Nefara

@Nefara@lemmy.world

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I’ve personally only seen kids on leashes in the context I mentioned above, of a large, crowded event where a few bodies moving in the way of your kid will break line of sight entirely. Outdoor festivals, concerts, fairs, amusement parks etc. I have never seen a kid on a leash at a playground or park or bank or grocery store etc. Toddlers are small and if there’s a lot of bodies around it would be VERY easy to lose sight of them. If my kid ran off and broke my line of sight of him in a crowd I absolutely would have a moment of panic. Again, I’m not going to judge other parents for finding solutions to problems that don’t harm the child.

  I got away from my mother at a large event, and left her panicking and organizing other parents to search for me. When they found me she spanked me and yelled at me for running off. It wasn’t the first time and wouldn’t be the last. Obviously hitting me was wrong, but if she had just used a tether it would never have happened.

  Something’s lack of representation in media is not exactly a reliable metric of commonality, if it was, gay people sprang into being in the late 90s.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  It’s normal enough. I saw a couple of kids on wrist leashes just this weekend at a very crowded outdoor event. The kids were probably about 2 and 3. I have a 3 year old as well, and didn’t have him on a leash because he’s responsive to my voice calling him and has decent (for his age) impulse control. I didn’t judge or have negative impressions of those parents. They were present and just trying to enjoy the event with their kids. It’s HIGHLY kid dependent. When I was a toddler, I was the type to just run off in a crowd and I could have saved my mother a lot of grief and panic if she had a leash for me. It’s just another tool available to parents.

  It’s important not to project your feelings as an adult, because you have different assumptions, associations and contexts tied to leashes than a toddler does. Generally, toddlers are taught to have shame or be embarrassed about things, their default sentiment to most things is extremely pragmatic. A toddler on a leash will be focused on the tactile sensation of it on their wrist or body, the effect it has of limiting their movement, and not much else. Think about when you saw those kids on leashes… were they upset about the leash? Were they trying to get out of it? Were they asking their guardians to please take it off? Or were they just kinda being silly kids running around exploring?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Hot sauce is for Dad to protect his food from scavenging by lesser beings⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  My kid was born with a taste for spicy food. When he was about one he used to try to swig the spicy mayo bottle. When he was two he was doing the “more” gesture for more Sriracha on his burrito meat. He’s three now and regularly eats off his Dad’s plate when he has food that makes my nose run. He will probably be snorting Pepper X by his teens.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What is your favorite indie game?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Banished, you can’t get more Indie than just one guy’s passion project.

  I don’t know what it is about that game but it really struck a chord with me and I’ve come back to it over and over. It’s my favorite game to play when I’m sick and can’t do anything. It’s relaxing and peaceful and cozy while also being complex and ruthlessly challenging at the same time, so it’s like spinning plates. Seems easy when you get the hang of it but it can all come crashing down if you make a bad enough mistake. It’s spawned some copy cats, and I’ve tried them, but the original just gets me somehow.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What's the point in getting married?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  This exactly. It’s an easily recognizable legal shortcut to a bunch of systems, rules and privileges that apply to the situation of two people wanting to live their lives together. Doesn’t have to cost much, if anything, and doesn’t have to have anything at all to do with religion or rituals. Can be just two people showing up at the town hall if you want it to be.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨OG Guild Wars sees an all-new Steam concurrency high during its anniversary celebration | Massively Overpowered⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  It’s definitely not Guild Wars 1, but it does still have a “low level cap” in the way that it’s extremely easy to get to max level doing a variety of content, then the vast majority of content is done at that level. You probably reach level 80 within completing about 5%-10% of the total available content, so it’s just a number. The way you “advance” your character is through gear and cosmetics, and there’s an account leveling system called masteries you unlock at 80.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨OG Guild Wars sees an all-new Steam concurrency high during its anniversary celebration | Massively Overpowered⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  As a long time fan and proud GWAMM, honestly it doesn’t need the “classic” treatment. It’s still online, and the last major content patches didn’t change anything significant enough to alter the gameplay in a way that would make people “miss the old days”. They added some end game content and some quality of life improvements and some tools that allowed players to more easily solo content, then left well enough alone. It still has a small core of regular players, and has the event schedule going on auto. I suppose they could do some graphical improvements but it’s still a very good game as it is

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Thought others might want to know too 🤷🏻‍♀️⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Considering how famously hard to kill werewolves are, it would probably have to be a chocolate wrapped in silver and then eaten with the foil on to do any real harm.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Are there any games you don't play as it was intended to be played? If so, what game and how?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  For a while, I played the MMO Guild Wars 2 as a music simulator. It has playable in game musical instruments that you can equip, and play with the number keys. A-G are represented as numbers 1-8 with 9 and 0 swapping an octave lower or higher. Killing monsters? Doing dungeons? Raids and world bosses? Nah I’m just chilling in a beautiful forested cliffside near a waterfall figuring out an arrangement for the Lord of the Rings theme.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Zoomies Cat Racing Demo Gameplay⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Cute idea, but disappointed that it’s just a reskinned car racing game. I read the title and I imagine a “cat scale” racer, running around indoors having to jump sofa arms and climb cat towers or doing an obstacle course in someone’s yard, going under bushes and through kids forts etc. Just realizing now a cat parkour game like Mirror’s Edge would be good silly fun.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Gotye is just someone that we used to know.⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I actually love that everything he does sounds different. There are so many artists that have a specific “sound” and stick to it forever. He’s experimental and adventurous and tries so many things, lot of stuff that’s unique and interesting, and other stuff that’s not for me, but it’s clearly for him. I think it’s a sign of creative joy.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Wheel of Time - for both the book and show fans⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Don’t worry you’ll reread it again 😋

  Part of the pros of it being so long is by the time you’re done you can start over again and it feels fresh hahs.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What do you call your first cousin's child?⁩ ⁨⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Your grandmother’s sister is your grandaunt, and you use grand and great the same way you do for mother/father but with aunt/uncle.

  So I think your fourth cousin twice removed was on the Thresher but someone may correct me.