Submitted 4 months ago by animeeyes@lemmy.world to [deleted]
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Yeah… One of my great great grandmothers, nobody was ever allowed to know how old she was while she was alive. It was this weird mystery.
Turns out if you knew her age you could easily count backwards and work out that when she got married she was 13 years old and about four months pregnant.
My grandmother was 11 when she got married to her first husband. Her folks married her off to a 35 year old man. Not my grandfather. His name was Bost. She never would tell anyone his first name, she never wanted to talk about him. Had one daughter with him and he died. Never officially married my grandfather, but had several kids with him years later, and everyone thought they were married. But she also had several kids from other men, and told everyone they were his, but even the kids she admitted to (she actually sold several of her children to various people, including a few family member. Sold my uncle twice and got him back both times) she gave them all different last names, but said they were all granddaddy’s.
She was crazy. Wonderful Grandma, mind you. But absolutely should never have had kids, violent woman with severe mental illness that mellowed out in her old age (mostly). So great grandma, but not a good mom. Used to wake the kids up randomly at like 3 in the morning on school nights and do white glove tests on their room, then lock herself in the bathroom with a butcher knife and scream at them through the door that she was going to kill herself because they were so ungrateful. One time she beat my aunt so badly she bled from her vagina for a couple days. When one of the daughters she sold showed up in adulthood, she was a deaf woman.grandma refused to acknowledge she was in the room, and then mocked her for making “those noises.”
I firmly blame all of that on her essentially being sold as a sex slave at 11 years old. Me and my mom also have a theory that Bost never really existed, and that it was her father who got her pregnant, but that’s entirely unsubstantiated. Just a theory. She had somewhere around 13 kids, but only admitted to 6 or 7, depending on the day.
That is wild, it’s crazy the lives some people have had
I know a few couples like that. I also have a 16 year old daughter with plenty of 16(ish) year old friends. For the life of me, I cannot fathom what a 30+ year old man could see in a 16/17 year old girl, other than maybe being easily manipulated. That may be enough. Cause it’s definitely not their personal hygiene, conversation abilities, or depth of experience in any given area.
| For the life of me, I cannot fathom what a 30+ year old man could see in a 16/17 year old girl
Himself, likely
I don’t actually know any 16 year-olds. But are they into Roblox? I thought that was more of an 8–14 y/o type thing?
Tiktok is a great learning tool. If you spend a bit getting the algorithm right.
other than maybe being easily manipulated. That may be enough.
It’s mostly this and a little bit of women their own age being smart enough to recognise the red flags they’re constantly blaring
I’m a 30+ year old man, and women in their early 20s are foreign enough.
The only things I can think of are power and control, and maybe the youth=pure thing? I mean from the appearance stand point there’s really nothing different for women into their 20s, if anything they dress in different styles.
The lack of intellectual, emotional, and social maturity is really off-putting. Hell, I remember personal hygiene was an issue for some girls when I was in college. The number that didn’t wear deodorant was concerning enough.
I dated someone younger than me for a couple months. She kept asking me if I knew of “such and such” or “did you know they make that this way” or “have you ever heard this band from the 90’s” or “did you know about this”. Essentially she was still discovering a lot of things in life that I already well aware of, then I had the realization she was way too young for me. Plus she was horrible at sex, way too inexperienced
What was the age gap?
Nature works in mysterious ways.
I have a half-brother born in 1985 (I’m born in 2006) whom I’ve always called uncle cause he’s so much older than me and calling him brother feels weird. 😭
(I’m born in 2006)
…
I’ll just sit here, aging quickly.
Your brother is older than your mom?
What a terrible day to have eyes
Age is only a number. It’s perfectly legal to write those numbers in octals instead of decimals… That would still make it illegal in most western countries though.
Age is just a number is also what my mom’s parents said when they found out about their relationship. 🙃
Oof
age is only a number, and buckshot is only metal (:
That would still make it illegal in most western countries though.
It sounds like they started dating when she was 16, which means as gross as it is, it’s not illegal in most places. Unless there was some sort of grooming, which is definitely possible given they first met when she was 15, but nothing we’ve been told in the story lets us determine for sure that it’s illegal.
As for octal, you can’t write 9 in octal, so we know 1984 has to be base 10 at a minimum.
You can write 1984 in octal as 3700. But I meant that 16 in octal is 20, most often 18 is the age at which you’re officially an adult. Maybe “age of consent” is something different, but it’s nasty.
That would still make it illegal in most western countries though.
It’s 16 (it says they started dating “year after”) so perfectly legal in most western countries.
Your dad might be a terrible person
There was no scenario in which this age difference wouldn’t make things awkward, but there’s scenarios where it would make things more awkward!
Dad was 40 Mom was 15
riodoro1@lemmy.world 4 months ago
Well your dad is a predator, and not the cool movie kind.
Klear@lemmy.world 4 months ago
Relevant Cyanide and Happiness