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If some lady brought out a conversation that fucking awesome, I wouldnât want a second date either. Iâd fucking propose. Well, would have. Thereâs very little sexier than enthusiasm and a love of knowledge.
And no, not literally propose, and it would hopefully turn into a second date, but thatâs no fucking fun to open up with in a comment, ffs, you fucking pedant.
As a woman with that level of enthusiasm about niche science info (I got a degree as a science communicator, because I literally canât help myself sharing interesting info when it seems a good time to do so)âŚ
Itâs very very difficult to find people who arenât intimidated by it, or put off by the enthusiasm about something they donât begin to understand/care about. Of all the people I talk to randomly, maybe 1 out of 30 people actually likes the enthusiasm past the first 5 min. And even that 5 min can be a stretch. That is to say, they tolerate it, they donât tend to engage with it or encourage it. Mostly you get âoh, thatâs neatâ. Which is a great way to shut the entire conversation down, cuz where do you go from there?
I tend to agree that enthusiasm is interpersonally attractive, itâs why I make small talk by asking what thing the other person finds interesting that they learned recently. (Not something they think I want to know, something they are interested in). I donât think the majority of the population views it that way, though. They only think enthusiasm is good if itâs a subject they already care about in some way. And they donât want to share theirs in case itâs not something you are interested in, even if all you actually are interested in is whatever sparks their passion.
I guess it could be my area, but Iâve been a lot of places (mostly within the same country ofc) and found about the same whether rural or urban, north or south. Also I donât think my observation is because Iâm a woman, but it could be a contributing factor, idk.
Well, as much as I hate to say it, most people are so busy looking for their turn to talk that it wouldnât matter how interesting what youâre saying is.
Which, I get. Iâm not immune to eventually losing attention to unfamiliar material. But thatâs why you listen; you pay attention and ask about what they just said if you arenât familiar with it. If nothing else, let your brain perk away while you listen and wait for it to ring the bell of association! Until you get into some really arcane subjects, thereâs almost always going to be a point where something relates to something you already know, so itâs just a matter of being patient.
But, sadly, I think youâre right. Women simply get ignored, even by other women. Doesnât matter how much they know, how high their degree of expertise is. People tend to rank anything coming out of a womanâs mouth as less important. It certainly isnât the entirety, but I would agree it contributes, as you said.
Please nerd out over here, I could bathe in vulgarization all day
First half was kinda cool then BAM - INCEL
Agree to disagree. Thought it was a cute comment.
> explain that you wonât seriously marry a stranger who knows plants
> incel
How so? I donât see it at all
Alas, I fear that even when not drunk, the second status still applies.
Dude pedants ruin everything. I canât tell you how many times Iâve had to explain the concept of hyperbole to someone
Yeah, thatâs not my experience at all. Men say they want a girlfriend / wife talking about stuff like that, but itâs just not how they choose their partners.
It definitely isnât the only criteria.
But hereâs what that kind of enthusiasm means in general; passion. Anybody that can love a section of knowledge so much that they can gush about it is a person that can have true passion for knowledge overall.
Thatâs a sign of an active, usually quick, mind. And that is something that anyone with sense wants in a partner.
I donât deny that people put women into a little box that says ânot of equal mindâ, if only by subconscious absorption of that behavior. It happens all the damn time, even by other women.
So, itâs obvious that plenty of men are going to be idiots that default to quiet or otherwise not enthusiastic women. And Iâve seen plenty of lesbians do the same.
But, a year or two down the line, they stop talking to each other, and things turn into this empty, dull rut. They turn into a caricature of a relationship where nobody is truly happy.
That idea is horrible to me. And, I donât think Iâm that big of an outlier. Not the majority for sure, but it isnât like the idea of wanting to partner with someone that can find joy in learning about something and sharing that knowledge is that unusual. Iâve known too many men that picked a partner with that kind of personality and mind.
In a sense, all the light harvesting parts of a plant are collecting information about its environment.
Do you often feel like there are thousands of eyes watching you? Taps pen.
I do wonder the resolution that it could detect.
Can a leaf detect the difference in blue light coming from above and green light surrounding it? Can it detect the green and brown light surrounding it? The red light reflecting off a bird sitting above it?
If itâs sensitive enough to the different wavelengths a leaf wouldnât really be all that much different from an eye.
I mean⌠yes?
Like that is kind of all a leaf is âreallyâ doing.
I dropped this mostly as a joke, but here is photosythesis:
lemmy.world/âŚ/47117e3d-82e0-4325-816f-ed2c854d18bâŚ
All plant pigments are photoreactive in âsomeâ manner:
Its ancient dusty, pre-covid exposure memories, but I took a course as a graduate student covering the quantum physics of photosynthesis, and thatâs basically what a leaf is doing. In the above image, the peaks on the left at around 400-500 can be thought of as blue light, and the peaks around 640-800 can be thought of as red light. Both of these wavelengths of light are involved in photosynthesis, which you can think of as in a manner, solar fusion in reverse. The plant has to take the light from the sun (the product of fusion), and get that energy reattached to a molecule. In fact, iirc, its basically the same electron orbital diagram. And it does make sense, because physically, that is what is happening.
These days I do much more boring stuff, but I always loved photosynthesis. Its probably one of my favorite chemical reactions. Nah fuck that it is my favorite chemical reaction.
So like, yeah. Plants have a TON of information about their environment. Granted, their photosensors donât have lenses, but they are constantly gathering and reacting to information about the quantity, quality, and locations of light. Afa resolution? Thats like, actually a super interesting question. Not having a lens is a big drawback.
Came for the meme, stayed for the scientific studies.
The trees are watching us.
bear pulls down bear-trousers
âI love it when you watch!â
Thatâs cool, Iâd go on a second date with you.
Well that's super fucking cool
You bastard. I was supposed to work tomorrow. Now I am going to depending down this hole.
I am resisting the will, Iâll just date him so he can tell me all about it
Well, tell me when you have learnt it all, Iâll date one of you to learn after that
Thank you for the links!
A bit horrifying that actual research points to plant vision.
the likelihood of triffids grows every higher
So if you have plants in your bathroom, theyâre watching you poop. Neat!
That kind of explains why I canât keep plants alive⌠Iâm traumatizing them so bad they want death.
For 90% of people itâs watering issues. Mostly overwatering.
But wouldnât they be, like, âyum, fertilizer!â?
their loss king
What? That chick is gonna miss out. What dating app was she using?
Plantnet.
Adding a personals section could provide funding for years.
I like lemmy memes
This gives me the creepy shivers
Iâd eat it in a salad, then morph my life away!
Hupf@feddit.de â¨1⊠â¨year⊠ago
Relevant xkcds:
xkcd.com/928/
xkcd.com/1259/
TopRamenBinLaden@sh.itjust.works â¨1⊠â¨year⊠ago
That second one is beautiful.