big list of selfhosted chat apps to meet all your friends on a real "server"

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• I_Has_A_Hat@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  And if all your friends are hyper focused on tech and decentralization and open source software, they should have no problem switching!

  If, on the other hand, you have friends who fall into the rest of the 99.9% of society, they will react like you suggest they replace all their meals with raw potatoes.

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  • frank@lemmy.fraxoweb.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    True, most normies probably don’t even see any issue with Discord’s ID. They’ll just do it when it pops on their screen, and move on with their lives.

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  • iamthetot@piefed.ca ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    I’m moving and my friends can either come along or be left behind.

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  • j_z@feddit.nu ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    It’s a pretty steep hill for most people to make a full on switch like this. I have, for the past year or so just begun suggesting that people download the app (element for example) when the topic of evil tech companies comes up. At least that’s a first step. Then when such a topic comes up next time I ask if they tried it out etc. My hope has been that they would at least know one alternative when stuff like the recent Discord ID thing is happening

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  • NewNewAugustEast@lemmy.zip ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    How did they get to discord in the first place then?

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    • I_Has_A_Hat@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Because, shockingly, Discords use base is not made up of people hyper focused on tech that care about decentralization. It’s mostly people who just want to play video games with their friends.

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• wabasso@lemmy.ca ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  I’m in the process of getting this going in my lab. I appreciate these efforts to find alternatives.

  That being said, can I get some opinions so I can pare down the list?

  Would be great to have E2EE and audio. Video bonus. I don’t think I’ve got much in the way of preferences beyond that.

  My latest leaning is hosting the Matrix protocol.

  Also the only friends I have that would be willing to move off the easy corporate software are tech literate, so I have the option to distribute VPN confs and the like. Has anyone hosted chat over their own VPN, or does that just become a mess because STUN/TURN needs to be “free”?

  (Sorry I’m still learning a lot here)

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  • liquidambar@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    I quite like Nextcloud with Talk (spreed), but it’s a whole cloud suite. Nextcloud is E2EE, and NC Talk does text, voice, and video. The phone apps are nice too. The only problem is connecting more than 2-3 people in a voice/video call can be a bit much, so they recommend a high-performance backend (either a paid service, or annoying to set up yourself). It might be overkill if you don’t also use Nextcloud’s other applications, but I use a lot of them extensively, especially when feed CalDav calendars etc into Home Assistant. Friends making an account on your nextcloud is pretty trivial, even for people who aren’t technical. I use the VM hooked to dedyn io for outside access, and it was all very easy to set up. I’ve had it running for about 6 years now, and only had a problem updating for a while, but it was resolved by the community forums.

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    • Hazematman@lemmy.ca ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      If you use the AIO it comes with the high performance backend already set up afaik.

      I run nextcloud using the official release without the docket AIO image, but you can just run the high performance backend from docker. This is what I do on my nextcloud server. arnowelzel.de/…/nextcloud-talk-high-performance-b…

      It’s pretty straightforward, just run docker container, if you use a reverse proxy much sure the signaling server is properly configured on the reverse proxy and then modify the next cloud settings to point to the self hosted HPB.

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    • wabasso@lemmy.ca ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      This is so great to hear. I’m already using Nextcloud with several of its apps including Talk (what’s with the spreed nomenclature anyway?)

      I thought using Talk for this effort was just quick and dirty until I figure out Matrix, but you’ve helped reassure me it’s legit.

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  • Hudell@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    TURN server doesn’t need to be free, you just need everyone to be able to access it.

    The product I work on in my 9to5 would be perfect for your use case from the technical side of things but sadly the commercial side is a completely different story that makes it not even worth recommending.

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    • wabasso@lemmy.ca ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Thanks so much!

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  • SidewaysHighways@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    snikket is pretty slick. omemo is worrisome though

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    • Neptr@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      OMEMO is better than nothing. Much better than OTR or PGP (looking at you DeltaChat), and the biggest problem seems to be the metadata and old versions used in some clients. The encryption (of message contents) at the very least is decent.

      OMEMO is better than Matrix’s encryption, which the later doesnt offer proper forward secrecy and breaks all the time leaving messages inaccessible.

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• dylanmorgan@slrpnk.net ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Okay, I admit it. I don’t have friends.

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  • possiblylinux127@lemmy.zip ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    We all all friends in my book

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  • irmadlad@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    None that I can’t text, call, or email for sure.

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• Natanox@discuss.tchncs.de ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Good thing there isn’t a filter for “has working voice channels that aren’t a hot mess”, the list would be immediately and fully empty. With the exception of Mumble perhaps, but that one instead doesn’t have any text channels or community features.

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• unexposedhazard@discuss.tchncs.de ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Im confused by this list. It includes the matrix server implementations synapse and continuwuity, but not matrix itself or any of its clients. The only matrix client that could reasonably replace discord is element but its not even there.

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  • EncryptKeeper@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    I think you’re just confused about how Matrix works.

    Synapse is Matrix itself. It is the reference home server implementation.

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  • mik@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Matrix itself isn’t a thing, Matrix is a spec/protocol. Synapse and continuwuity are implementations of the server, with synapse being the “reference implementation.” Client apps like Element (the reference client) would be good to have there, but I’m not sure selfho.st will want to list clients because there is quite a few.

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  • Confetti_Camouflage@pawb.social ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    The whole website and list is dedicated for self hosting solutions. Unless it’s peer to peer, any client apps aren’t really the self host-able part, so it only makes sense to include the server side of the software.

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  • zewm@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Voice your opinion to the author. The contact link is at the bottom of the page.

    selfh.st/contact/

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  • frank@lemmy.fraxoweb.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Synapse is the backend that you install on the server. Element is the client that connect to your backend. Now Matrix has many backends and many clients. Synapse + Element is probably the best fully-featured combo that we have, but also the most complicated.

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• zr0@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  TeamSpeak is unfortunately missing.

  But anyways, I don’t like any of those solutions. That means, I will come up with my own.

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• Cyber@feddit.uk ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Where’s Prosody in the list?

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• corsicanguppy@lemmy.ca ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Short list; no obvious glitch though.

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• InFerNo@lemmy.ml ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Why does virola have a checkmark and all the others don’t?

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  • lascapi@jlai.lu ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    They are partner / sponsor : selfh.st/sponsor/

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