TubularTittyFrog
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- Comment on 40% of teenage boys believe women lie about domestic and sexual violence: new research 3 days ago:
sort of, but you are pointing out one of the biggest problems with the whole thing. Also in my experience, it’s that people’s expectations of relationships are so far out of whack with the reality there really is no point in trying anymore.
And I’ve noticed this a lot. Most of my dates now expect me to make a 500K salary or something and think anyone who doesn’t is ‘not worth their time’. It’s an absurd expectation born of defensiveness and seeking fantasy escapism, rather than real connection. And they fill up their lives with social media and consumerism and broadcast that they are so happy on the outside, but they are miserable on the inside because they have no real connections and their external ‘standards’ they are a requirement for ‘happiness’ just prevent them from actually making real relationships. And they justify a lot of that by claiming that others expect perfection of them so they should expect perfection of others. It’s so… fucked up and self-destructive. But if you bring it up… if you challenge the idea that you can be happy without a 500K income… they go ballistic on you for ‘having no ambition’ ‘being a loser’ etc.
My other favorite thing to do on dates sometimes, is to say something like "I think people are the most beautiful when they wake up and their hair is messy and groggy and they stink a little bit’. It really fucks with these types of people, because for them being a human being who is messy and imperfect is like the thing they are desperately trying to avoid being.
- Comment on Gen Z males twice as likely as baby boomers to believe wives should obey husbands 3 days ago:
Yes. I studied in in college. There is more to an argument that solid reasoning.
The Nazi regime had solid solid reasoning too dude. Their conclusions were also ‘unpleasant’.
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They think I’m an irresponsible loser because I don’t make 500K a year.
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You don’t matter to me because I don’t know you. You are not the source of any of my problems. You aren’t that important.
I don’t know where you live. Come to Boston. People will bend over backwards to give you a job because every company is desperate to prove how diverse their workforce is. Our governor is a lesbian and pro-queer.
Sucks that other states hate trans people, but I don’t live there and I have no say in their government policies.
- Comment on Gen Z males twice as likely as baby boomers to believe wives should obey husbands 3 days ago:
it’s important in my specific city. which is full of very wealthy very liberal people.
- Comment on 40% of teenage boys believe women lie about domestic and sexual violence: new research 3 days ago:
nobody is forcing women to date. what the hell are you talking about?
- Comment on Gen Z males twice as likely as baby boomers to believe wives should obey husbands 3 days ago:
it is super important to rich liberal people, but not the rest of the country. where i live i can’t walk down the street without gender war nonsense being all over the lamp posts, but that isn’t the case in most other places.
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people don’t understand that other cultures exist
- Comment on Gen Z males twice as likely as baby boomers to believe wives should obey husbands 3 days ago:
for lay people who aren’t educated in gender studies, there is no such difference.
- Comment on Gen Z males twice as likely as baby boomers to believe wives should obey husbands 3 days ago:
Ever since I turned 35 every women I meet wants this. I have never met a woman who wants an equal partner in dating since I was in my early 30s, over 10 years ago.
- Comment on Gen Z males twice as likely as baby boomers to believe wives should obey husbands 3 days ago:
Andrea Dworkin
- Comment on Americans: How the hell do you meet new people or get into relationships after college? 3 days ago:
ok, good luck living in your magical land food magically appears out of the ether!
- Comment on 40% of teenage boys believe women lie about domestic and sexual violence: new research 3 days ago:
I hold that people are people and sex doesn’t matter. So basically everyone hates me. I love it.
- Comment on 40% of teenage boys believe women lie about domestic and sexual violence: new research 3 days ago:
domestic violence rates are pretty high man. a quick google says 1/4 womenad 1/7 men experience it.
that’s not everyone but it’s a lot more than you’d hope.
- Comment on 40% of teenage boys believe women lie about domestic and sexual violence: new research 3 days ago:
i’m a man and i’ve been hit by several partners. both long term and short term.
i end the relationship when it happens, but it certainly happens.
- Comment on 40% of teenage boys believe women lie about domestic and sexual violence: new research 3 days ago:
it means beat the shit out of people for having different beliefs than you.
- Comment on 40% of teenage boys believe women lie about domestic and sexual violence: new research 3 days ago:
what qualifies as a misogynistic belief? we have to be clear about that.
in 2026 there lots of people who think and argue that women and men having equal rights is misogynistic. like i believe that, and i say that, and i have had people in real life, tell me I’m a misogynistic piece of shit for thinking that. because their POV is that women deserve more rights than men, either to ‘right history’s wrongs’ or because they think women are inherently disadvantaged/inferior to men and must be ‘boosted’.
- Comment on 40% of teenage boys believe women lie about domestic and sexual violence: new research 3 days ago:
I had an accuser in college who got kicked out after she accused multiple other men and it was investigated and the cops got involved.
- Comment on 40% of teenage boys believe women lie about domestic and sexual violence: new research 3 days ago:
men aren’t people to feminist organizations. they are only sources of evil, so if bad things happen to them then they deserved it anyways.
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the problem with gender crap like this is people typically have their own frame of reference of one sex is bad, the other good, and interpret everything through that lens.
they fail to see that either sex can be shitty. and that gender war stuff just reinforces and inflates people’s generalizations about the other sex. 10 years ago people didn’t think this way other than extremists… now it seems the majority of people have adopted extremist sexist positions thank to social media shit.
- Comment on 40% of teenage boys believe women lie about domestic and sexual violence: new research 3 days ago:
the banner photo has them looking like thugs, so you think the article has a slant about how young men are evil?
- Comment on Gen Z males twice as likely as baby boomers to believe wives should obey husbands 3 days ago:
I believe it the same way I believe I need oxygen to breathe.
- Comment on Gen Z males twice as likely as baby boomers to believe wives should obey husbands 3 days ago:
if you read feminist literature, a lot of it vilifies itself and is little more than hating on men and trying to control women by dictating to them how to behave to be a ‘good feminist’.
there are also many feminist movements that just hate men, or hate trans women, or hate pregnancy, etc.
- Comment on Gen Z males twice as likely as baby boomers to believe wives should obey husbands 3 days ago:
yes, but the global trend across countries is clear. economic stagnation, lower mobility, a lack of resources and opportunities available.
So people look back to the past and have nostalgia for it for the mid 20th century when those things were abundant, and along with it they look back at strict gender roles and the idea that men should work and women should be home makers.
- Comment on Gen Z males twice as likely as baby boomers to believe wives should obey husbands 3 days ago:
No I live in upper class america.
- Comment on Americans: How the hell do you meet new people or get into relationships after college? 3 days ago:
And there are millions of immigrants working in farm labor under much worse conditions for musch worse pay, do you feel worse for them?
From their POV the shitty factor job would be a huge upgrade.
And for those factory works, being an Amazon picker would be a huge upgrade.
Your issue is that labor exists, it sounds like.
- Comment on Gen Z males twice as likely as baby boomers to believe wives should obey husbands 4 days ago:
believe what? that i’m gay because I have a cat?
No. But lots of other people believe that.
- Comment on Gen Z males twice as likely as baby boomers to believe wives should obey husbands 4 days ago:
no. just belief. people believe in all sort of arbitrary nonsense.
i dated a woman who thought eating breakfast was only for children, for example. she basically told me i was a man-child for wanting to eat food before noon.
- Comment on Gen Z males twice as likely as baby boomers to believe wives should obey husbands 4 days ago:
People just want all the the benefits with none of the drawbacks. They are just selfish and greedy.
I often see the whole ‘monogamish’ nonsense now too. It basically means, I want all the benefits of monogamy, but when I also want to be able to bang other people when I want, but also you can’t do that because that would make me feel insecure…
I actaully did date someone like that. She wanted to date other people, but as soon as I started seeing other women she got very very angry and jealous and told me it was not ‘fair’. She was just a selfish asshole who wanted me to be monogamous to her, while she was no monogamous to me.
- Comment on Gen Z males twice as likely as baby boomers to believe wives should obey husbands 4 days ago:
it’s not selection bias, it’s what’s on the market.
unless you think I should start trying to date married women?