TubularTittyFrog
@TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world
- Comment on The Job Market Is HellYoung people are using ChatGPT to write their applications; HR is using AI to read them; no one is getting hired. 5 days ago:
why would you want to work for a company that needs 7 interview to hire you?
2 at most is necessary.
- Comment on MIT Study Finds AI Use Reprograms the Brain, Leading to Cognitive Decline 1 week ago:
it’s not any different than eating fast/processed food vs eating healthy.
it warps your expectations
- Comment on MIT Study Finds AI Use Reprograms the Brain, Leading to Cognitive Decline 1 week ago:
bingo.
it’s like a health supplement company telling you eating healthy is stupid when they have this powder/pill you should take.
- Comment on MIT Study Finds AI Use Reprograms the Brain, Leading to Cognitive Decline 1 week ago:
you should stop using it and use wikipedia
- Comment on MIT Study Finds AI Use Reprograms the Brain, Leading to Cognitive Decline 1 week ago:
I already have seen a massive decline personally and observationally (watching other people) in conversation skills.
Most people now to talk to each other like they are exchanging internet comments. They don’t ask questions, they don’t really engage… they just exchange declaratory sentences.
Most of our new employees the past year or two really struggle with any verbal communication and if you approach them physically to converse about something they emailed about they look massively uncomfortable and don’t really know how to think on their feet.
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 1 week ago:
people want to be well connect and socialized generally are.
those who don’t, aren’t.
It’s an individual choice.
- Comment on Applies to many things. Not just religion 1 week ago:
bingo.
plenty of science, scientsits, and science worshippers are dogmatic about science. scientism is a thing often leads to the same absurdities as extreme religious belief does
- Comment on What age gap is too big of an age gap if someone's in their early 30's? 2 weeks ago:
very common in major cities.
maybe less so in rural areas where people don’t go to college.
- Comment on Why do narcissists have such fragile egos? 2 weeks ago:
Most people here dont’ seem to understand what narcissism is.
Go back to the myth. It’s not about feelings or egos. It’s about reflections. The key feature of a narcissist that most posts here are missing… the narcissist has no self. They only exist/validate themselves through how others see them. This is why it is their ego is so fragile. Because their ego entirely consists of how others perceive them. They have no separation of their own reality vs others perception. Their internal life is entirely consists of how others see them and without the constant affirmation from other people they cease to be. Hence why they can never be alone, and tend to form co-dependent relationships and be highly focused on image, not substance.
This is also why they are socially skilled. They mirror other people and that mirroring is generally considered flattering to most people. But if the mirror breaks down, or the subject upsets the positive feedback loop the narcissist has to reject/destroy them.
Non-narcissists have a self-image that is composed of a mix of how others see them and how they see themselves. Narcissists don’t have the ability to see themselves independent of others perceptions of them. That’s why normal people can shrug off someone not liking them or upsetting them… because they have something else to compare it to. A narcissist doesn’t.
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 2 weeks ago:
Am I bitter that we are entering a recession? Or is it just a fact of the world?
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 2 weeks ago:
Where are these mythical best people?
Because literally everyone I’ve entire life I’ve met, cares about superficial stuff like status. Every friend, every girlfriend, every family member.
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 2 weeks ago:
It’s also an issue to have this form of generation fight. We as older men, also have an obligation to question the old ways and listen to the young people
No we don’t. I am an older man and I am dealing with all this nonsense myself. the old ways were objectively better for connecting and forming relationships.
- Comment on MAGA Puts Wikipedia in Its Crosshairs 2 weeks ago:
they are never happy.
that’s the point of being despotic. everyone is your enemy, always and forever.
- Comment on 2 weeks ago:
the problem with this place is it’s not user-friendly. and the posts/comments are too nerdy/niche for most people. my lemmy frontpage is like 50% linux nonsense.
- Comment on 2 weeks ago:
most of the banning comes from the bigger subs, not the small niche ones.
every time i have been banned it’s from political comments in a larger sub. never a niche one.
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 2 weeks ago:
I don’t believe you. Not sorry.
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 2 weeks ago:
Calling out shitty behaviour gets you shitcanned from the group. It doesn’t change the behaviour.
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 2 weeks ago:
speak for yourself. my experience is it’s way harder and people are way more stupid and judgemental. nobody cared what car i drove. now people find out I ‘only’ own a Honda and they want nothing to do with me anymore because i am ‘not doing well in life’ if i don’t own luxury car.
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 2 weeks ago:
No. We don’t. We don’t have a duty to do anything anymore than women do.
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 2 weeks ago:
No. I have a minor in gender studies.
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 2 weeks ago:
and if you’re black/Hispanic and you dress in a suit they won’t bother you either.
but if you’re white and tattooed and look homeless, they will.
It’s about class.
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 2 weeks ago:
men can be very social and still get nothing but negative feedback.
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 2 weeks ago:
pragmatically, most men and most women, who are feminists, think women are superior to men. and you’ll notice their arguments are all about how men should be more like women, and never women should be like men.
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 2 weeks ago:
I was completely devastated, but my poor boyfriend kept trying to hold back his tears because he “needed to be strong” for me. Bitch no, cry with me, that was super heavy.
Yes, because most cis het women in this situation would have rejected you. I have been there. I was dumped by a 5 year girlfriend over the death of my father. She was disgusted with my ‘whining’ and thought it was pathetic that I was sad/struggling with it. I’ve never met anyone in my life besides my sister/brother who wasn’t disgusted by expressions of sadness, let alone tears.
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 2 weeks ago:
Nope. Not as we age. All my friends moved away, started families, or changed to the point we have nothing in common anymore.
And once you are 30+ it’s really really hard to form close friendships. At best you get to form very tangential/shallow ones.
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 2 weeks ago:
they are well-defined terms.
where people argue about it is who can be racist/sexist. a lot of people think it can’t exist against white men or form minority group to minority group. most of the people thinking this way are clueless white people trying to score virtue points. in those people’s minds being sexist against men is a positive thing.
truth is sexism/racism is rampant everywhere. and in some societies its far worse than it is in the USA/Europe.
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 2 weeks ago:
One of my female friends bought me a cake in college for my birthday.
Only person who ever bought me a cake for my birthday my entire life (other than parents a s child). No other friend, or girlfriend, ever did that for me. Most of my girlfriends ‘gifts’ to me was usually something they wanted for themselves, like buying me fancy towels so they could use them in my bathroom.
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 2 weeks ago:
Yep. It’s also incredibly draining to have to do all the work. Nobody will ever reach out to you first. You must always be reaching out.
I gave up on romantic relationships mostly, because I was doing 90% of the work. And if I wanted a break, I was told I was being a ‘not a real man’. I bought a house and got pets. My pets don’t demand I do all the work for them. They actually communicate and appreciate.
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 2 weeks ago:
people who think that all men are underdeveloped cretin sex-monsters. they don’t acknowledge that they are people/individuals.
only women get that status in their minds. Increasingly, as a man, i find it harder and harder to find people of any gender/sex who don’t want to lecture me about my maleness and how evil it is. Shit’s weird. fewer and fewer people care to see me as a person.
especially on the dating market. holy moly… the horrible hate so many people have towards men there is wild.
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 2 weeks ago:
themselves