Nollij

@Nollij@sopuli.xyz

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨how do I stop being a sucker for alcoholic stuff on sale?⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  The only thing I want to add is that AA is not the only option, nor even the most effective one. But it is the one with the lowest barrier to entry - you just look up where a meeting is, and you show up. No charge or anything.

  However, if AA doesn’t help (and there are plenty of people where it doesn’t), there are a bunch of other options. Some are very casual group support events (but with a licensed counselor), all the way to in-patient clinics, and everything in between.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How I discovered my partner was an undercover police officer sent to spy on me⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Speaking only about the legal sense here, most places do not recognize that. If you are of sound mind and body, not under the influence of drugs, extortion, etc, then the consent is valid.

  Part of the problem is that everyone is at least a little deceitful, and these have been used in courts to claim rape. I remember a case about the use of makeup (deceiving about her actual looks and genetics), and another about being the “wrong” ethnicity. Where is the line for the courts to be involved?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Where on the internet would you discuss a specific case of a potential exploitation of a minor within the adult industry"?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  This is understandably vague. Other people have mentioned the US FBI, but there’s also the NCMEC and IWF. If this is a professional-looking work, you may want to engage the studio’s compliance office. There are a number of very young-looking performers that were confirmed legal adults, so it might be a false alarm.

  If you found something on PornHub or similar (possibly including Facebook), they usually have a ‘Report’ link. If you claim it contains minors, they will likely handle reports to the authorities automatically.

  If you are looking to discuss whether a work contains a minor, outside of an abstract like the Traci Lords videos, I would recommend against it. Get the compliance records from the studio, or report it to authorities.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  The explanation I heard back then was that Pluto wouldn’t qualify as a planet, EXCEPT that it has a moon. I’m not sure why that exception would apply, but it seems it’s no longer good enough.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I remember seeing someone make an argument for leashes, and it stuck with me. Forgive me that I don’t remember the source, so this is paraphrasing at best.

  First, you must throw out all of your thoughts and mental associations with the leash. You must consider this scenario on its own. It has nothing to do with pets, or anything like that. This is about parenting, and only parenting.

  You might see a leash as degrading. And to an adult, or an older child, that would certainly be the case. But these are typically only used on small children who have not yet developed that concept. IOW, the child does not mind the leash, aside from wanting to go where the leash won’t allow.

  You might think that the child’s curiosity is being limited. Kids need to run and be free! But if there were no leash, that wouldn’t be the case. Instead of a leash, a hyper-vigilant parent would be enforcing similar boundaries. In fact, most parents would be enforcing stricter boundaries- if you need to make sure Junior doesn’t run away, you might not let them walk anywhere. The simplest form is requiring them to hold your hand, which is like an even shorter leash.

  Since they can’t just run away, you can even use a long leash. That allows them to run and explore and jump around, and have significantly greater freedoms, all because the string keeps them near enough. They might still fall and get hurt, but that’s part of growing up. And yes, at a certain point, they will need to learn impulse control to stay nearby without a leash. This doesn’t mean a leash is bad, only that it’s not for every circumstance and needs to be retired at some point.

  Now, after all of the above, can you articulate why a leash is always bad? Keeping in mind the child doesn’t mind.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why do so many piece of Hardware come with windows only software requiring admin right for installation⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Also, you asked 3 completely different and unrelated questions:

  1. Why do drivers need admin permissions?
  2. Why do devices only come with Windows drivers?
  3. Why are corporate IT policies the way they are?

  #3 could be broken down even further, covering how/when admin is granted, as well as how devices are procured.

  At my (large) employer, we absolutely would’ve told you to pound sand for getting that device outside of official channels and bypassing a security review. Especially since you described it as a data logger.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why do so many piece of Hardware come with windows only software requiring admin right for installation⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Is there something technically forcing the privilege elevation to install a driver ?

  Yes. With few exceptions, drivers need admin permissions to be installed. In part that’s because they need admin permissions to run, and malicious drivers have absolutely been exploited in the past.

  Some hardware (e.g. mice, keyboards, storage) don’t need additional drivers to be installed, but that’s because the OS uses generic drivers, or has a whitelisted source (e.g. Windows Update)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨A VPN Company Canceled All Lifetime Subscriptions, Claiming It Didn’t Know About Them⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  They often tie it to current offerings. So your plan may have unlimited 4G data for life, but won’t include anything faster/newer. So once you want/need 5G, you have to switch to a different plan.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Acquired HPE DL380 G9 - Questions about what is done for self hosting on them these days⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  What is your use case? I ask because ESXi is free again, but it’s probably not a useful skill to learn these days. At least not as much as the competition.

  Similarly, 2.5" mechanical drives only make sense for certain use cases. Otherwise I’d get SSDS or a 3.5" DAS.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  no bus to church??

  In the US, many (most?) churches offer their own transportation. It’s common enough that the term ‘church bus’ is a thing, although it’s usually more like a large van. For those that don’t, the parishioners will often offer transportation to those that need it.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What should I do if someone applied to a job at a company I work at without being able to legally work in my country?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  They have to file paperwork with the necessary supporting documents. If they can’t, you have no idea why. Maybe it’s because they’re ineligible and in violation of immigration and visa restrictions. Maybe it’s because the documents were lost in a move. Maybe they had their identity stolen and are awaiting new documents. Maybe they just don’t actually give a shit about the job and aren’t bothering to do the paperwork to start working.

  All you can say is that you’ve asked them to fill out the paperwork and they haven’t done so.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Hosting files on the LAN to trusted folks at a LAN party -- FTP?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Is there any reason to not just use samba or NFS?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨There's probably some kind of deal between cellphone and pants makers to keep pockets small⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Why do they keep making them like that?

  Because you keep buying them.

  You had a choice of buying clothes with bigger pockets. Regardless of the reasons or trade-offs, you chose the ones with the smaller pockets. It’s the same reason that women’s clothing often lacks pockets.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Trump donors eye potential bonanza if US succeeds with Greenland land-grab⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Invasion. You’re talking about the US invading Greenland. Not just a “land-grab”

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨VMware revives its free ESXi hypervisor⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  My primary reason for using free ESXi has been career development. VMware was the biggest player at all of the biggest potential employers, so it made sense to be familiar with.

  These days, they’re all looking to jump ship. Some are actively migrating, others won’t get there at all.

  But all of them now value experience in alternatives at least as much, if not more than VMware.

  I’m still using free ESXi, but the next time I rebuild (i.e. new hardware), it will not be ESXi.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  To really find out, you probably just have to ask them directly.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  At 16, her personality is visible, and her taste in partners has probably shown. If she’s into guys with ties to drugs, violence, etc, this might actually be a step up.

  It still has the glaringly obvious issues OP was asking about, but you don’t always get to choose the cards you’re dealt. This could be the least harmful choice available.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  There is so much additional context needed to say with any confidence. The first thought would be that he can be a good provider (i.e. money) and her other prospects are not very promising. Another could be power, and how that could be extended to the family.

  There’s yet another possibility that they aren’t actually ok with it, but are only presenting that face in public. Teenage girls are notoriously hard to control, and this might be the fastest/easiest way to get her to end it or learn a lesson.

  There are still a number of other possibilities, many involving religion, that there’s no way to know which might apply to your situation.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What If History Had Taken a Different Path?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  There was a prototype CD add-on for the SNES. Due to a falling out, it was eventually released independently as the Sony PlayStation.

  This was immeasurably more successful than the Nintendo CD could’ve ever been.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I'm looking for a no frills, physical key EV. Am I looking for something that no longer exists?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  As others have mentioned, it refers to the gear shift. But it actually has a meaningful origin - many years ago, the gear order was not agreed upon. Many cars had a gear shift that was PNDLR (which I’ve heard pronounced “pendler”), where reverse was at the end. At the time, it was useful to tell the difference between a PRNDL and a PNDLR shift.

  Of course that was all before 1971, when PRNDL was mandated by the US government.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do I fit a network card with a physical x4 slot into an x1 slot?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  USB the protocol, or just uses a USB cable? If it’s not using the protocol, the cables are a cheap way of getting cables of a certain spec.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨So, after using Lemmy for 1.5 Years. You are telling I am not even allowed to use Lemmy?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  This can get a bit complicated with federation. This community is hosted on LW. I am accessing it via sopuli.xyz, and you via feddit.uk. All (presumably) have full bidirectional federation with each other.

  When I hit send, this message will go to Sopuli’s outbox, which will then sync to LW for this community. At that point, this post will live on LW’s servers. Anyone accessing LW directly can see it, even if Sopuli were to go down. Later (probably less than a minute), LW will sync to Feddit.uk, at which point you will be able to see it.

  Note that this is for text posts only. There have been some changes around images and video, both for bandwidth and liability reasons.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨X (Twitter) is down in worldwide outage.⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  We don’t have 5 9s, but we do have 9 5s.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨YSK: Gas stoves cause cancer⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Yes, they exist, as I acknowledged. How old is it? Is it representative of what you’d find at a standard big box retailer?

  For it to work, it means the controls must all be manual and mechanical. This is in contrast to the “smart” features that are very common.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨YSK: Gas stoves cause cancer⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Oh, and FWIW - if you live somewhere with an unstable power grid, a natural gas or LP stove will continue to function when the power is out, albeit you’ll need to light it manually.

  This is only true on the simplest (or older) gas stoves. Most models these days have all sorts of electronics, including features to prevent gas leaks.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How to escape from surveillance when watching television?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  In the meantime, you can turn off a lot of Google’s tracking, or at least their record keeping. Make sure you’ve disabled all of the tracking you can.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Electronic devices or 'signal jammers' used in car thefts to be banned⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I won’t speak to how the UK does things, but in the US this would make for an easier criminal charge.

  It can be difficult to prove that someone stole (or is about to steal) a car, or broke in to steal the contents. This is especially true if they weren’t apprehended in or with the vehicle itself. But if they are arrested on suspicion, and one of these devices is found on them, they can very easily be prosecuted for possession of criminal tools. It’s similar to how we normies can’t legally own a lockpicking kit unless we’re locksmiths.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Electronic devices or 'signal jammers' used in car thefts to be banned⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Not removed - never added to the US designs. They were added afterwards to models being sold in places that require them.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Do you find this compelling evidence to doubt the result of the election?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  In the very few cases where the trump campaign showed any evidence whatsoever, they actually did very well with the court rulings. Keep in mind that these were absolutely not cases of widespread fraud, but of localized errors that are common in every election.

  The fact that most suits were filed with literally no evidence whatsoever was very telling, though.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I’m planning to teach middle school Spanish, would casually mentioning having a girlfriend cause an uproar?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Does Spanish have a super generic term like “significant other” or “partner” that doesn’t convey anything useful?

  Side note, the types of parents you would be concerned about are probably also the type that get super racist about teaching Spanish in the first place.