Submitted âšâš3â© âšweeksâ© agoâ© by âšcutebc24@piefed.socialâ© to âšnostupidquestions@lemmy.worldâ©
Iâm 20 and probably wouldnât date anyone over 39 or under 18-19. If i date someone who is 18, they also canât be barely 18, they have to have been 18 for a while so birthday is important if theyâre 18.
my current girlfriend is 19 x3
Iâm 9 years older than my kid sister. We had an agreement, she doesnât date anyone older than me and I donât date anyone younger than her.
We both married people in that range.
This.
I strayed from this formula by 1 year once (I was 38, she was 25), and there was this strange generational gap where we just had completely different interests, we didnât get each othersâ references, and things fizzled pretty quickly.
Anyone else Iâve dated has been within this formula and weâve gotten a long quite well. If theyâre below this number for you, or youâre below this number for them, even by a little bit, itâll get weird and youâll run out of things to talk about pretty quickly.
Iâm 38 and canât imagine dating a 26 year old. The woman Iâm currently seeing is my same age and itâs great.
This is the correct answer. For me, itâs about 5 years in either direction.
I donât really even have an age range I guess, Iâve never met anyone I was interested in dating.
First step: Get permission from my wife to date.
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(Donât want a relationship. Iâve seen first hand how my parents are miserable with each other, not looking forward to that shit)
That is a strange way to say sheâs 57âŠ
But anyway! Range varies wildly with age. 6 years is something you at least ponder at age 25, but will feel like âsame ageâ around 50.
My feeling based on what people seem to at least not care to even gossip lightly about: max 1 year at age 15. 5 years at 40. 10 years at age 60+.
Wider ranges are not problematic, but gets into at least âinteresting to talk aboutâ. E.g. âThey are 33 and 40! Huh! Good for them.â
None, but Iâm asexual/aromantic, soâŠ
If I were to date at the age of 42, I would not date anyone below the age of 39 or above the age of 46. I would prefer only a 4-year gap in either direction, as the number 4 feels right (very vibes and personal preference based reasoning).
Whatever-whatever. I donât have any strict age limit, if you care to make your case Iâll listen. Iâm not that busy.
That being said I do have the most in common with women in their 30s, being in my 30s myself
+/- 6 years.
Iâm 43 and if someone over 35 wants to date you itâs a pedophile
if someone over 35 wants to date you itâs a pedophile
NoâŠwords have definitions for a reason. Pedophiles go after prepubescent children, not 20 year olds who are most certainly postpubes ent. It may not be ânormalâ or viewed highly by people, but itâs not pedophilia.
Also itâs super weird to think 35 and 105 is cool to you, but 35 and 34 if no go territory.
a 20 yo is almost a teen, a 35 yo is someone that have lived and itâs not so easy to influence. A 35 with a 105 is weird but we all know both are aware of whats happening, if a 40 is after a 20 itâs because he likes them young and I donât doubt it would go even lower.
19, probably 17 for a while to 18 as the youngest. my fiancée is 18. oldest, 25?? 30??
Middle aged man here. No offense taken. I donât like us either.
+/- 5 years (I am in my 30s).
And honestly (I will probably be killed for this) I have no problems with others having big age differences as long as the younger person is at least 21. Itâs not like you are significantly more susceptible than later in your life and donât know what youâre doing.
18-5000.
If youâre 5001, Iâm sorry but youâre too old.
Hypothetically, I donât have a limit st the high end, and the low end would be based more on the individual, but no younger than eighteen.
In reality, chances of finding someone in their twenties that would mesh well with for dating is unlikely, so thirty-ish is a more realistic lower age.
Upper end is less restricted for dating, but on a realistic level, Iâm not going to enter a relationship with someone thatâs into their seventies just because of life span probability after that.
Luckily, Iâm happily married, so I donât have to worry about that shit. But Iâve never cared about ages for dating, since dating is essentially âtrying onâ someone for a more committed relationship. It makes it worth interacting with people that are less likely to be compatible on a surface level, when going into it with the knowledge that itâs probably going to peter out anyway, so the risks of it having a high price are lower.
Seriously, every relationship has difficulties. You canât predict whatâs going to arise over decades of being together. So limiting options by age ends up being arbitrary. While I never went looking for people far away from my age, anyone old enough and developed enough to understand what a relationship is was the determinant.
Now, on a practical level, once youâre out in the work force, chances are that youâll be interacting with people from their mid-to-late twenties up to their sixties. So you arenât going to end up dating outside of that range often. To date someone you have to meet them, and communicate often enough to ask them for time outside of whatever scope you meet them in. So I never really dated outside that range at any point. But I wouldnât have rejected the possibility if it came up.
I dunno, I just donât see age gaps as a problem.
In theory maybe 10 years in either direction (Iâm old) but in practice Iâve only had long term relationships with guys within a couple years of my age.
Lovers between times, for whatever reason I always ended up with younger guys, that seemed to be the people into me, but still never more than 10 years difference.
When I was your age? One or two years at most. Absolutely not anyone much older or younger, no.
The largest age gap Iâve been involved with was about 4 years. I was 31, she was 35, and we lasted about three months. Current partner and I are about 1.5 years apart.
If I were single and interested in dating, I think the lowest age Iâd be willing to go is half my age plus 7. Someone at the absolute lowest end of that range would need to check a lot of other boxes for me to be willing. Most Iâd be willing to go over my age is about 10 years.
But frankly, if I were single, Iâd probably just stop the online dating thing and live my best life on my own, and if I met someone who was interested cool, and if not it ainât the end of the world.
Iâve always dated around ± 3-4 years. I usually didnât get along with men who were a lot older or younger. My husband is one year and four month younger.
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Diddlydee@feddit.uk âš3â© âšweeksâ© ago
Your current girlfriend is 57?
Lembot_0003@lemmy.zip âš3â© âšweeksâ© ago
3 girlfriends, each one is 19.
Apepollo11@lemmy.world âš3â© âšweeksâ© ago
Or something went wrong and they somehow seduced an entire nursery.
sbeak@sopuli.xyz âš3â© âšweeksâ© ago
Iâm pretty sure itâs supposed to be a little face guy. Like this :) or this :O
x3 is like a dead cat face I think
Diddlydee@feddit.uk âš3â© âšweeksâ© ago
I am aware. It was a joke.