njordomir
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- Comment on Is there gospel music minus the gospel? 6 days ago:
You might find some of those influences in PJ Morton’s music. Sample: youtu.be/2F9pL06IC8k
C2C has a really cool electro-gospel song that doesn’t have overly religious lyrics, though it captures the vibes excellently: youtube.com/watch?v=tvY7Nw1i6Kw
- Comment on What is the difference between a platonic and a romantic relationship? 1 week ago:
Agreed, and friends are great. To expand even further: The fact that romance/friendship exists as a dichotomy rather than a spectrum or a pick-and-choose DIY relationship grab bag is testament to the way many people expect their partner to be their person, their one and only, when in reality we should be in the supportive community of friends and want the same for our partners. I want my partner to have friends because I can’t put up with their shit 24/7 … and vice versa!
There’s also a stereotype about the friend zone, but even as a straight dude I’ve dated a few friends. The key is to date people you like as your friends, not to pick your “friends” so you can get close enough to date them. It’s friendship+, not friendshipOR.
- Comment on What is the difference between a platonic and a romantic relationship? 2 weeks ago:
I don’t know if I could have a romantic relationship without some sort of sexual feelings involved or at least a potential for them.
- A relationship is platonic if I want to spend time with someone doing things but don’t want to cuddle, have sex, or kiss.
- A relationship is sexual if sex is the focus, though friendship may be present.
- A relationship is romantic when both sex and friendship are focused.
Let me just say that this is my answer and there is no right answer. It’s more important to clearly communicate your desires and ask other people about theirs.
These semi-arbitrary lines exist to help you learn to paint, but ultimately, you and your partner(s) are the artists of your relationships and if you’re painting with the right person(s) you can paint however you want, though you should act ethically and respect other’s self-determination.
- Comment on Just a little server 2 weeks ago:
I run a beelink mini, not the weakest one, and it handles docker containers and VMs fine. I’m not sure how big it’ll scale though. Most I ever had running was 2 VMs and a handful of negligible docker containers. I also think the minisforum stuff looks good. Their n5 pro nas just came out and would have made a good server, but I have parts and I want to use them :-)
- Comment on Robot performs first realistic surgery without human help: System trained on videos of surgeries performs like an expert surgeon 3 weeks ago:
Inb4 someone added Texas Chainsaw Massacre and Saw to the training data.
- Comment on Unless users take action, Android will let Gemini access third-party apps 3 weeks ago:
Fair enough. I was in that camp for a decade or more myself. I hope you find a solution!
- Comment on Unless users take action, Android will let Gemini access third-party apps 3 weeks ago:
It’s not necessarily a solution, but my Garmin watch can still hold some of my cards, so I don’t need the NFC payment on my phone to duplicate that functionality. Do you wear or carry any other devices that can stand-in?
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- Comment on Docker Backup Stratagy 5 weeks ago:
Interesting username. Are you a fellow student of Internet Comment Etiquette?
I know at least some of my containers use Postgres. Glad to know I inadvertently might have made it easier on myself. I’ll have to look into the users for the db and db containers. I’m a bit lost on that. I know my db has a username and pass I set in the docker compose file and that the process is running with a particular GID UID or whatever. Is that what your talking about?
- Comment on Docker Backup Stratagy 5 weeks ago:
I miss this from cloud hosting. It’s helpful to be able to save, clone, or do whatever with the current machine state and easily just flash back to where you were if you mess something up. Might be too much to set up for my current homelab though. My server does have btrfs snapshots of everything directly in grub which has let me roll back a few big screwups here and there.
- Comment on Owners of laptops with very cheap aftermarket batteries, is it worth the discount? 5 weeks ago:
I’ve replaced the battery on my laptop twice. Didn’t recognize the brand (might have been Dentsing or something like that) but it outperformed the stock battery in it’s flattening state and maybe even when it was new! I watched it pretty closely for a while though and I’d NEVER buy a battery off temu.
- Submitted 5 weeks ago to selfhosted@lemmy.world | 28 comments
- Comment on Google is launching Offerwall, A new tool for publishers /websites to paywall their content. 5 weeks ago:
Yeah, I don’t care if they invent a paywall that jumps out of the screen and gives me a top notch scalp massage. I don’t do paywalls.
- Comment on What are your approaches to donating? 5 weeks ago:
If there is a donation button and its a project, media item, service, etc that I use enough that I would buy it, I often donate. The amount depends on how badly they need the help. If I they try to steer me to recurring donations I don’t donate at all (having the option as an opt-in is okay).
- Comment on Tesla Robotaxi Freaks Out and Drives into Oncoming Traffic on First Day 5 weeks ago:
If we’re gonna let them on the road, I say that software should get points just like a driver, but when it gets suspended all the cars running that software get shut down.
- Comment on VPN Registrations Increase by 1,000%, less than Hour After PornHub Blocked France From Accessing its Website. 1 month ago:
I hate how VPN access is the scaffolding holding the building up making things look normal. You can visit all your normal web sites, you can bypass georestrictions, you can be a little less tracked than you might otherwise be. But what happens when they decide to do away with that scaffolding and we all find out they tore down the house behind it while we were enjoying “normalcy”. Too much of making the web functional depends on vpns and adblocking. We shouldn’t have to do this stuff and Chromes adblocking scandle should impact millions of users all around the world unilaterally removing adblocking from the web. I fear for the day we have a US only internet and a global internet, not just on paper, but in actual practice.
- Comment on Google Restricts Android Sideloading—What It Means for User Autonomy and the Future of Mobile Freedom – Purism 1 month ago:
I agree. Not having access on my terms is absolutely a deal breaker for me and could cause me to stop doing business with a company.
- Comment on Florida ban on kids using social media likely unconstitutional, judge rules 1 month ago:
Right. This shouldn’t be about restricting children; but rather, this should be about restricting corporation’s bad behaviors. It’s also not just children that are impacted. Mining online dopamine-junkies for data by placing money extractors right on their weak spots is unethical, like selling someone crack, or phone scamming the elderly.
- Comment on Front Brake Lights Could Drastically Diminish Road Accident Rates 1 month ago:
Can we do this in the same bill as the popup spikes that take out your tires if you stop across the crosswalk? The guided RPGs replacing red light cams can wait a little longer.
- Comment on Whatever happened to cheap eReaders? – Terence Eden’s Blog 1 month ago:
Ianaged to gent KOReader on my Grandpa’s old Kindle. One device has now entertained two people for what is likely a decade or two of combined service.
- Comment on Need a second opinion on a project idea (Pi5 car headunit) 2 months ago:
That was my first thought. How do you keep it cold enough to run in a place like Arizona, Spain, or Mexico? It also reminded me of my Windows Mobile days before I had a smartphone when someone on a Windows Mobile forum took a Dell Axim x51v and built a dock for it that exposed all the ports so he could use it with an external display as an infotainment/nav system. He called it the Aximizer. An old android phone with a micro-hdmi port might be the modern equivilant.
- Comment on The world is falling apart! Send us your money! 2 months ago:
I hate how everyone follows the social marketing playbook now. There’s so little community building and genuine connection with constituents. Everything is optimized by some social media marketing guru types with a masters degree in being an asshole.
- Comment on The world is falling apart! Send us your money! 2 months ago:
One $5 donation buys you a decade of nagging donation emails and a bunch of capitulating spineless politicians.
- Comment on Is America headed for an age of dumb phones? 2 months ago:
I saw that one. Wasn’t it a newer Android version too instead of an ancient one like most of Boox’s stuff?
- Comment on Is America headed for an age of dumb phones? 2 months ago:
I wish popular cell phones would offer an eink option. I know there are 1-2 phones out there, but they always seem to be on some ancient version of Android.
- Comment on What's up, selfhosters? It's selfhosting Sunday again! 2 months ago:
Went through and verified that a number of things were backing up and updating correctly. I feel a little less weight on my shoulders knowing things are working as they should.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 months ago:
I’d like to think as a group, we are a healthier addiction than Reddit. :)
- Comment on Still booting after all these years: The people stuck using ancient Windows computers 2 months ago:
Good for them. If it works, it works. I wouldn’t connect it to the internet though.
- Comment on Netflix will show generative AI ads midway through streams in 2026 2 months ago:
After that comes the part where the AI hallucinates a world where advertising guidelines don’t exist and gets the company sued for some very illegal advertising.
- Comment on Google Says iPhone Adoption Of RCS Has Led Users To Share 'More Than A Billion' Messages Daily, Yet SMS/MMS Still Reign Supreme In The U.S. 2 months ago:
Missing an important message like that is a fear of mine. I’ve also noticed a number of google products don’t function well while on VPN. I’ve decided to dump the problem, Google, rather than the scapegoat, my VPN. I’m about 70% degoogled right now, but every product counts.
I tried RCS when it was newer, but I didn’t see any benefit to me and it didn’t play well with how often I reset and redo my phone.