Submitted 3 weeks ago by scripty@lemmy.ca to nostupidquestions@lemmy.world
I’ve never understood the appeal, or how it works.
I don’t like it because crumbs and spills in bed, and because it’s not a great position for intake and digestion.
This. Breakfast in bed is totally overrated.
Top tier breakfast as a kid was taking the blanket to the couch after waking up and sitting in front of the TV and mom brining breakfast there. Its the same now…best breakfast is sitting upright in the lounge, although control of crumbs remains a problem.
IMO the appeal isn’t the actual breakfast in bed, it’s having your partner care for you enough to make you breakfast and bring it to you.
I brush after eating, never before.
My face isn’t dirty after sleeping.
The appeal is that someone else is taking care of you, to the degree of getting up hours earlier to cook for you.
I imagine it’s a luxury from the days before our current standards of climate control.
Imagine you don’t have a central heating unit–you’ve got fireplaces, and that’s it. You wake up, and it’s a brisk 8°C in your house. Staying in your nice cozy bed might not sound so bad.
It may also be a leftover thing from days when people couldn’t afford to stay in bed in the morning. Only the rich could afford to lounge around that way, so having that once a year would have been a way to treat someone like royalty.
Yup, this makes sense.
My wife has an autoimmune syndrome that makes stairs painful in the morning. I wake up, make coffee, bring her coffee and a snack, and about an hour later when I know she’s awake I bring her breakfast in bed. We eat together and talk about what we’ll do for our respective days, and if there’s anything we need to coordinate for the day that’s when we talk about it. By the time she’s done with that she’s mobile enough to do some stretches and loosen up enough to walk.
As someone else said, coffee for morning breath, eat breakfast, then brush teeth. It’s about being served breakfast as soon as your ready to sit up in bed
Wtf… Who brushes their teeth BEFORE they eat?! That’s like wiping your ass before you shit
I think that’s actually what dentists recommend (brushing before eating not wiping before you shit). I can’t remember the details fully but I thought it had something to do with particles of food getting pushed into spots it shouldn’t if you brush right after. Toothpaste is meant to protect your teeth, so brushing after eating probably more like waxing a dirty car than wiping before you shit.
Teeth and ass aren’t the same thing and that’s not an equivalent comparison considering multiple people have pointed out that brushing before gives a protective coating or at least is less damaging since there aren’t food acids present, softening the enamel. A quick google search confirms this.
Yeah, I literally gagged when I read that.
It’s about someone putting all the effort in so it’s ready for you.
I wouldn’t give a shit either and don’t see the appeal, but it’s human variation. Like, you probably don’t really see the appeal of going out to eat with friends, and would rather do some other activity with them that you do enjoy.
But for the majority of people, food is currency, and eating in front of people shows that you’re not going to just take all the food for yourself and you’re willing to provide for someone who (in the moment) has none.
You’re not going to really get a logical answer, it’s just leftover instincts from billions of years of evolution. Like how your dog isn’t freaking out in excitement over a treat, they’re happy because you are choosing to give them “your” food. Even if it’s the smallest piece they inhale without tasting. It was yours and you gave it to them. It re-enforces the bond.
The intent is what matters. You value who you share your food with, so who you share food with feels valued by you.
I totally get all of that. Wouldn’t all of that hold true if you were having breakfast on a table/kitchen island too though? I’m specifically confused about what makes having it in bed special.
Because it’s there for you as soon as you wake up.
The other person (assumedly) got up early, obtained food, and prepared it just for you, without you signalling that you wanted it. Something that in modern times isn’t that big of a deal because it’s just in the kitchen.
But it shows they thought of you and your needs on their own. They thought of you when you were unconscious and took steps to ensure your comfort and survival. It’s such a base thing that it still really matters.
Like I said, it’s not really a logical thing that it should matter so much, because food is a lot more accessible. It’s an evolutionary holdover from long before humans or even primates existed. And due to natural variation some people just won’t see any point in it, where to other people it’s still a huge sign of love.
Like, if you asked why facial symmetry is attractive, most people couldnt explain it. But they still enjoy looking at a symmetrical face even if they don’t know why. And humans are really bad at just guessing and then rationalizing. So they’ll come up with some bullshit and honestly believe it.
So logically table or bed doesn’t matter. But brains aren’t logical. That boost of it being there the instant you get woken up is what matters most. It’s a sign that even when you’re not physically present the other person will care about you.
From the perspective of a traditional woman’s role, it’s a luxury offered by a caring husband or child. Women traditionally got out of bed and started breakfast for the rest of the family. Breakfast in bed is a reversal of that role.
“It’s OK mom/honey. You don’t have to get up today. Stay in bed and enjoy yourself.”
I think it’s more of trope than a thing people do now days.
Hmm like I get you should brush your teeth but, why would you brush your teeth before you eat in the morning?
Because I don’t want to eat before I’ve gotten rid of my morning breath.
That’s fair you do you
I’ve got the same question.
You could sit confortably to eat on a bed. But you can’t do it in the bed. And whatever is your posture to eat, it is one you’ll take to chill in a bed. So what the point? Why put crumbs, sticky stuff and beverage to a bed that will to be confortable ?
I know them but don’t think they solve anything.
Bed tray is the way
So :
Yes, I wash up after breakfast anyway.
No. I resent even having to go pee.
I love not having to get up, saying toasty in bed (my house gets very cold 6 months a year–around 12C). Also, we tend to make better breakfasts in those cases. With a flower from the garden and everything.
Additionally, in my 9 year old’s case: since she was born, she had at least 80% of her breakfasts in bed. She likes to wake up slow, she reads for a while after waking up, and since she started middle school her days are hectic, so we pamper her that way. It’s twenty minutes of comfort before she starts her 10-hour days.
do people just wake up and start consuming food/drink without brushing their teeth & washing their face?
Yes. I also generally eat breakfast before showering or brushing my teeth.
what’s the appeal? I get liking someone else making your breakfast, but why is having it in bed fun?
It is an extremely lazy way to get breakfast. You don’t even have to move out of bed to eat.
It’s a good deal when offered
It probably started with one person getting up earlier, making coffee, and bringing back coffee and some small pastry or something. That would be easy to deal with, and a nice wake up.
Then it turned into this whole thing where they bring a tray with all this stuff on it, including a vase with a flower, and it’s all wobbly and spilling, and you have sit up with your legs out straight, unable to properly lean back against something, etc. It was a nice thought, but way more trouble than it’s worth.
Just bring me some coffee, please.
Only when I am confined to bed. But even in this case, washing your face in the morning is a must…
I don’t like breakfast in bed either. Would much rather get my day going first. Brush teeth, take a piss, get some lazy clothes on etc. I wouldn’t mind a couch breakfast, but only if I don’t have to cut anything. If I need a knife, please let’s just do this at the table. I’ll appreciate the gesture just as much and won’t be struggling half conscious to keep my bed clean with a wobbly ass tray.
Shadow@lemmy.ca 3 weeks ago
Why would you have to wash your face before eating? Or brush your teeth? You can do it after.
scripty@lemmy.ca 3 weeks ago
I suppose you don’t HAVE to. But I find it unhygienic to eat before brushing my teeth as soon as I wake up. Might just be my personal issue. 🤷♂️
brossman@infosec.pub 3 weeks ago
that’s like wiping before you shit
iii@mander.xyz 3 weeks ago
For me it’s the other way around. After eating I want to clean my teeth.
TwistedTurtle@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
The taste of toothpaste lingers for good a while and ruins the flavor of breakfast, especially orange juice.
The Way™ is Coffee/tea/juice to temporarily overwrite that morning breath feeling, then breakfast, then brushing teeth.
Fredthefishlord@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 weeks ago
Vibes based hygiene
magic_lobster_party@fedia.io 3 weeks ago
I brush my teeth as soon I wake up to get rid of morning breath (possibly due to dry mouth)
HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
i brush my teeth after breakfast. maybe it’s half an hour after waking. maybe it’s noon. it doesn’t really matter
wesker@lemmy.sdf.org 3 weeks ago
Bet you don’t take your hat off in the presence of ladies either.