Submitted āØāØ19ā© āØhoursā© agoā© by āØcutebc24@piefed.socialā© to āØnostupidquestions@lemmy.worldā©
Iām 20 and probably wouldnāt date anyone over 39 or under 18-19. If i date someone who is 18, they also canāt be barely 18, they have to have been 18 for a while so birthday is important if theyāre 18.
my current girlfriend is 19 x3
Your current girlfriend is 57?
3 girlfriends, each one is 19.
Or something went wrong and they somehow seduced an entire nursery.
Iām 9 years older than my kid sister. We had an agreement, she doesnāt date anyone older than me and I donāt date anyone younger than her.
We both married people in that range.
This.
I strayed from this formula by 1 year once (I was 38, she was 25), and there was this strange generational gap where we just had completely different interests, we didnāt get each othersā references, and things fizzled pretty quickly.
Anyone else Iāve dated has been within this formula and weāve gotten a long quite well. If theyāre below this number for you, or youāre below this number for them, even by a little bit, itāll get weird and youāll run out of things to talk about pretty quickly.
Iām 38 and canāt imagine dating a 26 year old. The woman Iām currently seeing is my same age and itās great.
Iāve always dated around Ā± 3-4 years. I usually didnāt get along with men who were a lot older or younger. My husband is one year and four month younger.
I donāt really even have an age range I guess, Iāve never met anyone I was interested in dating.
First step: Get permission from my wife to date.
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(Donāt want a relationship. Iāve seen first hand how my parents are miserable with each other, not looking forward to that shit)
None, but Iām asexual/aromantic, soā¦
Whatever-whatever. I donāt have any strict age limit, if you care to make your case Iāll listen. Iām not that busy.
That being said I do have the most in common with women in their 30s, being in my 30s myself
It depends entirely on the person. Some people are intelligent, self possessed adults by the time theyāre 20, other people are immature shitbags well into their old age. Age is a poor metric for evaluating compatibility.
18-5000.
If youāre 5001, Iām sorry but youāre too old.
That is a strange way to say sheās 57ā¦
But anyway! Range varies wildly with age. 6 years is something you at least ponder at age 25, but will feel like āsame ageā around 50.
My feeling based on what people seem to at least not care to even gossip lightly about: max 1 year at age 15. 5 years at 40. 10 years at age 60+.
Wider ranges are not problematic, but gets into at least āinteresting to talk aboutā. E.g. āThey are 33 and 40! Huh! Good for them.ā
+/- 6 years.
If I were to date at the age of 42, I would not date anyone below the age of 39 or above the age of 46. I would prefer only a 4-year gap in either direction, as the number 4 feels right (very vibes and personal preference based reasoning).
19, probably 17 for a while to 18 as the youngest. my fiancƩe is 18. oldest, 25?? 30??
Middle aged man here. No offense taken. I donāt like us either.
Hypothetically, I donāt have a limit st the high end, and the low end would be based more on the individual, but no younger than eighteen.
In reality, chances of finding someone in their twenties that would mesh well with for dating is unlikely, so thirty-ish is a more realistic lower age.
Upper end is less restricted for dating, but on a realistic level, Iām not going to enter a relationship with someone thatās into their seventies just because of life span probability after that.
Luckily, Iām happily married, so I donāt have to worry about that shit. But Iāve never cared about ages for dating, since dating is essentially ātrying onā someone for a more committed relationship. It makes it worth interacting with people that are less likely to be compatible on a surface level, when going into it with the knowledge that itās probably going to peter out anyway, so the risks of it having a high price are lower.
Seriously, every relationship has difficulties. You canāt predict whatās going to arise over decades of being together. So limiting options by age ends up being arbitrary. While I never went looking for people far away from my age, anyone old enough and developed enough to understand what a relationship is was the determinant.
Now, on a practical level, once youāre out in the work force, chances are that youāll be interacting with people from their mid-to-late twenties up to their sixties. So you arenāt going to end up dating outside of that range often. To date someone you have to meet them, and communicate often enough to ask them for time outside of whatever scope you meet them in. So I never really dated outside that range at any point. But I wouldnāt have rejected the possibility if it came up.
I dunno, I just donāt see age gaps as a problem.
In theory maybe 10 years in either direction (Iām old) but in practice Iāve only had long term relationships with guys within a couple years of my age.
Lovers between times, for whatever reason I always ended up with younger guys, that seemed to be the people into me, but still never more than 10 years difference.
When I was your age? One or two years at most. Absolutely not anyone much older or younger, no.
Iām 43 and if someone over 35 wants to date you itās a pedophile
if someone over 35 wants to date you itās a pedophile
Noā¦words have definitions for a reason. Pedophiles go after prepubescent children, not 20 year olds who are most certainly postpubes ent. It may not be ānormalā or viewed highly by people, but itās not pedophilia.
Also itās super weird to think 35 and 105 is cool to you, but 35 and 34 if no go territory.
a 20 yo is almost a teen, a 35 yo is someone that have lived and itās not so easy to influence. A 35 with a 105 is weird but we all know both are aware of whats happening, if a 40 is after a 20 itās because he likes them young and I donāt doubt it would go even lower.
The largest age gap Iāve been involved with was about 4 years. I was 31, she was 35, and we lasted about three months. Current partner and I are about 1.5 years apart.
If I were single and interested in dating, I think the lowest age Iād be willing to go is half my age plus 7. Someone at the absolute lowest end of that range would need to check a lot of other boxes for me to be willing. Most Iād be willing to go over my age is about 10 years.
But frankly, if I were single, Iād probably just stop the online dating thing and live my best life on my own, and if I met someone who was interested cool, and if not it aināt the end of the world.
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nebulaone@lemmy.world āØ40ā© āØminutesā© ago
+/- 5 years (I am in my 30s).
And honestly (I will probably be killed for this) I have no problems with others having big age differences as long as the younger person is at least 21. Itās not like you are significantly more susceptible than later in your life and donāt know what youāre doing.