ah yes, children and short women are the same. much science 🧪🐈
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REDACTED@infosec.pub 2 months ago
Why do men date women that’s like height of a children to them?
blinfabian@feddit.nl 2 months ago
REDACTED@infosec.pub 2 months ago
Right, because “height of a children” means children
Sludgeyy@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Do you know what relativity means? You keep saying it
A 6 or 7 year old child is ~120cm
Average person 160cm to 170cm
Relatively, a 3:4 ratio
For a tall person at 200cm (6’6") that would be the same as 150cm
Average woman is 160cm
Yes a 200cm person standing next to a 150cm person looks like an adult standing next to a child height wise. Yet to them a 150cm person is much taller than 120cm. 1 foot difference.
Why does your mind jump to “they look like they are with a child?”
captainlezbian@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Also to the tall person that isn’t the ratio of height of a child. They’ve most likely been that height since they were a teenager and think of the height of a child as the height that children are. Sure it may be waist height instead of chest height, but that’s how tall kids are to them. It’s not like you’re 25 and have been dating around for a while and suddenly grew 6 inches and are uncomfortable because women in your dating pool are suddenly a proportional height you associate with children.
QuinnyCoded@sh.itjust.works 2 months ago
the average height for women is 5’5 lol
Demdaru@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Love is blind. Don’t wedge yourslef inbetween folk who are happily together and are living normal lives. I know a guy that is more than a head taller than his partner, and they are happily together. Heck, it’s she that is more dominant in their partnership xD
Is such height diff a reason to pay more attention? Maybe. But outright assuming something is wrong just because you’ve got a gut feeling is foul.
FelixCress@lemmy.world 2 months ago
C/opisafuckingidiot
REDACTED@infosec.pub 2 months ago
Elaborate
feminisnuss@lemmy.duckpond.social 2 months ago
First of all, “midget” is a slur that shouldn’t be used to describe people with dwarfism and second of all, are you saying that it’s creepy for grown adults to be in a relationship just because one of them has a genetic mutation or happens to be really short? Are little people only supposed to date other little people or is there some magic number where you just become creepy?
sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 months ago
… Women generally, statistically, indicate an ideal preference to date men who are ~21cm / ~8 inches taller than themself.
www.sciencedirect.com/…/S0191886913000020
Women prefer, on average, a larger height difference between themselves and their partner (i.e. males being much taller than themselves) than men do. This effect is even more pronounced when examining satisfaction with actual partner height: women are most satisfied when their partner was 21 cm taller, whereas men are most satisfied when they were 8 cm taller than their partner.
So a roughly average height 5’4" woman, on average, would ideally pick a 6’ tall man, all else held equal.
By the same kinds of math, on average, men prefer to be ~8cm / ~3 inches taller than their ideal height female partner.
So a roughly average height man of 5’10" would ideally prefer their gal to be 5’7".
So I don’t know, you tell me why generally speaking, women ideally prefer their men to be ~8 inches taller than themself, but men ideally prefer being only ~3 inches taller than their women.
REDACTED@infosec.pub 2 months ago
That is so far off from what I was talking about. Me and my GF have 20cm difference too
sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 months ago
My point is you got the causation backwards.
Women generally have a stronger preference for taller men, than men have a preference for shorter women.
But you framed the entire scenario as being caused by men.
Its… also amazing that you yourself date someone 20cm shorter than you.
So, what, if you yourself were 5cm shorter than you are, and your partner was 5cm shorter than she is… would that be such a difference that the woman would now be ‘child sized’?
Short people do just exist, the image is an intentional joke making fun of height difference that is present in this consensual relationship.
You describe this as jailbait despite the woman looking like she’s in her upper 20s or lower 30s in age.
Like, not to be rude to the woman in the picture, but how many under 21 or under 18 girls… have forehead wrinkles, bags under their eyes?
REDACTED@infosec.pub 2 months ago
I’ll admit, jailbait by definition does not fit in, so it was incorrect of me to use that word, but I’ll stand by the idea that it does feel weird to me in a way that resembles liking young girls.
Answer me this - is it perfectly fine/morally right of me to watch a porn of tall dude doing it with a very short one? NSFW, but here is a mild porn example, I’ve personally seen more extreme ones; NSFW OPEN AT YOUR OWN RISK
Personally, watching this makes me slightly uncomfortable. No one else, really?
Tigeroovy@lemmy.ca 2 months ago
Because as it turns out, sometimes adults are very short.
KindnessIsPunk@lemmy.ca 2 months ago
Translation for this person because they’ve rightfully been misunderstood: Why does it seem like there is a disproportionate amount of tall men ending up in relationships with short women? This seems to be a statistical aberration when compared against other factors.
The answer is societal expectations of tall men/short women, kinks, standard height deviations among genders.
UltraGiGaGigantic@lemmy.ml 2 months ago
Why does it seem like there is a disproportionate amount of tall men ending up in relationships with short women?
The dick looks bigger next to a smaller person and you feel more powerful being able to move such a small person around so easily in bed. Gay men have bears and twinks. This isnt just a heterosexual thing. I would know.
sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 months ago
Bi male twink here, can confirm this is a thing.
KindnessIsPunk@lemmy.ca 2 months ago
Oh I know that and it’s why I included kinks and the only reason it had a heterosexual tint at all is because the question did.
RBWells@lemmy.world 2 months ago
I always figured it was nature trying not to breed us into a race of giants, or midgets. I’m a lady and about the average height of men in my area (which my husband points out puts me in the top 5% of women’s height here even though I’m barely even tall) and mostly have dated men around my height. My ex was about my height and our kids were all average height. Husband also around my height. My husband’s ex was a lot shorter than him and his boys are not as tall as me, and I tease him, if he wanted tall kids he needed a tall mom.
So I guess if she had her kids with a tall guy they would have been average height but I never had to think about that, right? But if my kids dad had been really tall my kids would be like Really Tall, maybe more than is healthy?
I know nobody is having kids anymore, lol, but the preferences could be hard wired to some extent.
Also - if only 5% of women are my height or taller, there probably just aren’t enough of us around even if we wanted to breed giants.
REDACTED@infosec.pub 2 months ago
Oh man, I’m giving up on this thread. I seriously don’t know how I could more clearly explain what I’m talking about. I even edited my main comment to no avail. I’M NOT TALKING ABOUT TALL MEN SIMPLY DATING SHORTER WOMEN, my gf is 20cm shorter too. I quite literally meant child-height in relativity.
KindnessIsPunk@lemmy.ca 2 months ago
That’s stupid then, no offense. The height of children ranges greatly just like the height of adults there’s considerable overlap.
It isn’t something clearly defined, there are no stupid questions but your question is stupid.
REDACTED@infosec.pub 2 months ago
I don’t need a definition of a children’s height to have average image of their height and feel disgust when I see grown ass man or tall dude with one that next to him makes me wonder if that’s their child or wife
GreenDust@lemmings.world 2 months ago
Are short women supposed to date children or something?
TheBat@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Short men: 🥺
GreenDust@lemmings.world 2 months ago
Short men are men, not children
TheBat@lemmy.world 2 months ago
And yet your reply mentioned children instead of short men. Curious.
REDACTED@infosec.pub 2 months ago
Huh? My comment literally says the opposite - asking why you do that. There are similar height people for everyone, dating someone that’s nearly two times your height just borderline seems like a fetish
SexualPolytope@lemmy.sdf.org 2 months ago
Then a large percentage of tall men would have to stay single, since women are shorter on average. I’ve personally met very few women who are my height, and I’m not even that tall.
REDACTED@infosec.pub 2 months ago
I doubt a large percentage of men are having problems finding a woman that’s not such a drastic height difference. I never said shorter, I’m talking about the difference being so big it starts to seriously look off
Lauchmelder@feddit.org 2 months ago
and?
REDACTED@infosec.pub 2 months ago
And, it looks like a fetish. It’s just weird. I sometimes can’t tell if that’s your daughter or a wife