Nollij
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- Comment on [deleted] 6 days ago:
This is terrible advice. Ask any urologist and they will tell you the same. OP, ask YOUR urologist about it.
Vasectomies can, in some circumstances, be reversed. You should not plan on yours being one of them. You should plan on it being permanent and reversible.
- Comment on [deleted] 6 days ago:
It’s tough to predict the future. Most people don’t start wanting kids until they’re older than that, or at least until they’re in a serious relationship. Given that you did not mention one, I’m going to assume that you are unattached. Most single people in their twenties want to get laid without having kids.
You may find that a vasectomy is a complete blocker for certain relationships. However, if you truly do not want kids, those would be doomed regardless.
Will you change your mind? Perhaps. Many people’s views on the subject change as they enter their 30s. But that doesn’t mean yours will.
It might also be worth considering why you want a vasectomy right now. If you are single, you should not be hooking up with random people unprotected. If you are in a relationship, this is something that you should discuss with your partner.
- Comment on Why democrats under Biden administration didn't release Epstein files? 2 weeks ago:
I specifically mentioned Les Wexner for a reason. While the public information includes an absolute ton of red flags, and it’s very likely that he bought child prostitutes, it doesn’t reach the level proof beyond a reasonable doubt. IOW, it’s unlikely to reach a conviction in court.
These people are also rich enough to drag out a court case for decades, even longer than the government. As such, they aren’t likely to take a plea agreement that’s more than a slap on the wrist and without admitting anything serious.
- Comment on Why democrats under Biden administration didn't release Epstein files? 2 weeks ago:
Legal Eagle just released a video about “the real Epstein files”. The main point they covered in the video is victim impact. The victims could be threatened and harassed because of the info.
Another point not covered is that criminal case info is typically not disclosed. Releasing a list of accused perpetrators (i.e. pedophiles/child rapists) encourages vigilante justice. It also interferes with any ongoing investigations, which should (at least in theory) still be ongoing.
I don’t want Trump to release the case info. I want his DOJ to announce charges against people like Les Wexner, based on that info. And I want it to not just be his political enemies and bullshit lies.
- Comment on Delta moves toward eliminating set prices in favor of AI that determines how much you personally will pay for a ticket 2 weeks ago:
This isn’t the first time a company has used this approach. Apple users will always pay (be charged) more. I suspect the same is true for mobile users vs desktop.
But with AI being applied, there will be a TON of variables, just like your car insurance. You probably won’t even be able to identify most of them. For instance, which ISP are you using? What time of the day are you shopping?
What else does your browser fingerprint say about you? What about when they link it to Facebook, even without your knowledge or consent? Will gay people (or women, or Mexicans, or any other group) pay more?
- Comment on Employees at Amazon headquarters were asked on Monday to volunteer their time to the company’s warehouses to assist with grocery delivery 4 weeks ago:
Kroger owns a bunch of other brands. Do you have one of them in your market, and it’s just a branding difference?
- Comment on Intel Confidential CPU? 1 month ago:
The big caveat is that the BIOS must allow it, and most released versions do not.
- Comment on What are some good places/activities where a middle-aged man can new make friends? 1 month ago:
Related, many small(-ish) bars have a stage for live music on Friday/Saturday. There may not be enough seating for those nights, and there’s little/no standing room, so people randomly share tables. From there, you strike up conversation with other fans.
Find the small places where they advertise the bands by name, and make sure they aren’t just cover bands. Irish pubs have been lucky for me, but there’s another place near me that regularly has jam bands.
- Comment on “Piracy is Piracy” – Disney and Universal team up to sue Midjourney 1 month ago:
That’s part of the strategy. First, go after the small project that can’t defend itself. Use that to set a precedent that is harder for the bigger targets to overturn.
I would expect the bigger players to get themselves involved in the defense for exactly that reason.
- Comment on Looking for the perfect 5 year anniversary gift? 1 month ago:
You should take the hint.
- Comment on [deleted] 1 month ago:
You’ve already asked yourself what’s the worst that can happen. Now ask her what she thinks is the worst that can happen, and what she thinks would actually happen. Do not correct her or interrupt, and only ask probing questions so that you can better understand.
I promise you that her answers are not the same as yours.
- Comment on how do I stop being a sucker for alcoholic stuff on sale? 2 months ago:
The only thing I want to add is that AA is not the only option, nor even the most effective one. But it is the one with the lowest barrier to entry - you just look up where a meeting is, and you show up. No charge or anything.
However, if AA doesn’t help (and there are plenty of people where it doesn’t), there are a bunch of other options. Some are very casual group support events (but with a licensed counselor), all the way to in-patient clinics, and everything in between.
- Comment on How I discovered my partner was an undercover police officer sent to spy on me 2 months ago:
Speaking only about the legal sense here, most places do not recognize that. If you are of sound mind and body, not under the influence of drugs, extortion, etc, then the consent is valid.
Part of the problem is that everyone is at least a little deceitful, and these have been used in courts to claim rape. I remember a case about the use of makeup (deceiving about her actual looks and genetics), and another about being the “wrong” ethnicity. Where is the line for the courts to be involved?
- Comment on Where on the internet would you discuss a specific case of a potential exploitation of a minor within the adult industry"? 2 months ago:
This is understandably vague. Other people have mentioned the US FBI, but there’s also the NCMEC and IWF. If this is a professional-looking work, you may want to engage the studio’s compliance office. There are a number of very young-looking performers that were confirmed legal adults, so it might be a false alarm.
If you found something on PornHub or similar (possibly including Facebook), they usually have a ‘Report’ link. If you claim it contains minors, they will likely handle reports to the authorities automatically.
If you are looking to discuss whether a work contains a minor, outside of an abstract like the Traci Lords videos, I would recommend against it. Get the compliance records from the studio, or report it to authorities.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 months ago:
The explanation I heard back then was that Pluto wouldn’t qualify as a planet, EXCEPT that it has a moon. I’m not sure why that exception would apply, but it seems it’s no longer good enough.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 months ago:
I remember seeing someone make an argument for leashes, and it stuck with me. Forgive me that I don’t remember the source, so this is paraphrasing at best.
First, you must throw out all of your thoughts and mental associations with the leash. You must consider this scenario on its own. It has nothing to do with pets, or anything like that. This is about parenting, and only parenting.
You might see a leash as degrading. And to an adult, or an older child, that would certainly be the case. But these are typically only used on small children who have not yet developed that concept. IOW, the child does not mind the leash, aside from wanting to go where the leash won’t allow.
You might think that the child’s curiosity is being limited. Kids need to run and be free! But if there were no leash, that wouldn’t be the case. Instead of a leash, a hyper-vigilant parent would be enforcing similar boundaries. In fact, most parents would be enforcing stricter boundaries- if you need to make sure Junior doesn’t run away, you might not let them walk anywhere. The simplest form is requiring them to hold your hand, which is like an even shorter leash.
Since they can’t just run away, you can even use a long leash. That allows them to run and explore and jump around, and have significantly greater freedoms, all because the string keeps them near enough. They might still fall and get hurt, but that’s part of growing up. And yes, at a certain point, they will need to learn impulse control to stay nearby without a leash. This doesn’t mean a leash is bad, only that it’s not for every circumstance and needs to be retired at some point.
Now, after all of the above, can you articulate why a leash is always bad? Keeping in mind the child doesn’t mind.
- Comment on Why do so many piece of Hardware come with windows only software requiring admin right for installation 2 months ago:
Also, you asked 3 completely different and unrelated questions:
- Why do drivers need admin permissions?
- Why do devices only come with Windows drivers?
- Why are corporate IT policies the way they are?
#3 could be broken down even further, covering how/when admin is granted, as well as how devices are procured.
At my (large) employer, we absolutely would’ve told you to pound sand for getting that device outside of official channels and bypassing a security review. Especially since you described it as a data logger.
- Comment on Why do so many piece of Hardware come with windows only software requiring admin right for installation 2 months ago:
Is there something technically forcing the privilege elevation to install a driver ?
Yes. With few exceptions, drivers need admin permissions to be installed. In part that’s because they need admin permissions to run, and malicious drivers have absolutely been exploited in the past.
Some hardware (e.g. mice, keyboards, storage) don’t need additional drivers to be installed, but that’s because the OS uses generic drivers, or has a whitelisted source (e.g. Windows Update)
- Comment on A VPN Company Canceled All Lifetime Subscriptions, Claiming It Didn’t Know About Them 2 months ago:
They often tie it to current offerings. So your plan may have unlimited 4G data for life, but won’t include anything faster/newer. So once you want/need 5G, you have to switch to a different plan.
- Comment on Acquired HPE DL380 G9 - Questions about what is done for self hosting on them these days 2 months ago:
What is your use case? I ask because ESXi is free again, but it’s probably not a useful skill to learn these days. At least not as much as the competition.
Similarly, 2.5" mechanical drives only make sense for certain use cases. Otherwise I’d get SSDS or a 3.5" DAS.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 months ago:
no bus to church??
In the US, many (most?) churches offer their own transportation. It’s common enough that the term ‘church bus’ is a thing, although it’s usually more like a large van. For those that don’t, the parishioners will often offer transportation to those that need it.
- Comment on What should I do if someone applied to a job at a company I work at without being able to legally work in my country? 3 months ago:
They have to file paperwork with the necessary supporting documents. If they can’t, you have no idea why. Maybe it’s because they’re ineligible and in violation of immigration and visa restrictions. Maybe it’s because the documents were lost in a move. Maybe they had their identity stolen and are awaiting new documents. Maybe they just don’t actually give a shit about the job and aren’t bothering to do the paperwork to start working.
All you can say is that you’ve asked them to fill out the paperwork and they haven’t done so.
- Comment on Hosting files on the LAN to trusted folks at a LAN party -- FTP? 3 months ago:
Is there any reason to not just use samba or NFS?
- Comment on There's probably some kind of deal between cellphone and pants makers to keep pockets small 3 months ago:
Why do they keep making them like that?
Because you keep buying them.
You had a choice of buying clothes with bigger pockets. Regardless of the reasons or trade-offs, you chose the ones with the smaller pockets. It’s the same reason that women’s clothing often lacks pockets.
- Comment on Trump donors eye potential bonanza if US succeeds with Greenland land-grab 3 months ago:
Invasion. You’re talking about the US invading Greenland. Not just a “land-grab”
- Comment on VMware revives its free ESXi hypervisor 3 months ago:
My primary reason for using free ESXi has been career development. VMware was the biggest player at all of the biggest potential employers, so it made sense to be familiar with.
These days, they’re all looking to jump ship. Some are actively migrating, others won’t get there at all.
But all of them now value experience in alternatives at least as much, if not more than VMware.
I’m still using free ESXi, but the next time I rebuild (i.e. new hardware), it will not be ESXi.
- Comment on [deleted] 3 months ago:
To really find out, you probably just have to ask them directly.
- Comment on [deleted] 3 months ago:
At 16, her personality is visible, and her taste in partners has probably shown. If she’s into guys with ties to drugs, violence, etc, this might actually be a step up.
It still has the glaringly obvious issues OP was asking about, but you don’t always get to choose the cards you’re dealt. This could be the least harmful choice available.
- Comment on [deleted] 3 months ago:
There is so much additional context needed to say with any confidence. The first thought would be that he can be a good provider (i.e. money) and her other prospects are not very promising. Another could be power, and how that could be extended to the family.
There’s yet another possibility that they aren’t actually ok with it, but are only presenting that face in public. Teenage girls are notoriously hard to control, and this might be the fastest/easiest way to get her to end it or learn a lesson.
There are still a number of other possibilities, many involving religion, that there’s no way to know which might apply to your situation.
- Comment on What If History Had Taken a Different Path? 3 months ago:
There was a prototype CD add-on for the SNES. Due to a falling out, it was eventually released independently as the Sony PlayStation.
This was immeasurably more successful than the Nintendo CD could’ve ever been.