To me it's so so. They either texted, we had a conversation and ended up on a date the next week, or they sent a message, i answered, waited for a week to get a "lol".
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junderwood@lemmy.world 5 months ago
One thing I’ll say about the old model was that out of all the dating apps, Bumble was the only one where every woman who I met or even just messaged with could hold a conversation. That one requirement of them reaching out first set the bar, and I knew they were making the choice to speak to me out of all the other guys they were drowning in. I ended up with more dates through Bumble than any other app, and even made great friends with some people I didn’t romantically click with. Online dating is awful, or was for me, but Bumble was the least awful one of the bunch. The new model sounds not so great.
BruceTwarzen@kbin.social 5 months ago
eee@lemm.ee 5 months ago
really? I haven’t used Bumble myself but I’ve heard stories of guys with inboxes full of women just saying “hi”
MentalEdge@sopuli.xyz 5 months ago
Bots. Bots everywhere.
Omodi@lemmy.world 5 months ago
In my experience all the women do start with hi however 100% of them engaged with the conversation after that. It felt much better then getting a bunch of matches but most of them ignoring you(understandably).
captain_aggravated@sh.itjust.works 5 months ago
The story I heard was 9/10ths of the women on the platform had “I don’t message first, you message me first” in their bio, so it was functionally a display case for morons.
CybranM@feddit.nu 5 months ago
Basically my experience
Plopp@lemmy.world 5 months ago
Look at Fabio over here.
whoreticulture@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 months ago
Women hold conversations on every app? This feels like an extremely misogynistic take. I’ve literally never had a problem with women not being able to hold a conversation, like, some do and some don’t. It’s just an app and you aren’t entitled to people’s time.
Plopp@lemmy.world 5 months ago
whoreticulture@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 months ago
Have fun complaining about women for not responding to your almost-certaintly rancid-ass vibes lmao
Plopp@lemmy.world 5 months ago
barsoap@lemm.ee 5 months ago
I presume you regard what you just did as “holding a conservation”?
VirtualOdour@sh.itjust.works 5 months ago
Ha big doenvotes from the incel faction.
It’s always so funny when people push these obvious self tells, like yeah you’re not going to be a good match with everyone so a lot of conversations die but as soon as someone starts blaming an entire gender for not being able to hold a conversation its a pretty clear sign they’re the problem.
whoreticulture@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 months ago
YUP. So much defensiveness and bitterness in this thread. Of course, they’re not the problem it’s Women.
eskimofry@lemmy.world 5 months ago
Men learn jokes and pickup lines to impress girls
You: That’s mysogynistic
Women have to do the same
You: That’s mysogynistic
VirtualOdour@sh.itjust.works 5 months ago
Pickup lines are worse than just saying hey, like wow you copy pasted a cliche from a Google search! What is she supposed to do with that? How is that a conversation?
whoreticulture@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 months ago
You know I’ve never, or at least very rarely, have used pick up lines or jokes to initiate conversations on dating apps and it’s been fine? It’s kind of the worst way to start an actual conversation IMHO but you do you. I never once mentioned jokes or pick up lines and it’s weird you brought it up lol
birdcannon@lemmy.world 5 months ago
I met my fiancée on Bumble 4 years ago, but I also created this from my experience on the app:
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baggins@lemmy.ca 5 months ago
Sorry to embarrass you OP but it’s actually spelled “hay”. Hey is an informal greeting.
birdcannon@lemmy.world 5 months ago
No, it’s for horses 🐴
boatsnhos931@lemmy.world 5 months ago
Haaaayyy gurrlll
ElderWendigo@sh.itjust.works 5 months ago
That’s the joke?
King3d@lemmy.world 5 months ago
Which of those girls is your fiancée?
birdcannon@lemmy.world 5 months ago
Not pictured; she spared herself the shame by having an actually good opener that referenced something in my bio
Zess@lemmy.world 5 months ago
This says way more about you than it does about the women on the app.