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What is the secret to a happy social-media experience?

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Submitted ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩ by ⁨froghorse@lemm.ee⁩ to ⁨nostupidquestions@lemmy.world⁩

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  • WidowsFavoriteSon@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    Don’t.

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    • infinitevalence@discuss.online ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

      Seconded! Don’t use for profit commercial social media at all.

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    • Prettyblackroses@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

      exactly

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  • steve228uk@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    Turn off all notifications, ignore like counts, post less, and ultimately use it less.

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    • Pechente@feddit.de ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

      In general phone notifications should only be people directly contacting you and stuff like reminders. No group chats (except mentions), social media, games or any crap like that.

      I’m baffled how many notifications people leave on and then they don’t see important stuff or get stressed out by their phone.

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    • Prettyblackroses@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

      Def turn them notifications off lol

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  • Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    For me, deleting Facebook and only subscribing to respectful common interest threads has helped A LOT.

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  • TheSpookiestUser@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    Curate.

    Block liberally. Especially block any community that is focused around making fun of something - even if it’s a thing that deserves scorn, the vibe will grind you down, over time, especially if there are many communities like it. Block users who are assholes, after reporting them if it’s bad enough.

    Subscribe/follow/equivalent-action things you are genuinely interested in; cut out the really general categories unless you actively enjoy browsing that topic. Smaller communities are usually better, if they have enough content to be alive.

    If you have any sort of hobby, try joining a space about it. If it’s too toxic, block it, but if not, it is a good place to destress and perhaps even make friends.

    Curate, it can’t be overstated enough. A lot of sites don’t let you sufficiently curate your feed, and if they don’t, you should leave em.

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  • SpunkyBarnes@geddit.social ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    Don’t take it seriously. Don’t put up with toxicity. Don’t be afraid to do without.

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  • Dick_Justice@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    Don’t do social media with family, friends, or other people you actually know irl.

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    • froghorse@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

      Group chat with family on the other side of the country. Bad idea.

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      • Dick_Justice@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

        I also have a group chat with my family. I wouldn’t call that social media. I’m thinking about actual social media, like Reddit, Facebook, Twitter, et. al, not just texting. Of course I communicate with my family.

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  • flathead@quex.cc ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    I like Lemmy and Mastodon. No ads or manipulative algorithms. Somewhat social and usually polite. Turns out that when you don’t automate the incitement of anger and invective in clever ways that people can actually be pretty civil. Whoda thunk?

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  • ekky43@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    A comic with two illustrations. First illustration is a woman sitting in front of a laptop, smiling. Second illustration is a image of a laptop being closed while making a “click” sound.

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  • hdnsmbt@feddit.de ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    Don’t read the comments. Ever.

    And if you catch yourself reading them, stop.

    And if you catch yourself repl- well, shit.

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    • GuyDudeman@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

      I totally agre… shit.

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      • scarabic@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

        Yeah we fucked up.

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  • Glide@lemmy.ca ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    Being in charge of your social media experience. Any site that decides for you what you see is a fucking trap.

    If you see content other than what you’ve subscribed to/gone looking for, get the fuck out.

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  • richieadler@lemmy.myserv.one ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    Block obnoxious people immediately. Don’t engage, don’t plead, don’t try to convince. Block.

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    • SomeAmateur@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

      Obnoxious people and spammers deserve a block for sure. I think that sometimes people take it too far and block over some minor things

      Imo if you only see things you agree with you are in an echo chamber

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  • EntropicalVacation@midwest.social ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    A feed full of cats.

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  • Starb3an@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    Be happy before you join

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  • shellsharks@infosec.pub ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    Try one with no algorithm. Mastodon is a good start for this. Fill your timeline with what you love.

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  • zombie_kong@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    B.A.M.O

    Block and Move On.

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  • RoyalEngineering@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    Tend your garden. Block who/what you don’t wanna see/hear.

    “Plant” in multiple locations so at least one source won’t go out of season.

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  • AndreyAsimow@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    No ads, respectful mods, non-profit and non-aggressive oriented suggestion algorithm.

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  • Mothra@mander.xyz ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    Don’t add acquaintances to your networks. Only people you know and care about. A good way of telling them apart for me is whether or not I would be happy to have a voice conversation over the phone with said person.

    Most of my social media networks are littered with acquaintances, that’s why I ended up dropping most of them. It’s inevitable for some platforms, like LinkedIn, so I only log like a few minutes a week for housekeeping.

    As for non personal networks, like Lemmy for example, just stay away from toxic communities.I find something upsetting or boring? Unfollow or block, and move on. Collect the wholesome stuff.

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  • reversebananimals@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    Only engage in places where what’s being said is important to the community than who is saying it.

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  • Bluehood380@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    Anonymity

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  • robert235@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    Don’t buy into likes and followers. Don’t make it your primary source for information and entertainment.

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  • match@pawb.social ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    If you’re having a bad time, leave

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  • Vaggumon@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    Don’t be on social media.

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  • jpreston2005@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    i dunno. if you have to put a bunch of effort into making an application NOT cause you distress, then it’s probably best to stop using it. if that limits your ability to keep up with people, well, focus on keeping up with the people you can, and check in with everyone else once in a blue moon. Humans just aren’t capable of maintaining like 20+ friendships. limit it to your close circle/family.

    Dunbars number suggests we can maintain a working knowledge of the relations of ~150 people, but that is NOT the number of people in which we can maintain active friendships/personal relationships. It suggests that we can know of around 150 people, and how they relate to one another.

    all this to say that in my eyes, social media has been built in such a way that it’s not worth the effort of making it psychologically inert.

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  • scarabic@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    I would love to snap my fingers and be divested from Facebook but the sad thing is that it’s my only connection to some people, including elderly relatives who are out of reach physically and whom I can’t retrain to connect with me some other way. Either I can share pics of my kids with these extended family and get the occasional lye from them or there would be nothing.

    BUT. Having made all those excuses for why I won’t delete, I did decide that this app shouldn’t have the ability to beep at me and insert itself into my day. I moved it to the very last page on my phone and turned off all notification capability. Now I look at it when I choose to. It’s still as bad as ever. It showers me with content from a few random people despite me 30-day muting them over and over, and almost never updates me on other people I care about more.

    But it no longer has me on a leash.

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  • LucidDreamer@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    Don’t subscribe to someone who’s trying to sell you something they didn’t make.

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    • froghorse@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

      That sounds a lot like don’t buy any secondhand ideas.

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  • DebatableRaccoon@lemmy.ca ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    No people. Maybe the few you really, really, really like.

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  • Nemo@midwest.social ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago
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