Youāre not far off. As a parent, the idea of someone sexualizing my kids in any way makes me seethe. Like there are people I wouldnāt let my kids be alone with for a second just because they give me bad vibes.
But I do have to concede that itās a psychological thing that people have, even if I wish they didnāt. I have to imagine that if anyone got to choose, then they certainly wouldnāt opt for that. I agree that the ākill your local pedoā mentality drives these people into the shadows where they wonāt seek help, and may actually victimize kids. I just donāt know if I have the ability to look at someone with that mindset and be totally free of judgement, even if they do seek help.
wide_eyed_stupid@lemmy.world āØ1ā© āØweekā© ago
I have always felt bad for ānon-practicingā pedophiles. It must be a horribly lonely thing to go through. Not only are you universally hated, but you have desires and longings you can -never- act on, a need that can -never- be fulfilled. Add to that the isolationā¦ it must be hell. And all because of something they canāt change. And the worst thing about it is that the hatred is so understandable. Where someoneās kids are involved, of course they wonāt take any risks. Of course theyāre going to lash out at anything and anyone that might be dangerous. Itās a visceral thing.
But youāre right. This idea that every pedophile wants to rape kids is probably very damaging. Not just to the pedophiles themselves, but also the kids around them. When you push someone into a secret corner where they canāt talk to people about their issues, where they canāt be honest, canāt get helpā¦ youāll only make sure that some of them donāt look for help, when they might have otherwise. Someone with nothing to lose is more dangerous than someone with some social net.
Maybe I would feel different if I had kids myself, but I have always approached it from a rational point of view. Does every heterosexual guy rape women? Does every heterosexual woman rape men? Does every gay man rape men? No, of course not. So why assume that every pedophile rapes children? I am no expert, but I assume there are way more people with these feelings than we would like to know. Luckily most humans have some sort of self-control.
AI_toothbrush@lemmy.zip āØ1ā© āØweekā© ago
You worded it very well. I also think that much more people have pedophilia than you would think at first. Thats one of the reasons why i think so many rich people take part in diddy and epstien parties. If you never got help, and have so much money that you feel untouchable, you will take advantage of people around you because there are no repercussions.