hate to circumstances, is inherent in humans, otherwise it wouldn’t be here.
    
    Who taught us hate if not us?
    
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- MyDogLovesMe@lemmy.world ⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
  Yup. Prison experiment that went awry.
  
  I forget the name. Basic textbook shit.
  
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  - hypna@lemmy.world ⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
    That experiment has been pretty thoroughly discredited.
    
    en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stanford_prison_experiment
    
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  - NessaSola@eviltoast.org ⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
    Stanford
    
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  - db2@lemmy.world ⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
    I think the name is America. We became the dumping ground when Australia told England to get fucked.
    
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AnarchoEngineer@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
The claim that humans are always terrible by default is false, but claiming the polar opposite is also false.

Many people have empathy, but not all, and it varies in strength/quality from one person to another.

Many well adjusted people do not feel empathy. Many people are depresssed/over-stressed and not well adjusted because they have empathy.

As for PTSD, the ability (or inability) to adjust to or move on from traumatic experiences is not directly correlated to empathy.

Furthermore the ability to kill those who wish you (or those you care about) harm is evolutionarily advantageous. Anger and violence in response to stress and pain allows you to fight off predators/enemies/sources-of-pain. The majority of humanity feels these emotions.

When in a state of anger and pain it is harder for us to think about our actions. Your claim that someone with empathy will always feel conflicted about hurting others is therefore false.

Now most people with empathy might feel remorse but if their mind doesn’t put enough weight on that moment to remember it, there’s nothing for them to feel sorry for later. Does that mean they don’t feel empathy? Nope, they can still empathize with friends and family and characters on TV shows, they just don’t have a mind that catalogues their guilt. (There are unfortunately many people like this)

I do think many people cause significant pain to others. But out of ignorance not malice. And there in lies a major problem with empathy. If you don’t think someone is actually hurting you won’t feel empathy for them even if you feel empathy for others. So if you aren’t aware of the pain others might feel around you, you won’t experience empathic responses even if you might for other kinds of pain.

People might not be generally good or generally bad but we are typically stupid.

If you can convince someone that some person is “just faking it for attention” they won’t feel empathy. Now the reverse is also typically true: if you can convince a person with empathy that that someone else’s pain is real they’ll feel empathy. Unfortunately people don’t like being told they’re wrong or having to change viewpoint or listen to evidence rationally so there are many people you cannot convince to feel bad for certain other people.

Another thing to note is that many of the terms you’ve used are indefinite. What does well-adjusted mean? Psychopathy is prevalent in many fields and psychopaths can live healthy/stable lives. (Sadism and psychopathy are different btw) Are they well adjusted?

What does good mean? The greater good or empathy? Because those two do not agree on everything. How far does empathy need to go for someone to be good in your opinion? Are people who eat meat evil because they lack empathy for animals?

If there was a trolley problem-esque situation where you could save five lives but only if you killed a child with your bare hands, would your idea of a good person commit murder or let five people die because they couldn’t overcome their empathy?

Lastly—and slightly unrelated—I’d like to note that I just had an odd thought: if you tried to logically dichotomize all actions into good or bad, you would need arithmetic to deal with the idea of a greater-good / utilitarianism. However by Gödel’s theorems, in any logical system in which arithmetic can be performed, there will be things that cannot be proven good or bad no matter how many axioms you add to the system. In other words it is actually by definition impossible to dichotomize actions into good or bad. Adding a third category won’t even fix it. Right? Any mathematician/logician/philosopher that can back me up or tell me I’m wrong?

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- Akasazh@feddit.nl ⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
  That’s one of the biggest flaws in utilitarianism, there isn’t really an objective measure of goodness, therefore aspiring to maximize goodness is always flawed.
  
  The alternative moral framework, the categorical imperative postulated by Kant is also flawed, as it’s presupposes a rational human, and most humans don’t act like rational beings.
  
  In the end people are all personally responsible for their actions, and no higher power is keeping score.
  
  If you want a good read on mortality and free will and how the dichotomy between right and wrong is flawed I would suggest this dialog by logician and philosopher Raymund Smullyan who brilliantly catches the flaws in the western boolean approach to mortality. It’s a long read, but quite worth it.
  
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cerebralhawks@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
People are conditioned that way by society, though.

More violent society conditions more violent individuals who just see it as the way things are.

Feral humans (e.g. feral children who grew up) are not peaceful.

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theneverfox@pawb.social ⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
Yeah, pretty much. Cooperation is our natural state, we act a lot like a eusocial hive species when you watch from a distance

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svcg@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

In fact, if you kill or severely maim someone, you’ll always feel conflicted about it if you are a good human

If someone you thought was a good person killed someone else - in self defence let’s say - and didn’t feel bad about it at all, would you then categorise that person as a bad person?

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- SalamenceFury@lemmy.world ⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
  Eh, depends if they take the fact they did that seriously or not.
  
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DarrinBrunner@lemmy.world ⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
In war, most soldiers don’t want to kill the enemy. And, many don’t, they won’t fire their weapon, they miss on purpose, etc.

…berkeley.edu/…/hope_on_the_battlefield

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Credibly_Human@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
Is this a shower thought or just a luke warm take

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QuantumTickle@lemmy.zip ⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
It’s a powerful urge to say “the instincts I feel are not only universally felt by other ‘good’ humans, but also an indicator for truth” like some other ape believing something else won’t make the same claim. It’s an appeal to nature but nature does not give a shit about us. Morally, ethically, our survival. Nature does not define us anymore.

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jerkface@lemmy.ca ⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
Bullshit. Fucking look around you. Get out of the shower and open your fucking eyes.

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- SalamenceFury@lemmy.world ⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
  Relevant username.
  
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Draces@lemmy.world ⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

PTSD would not exist

I don’t think you know what PTSD is then

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DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works ⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
Violence is natural.

Exhibit A: when my parents were busy, and we didn’t have school (like during breaks or between school years, for example), they would leave me at home with my older brother, he constantly wanna fight me. (I mean, to be very clear, we are both real biological children of our parents, so this is not even some weird “othering” by biological vs adopted) One time, he got so mad that he just used zip ties to tie me up, and I was basically restrained until my parents got home. Another time my brother chased me out of the apartment, I felt so scared, I basically just ran from home, because I was not old enough to make rational decisions so “home = danger” was all I could think of… That left me traumatized and I still think about it now.

HE NEVER APOLOGIZED. I confronted him years later and he still blamed me for it. I WAS NO OLDER THAN 7, he’s 5 years older than me. Even my mother would blame me for that incident.

And even after that, he still fights me every so often. Zero remorse.

I just cannot trust anyone after that incident. Blood relatives betraying me. Unthinkable.

Oh is it surprising why I have depression and have nightmares about that place, a literal ocean away and nearly 2 decades later, still traumatized, and the perpetrator probably doesn’t even remember what he did that day. Literally incapable of empathy.

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- SalamenceFury@lemmy.world ⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
  I’m sorry that happened. I’m inclined to disagree with that first phrase, tho. The fact he has no empathy makes him not normal, however.
  
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  - AnarchoEngineer@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
    If you define “not normal” as “not having empathy” then your argument is vacuously true. Like “I’m a good person because I say I am”
    
    If you define normal as the average of everyone then statistically you’re wrong about empathy. The Stanford Prison Experiment or basically any other social experiment that is now banned proves you wrong (hence they had to ban them because people do shitty things to each other just because).
    
    A good one (which was banned for causing stress to the participants via some amount of empathy) I could name would be the [Milgram Experiment](en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Milgram_experiment. Most people will question their actions if they can directly see they are harming a stranger… unfortunately most people will also apparently hurt others even while hearing the victim scream and beg them to stop just because an authority figure tells them to keep going and that it’s all part of the plan.
    
    I don’t think that people are sadistic or malicious by nature, but they sure as hell do not have strong empathy by default mate, and the prison experiment alone proves sadism is much more prevalent than you seem to think. As is the existence of the holocaust, the genocide in Gaza, all the other genocides, the existence of Guantanamo bay, the existence of capitalism in the first place, the need for a list of what is a war crime, war itself, etc.
    
    The reason any of these happen is because people care more about the status quo or themselves than certain other people. Soldiers kill soldiers because their desire to live and not be shamed as a defector outweighs any pain they’ll cause others. Ergo, there is seemingly an endless supply of people who will choose themselves/self-interest over others, in contrast to your hope that universal empathy is the default.
    
    You can feel bad for others and do shitty things just like you can be a psychopath and do kind things. Empathy doesn’t necessarily make someone good and the lack of it doesn’t make someone bad. Unless you define good and evil to mean that in which case there’s no shower thought just another definition of good and evil.
    
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count_dongulus@lemmy.world ⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
I disagree. Someone doesn’t return their shopping cart…? No remorse. No hesitation.

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jellyfishhunter@lemmy.world ⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
Apes together strong

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owsei@programming.dev ⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
I really recommend this documentary: The Act of Killing

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Hegar@fedia.io ⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
Empathy is a trait that almost all individuals of many mammal species possess. Lethal intra-species violence is also a behaviour observed in many (all, i'd guess) of those same species.

Individuals, their peers, their social networks, their identities, institutions and the specific situation all influence behaviour. When those line up one way, we do a murder. A different configuration and we do a cuddle.

It makes no sense to suggest that humans are either inherently good or bad - those are artificial concepts that don't even have a fixed meaning within a single human identity group. At the end of the day we're just organisms exhibit behaviours to meet needs.

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givesomefucks@lemmy.world ⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
Bullshit.

This is like thinking babies will instinctively grow up speaking their parents language…

And unfortunately we actually did experts, and no, babies can not spontaneously learn language.

Modern humans get fucked mentally from killing, because most modern humans never kill anything their whole lives, at least not intentionally.

Like, you’re literally as far off from the truth as possible…

The same logic that stripped public education down to STEM in resulted in a generation without empathy or critical thinking skills. That shit doesn’t just magically appear, it needs drilled into impressionable you g minds.

And I know this seems harsh, but this specific aspect of ignorance has fucked over a shit ton of people’s lives.

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- SalamenceFury@lemmy.world ⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
  I don’t get how babies not spontaneously learning language invalidates the fact that toddlers will instinctively walk up to other toddlers to play regardless of their race. And sure, you need to learn empathy, but that’s when the conditioning part comes in. Plenty of people become empathetic adults even if their parents are terrible people.
  
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  - givesomefucks@lemmy.world ⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
    
    invalidates the fact that toddlers will instinctively walk up to other toddlers to play regardless of their race.
    
    That happens because in-group selection is forming as toddlers…
    
    Like, this highlights my general point. You’re just making a bunch of assumptions based on feelings instead of spending five minutes looking into all the actual scientific research.
    
    The connection is that just like they need exposure to language, they need someone to socialize them and develop an aversion to violence. Done properly everytime a child uses violence they are told “no” and have some means of punishment. Which teaches them not to be violent.
    
    Without that, you get an adult who readily uses violence.
    
    You’re seeing the results of literal decades of socialization and ate deciding it’s not necessary because everyone’s socialized.
    
    So why not just stop socializing them?
    
    I hope that made sense, or at least someone else will help you.
    
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Professorozone@lemmy.world ⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
Who says humans are evil BY DEFAULT?

I think humans are shit. I think a very few are strongly evil. I mean someone came up with the idea and others actually boiled people alive. That ain’t good. The ones doing the boiling would probably not have done so without the ones who thought it up, but does that make them good by default? Also I think given the opportunity to take a million of someone else’s dollars there is a much larger portion of the population that would do it than thinking up tortures. So what’s the definition? How far do you have to go to be evil? How much do you have to resist to be good?

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