last_philosopher

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• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I wonder if the spice girls still get along or if that "friendship never ends" thing was just a lie.⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago⁩:

  I mean the other lyrics really do back it:

  So here’s a story from A to Z You wanna get with me, you gotta listen carefully
  We got Em in the place who likes it in your face
  We got G like MC who likes it on an—
  Easy V doesn’t come for free, she’s a real lady
  And as for me, ha-ha, you’ll see

  Basically they’re walking you through what you gotta do to please each one of them. Baby wants the lingus, Ginger and Scary by contrast like to give oral, Posh of course want you to buy her expensive stuff first, and only then do you prove yourself worthy of Sporty.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I swiped almost everything right

  Don’t do this, if this is an input into your app’s algorithm at all it’ll assume you’re ugly and desperate and not show you to anyone. Only swipe on people you’d be at least potentially excited to meet and that could actually work out (e.g. don’t swipe right on someone who’s profile says “I want a man of god” if you’re a hardcore atheist). I shifted to this strategy on hinge and it made a noticeable difference in the number and quality of matches.

  Think about it - if you only swipe right on good matches, they’ll see you and be more likely to swipe right on you. And don’t worry about how their level of attractiveness plays into this, because it’ll be weighted for that.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  As a massive introvert it’s pretty much the only way I meet anybody. I could write a multi-volume treatise on why people hate online dating and how it points to them doing it wrong in some way. But I’ll spare you.

  Just have low expectations - a lot of people treat those they meet on the app as relatively disposable compared to someone they met in real life. So if someone ghosts you or just disappears from the app without a word, it’s definitely impolite but not uncommon. Don’t take it personally (even though my friends tend to take it personally when it happens to them).

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Tesla Robotaxi Freaks Out and Drives into Oncoming Traffic on First Day⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  At least it’s not driving straight into a tree, I call that an improvement.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What's the best way to respond to a family member who says the COVID vaccines are being used to depopulate?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  A lot of people are saying cut them off, but I have a family member who was into the anti-vax conspiracy theories and kinda still is, but it’s much less of a focus now and is pretty obviously just being carried forward by cognitive dissonance at this point. There will never be total victory, but there can be a reasonable truce.

  What I’d suggest is the most counter-intuitive strategy - show genuine interest. Say “Ok, I want to know more, but I need you to be specific. Tell me what your theory is and what the evidence is, I’ll take my time looking at it, and respond in detail.”

  Keep in mind, they probably won’t pay attention to whatever your respond with. That’s ok. The response isn’t the point, pinning them down on what they think is. So often these things are purely emotional, and forcing them into a logical framework will make them do the work for you. As for the response, odds are it’s some combination of cherry-picked data and spurious correlations, if not outright made up facts.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Voting in the threadiverse⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  The problem then is that by responding, you’re engaging with it which typically helps it spread in the algorithm. Ideally there’s should be multiple downvote options - maybe separate it out as “misinformation” or “bad opinion” or something. Removing downvotes and banning users who disagree is the typical cult strategy (recall the classic cult sub, r/thedonald). If you’re worried about downvotes being used to silence people, maybe another way to mitigate that would be a “sort by downvoted” option.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Voting in the threadiverse⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Do you think vote sould be private ? Public ? And why ? Public. Lots of downvotes is information that could indicate that the commenter is lying, or just saying something unpopular. But either way, it’s information.

  Are you sastified with the current voting system ? And why ? No. I agree that the slashdot method with more than just upvote/downvote is better. In a perfect world I imagine we could have every emoji be a reaction option, and then you could sort by putting an emoji in a bar at the top. In reality I imagine this would be a challenge from a backend perspective, but maybe like the top 5 or 10 emoji reactions could be an option for selection.

  What other interesting software/website that tried something different do you know ? I’ll do the opposite and say - please do not remove downvotes like Twitter/Bluesky/mastodon etc. Downvotes are super important. People need to be able to boo, the only place people aren’t allowed to boo are in church or at cult rallies.

  What way do you imagine to highlight content and improve search, discoverability ? Remove all as a forced/default option on the main page. Back in the day before reddit had r/all, communities were much more diverse and niche, and this helped separate communities flourish in their own way. When r/all was added, the content started to resemble twitter, if not just becoming screenshots of twitter, on just about every sub.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Study: Remote working benefits fathers while childless men miss sense of community⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  For me WFH has helped me have a community. The office was never a real community, and the fact that we all worked together got in the way of being actual friends. Instead with the added time from WFH I was able to prioritize my social life and go to more events and meet people I actually have stuff in common with.

  Of course probably not everyone prioritized that. The office might be good for some people, but for people like me who don’t necessarily socialize at the office very easily WFH is much better for community.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What's the best way to respond to someone who says "transracial is just as valid as transgender"?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  The correct response is to consider what the correct way to synthesize the positions is, and go with that. There’s nothing wrong with thinking a little in response to a question.

  Typically, the assumption is that this is an argument that transgender is invalid. Perhaps there’s another way of looking at it.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Amazon is reportedly training humanoid robots to deliver packages⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Let’s count the problems:

  1. Up front cost
  2. Maintenance cost
  3. Varied problems like different types of stairs, tripping hazards, etc.
  4. People attacking or stealing robots and their packages.
  5. Safety issues with 100+ pound metal robots falling on pets and children

  Any others?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I just want to point out something that I’ve not seen others mention - sometimes girls are just way too paranoid about what their families will think. I know one girl who keeps insisting that her parents wouldn’t let her date a black guy, but then she also admits that she dated a hispanic guy before and thought the same thing but her parents loved him. Honestly I think like 70% of girls imagine that their parents wouldn’t accept some huge swath of men due to some superficial characteristic, but probably in reality only maybe 20% of parents would actually be against their daughter dating a guy who treats her well, even if he’s of a type they dislike.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Who did this 😂😂😂⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Let’s be real - we always assumed that we could hear our parents walking in but there’s no way they didn’t sneak up and check what we were watching once in a while

• Although modern horoscopes typically consist of life advice, it's almost certainly terrible advice because it was written by someone who failed at legitimate or useful employment.
  Submitted ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩ to ⁨showerthoughts@lemmy.world⁩ | ⁨14⁩ ⁨comments⁩
• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How strong is fermented bean curd supposed to taste exactly?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Yup I was going to treat it like eating cubes of tofu

• How strong is fermented bean curd supposed to taste exactly?
  Submitted ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩ to ⁨nostupidquestions@lemmy.world⁩ | ⁨12⁩ ⁨comments⁩
• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨If you are too young you really missed out being able to do this⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  See this is when you would slam the phone

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨If you are too young you really missed out being able to do this⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Someone could make an app that detects a slam and hangs up the phone, then also sell a padded slam-receiver to replicate the experience. Or just use a pillow.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Avocado⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I’d imagine lemmy has among the lowest has-sucked-dick ratios of any potentially mixed-gender community.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Definitions⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  A sword by definition has a “pointed blade” accordingly any object with an infinitely long blade cannot be a sword. Rather, it’s a blade ray.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Social nuke⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  That would require some considerable effort to pull off.

  Something far more plausible: a bug in zoom that reverses the camera and/or microphone button functionality.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What are the ethics behind purchasing a book from an author you don't agree with?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  In most cases, it’s wrong to violate the social contract, especially while benefiting from it. However: the harm done by violating the social contract should be weighed against the harm of not violating it.

  In this case, the harm of violating the social contract is pretty minimal, as copyright law is not a fundamental part of the fabric of society. One can even argue it’s kind of dubious, as something that moneyed interests favor very heavily with no similar moneyed interests favoring a strong public domain.

  The harm of not violating it is not only do you give money to a holocaust denier, you’re giving it to him for denying the holocaust. Even worse, you’re giving him money for being wrong, and so effective at deception that you are compelled to spend money disproving him.

  The whole point of copyright is to encourage useful works and spreading of knowledge and art. In this case the work is not spreading knowledge, but un-knowledge. Irving is exploiting a loophole in copyright law that allows him to work against its very purpose.

  Thus I’d say violating the law is ethical as the benefits far outweigh the costs.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Consciousness

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨YSK how to unclog a toilet⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Be careful with the hot water. A friend cracked his toilet that way.