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- Comment on Elon Musk wants to rewrite "the entire corpus of human knowledge" with Grok 2 days ago:
He is a little shit, he’s full of shit, ergo he’s full of himself
- Comment on Elon Musk wants to rewrite "the entire corpus of human knowledge" with Grok 2 days ago:
Wikipedia may even outlive humanity, ever so slightly.
- Comment on Lights out 2 days ago:
Is this why I wake up at 3.30 with anxiety over something embarrassing I did when I was 15?
- Given today's theme, I think it's an excellent opportunity to revisit one of Norm McDonald's best interviewsyoutu.be ↗Submitted 3 days ago to [deleted] | 4 comments
- Comment on Why is the manosphere on the rise? UN Women sounds the alarm over online misogyny 4 days ago:
You’re straying from the point which is that this content exists, is widespread, and is ultimately the root cause. This isn’t hard for a serious researcher to see if they could just be bothered to sit down with the people they are “researching” and actually discover what their online life looks like. Whatever opinions you have on my personal life and choices are irrelevant. The reason I brought my personal experiences up is that I think they are representative and an obvious reason why men seek their refuge in masculinity influencers. You can criticize them all you want, but as far as I’m concerned that only underscores my point.
The misandry is also not limited to algorithm-heavy outlets like TikTok - when I talk about media I mean all social media including Facebook, Reddit, Instagram but also old media such as newspapers. When the #killallmen and #ihatemen hashtags were popular on Twitter the women promoting it were given their own columns in newspapers and a platform in podcasts by national state radio, at least here in Sweden. One popular “feminist” profile, Natashja Blomberg, would for example publicly say “I wonder if it’s a daughter or an abortion” when she was pregnant. She garnered support and was platfformed both by prominent political party leaders and news outlets. She was given her own column and given space in podcasts, where she could complain how disgusting she found her own son to be and how nobody is interested in what men think.
You can’t just let this go on for years, without being challenged, without offering alternative positive messages, and believe that men will just shake it off. They’re turning to these influencers because they were pushed there. I whole heartedly disagree with your assertion that the problem is in somebody’s head, but even if it is, society has a responsibility to help those people and it doesn’t.
- Comment on Why is the manosphere on the rise? UN Women sounds the alarm over online misogyny 4 days ago:
This is a sentiment often repeated by manosphere influencers and there’s no actual tangible evidence it exists and I think that’s the real issue.
This is why I feel there is such a disconnect. I just have to open TikTok to see this, so if researchers are not finding evidence then I’m very curious how that’s possible. Heck, you just need to look at the typical masculinity influencer content to see it because it’s not just them making shit up - they will often use clips of misandrist women to get their point across. So they basically find the evidence for you.
During men’s mental health month this has been particularly easy to encounter as there was a trend of women making as much noise as possible with the caption “me when it’s time to take a moment of silence for men’s mental health”.
- Comment on Why is the manosphere on the rise? UN Women sounds the alarm over online misogyny 4 days ago:
In my experience the problem isn’t the masculinity influencers. Those are just the symptom of misandry in media and a near-total lack of support in society for men, especially young men. When you go on social media almost all discussion concerning men is about how they are the root of all evil, and everything they do is wrong. It’s a never ending stream of shaming with no clear way out. You’re damned if you do and damned if you don’t: If you try to defend yourself or talk about your own problems as a man, it is labeled as misogyny. “Be vulnerable and open up” they say but if you do it’s “don’t center men you privileged fuck” or “you’re being a crybaby”.
All this pressure is an impossible equation to solve for a young man who has been pushed by misandrists into insecurity and longs to be accepted in his community. Not just because society’s demands are internally inconsistent, but because they clash with patriarchal ideals among most the typical women you’ll meet IRL.
I’m past 40 and while in my head I still consider myself progressive, I used to show it much more when I was younger. I was honest about my insecurities, I would try not to take up too much space as a man, would try to split responsibilities equally, and so on. At every turn this has caused me problems in relationships, not least with my wife of 10 years who left me for some muscular macho guy because she “doesn’t feel like I can take care of her”.
So now, while I wish society was different, I try to balance on the needle of acting like I’m not as progressive as I am so women don’t “get the ick”, while not tripping into misogyny. It’s an extremely difficult game to play and it frustrates me to no end that this is where we’re at. I’m moving in soon with a woman who I’ve ben dating for a couple of years and it’s clear that she desires that I take a leadership position in the home, whereas I’m just longing for a partner who will share the burden with me instead of becoming my subject. But I feel like I have to play that game or she’ll eventually lose interest.
Bell Hooks wrote about this already in 2003. But somehow it is completely lost on these UN Women pundits that nothing will change unless everybody (including women) change. You can’t just blame it on “masculinity influencers”. Why are these influencers gaining popularity? Because they offer some way out, some positive message for young men who are completely starved for positive role models.
I am convinced that a woman’s voice will always count 10x more than the manosphere, if it offers compassion and guidance rather than hate. But there are none.
FWIW, the “men’s health month” has brought me some hope in this. It’s the first time in a decade that I’ve seen women stand up to defend and show compassion for men, and I think young men will suck that up like a sponge.
- Comment on Why is the manosphere on the rise? UN Women sounds the alarm over online misogyny 4 days ago:
Am I tripping, out of touch with reality? These people really don’t seem to understand the problem and that makes me seriously question their methodology.
- Comment on OpenAI warns that its upcoming models could pose a higher risk of enabling the creation of biological weapons and says it is stepping up testing of such models 6 days ago:
This is just marketing tricks
- Comment on :-) 1 week ago:
You don’t need to understand that. You only need to understand that it is a desirable outcome for people who say they want another baby, not why.
- Comment on Mudita Kompakt 1 week ago:
Yeah I really like the idea of an E-ink screen for my phone, both for sparing my eyes and my battery. But the way they cripple these phones make them a no-go. And I’m typically very mindful of keeping myself undistracted - I have the alarm clock from the same company just so I can leave the phone in the kitchen when I go to bed.
- Comment on :-) 1 week ago:
If there’s a single person in the world who does not understand this I will be concerned
- Comment on NO KINGS! 1 week ago:
Please look up the signs of police kettling and what to do when it happens.
- Comment on I'm still not sure how to do this actually oh wait maybe... nope. 1 week ago:
That requires friction between fingers and bag to be higher than friction between the two sides of the plastic bag, and for me it never is
- Comment on Android 16 is here 2 weeks ago:
Small updates are fine but I find it a bit deceptive to increase the version number from 15 to 16 just for this
- Comment on Brojob 2 weeks ago:
You’re not gay just because you help a brother out
- Comment on What grass starvation does to the perma-online 2 weeks ago:
The difference is that this hole contains a lot more E. Coli and my nose has evolved to be extremely sensitive to the smell of it because of the biohazard
- Comment on What grass starvation does to the perma-online 2 weeks ago:
I’m confused. Who is supposed to enjoy it, the licker or the lickee? It just seems like a nasty experience for everyone involved, especially with the enema I would require to get near the poop hole with my tongue.
- Comment on I'm still not sure how to do this actually oh wait maybe... nope. 2 weeks ago:
The plastic bag is folded on the sides. I have much more success if I start by pulling there, than attacking the opening directly. Hard to explain but you’ll figure it out.
- Comment on I'm still not sure how to do this actually oh wait maybe... nope. 2 weeks ago:
Because it costs by the pound and you want to make it easy to weigh all vegetables together
- Comment on You ever just take a shit so huge it boosts your mood after? 2 weeks ago:
Every day.
- Comment on The joy of quitting a shit job with an asshole boss 3 weeks ago:
Meanwhile in Sweden, my contract says three months notice on the part of the employee and six months on the part of the employee.
- Comment on [deleted] 3 weeks ago:
I’m not talking about feminists who actually know their stuff (such as most - but not all - who make podcasts on the subject). Those are niche subcultures. I’m talking about the self-proclaimed feminists on social media like TikTok, Instagram, or the comment sections on Reddit and Facebook. The people that the general public comes in contact with and who shape the meaning of our language. Your attempt at gatekeeping kind of underscores my point.
- Comment on [deleted] 3 weeks ago:
Go be an edgelord on Reddit, we don’t need your toxicity on Lemmy
- Comment on [deleted] 3 weeks ago:
Under some older meaning of feminist sure, but 90% of the people who claim to be feminist these days think of it solely as giving women more privilege, and any discussion of men’s issues is considered anti-feminist. Whatever meaning of equality that there used to be is all but lost.
- Comment on [deleted] 3 weeks ago:
I’m scared to post this because people will interpret it as me being misogynistic. And that fact, IMO, is the biggest problem that men face. We’re not allowed by society to be victims.
- Comment on There's nothing better than the 3 weeks ago:
I’m Swedish and I have no idea what was occupying the mind of whoever made this sign
- Comment on Same old shit 3 weeks ago:
This would be improved with the 🤣 emoji as a wallpaper in the background
- Comment on For the second time in my life, I'm going to eat soap.😋 3 weeks ago:
Funny you should mention Christ, because he asked us to eat his body and drink his blood
- Comment on Forbidden Tech 4 weeks ago:
What would they even be used for except to short a circuit?