Gloomy
@Gloomy@mander.xyz
- Comment on The Elder God 3 days ago:
Edit: added The
Come on, don’t leave us hanging here. What did you add???
- Comment on The curse of Toumaï: an ancient skull, a disputed femur and a bitter feud over humanity’s origins 1 week ago:
Reals cool read, thanks for sharing.
- Comment on US | Minnesota Democratic lawmaker shot dead, another wounded in 'politically motivated' attacks 1 week ago:
America is moving closer and closer to a civil war by the day.
- Comment on do you think freewill truly exists? 3 weeks ago:
Thanks. That’s actually one of my own words, but you can use it all you want if you wish to do so.
- Comment on do you think freewill truly exists? 3 weeks ago:
My steppairents are like this and beeing them, at a meal table and have nobody say anything for 20 Minutes is so fucking wired. I am getting used to it, but it’s still off as fuck.
- Comment on Rule 34 rule 4 weeks ago:
So yeah, complex issue. Thanks for your valuable contribution.
On the contrary, I was happy to engage with a position that wasn’t along the lines of “all pedophiles should commit suicide”.
It is, as you say, a complex issue. That complexity and any nuance is usually absent of discussions about the topic on the Internet. Thanks for adding it here.
- Comment on Rule 34 rule 4 weeks ago:
Do you have any real-world or professional experience with people suffering from pedophilia?
I have been schooled on pedophilia in a professional context, during my undergrad and in a work-context. Yet I have not worked wotj pedophiles directly, nor have I had any contact to one, that I would be aware of.
Looking at science both of our positions are reflected. As with so many things the answer is not a simple “yes” or “no”.
If you want to take a bit of a deep dive, I recoment this study from 2023.
It looked at both of our positions: FSM (Fantasy Sexual Material) leads to real sexual violence against children vs. FSM reduces the risk of said practice.
Here is their summary of my position (FSM leads to sexual violence against children):
When applying the motivation-facilitation model to the context of FSM use, it can be theorized as to why, for a subset of users, engaging with such material could become problematic and increase the likelihood of committing a child sexual offense (whether that be offline or online), while for others this is not the case. As pedohebephilia is thought to be a motivating factor towards sexual offending in Seto’s model [21], engaging with FSM relating to children could heighten sexual arousal and therefore act as a facilitator to increase offending likelihood. With abstinence from masturbation being self-reported as a risk-management technique by some people who are attracted to children [16], this is a recognized idea by some members of the community. Over time, engaging in CSEM (especially forms such as child-like sex dolls, which offer a more realistic sexual experience) may contribute to the development of offence-supportive beliefs and the adoption of implicit theories about the acceptability of engaging in sexual activity with children (or child-like targets). The combination of enhanced sexual arousal to children (a potential motivator of offending), coupled with the development of permission-giving beliefs (facilitators of offending), may subsequently increase the risk of abuse being committed by somebody with attractions to children.
Here they are summarising your position, as I understand it (FSM helps to prevent sexual child abuse):
Alternatively, FSM use could be seen as beneficial by the motivation-facilitation model and instead reduce the likelihood of offending. Rather than heightening arousal, FSM could act as a safe sexual outlet that allows for a feeling of release and sense of catharsis [84], which could reduce a motivation to seek out real children as a sexual partner. Engaging with FSM also avoids the problematic suppression of sexual interests, with such suppression being linked to increases in self-perceived risks for offending among those with attractions to children [15]. In contrast to Stevens and Wood [16], Houtepen and colleagues reported that engagement in masturbatory fantasies was a common coping mechanism used by some people experiencing attractions to children, avoiding the need to access CSEM due to an alternative outlet being identified [3•].
They conclude that more research is needed:
Given the present lack of understanding of FSM and how they are used, it is important to identify the factors associated with use and whether they are risk-enhancing or risk-reducing (i.e., protective). This knowledge could be beneficial to clinicians in the search for more effective methods to support people who are attracted to children when they are seeking help to manage their sexual interests. Nonetheless, Seto’s motivation-facilitation model provides a theoretical framework for thinking about this topic in a more nuanced way [21].
So, there we are. A long post to say maybe.
I suppose both of our positions might be viable and it can’t be said yet, under what circumstances each one of us might be right.
- Comment on Catchiest video game song? 4 weeks ago:
My brain defaults to this if I fell the need to fill silence with sound. It’s like it’s implanted into my Brian as the “default” song.
- Comment on Rule 34 rule 4 weeks ago:
Because your not trying to fulfill the wish to murder a person by substituting it to computer character.
At least some mass murderers and school shooters have played violent games in order to fulfill their violent phantasies, couldn’t do so in a long term and murdered real people instead.
Same goes with pedophiles. They want to fuck a child, use fictional characters to fulfill the phanstasy, get used to it and then escalate to pictures of real children and eventually real children.
The “video games cause violence” argument is wrong, because the cast majority of gamers don’t try to use games as a substitute action for violent behaviour.
- Comment on What's yours? 5 weeks ago:
Nightwalker Gloomy
I think I just died of cringe.
- Comment on What's the worst spelling you've seen? 5 weeks ago:
Fair enoth I guess, it’s not the same.
- Comment on What's the worst spelling you've seen? 5 weeks ago:
Seems to be an urban legend tough. Also racist.
- Comment on What's the worst spelling you've seen? 5 weeks ago:
I know plenty of women that carry an old school second name because there grandmother’s names are passed down. Like Elisabeth, or Rose or the like.
- Comment on Steam Deck / Gaming News #15 1 month ago:
Gothic was one of the games of my youth. I am realy looking forward to the remake, thanka for bringing it up.
Recently I have been playing Valheim with my wife again. After a year of more or less non stop caring for the twins we have finally arrived at the point were we can game again together and it makes for even shorter nights but is such a treat to have that back. We used to game and hike a lot together before the children were there. Looking forward to go on long hikes again too, but for now a shared boat ride into the mistlands will do just fine.
- Comment on America is fucked 2 months ago:
It do you know what their mum says about them?
- Comment on It's a sin in Christianity to consume media based on ancient mythology and folklore? 2 months ago:
If you have the time, I heavily recommend Center Place as a great source for Christians and Atheists alike who wish to learn about schoolary views on Christianity.
It’s like a free seminar lecture. Here is one about Plato and Christianity:
- Comment on It's a sin in Christianity to consume media based on ancient mythology and folklore? 2 months ago:
Nice guidelines, I like them. Satanism?
“Ours” are a bit more complex and long winded but have quite a few paralells:
I’ll copy paste them from here.
Right Speech
Right speech means abstention (1) from telling lies, (2) from backbiting and slander and talk that may bring about hatred, enmity, disunity, and disharmony among individuals or groups of people, (3) from harsh, rude, impolite, malicious, and abusive language, and (4) from idle, useless, and foolish babble and gossip. When one abstains from these forms of wrong and harmful speech one naturally has to speak the truth, has to use words that are friendly and benevolent, pleasant and gentle, meaningful, and useful. One should not speak carelessly: speech should be at the right time and place. If one cannot say something useful, one should keep “noble silence.”
Right Action
Right action aims at promoting moral, honorable, and peaceful conduct. It admonishes us that we should abstain from destroying life, from stealing, from dishonest dealings, from illegitimate sexual intercourse, and that we should also help others to lead a peaceful and honorable life in the right way.
Right Livelihood
Right livelihood means that one should abstain from making one’s living through a profession that brings harm to others, such as trading in arms and lethal weapons, intoxicating drinks or poisons, killing animals, cheating, etc., and should live by a profession which is honorable, blameless, and innocent of harm to others. One can clearly see here that Buddhism is strongly opposed to any kind of war, when it lays down that trade in arms and lethal weapons is an evil and unjust means of livelihood.
These three factors (right speech, right action, and right livelihood) of the eightfold path constitute ethical conduct. It should be realized that the Buddhist ethical and moral conduct aims at promoting a happy and harmonious life both for the individual and for society. This moral conduct is considered as the indispensable foundation for all higher spiritual attainments. No spiritual development is possible without this moral basis.
Mental Discipline
Next comes mental discipline, in which are included three other factors of the eightfold path: namely, right effort, right mindfulness, and right concentration. (Nos. 6, 7 and 8 in the list).
Right Effort
Right effort is the energetic will (1) to prevent evil and unwholesome states of mind from arising, and (2) to get rid of such evil and unwholesome states that have already arisen within a man, and also (3) to produce, to cause to arise, good, and wholesome states of mind not yet arisen, and (4) to develop and bring to perfection the good and wholesome states of mind already present in a man.
Right Mindfulness
Right mindfulness is to be diligently aware, mindful, and attentive with regard to (1) the activities of the body (kaya), (2) sensations or feelings (vedana), (3) the activities of the mind (citta) and (4) ideas, thoughts, conceptions, and things (dhamma).
The practice of concentration on breathing (anapanasati) is one of the well-known exercises, connected with the body, for mental development. There are several other ways of developing attentiveness in relation to the body as modes of meditation.
With regard to sensations and feelings, one should be clearly aware of all forms of feelings and sensations, pleasant, unpleasant and neutral, of how they appear and disappear within oneself. Concerning the activities of mind, one should be aware whether one’s mind is lustful or not, given to hatred or not, deluded or not, distracted or concentrated, etc. In this way one should be aware of all movements of mind, how they arise and disappear.
As regards ideas, thoughts, conceptions and things, one should know their nature, how they appear and disappear, how they are developed, how they are suppressed, destroyed, and so on.
These four forms of mental culture or meditation are treated in detail in the Satipatthana Sutta (Setting-up of Mindfulness).
Right Concentration
The third and last factor of mental discipline is right concentration, leading to the four stages of Dhyana, generally called trance or recueillement. In the first stage of Dhyana, passionate desires and certain unwholesome thoughts like sensuous lust, ill-will, languor, worry, restlessness, and skeptical doubt are discarded, and feelings of joy and happiness are maintained, along with certain mental activities. Then, in the second stage, all intellectual activities are suppressed, tranquillity, and “one-pointedness” of mind developed, and the feelings of joy and happiness are still retained. In the third stage, the feeling of joy, which is an active sensation, also disappears, while the disposition of happiness still remains in addition to mindful equanimity. Finally, in the fourth stage of Dhyana, all sensations, even of happiness and unhappiness, of joy and sorrow, disappear, only pure equanimity and awareness remaining.
Thus the mind is trained and disciplined and developed through right effort, right mindfulness, and right concentration.
Wisdom
The remaining two factors, namely right thought and right understanding, constitute wisdom in the noble eightfold path.
Right Thought
Right thought denotes the thoughts of selfless renunciation or detachment, thoughts of love and thoughts of non-violence, which are extended to all beings. It is very interesting and important to note here that thoughts of selfless detachment, love and non-violence are grouped on the side of wisdom. This clearly shows that true wisdom is endowed with these noble qualities, and that all thoughts of selfish desire, ill-will, hatred, and violence are the result of a lack of wisdom in all spheres of life whether individual, social, or political.
Right Understanding
Right understanding is the understanding of things as they are, and it is the four noble truths that explain things as they really are. Right understanding therefore is ultimately reduced to the understanding of the four noble truths. This understanding is the highest wisdom which sees the Ultimate Reality. According to Buddhism there are two sorts of understanding. What we generally call “understanding” is knowledge, an accumulated memory, an intellectual grasping of a subject according to certain given data. This is called “knowing accordingly” (anubodha). It is not very deep. Real deep understanding or “penetration” (pativedha) is seeing a thing in its true nature, without name and label. This penetration is possible only when the mind is free from all impurities and is fully developed through meditation.
From this brief account of the noble eightfold path, one may see that it is a way of life to be followed, practiced and developed by each individual. It is self-discipline in body, word, and mind, self-development, and self-purification. It has nothing to do with belief, prayer, worship, or ceremony. In that sense, it has nothing which may popularly be called “religious.” It is a Path leading to the realization of Ultimate Reality, to complete freedom, happiness, and peace through moral, spiritual, and intellectual perfection.
- Comment on Are most people here left-wing? 2 months ago:
Same logic applied to something the right does:
“We are not banning books, we are just not allowing them in libraries and schools. You can always buy them if you feel the need to expose your child to them.”
So, following your logic, the right isn’t suppressing information about LGTBQI+ people.
Dont get me wrong please, I don’t think right wing content should stand unchallenged. I am just not a big fan of only allowing the “correct” information. Because, that is what the right is doing already (while screaming about free speach, mind you). I think it’s better to engage with right content and destroy it with arguments, rather then just banning it. I know I’m a minority with that opinion on Lemmy. I’m fine with that.
- Comment on Are most people here left-wing? 2 months ago:
I would argue that censorship includes the suppression of information in its definition, not only it’s removal.
- Comment on Are most people here left-wing? 2 months ago:
I’m going to play devil’s advocate and ask: How is it not censorship?
- Comment on 'An Insult To Life Itself': Hayao Miyazaki’s AI Criticism Resurfaces As OpenAI’s Ghibli-Style Image Trend Takes Over Social Media 2 months ago:
She is still a human beeing that deserves not to be made fun of like this.
- Comment on AI Programming Assistant Tells User to Stop Being Lazy and Learn to Code 2 months ago:
So going trough this the reason the AI replied like it did is because the user used a feature called “quick question” that can only respond with text and not code. (It’s the last answer marked as “solution” in the linked thread.
Still funny tough.
- Comment on I’m new to Lemmy 2 months ago:
Not Safe For Work, mostly nudity, sometimes violence.
I don’t know where you are doing the switching on or off part.
I do this over my app (Boost), where I have to turn it on (show NSFW content) to see it.
- Comment on Enshittification 2 months ago:
Fuck. Like, I need a new vehicle, yet my dad has a 2022 truck that already needs a new transmission. I already put 8k in my 2007 vehicle to keep it running, but I can’t do it anymore. Are there any fucking newer cars that just fucking run?
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- Comment on Late 1900s 2 months ago:
I study social study and frequently use papers that are referring to Karl Marx. Or feminist literature from the 70s. Or black literature from the 60s.
- Comment on frenly warnin 3 months ago:
Whoooosh
- Comment on Reddit will warn users who repeatedly upvote banned content 3 months ago:
Wait, did the banning of the Donald rigger an migration event?? From whom and why??
I joined during the API season. Never looked back.
- Comment on 1987 3 months ago:
In Europe it would have been a thing because of Tschernobyl blowing radioactivity across the land for a while.
- Comment on Far to many people think that Jesus from the Bible was light skinned, even though he grew up in what we call the Middle East. 4 months ago:
So Jesus called gentiles dogs and only healed the daughter after her mother crawled in the dust? Not very loving, which is what OP pointed out. The two added verses don’t change that.
Also, he admits here that he is there for the lost Sheep of Israel.
I always find it funny how Christians rally around a guy who called them dogs and made it clear he doesn’t care about them, just because a random dude (Paul) had “visions” of Jesus 30 years after his death and from there on pretended that gentiles were part of the ingoup. While contradicting Jesus as well if the church of Jesus actual fucking brother on this very issue.
It’s just wild.
- Comment on Far to many people think that Jesus from the Bible was light skinned, even though he grew up in what we call the Middle East. 4 months ago:
David was not a historical figure tough.