Submitted 7 hours ago by 
Sunshine@piefed.ca to ask@piefed.social
More people want to join the trend of going cold tofu with Facebook, but are unsure of the best way to go about it.
Many, men’s years ago, I was thinking about leaving Facebook. I made the decision, and I posted telling all my friends that I was leaving and that they could hit me up for my direct contact info if they wanted.
Not one person reached out. That solidified that I didn’t need to be part of that community. Deleted my account and didn’t look back.
Same thing for me but on discord. I thought I had built relationships that crossed the barrier of the medium, but they were superficial. Turned out to be a boon, huge weight off my mind and I’m doing more in-person events now.
i downloaded my data, erased it and logged out. it’s prolly still up there somewhere, but it hasn’t been touched by me in years.
ig too. i was posting some shit occasionally but realized that i never looked at anyone else’s shit. so unjust stopped posting there too. it was so long ago that i’ve never seen a reel.
It helps to have a real life that you’re living. Being preoccupied with what’s in front of you keeps you from being occupied with how it could be captured and preserved in a post.
Then you gotta avoid the 2 big excuses:
“I use marketplace”
“This is the only way to keep up with grandma”
Those are false, just always remember that those are lies to enable us to get back to the peepshow. Anything else that was on facebook you already knew how to do and were doing it before you started your account
Sunshine@piefed.ca 3 hours ago Gotta call and message grandma with Signal
Then use Flohmarket to buy/sell second hand stuff
Exactly. Nobody actually buys from facebook, it’s just there to sprinkle some local crackheads and their wares into your feed for entertainment
Bebopalouie@lemmy.ca 4 hours ago About 15yrs or so ago I logged out and never logged back in again. Easy peasy.
Just hit delete. Been free since 2014.
If you just stop, you’ll be fine… Just stop.
Kolanaki@pawb.social 6 hours ago It was easy as a MySpace user; I simply never signed up because everyone I knew was on MySpace.
hanrahan@slrpnk.net 6 hours ago what, is this serious?
jokes aside, 1.
i haven’t used it for so long I forget about it.
I simply stopped using it. It was so much of a cesspool that not using was easy. I don’t have any FOMO. People know how to reach me if they want to.
We all got along just fine before Facebook was a thing, and I have MUCH better conversations on Fosstodon and Lemmy anyway.
schwim@piefed.zip 6 hours ago Immediate family got Signal installed on their phones, if anyone outside of that wants to talk to me, they can send me a text.
Sunshine@piefed.ca 6 hours ago if anyone outside of that wants to talk to me, they can send me a text.
An encrypted RCS text at that as well. Google better be forced to open the RCS protocol to Linux Phones.
Life was fine before social media. I have a fb account only for marketplace. I’ve unfollowed everyone and everything that shows up in my feed, except for flatland bmx videos. This way, when I do go on fb to look for oddities, I am greeted by sweet tricks.
Just leave.
But I’m not sure you can ever fully cut Facebook out of your life. I signed up under a fake name and fake email in 2010 or so, used it for exactly one hour and never touched it again, and somehow I still get updates about people I know delivered to my inbox despite having changed my actual email several times since.
What are you using it for?
I just deleted my account and never looked back.
Sunshine@piefed.ca 5 hours ago To keep in touch with important folks and for attending events.
get their numbers and text them if they’re important.
Some options at various levels:
Individually making good choices is nice, but even better if you can help other people leave it behind.
Back up any data from your profile you want to keep, then delete every single post, message, photo, video, etc. that you posted there, then leave. I don’t trust Fuckerburg to not rifle through the data of accounts that have been deleted or closed.
EntheoNaut@lemmy.ml 7 hours ago Been off all Meta since 2020
Don’t even understand the query..
Ya just leave. Walk the fuck away.
I just stopped using it is all. This was years ago now but after over a decade on it. Uninstall the stupid apps and you wont want to use the website I promise.
People figure it out one way or another once you havent been on for months. If you need to stay in touch just get their phone number.
zeppo@lemmy.world 7 hours ago I eventually got disgusted enough with the way the site works that I stopped going. Told anyone who messaged me there to contact me elsewhere (even instagram sucks less). It’s like quitting smoking: the way to do it is to not smoke a cigarette.
Sunshine@piefed.ca 7 hours ago I think the multi-prong approach is by switching to Mastodon, Signal groups and Friendica.
I logged out and never logged back in. My wife informs me if something important is happening in her family, but my family isn’t big on Facebook anyway so I’m not missing anything.
zeppo@lemmy.world 7 hours ago Facebook became useless for that for me, anyway. One of the last straws was they’d show me endless irritating political bullshit, then I manually checked profiles of people I actually knew in person and cared about and found I had a missed a TON of updates about their lives I would have been interested in. Their algorithm is not only incompetent but abusive.
I’ve not used it for years but have whatsapp and insta, like anything else just leave and the world will not implode.
Little point in fleeing Facebook if one likes it and they are just gonna feed Meta via whatsapp or insta anyway imo.
Sunshine@piefed.ca 7 hours ago Any luck with transitioning to Signal and Pixelfed?
Nah, for keeping in contact with family, friends, work and more meta makes things easy and seems the default.
Have considered getting Facebook back after a decade or so away as it still seems rather useful for interacting with local businesses & certain groups……and Whatsapp seems far more invasive anyway.
Steve@startrek.website 1 hour ago
Buy a ticket to Florida because they dont ask questions