Submitted 4 months ago by whoreticulture@lemmy.world to nostupidquestions@lemmy.world
I am trying to make a decision. curious about your thoughts on my personal situation, and what you think in general. or your own stories if you have anything relevant…
It depends on where your priorities are. For me i would go for cheap\shitty place so long as it was safe enough and i wasn’t going to be robbed all the time. Save the money and then go buy a place you really like when you can afford it better.
so long as it was safe enough and i wasn’t going to be robbed all the time
Want to emphasize this. You end up losing based on stolen goods or physical harm.
Not an issue in either of the areas I am looking at. I’m sure theft happens, but have never heard of it being a particular problem… the cheaper place isn’t in a shittier area, and is still pretty rural.
Renting: cheaper is almost always better.
Purchasing: it can make sense to get the nicest place you can afford, with the expectation that your pay will increase but your mortgage won’t.
I would argue living below your means is always better. Getting a cheap mortgage you can add an extra $100 or $200 a month to for the first five years makes a TREMENDOUS difference in how much interest you pay over the life of the mortgage and how soon you own it. The first five years of a mortgage are so important, all your payments go to interest. I’ve turned all my 30 mortgages into 15-20 year mortgages by over payments and it’s served me extremely well.
Whatever you do don’t spend the limit of what you can afford, you will be struggling constantly.
Cheap yes, shitty no.
Living in a shitty place to me means potentially unsanitary (broken, moldy) or unsafe neighborhood/building. Cheap on the other hand might mean well out in the suburbs or a generally less desirable/boring area. That’s something I feel like a compromise is possible.
Struggle to afford is also a bit of a vague statement. Can you give us an idea? There have been some ratios going around like rent should be max 30% of your income for example, but I don’t really get why you shouldn’t go beyond that if your remaining expenses are manageable.
So before sacrificing safety, I’d rather do a proper budget and check if there’s a chance to safe money elsewhere to make a nice place more affordable.
One is 40% of your income, the other is just plain inconvenient. I think you ought to look at a few more options.
Generally the cheaper place, imo. One big thing to consider is your commute though. The quality of the place itself has some impact on your overall happiness for sure, but length of commute really has a lot more than you’d expect. If the cheaper place is a lot farther away, not only will that eat up time, but you’ll spend extra money on just commuting, which will eat into the amount it actually saves you.
Neither of these sound like good situations to me. Do whichever makes the most sense short term, but keep looking for something better.
Rental market is weird here, especially at my price point. There is another rental that would be $1250/mo, same distance from work and the landlord seemed genuinely very nice. Not sure that price difference is worth a move, but peace of mind from the landlord might be.
Rent a cheap, shitty place
Save the money until you can afford to buy your own home.
Ah, I don’t think I will ever be able to afford a house. My income isn’t likely to increase by much given my career (80k might be my max, 100k is possible in a decade or two or if I get a PhD). Houses average around 800k. Not to mention the risk of fire, in the region, it doesn’t seem like a sound investment for someone at my income.
So for me, my financial goals are about building up retirement fund and being able to afford a better life (my dreams are to pay for fluff/fold laundry because I have ADHD and constantly struggle keeping up, be able to afford to travel without dipping into emergency fund, have my car paid off, be able to afford car repairs without dipping into emergency fund 😭. just basic stability.) I don’t plan on having children, and honestly don’t particularly care about marriage and prefer a lifestyle of a robust community life.
So what good is a house for me? I have read all the financial advice recommending it but … that seems to apply more to people with families, or higher incomes where saving to buy a house requires less sacrifice from daily life. It doesn’t seem like a good use of my money. Scrimping for twenty years, only to still pay off a mortgage for thirty years, and then die.
Sounds like you’re just making excuses for your lack of willpower.
Depends on how cheap. If you are likely to be killed or robbed just from leaving your apartment do not live there. If it’s just run down with a few bugs here and there then that’s doable. You can always spend your extra money making it livable.
Living outside of your means is not worth it. It’s good until the money runs out. Then you don’t have food to eat.
Never more than a third of your income
In many cities, that would mean a 81sqft room in a unit with three roommates in the worst part of town, and having a 45 minute commute to work (each way).
Life’s too short, is what I decided. I could live in almost comfortable conditions and not have any money, or live in miserable conditions and still not have any money.
The room I am looking at is literally that 🥲 81 sq feet and a 55 min commute to work.
My situation:
current place: ($1530) -1:15 drive from work
cheaper place: ($600) -50 min from work -standalone MIL in a shared house, bath/kitchen in main house, 9x9 feet
I make $3780/mo after taxes, budget now feels tight, but not sure if the extra $1000 a month would be worth a smaller/unfinished space. I feel it might be worth it because I could save/invest extra money, or use extra money to make the rental nicer.
I’m failing to see what’s wrong with the cheaper place.
It’s moving from my own place to a shared space, and I have to go outside to another building to use the kitchen or bathroom.
3×3m (which is a bed, the space for the door to open, and maybe a wardrobe but probably not), potential rat problem, can’t go anywhere else than work.
Any extra money you can save (toward a 6 month safety buffer, and then investing for retirement) every single month while living within your means is typically the best option.
Investing $900 per month makes such a gigantic difference for anyone who doesn't have an unlimited budget. That's $10800 per year even before counting interest.
A shared flat is no dream situation, but this sounds like a potentially life changing difference.
how the fuck is you working from home her problem ? In my euro shit country she wouldnt even dare saying something like that
I agree 🤷🏻♂️ she is concerned about me using too much of the well water. Landlords in the US have too much power.
Lets say you sleep for 8 hours a night and work for 8 hours a day. You have 8 hours left. You spend 2:30 commuting. You have 5:30 left. Vs the cheaper place, you have 6:20 left. Almost 1/5th more time in your day. That alone would make me choose it.
Yeah, the commute is a lot. I can wfh 2 days a week, but really I need to be in person for most of my work (as a practical matter, not a requirement from my employer).
Of your available options, I would definitely go with the shared housing. That’s a great deal for your area and for your income. You could actually save/invest money.
And to the people pushing on you because you rent, oh my God what the heck? I hate housing as an investment, we bought a house but it’s so expensive to maintain and the taxes and insurance, having somewhere to live for $600 a month seems like a great deal, take it.
I would hate the hour long commute, personally. Very sensitive to commute time. But if you are already doing it and don’t mind, that’s a separate consideration.
Sharing bathroom and kitchen can be a hassle, but it’s much easier now than later (if you ever decide to start a family.)
You should only even consider the latter if your employment is very secure and you’re a full-on homebody.
Being able to save now means a nicer place later; spending less on housing means more for going out. Get the cheaper place for a little while.
My employment is very secure and, I’m a homebody mostly just because there is nothing nearby for me to do other than nature, and I do nature for work … and I don’t have much money to go out 🥲
Sounds like you’d like to go out. Get a cheaper place and use the difference for adventures!
I think that as long as the bathroom is half-decent I can tolerate the rest. Then again if it’s a nice and renovated place with old and mouldy bathroom it’s an absolute no-no even if the price is good.
The bathroom is nicer than my current one, but it is shared with two other people which would be a change for me.
whichever you pick, you’ll learn what you can and can’t do without. go cheap? learn faster
It greatly depends on what your criteria is for “better”.
For example, historically I’ve put up with a lot in order to save on rent costs. I still am (cheap place with roommates), but I’m getting a little tired of it. I’m actively searching for a good deal on a solo apartment so I don’t have to live with other people anymore, but by the same token I’m not willing to do it unless it’s only a moderate increase in my current rental payment.
Yeah, I have not lived with roommates for the past five years so I’m hesitant to jump in… even for the price cut. It’s undeniably nice.
I lived alone for a year in 2017 and I did not like it. I was in a 3 bedroom house in a small city and it was just too much house and too empty. I’d always lived with someone (family/roommates/girlfriend) before.
Now, I think I’d be better with it, especially in a smaller place.
If the rent exceeds 1 week pay or the quality of life is too poor, the job isn’t worth it and find somewhere else to belong has been my experience.
How is the housing market in the area of the other job? My guess is even if you took a 10k cut, your money would go further if you wanted to buy a house. I assume there are other reasons you’d want to stay in the Bay area, though.
If like now I’m work from home I’d splurge on the place. I’m going to be there forever.
If I’m just working and then going out, then as long as it isn’t roach infested the cheap option.
My advice for car purchases is reverse.
Shitty place. Save money, see what you can live with for 5 years, and then buy a house with your new lower standards.
Honestly, all the “luxury” apartments in my area are super fucking cheap(ly made) and charge out the ass for the word “Luxury”. Best rental experiences I’ve had are from direct owners, or mid size local companies, renting out an established building that isn’t old, but isn’t new, think 70s to early 90s in construction year.
Buying a house is a real paradigm shift. My monthly housing went from 1500 a month to 2500 a month, but at least I’m not throwing money in a hole. Take any money you save renting, and put it towards a house, or invest it, otherwise you are falling behind.
As I keep saying to my partner, the defining line for millennials, between the haves and the have-nots is going to be owning a home. For boomers, it was having a college degree, for Gen X, it was having investments. The best I can hope for is a few thousand ft^2 to call my own.
The luxury apartments are all well out of my price range, anyway … those tend to be $2k.
Housing is way too expensive in my area for it to be a good investment. Another commenter explained below, but housing is so expensive here that it is potentially better to invest money rather than buy a house. To even be able to afford $2500 a month… that’s like $100k salary?? If I did that at my salary, I would stop being able to afford basic necessities … any emergency health/repair funds would be financially catastrophic, and it would not the worth the hit to my quality of life. Not to mention you need like 100k just for a down payment. You see my income… if I took the cheap rental and invested my savings it would still take 10 years to make that, at which point I would be 40 years old and the houses would probably cost even more. I’d have to work until I was 70 with the typical 30 year loan. You must realize that this financial advice is very entitled.
But yes, I agree that investing the money I save through cheaper housing would be a good move.
The millenials I know who own a home all have support from their families, anyone else I know who is even close to being able to afford a house has VA benefits.
2x ~50k salaries. ~13k in down payment+closing costs, and some creative accounting.
But yeah, no amount of sugarcoating is going to sweeten the deal.
Younger millennials/Gen Z are increasingly unlikely to afford a home.
This is exactly why a home is going to be the defining line of the Haves and the Have-nots.
ABCDE@lemmy.world 4 months ago
Live within your means.