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Comment on Woman removed from Delta flight over 'too revealing' clothing, calls for policy change

chemical_cutthroat@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

Oh, I can see the down votes already, but I’ll say it, because I feel like it should be said. Personal freedom shouldn’t encroach on others personal freedom. Not everyone wants to see your tits. I know society jokes about everyone loving boobs, but that isn’t really the case. Join civilized society and do the bare minimum when you are in a crowded and public space. When you force your beliefs, spiritual, sexual, or otherwise on to others, you are actually part of the problem you rail against with your personal expression. No one is telling you to be a different person, just wear something that maintains the modesty that is expected in public spaces.

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Ledivin@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

Personal freedom shouldn’t encroach on others personal freedom. Not everyone wants to see your tits.

…so stop looking? It’s not like she was wearing a see-through shirt, she just wasn’t wearing a bra. Do you think men should be barred from wearing tightish pants because it creates a visible bulge?

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- chemical_cutthroat@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  They should be banned from wearing transparent pants, like her transparent shirt.
  
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  - Son_of_dad@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
    A wet, white underwear is not what she was wearing. A dude wearing basketball shorts was showing more dick than her shirt showed tits, and I see plenty of dudes in basketball shorts on flights
    
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BlitzoTheOisSilent@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
I remember discussing with my (very conservative, Baptist) Aunt at the beach once that movies showing nudity shouldn’t be rated 17+ or Mature because the human body is natural. Violence, however, is not. She remarked that she didn’t want to see nipples in movies, they made her uncomfortable.

I responded asking if she didn’t have any of her own, and then pointed to the literal thousands of men around us, enjoying the beach with their nipples on full display, even up on the boardwalk, with children everywhere.

So, what’s the difference between a woman’s nipples and a man’s? I’d say they’re made of the same parts, look damn near the same, and was even going to give you the benefit of saying a woman’s are attached to breasts while a man’s aren’t, yet, I’ve seen plenty of breasts on men in our ever-growing obese population.

So, again, what’s the difference? What makes a man’s exposed nipples “modest” for society while a woman’s are considered “encroaching on other’s personal freedom,” as you so eloquently put it?

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- chemical_cutthroat@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  That’s the difference between roadkill and a side of beef? You can have two things that are ostensibly the same, but very different culturally. There are cultural practices that one must adhere to to be a member of society. It sucks that you don’t get to choose where you are born, but if you want tits and no guns, I’d say move to Europe. If you want guns and no tits, America is the place to be. If you want both, try Brazil.
  
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  - BlitzoTheOisSilent@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
    
    What’s the difference between roadkill and a side of beef? You can have two things that are ostensibly the same, but very different culturally.
    
    Mmm, one is potentially disease ridden and could kill you since it’s found on the side of the road, while the other is regulated heavily by the government and likely won’t kill you so long as it is cooked properly.
    
    Regardless, neither have anything to do with the fact that a nipple, regardless of gender, does not have the potential to kill you, and the whataboutism is cute but off topic.
    
    So once again, without bringing up things that no one was discussing (like guns, or countries of origin, or in the case of another of your comments, a dick under a pair of transparent and water logged underwear), what is the difference between a man’s nipple and a woman’s? Because you’ve yet to answer my, or anyone’s, question.
    
    Men, hands down, are the more violent and aggressive of a species, and make many people uncomfortable to be around. Do we get to ban men from public spaces because they are encroaching on the personal freedoms of those who are made uncomfortable by them? Or are you just going to respond that those who are uncomfortable around an entire gender need therapy or professional help? Or should they just uproot their entire lives, as you seem to suggest, and move to a country with no men? Oh, they don’t exist? Funny, since the vast majority of people have nipples, and last I checked, a nipple has never raped or killed anyone.
    
    Since you seem to like to take arguments to the extreme or compare them to things like unregulated and regulated meat, what’s your take on that?
    
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    chemical_cutthroat@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
    
    Regardless, neither have anything to do with the fact that a nipple, regardless of gender, does not have the potential to kill you, and the whataboutism is cute but off topic.
    
    That wasn’t “whataboutism”, I was comparing two things that are the same, but are viewed differently by society. Your bad faith arguments just won’t let you admit to it, but let’s continue.
    
    what is the difference between a man’s nipple and a woman’s? Because you’ve yet to answer my, or anyone’s, question.
    
    I haven’t because you make the argument in bad faith. You know that I know the difference, I know that you know the difference, but no matter what I say, you’ll tell me that I’m wrong. However, for the sake of answering your question, sure, I’ll tell you.
    
    Biologically: Both sexes have nipples because early in the womb we were all the same gender before we got the ol’ switcharoo that we were born with. Nipples were formed before your dick/vagina, and they stuck around afterwards instead of falling off. In the female of mammalian species, the female nipple facilitates breast feeding.
    
    Sexually: In many societies and cultures, the female nipple is viewed as an object of sexual desire (see: every ratings board, ever), and thus, is typically obstructed from view based on the cultural in which the woman is present. Even in places where it is completely legal for women to walk around topless (like where I live) it is still culturally appropriate to wear something that covers them. The easiest way to give an example that offers a repeatable outcome is to post two pictures in this thread, one of a male chest, and the other of a female, both nude. The female will get removed by the automod.
    
    Men, hands down, are the more violent and aggressive of a species, and make many people uncomfortable to be around. Do we get to ban men from public spaces because they are encroaching on the personal freedoms of those who are made uncomfortable by them?
    
    There are laws for that, yes, though they are not targeted directly at men, they affect them disproportionately. Some examples being loud, rowdy men at a bar are seen as a nuisance, where as loud, rowdy women are just having a girls night out. I’m not saying there is a real difference, but culturally, that is how it is seen a lot of the time. I can give many, many more examples, but I’m not going to waste my time on a battle of the sexes.
    
    Or are you just going to respond that those who are uncomfortable around an entire gender need therapy or professional help?
    
    Nope.
    
    Or should they just uproot their entire lives, as you seem to suggest, and move to a country with no men? Oh, they don’t exist? Funny, since the vast majority of people have nipples, and last I checked, a nipple has never raped or killed anyone.
    
    I think you had a point when you started that thought, but it got lost somewhere along the way, and now it makes no sense. Sorry, I can’t find a way to respond to it.
    
    Since you seem to like to take arguments to the extreme or compare them to things like unregulated and regulated meat, what’s your take on that?
    
    Take on what? Sex and violence? I don’t need to make the argument on difference there. There are many cultures that have a different view of the two than the American view.
    
    Either way, I’m done with these arguments. All of you, and truly, I mean all of you have been making bad faith arguments simply to virtue signal. Not a single person here has made a good argument as to why a woman with her tits showing through her shirt should have been allowed on a family flight where she was showing more than could be shown on network television. Call her persecutors prudes or whatever, but rules are rules, and if you don’t like them, you try to change them. Admittedly, that is what she seems to be doing, but in the most narcissistic way possible, which doesn’t really help her case.
    
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someguy3@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
You can’t see her tits.

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- chemical_cutthroat@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  In the selfie she took after she covered up and was allowed to fly? Yeah, that’s the point. Before that she was wearing a mesh rave shirt and no bra.
  
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  - someguy3@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
    Source?
    
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    chemical_cutthroat@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
    The picture she posted. If you look at the shirt under the jacket you can see that it is a mesh shirt that you can see any douchebag in a club wearing. You can clearly see her torso through it, and if she has taken the picture from a different perspective and without the jacket, her tits would clearly be visible.
    
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frickineh@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
I’m actually with you. I find nudity suuuper uncomfortable, no matter who it is, and I avoid situations where I’m likely to run across it. Like, I’m queer and I generally skip Pride even though it bums me out, because I know there will be all kinds of skin on display. Someone wearing a transparent shirt (regardless of gender, in my case) on a plane would be an issue. It’s not the lack of bra, it’s that the shirt doesn’t really cover anything. I don’t think it’s crazy to say that I don’t want to see anyone’s tits on a flight.

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- chemical_cutthroat@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  Thanks for being reasonable and realizing that everyone is different.
  
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- BlitzoTheOisSilent@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  People make the same arguments about non-binary people, you realize that, right? And trans people, and public displays of affection by members of the LGBTQ+ community as a whole.
  
  So by your logic, you’d be completely fine being removed from a flight because someone else, who you aren’t even interacting with, finds your presence uncomfortable?
  
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  - frickineh@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
    I’m sorry, are you comparing nudity to people just existing? Those two things are not related and honestly, you can fuck right off trying to act like my discomfort with the former is anything like the latter.
    
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    BlitzoTheOisSilent@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
    
    I’m sorry, are you comparing nudity to people just existing?
    
    No, I’m comparing comfort to comfort in public spaces, which is the topic if discussion. She also wasn’t nude, she was wearing a shirt, albeit see through, and was “jUsT eXiStInG.” As far as I could tell, she wasn’t wearing a sign that says “Check out my tits!” or walking up to strangers shoving them in their faces.
    
    She was, as far as any of us know, waiting for her flight, then boarded her flight, and then was asked to leave due to “discomfort.” So, discomfort is a justifiable reason when it’s your discomfort, but not anyone else’s?
    
    Those two things are not related
    
    But they are. They’re nipples, unless you’re an alien, as far as I know, you have them too. Had she been wearing a plain T-shirt but her nipples were hard, does she deserve to be removed from her flight that she paid for because of your discomfort?
    
    you can fuck right off trying to act like my discomfort with the former is anything like the latter.
    
    Classy, I didn’t insult you, I pointed out the flaw in your logic: things that make people uncomfortable shouldn’t be allowed in public, which is just asinine. Your argument here is basically “but it makes me uncomfortable,” which is just entitled and childish.
    
    The majority of people who wear sandals, in my opinion, have disgusting feet, to the point where I wouldn’t be able to eat around them. Feet are a fetish, therefore sexual, so do I now have the right to ask anyone wearing sandals to be removed from public or to “cover their nudity” because it makes me uncomfortable? No, the logical solution would be to, idk, not look at them. Wow, crazy idea, not to focus on something that makes you uncomfortable.
    
    My point was, many people are “uncomfortable” around two men/women kissing, or even holding hands, and those same fucking arguments have been and are used to ban innocent behavior in public because of comfort. This woman was doing nothing wrong, and if you are so put off by seeing a nipple that you would have such a difficult time traveling to your destination, then you need to talk to someone professionally about it. Or, if you’re incapable of, again, just not looking at them, then you need to work on your own self control.
    
    And before you start with any bullshit about me being an asshole or LGBTQ±phobic: I’m a trans woman who has spoken to my therapist of 6 years now, at length on several occasions, about my discomfort around other people’s feet and body hair. Never once, once, has she suggested that other people should be barred from public for checks notes fucking existing.
    
    Maybe learn to work on yourself and grow as a person, rather than demanding society bend over to appease you, personally. But what do I know, I was only raised in a household where your exact arguments were made to justify anti-LGBTQ+ rhetoric, but that can’t be, because you claim they’re completely unrelated. 🙄
    
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Ceedoestrees@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
So if a guy gets an erection, can he be kicked off a flight? Or if there’s a visible bulge? What if it’s cold and I can see a guys nipples through their shirt? If people think the general shape of someone’s body is offensive and sexual, they’re the ones who should be ostracized.

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- chemical_cutthroat@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  If if if if if if if… We can talk circles around each other with hypotheticals all day long, but that isn’t what happened. Delta had a policy that they enforced. They were fair about it, and asked her to cover up. She did, was allowed to fly, and that should have been the end of it. Instead she is making a fuss over it and now it’s news.
  
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  - Ceedoestrees@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
    No. we didn’t talk in hypotheticals all day. We can, though. The story is still going because we all have opinions on it, some less boot-licking than others.
    
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Son_of_dad@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
Nobody wants to see these frat bros running around shirtless with their polo slung over their shoulder all over the place, but we gotta deal with it. We all have nipples, deal with it. I’ve seen fat old men with bigger tits than her, should they also be forced to wear a bra?

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SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
You could also just not look at her tits.

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BradleyUffner@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
Not everyone wants to look at your hair. Not everyone wants to look at your mouth.

Should you have to cover those?

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- chemical_cutthroat@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  If it was a societal norm. Jesus Christ you all make some of the worst most paper thin arguments.
  
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  - hightrix@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
    Welcome to Lemmy. Where the idiots rule and the comments are always the stupidest thing you’ve read today.
    
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Lovstuhagen@hilariouschaos.com ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
I agree with this… Late to the show, I apologize…

Which is why when DJ Soda was booted from a flight for wearing a shirt that just said “FUCK” like 1,000x and she didn’t want to put on a big sweatshirt over it and complained… I thought that was too silly.

I just imagined my daughter saying “Daddy, what’s f***?”

Just as such… a seethrough shirt with nipples showing is completely unwanted by many people… So is a guy going shirtless on a flight, whether he has an amazing body or is fat. It’s just all so unnecessary and encroaches on everyone’s desire to have an uneventful flight.

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