Submitted 18 hours ago by annodomini@lemmy.zip to nostupidquestions@lemmy.world
No, you are not unreasonable it’s just how you prioritize. It’s personal choice. I live in the country and many elderly too. We know not to count on the blue lights to arrive in 10 minutes. 30 is more likely. We don’t wanna give up the perfect place to live just to have them arrive quicker if something happens. We count/rely on each other.
Pro: less people!
Con: the people that are there are probably bigoted bootlickers.
No, you’re right, and your husband is romanticizing the countryside. You’d be significantly better off looking in places like Virginia, where you can find ranch properties and feel like you’re well out into the country while still being ~30 minutes from a Richmond-sized city.
Must be nice to have money and therefore options. Enjoy retirement!
I mean im a city boy so my ideal is living in a high rise downtown. My wifes is way out in the country. So we live like you in the beginings of suburbia. Now given our financials we likely will have to move to cheapest possible in the hopes of solvency if I ever retire but yeah. Hospitals are the big worry.
My husband (67) officially retired last year
Are you still working?
My aunt and uncle retired to a ranch in south Carolina as a tax dodge after a life of being realtors and IT specialists. Meth heads stole all their farm equipment and the daughter they moved next to is getting a divorce. If you have a yard, just start a garden or greenhouse and a tool shed and you won’t have to worry about whatever unknown hell is waiting for you in Wyoming
My dad is in his eighties. You know what he does for most of the day? He visits elderly people in the countryside who can no longer drive and are stuck at home.
Not retired yet but went through a similar thing and we talked about all of our criteria and which ones were higher or lower priorities and what our concerns were. I really wanted to move to the middle of nowhere but given our criteria and concerns we ended up in a rural area near a smaller city. You’re not unreasonable to want specific things about where you live, like easy access to healthcare or a sane government, you just need to figure out what both of you can compromise on.
lerba@sopuli.xyz 17 hours ago
You could try to talk with him to understand the underlying reasons for his will for a life change. It really could be anything. Or if that doesn’t work, seek couples counceling for a couple of sessions.