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CaptDust@sh.itjust.works 1 year ago
misogyny is a skill issue
Always has been, weak men can’t stand women outpacing them, this is not limited to gaming but basically everything.
The issue with this is it’s too simplistic.
What it’s actually saying is “it’s easy to not be misogynistic as long as you’re significantly better than all the women”.
It does not imply that you won’t be misogynistic as soon as you are threatened.
Ie when status quo is maintained (patriarchy is intact for you) it’s easy to support women.
It would be interesting to see if it’s really because of how they are as individuals or more about the response to social status thing. Like if they did an experiment where high performers were deceived into thinking they were actually performing poorly, and vice-versa, would the attitudes towards women be reversed or not? The conclusions in OP seem to imply the researchers think they would be.
My hypothesis is men with low self esteem would be more misogynistic vs men with high self esteem.
My hypothesis is that if you’re a piece of shit, that will extend to all walks of life(misogny, sucking at video games) whereas if you are not, the same rules apply(equality, excelling at video games)
By being a piece of human garbage you effectively hamstring yourself in every field.
This explains why I am misogynistic…
The reverse is not true unfortunately. Skilled men are often mysoginistic assholes too.
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Women being better than me at something, especially something I'm interested in and have some skill at, is so fucking hot.
not_that_guy05@lemmy.world 1 year ago
Had co-workers say they would never marry someone making more than them. Shit is so weird.
Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 1 year ago
jfc, being a home-husband is the dream, their fucking loss
shalafi@lemmy.world 1 year ago
Been there, done that, it sucked.
It was great at first! But after 6-months I was depressed. Guess I’m the sort that requires the structure a regular job provides. Kinda been the same for WFH. :(
kadu@lemmy.world 1 year ago
I had depression before WFH, still have it but at least now I can work with my cat on my lap
FlyingSquid@lemmy.world 1 year ago
I like WFH but I hated being a house-husband. WFH gives me something to do more than cleaning and cooking and childcare.
Zink@programming.dev 1 year ago
It shows how stupid and against your own best interests this kind of thinking can be.
I am the full time worker in my family, and happy to be the provider for them. However, I would be a stay at home dad / house-husband so damn fast if my wife got some random job mom making a lot more than me. I do have my priorities in order, after all.
GigglyBobble@kbin.social 1 year ago
I'd do housework and care for the kids in a heartbeat if my wife made enough.
CeeBee@lemmy.world 1 year ago
My genuine theory is that many (if not most) people are emotionally stunted or emotionally immature. You don’t get this kind of mentality from someone who is balanced.
Now expand that to every facet of life and you get the world we live in.
Taleya@aussie.zone 1 year ago
Hahahha most of our relationship i made more than his lordahip. Now he makes more than me and he hates it
uis@lemmy.world 1 year ago
Maybe because it is not in realm of possible instead of something they don’t want?
Tavarin@lemmy.ca 1 year ago
There are wealthy women out there, so it is entirely in the range of possibility. My mom’s first husband left her when she started making more money as a lawyer than him. It’s an ego thing.
Semi-Hemi-Demigod@kbin.social 1 year ago
I'd love to be a kept man. I'd wear skimpy outfits and work out every day and have all the chores done and a hot meal on the table when she gets home every day.