Comment on Americans: How the hell do you meet new people or get into relationships after college?

tyrant@lemmy.world ⁨9⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

• captainlezbian@lemmy.world ⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  That being said bike people are certainly a certain type of odd, and if you’re looking for women, we’re definitely a minority of people really into bicycles. Like, I love bikes, if you’re interested in them look for bike groups and see if there’s a bike repair coop nearby, 10/10 hobby, especially if you’re looking for left wing people who aren’t super self destructive.

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  • TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world ⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    I have been actively involved in the bike community in my city. There is about 1 woman for every 100 dudes, and she’s already dating another bike guy.

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    • captainlezbian@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Yeah, though in my experience the bike girl with a bike guy boyfriend is the one problematically into bikes in their relationship. Like, he’s had to put his foot down about no more new bikes.

      Like as a woman into bikes, I really wish there were more of us and I know a lot of women who casually are interested, but I think especially with how hard-core into bikes a lot of people in the scene are scares people off. That and a lot of women who don’t have mechanical skills are uncomfortable trying for fear of breaking something or facing judgement.

      In the city I used to live in a lot of the bike women I met got into it after burning out of some form of anarchist activism, and they tended to be some of the more balanced people in the bike scene that I knew.

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      • TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world ⁨6⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        I gave up on bike people. There is just way too much bullshit involved in cycling communities, and way too many people who are bitter that other people ride different kinds of bikes than they do.

        I used to teach people how to fix bikes but I quit after it went from a fun thing to be being lectured about how ‘problematic’ I was for having a penis and that what we ‘really need’ is woman-identifying person to teach women. Because all men are inherently evil or something.

        Bikes are suppose to be fun. Not a proxy for people’s identity and political issues.

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• SaveTheTuaHawk@lemmy.ca ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  you can also meet other bike people. guys with ginger dreadlocks.

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  • tyrant@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    You all realize people commute on bikes all over the world that aren’t bike messengers, hipsters, or obsessive “bike people” right? A bike is a vehicle, not a flag.

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    • Not_mikey@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨hour⁩ ago

      OP said he’s in car centric america, in my experience those are the only people who regularly ride bicycles.

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    • SaveTheTuaHawk@lemmy.ca ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      also guys with no sense of humor who are easliy triggered.

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• TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world ⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  most people who ride bikes aren’t ‘bike people’.

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  • tyrant@lemmy.world ⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Oh jeez, by bike people I meant others that ride a bike. Not necessarily doing nude bike rides or critical mass or identifying as a bike

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