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theangryseal@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

I don’t understand how these kids get caught. They gotta be really slow or something.

I was caught 0 times as a teenager. My mom never found my porn.

My brother was caught a few times. My cousin was caught in the damn car on a family vacation with OTHER PEOPLE IN THE CAR just yanking his noodle under a blanket.

I was so cautious as a kid. I guess because I was caught and thoroughly shamed when I was about 4 years old. Maybe that’s why I never got caught when I was old enough for it to matter. That shame gave me a lifelong lesson.

I had a motion detecting toy dinosaur at the bottom of the stairs. When someone approached the stairs it would go, “raaaaaawr, raaaaaawr” and I’d be sitting at the foot of the bed reading a book by the time someone got upstairs.

If they suspected anything, didn’t matter. I was reading.

When I got high speed internet (as it was called in those days) I threw out the tapes and magazines. I had a separate hard drive I’d plug into my computer juuuuuust in case, and since I was always messing with and tearing into my computer, my mom never found anything. That drive had Linux, my mom was scared of Linux.

Now that I think about it, holy shit they fucked me up haha.

When they caught me as a little guy my mom said, “oh shamy, shamy.” And my dad said, “you keep messing with that thing and it’ll fall off and you’ll turn into a girl.” They spent the whole day giving me that, “oh you shameful creature” look.

Haha, man. Wow.

Yeah, maybe my people just messed me up.

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SkyeStarfall@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
“you keep messing with that thing and it’ll fall off and you’ll turn into a girl”

On one hand, fucking horrible thing to say on a child

On the other… probably would not have the effect they would intend on a certin chunk of the population lmao

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- GraniteM@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
  “So anyway, that was the beginning of my transition journey and also how I became an absolute master of giving HJs.”
  
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  - Imadethis@lemmynsfw.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
    
    how I became an absolute master of giving HJs
    
    It’s too bad that we can’t have positive reinforcement for most sex acts. I like giving head because I love seeing my partner’s eyes roll backwards.
    
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    Rai@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
    Breaking a person is the most fun part of doin sex stuff. When my partner starts speaking in tongues, I feel so accomplished!
    
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ameancow@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

Yeah, maybe my people just messed me up.

I’m pretty sure we’re now in a situation where most of our society’s contention is driven by childhood-induced shame over sexuality in some form or another.

And there’s not shit we can do about it because every time someone tries to make a campaign to encourage better sex-education, or even scarier, sex positivity among children, those people or groups get attacked for being pedos and predators.

This is going to be a social dividing line that gets sharper as time goes. There will be people who have a shred of intellectual capacity and haven’t been hollowed out be capitalism, who raise their kids to be free from shame and shackles of toxic social norms and let them just live and discover on their own what sexuality means to them.

And the orcs, who want literal dark-ages levels of shame, hate and fear and of course power-imbalances as deeply rooted foundations to anything and everything related to sex.

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- theangryseal@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
  As a parent, I didn’t want to mess my kids up and make them feel shame about natural things. I don’t know what the right way is, but I have tried to avoid that.
  
  I have enough kids that I know some don’t do it early, some do.
  
  My approach has been, “hey, that’s a private thing and no one here wants to be a part of it. Go to your room and shut your door.”
  
  I have no idea if that’s right, and because of my own issues it doesn’t feel right, but that’s been my approach. I try to think about it logically and reasonably despite having to fight the feelings. My instinct was to say, “HEY! CUT IT OUT, THAT’S NASTY!!” All that did for me was give me an association with “nasty” and those feelings and all I had was my mind, and oh boy I wish I could erase the memory of the things I thought about as a kid.
  
  My daughter is 16, and she’s overly open with me to a level that makes me uncomfortable because she isn’t ashamed of herself.
  
  I also know that she will be healthy when she’s active because she feels comfortable talking to me.
  
  She broke up with a girlfriend for pressuring her, and she told her boyfriend that she understands why he wants to do that and why he thinks about it, but she isn’t ready and if he can’t handle that he can go find a girlfriend who is on his level about it.
  
  With my parents, you did not discuss such things. It was totally forbidden. As a result I had unprotected sex with multiple partners by the time I was 18 and I started when I was 13, started fooling around at about 9. I had some real weirdo adults in my life and I never talked to my parents about it because the thought of them knowing something so shameful about me was too heavy.
  
  I had my first child at 16 years old. I do not believe that would have happened if I had access to education and I could have talked to my parents without feeling shame.
  
  It feels like I’m going against my very nature when my daughter talks to me about things, but I grit my teeth and bare it, and she’s in a much safer and healthier place than I was at her age. She laughs and me because I blush and can barely look at her when she brings it up.
  
  Maybe I’m doing one thing right in a sea of things I’m definitely getting wrong haha.
  
  I believe we should feel shame about some things and that’s why we have to contend with it in the first place. We shouldn’t be ashamed of natural things though.
  
  We’re here because of a long line of creatures and people banging. I don’t know why we freak out about it so bad.
  
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  - plc@feddit.dk ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
    Let me tell you one thing: You’re doing alright.
    
    Having your kids feel safe enough to be open like that and yourself sticking to listening and being there is probably the best anyone can hope for.
    
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OminousOrange@lemmy.ca ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
A 30 year old friend of mine didn’t know about incognito mode. A certain subreddit popped up, on his projector screen, as a recommendation when we were searching for a sports stream to watch. I don’t think anyone else noticed or would really know what the sub was, but I later casually mentioned this really cool browser feature to use in case you need to search something weird.

I learned one shouldn’t assume that everyone is familiar with all the digital tricks to hide what they’d prefer others not see.

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Obelix@feddit.org ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

I don’t understand how these kids get caught. They gotta be really slow or something.

I was caught 0 times as a teenager. My mom never found my porn.

Modern operating systems are different than Windows 98. You think that you’re sneeky and that nobody will find your porn folder and then your mom gets a “Popular files in your user group” mailing from “OneDrive Engagement” or a “Your browsing year wrap-up” by Microsoft Edge or a retargetting ad on the whole network because you looked at the Riley Reid fleshlight. Modern surveillance capitalism is really hard to escape.

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- theangryseal@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
  Damn, man. That really sucks.
  
  That’s really depressing.
  
  I always figured we’d go down this road, and in a bout of psychosis when I was younger I even lost my head over it and we really are there now.
  
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- LiveLM@lemmy.zip ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
  Imagine if the Year of the Linux desktop arrives not for any other reason but because the teens want to look at booba/peen online with privacy
  
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pixeltree@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
Hahahaha, maybe they were onto something (this is a joke) – I consumed way too much porn at way too young an age and I did turn into a girl! Dick never fell off though sadly

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- theangryseal@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
  :p Some folks want that dick anyway haha, so don’t worry about it.
  
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Xiflado@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
Did you place the toy downstairs before wanking or was it always there?

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- theangryseal@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
  It was always there. ;)
  
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_stranger_@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
I had an Irish Catholic nun, with the headdress and nun robes on and everything, tell my class we’d go blind and grow hair on our hands. She was making scarry eyes and jazz hands while she said it. It was a sex ed course and her #1 message to all of us jr high boys was wearing deodorant and scrub your ass in the shower. In retrospect, I think she said that in such a cartoonish manner because she knew it was ridiculous, and really she just didn’t want to gag from the stench after phys ed.

That same nun told me her favorite band was "those good Irish boys with the rap music, I just wish they’d pick a more respectful name than ‘beasty boys’ "

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GreenKnight23@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

I was caught 0 times as a teenager. My mom never found my porn.

oh she knew. we all know.

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- theangryseal@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
  Knowing is one thing, being caught cock in hand is another. :p
  
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