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• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨So close!⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Pasta doesn’t lose the majority of its vitamins to its cooking water though. (Mostly because pasta doesn’t have many vitamins to begin with)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨do you think freewill truly exists?⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  That’s beautifully written and very to the point. I wish you well in your search for a partner who takes you as you are and, equally important, who you like as they are.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨do you think freewill truly exists?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  But if you feel comfortable, why is it problematic?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why do people care so much that their friend or family member’s partner is attractive and not just loving?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  My mom and sister used to say my husband looks like he just got released from Auschwitz so I feel you 🫠

  Maybe it’s because your dad wants you to get a perfect person. Someone who is nice and loving and interesting and attractive and successful and rich and a good cook and volunteers and whatnot. My guess is not that they would prefer you to have someone handsome and unloving instead, but someone who is both handsome and loving. Because to them, you’re perfect. So they want you to have the (what they assume would be) perfect match. Most of this is probably not an active thought process but just some subconscious thinking.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Thats fair⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  That’s a good point, but in my opinion the other common deaths are way worse. Cancer? Living with the anxiety of impending death and constantly getting sicker, more in pain and being nauseous from medication? Or COPD, feeling like you are suffocating slowly? Alzheimers, Parkinsons? Or my personal fear - dying from a stupid simple cold? Man, I take a heart attack any day of the week.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Fixed: Celebrity Inquiries Season 2 Episode 4⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Favorite affects the booty too. Well thought through graphic

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What would this list look like for your generation?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I will proceed to check out the national anthem of Djibouti and the state anthem of Mississippi. I might be back with some questions.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  When I was in elementary school I tried to start a protest during the break by getting on the desk and proclaiming that we need to stop the discrimination of the middle finger, it is a finger like the others and should be allowed to stand on its own just like the other fingers. Needless to say I held up my middle fingers during that passionate speech. I was also very sincere about it, not emotional, but I did find it unjust. I’m not sure where I am going with this but it was weighing on my chest for too long and needed to get out finally. Thanks for reading.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What's the point in getting married?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  People have already pointed out the legal and financial aspects. But I also want to address the philosophical aspect of your question, which I think you had in mind. And I think the answer I would give you is this one:

  Marriage has the meaning that you assign to it.

  I strongly believe that if we got rid of any legal and financial benefits of marriage, even if we made it explicitly illegal, there would still be a bunch (or even a lot) of people who would get married.

  I would compare it to a house fire. If my house was burning (and there were no living beings in it) and I could save 5 things, what would I save? What would you save? I would take, for example, my favorite soft toy from when I was a kid, and my old box filled with diaries. Is this worth any money? No. Does it have any value? To me, it does. To you, it doesn’t. Maybe you are a very rational person that isn’t attached to anything (or to nothing material) and you would indeed make the smartest choices, saving your passport and documents and money. Maybe you would save a small gift that someone important has given you. Maybe you would save the first guitar you ever bought. You save whatever has value and meaning to you. And these things have solely the meaning and value that you have attached to it.

  Likewise, people have different value and meaning attached to marriage. If you look at it from a rational, logical side - it has its legal and financial perks and benefits and if they weren’t there, getting married would make no sense. But things don’t have to make sense. The meaning we assign to rituals, things, concepts, aren’t necessarily rational. They are, however, deeply personal.

  So, as a side note, please beware of ridiculing people for their views on marriage or weddings, just like you wouldn’t want to ridicule or belittle someone for other things that mean a lot to them. Always sharing the last piece of bread. Always giving a coin to a homeless person. Having a breakfast for 30 minutes every morning. A good night kiss on the nose from their partner. Drawing a dick in the first snow of the winter. Some things mean a lot to people even if they do not rationally make sense.

  In the case of marriage, of course, some of the meaning comes from culture, history, and tradition. Marriage might have had different purposes than it has now, and surely the origins weren’t that romantic. (Not saying, however, that marriage has to be romantic.) But it is there. It is important to some people simply because they have, at some point in their life, decided it is important for some reasons, rational or irrational, social, cultural, and hopefully personal too. To them, it makes sense, it has meaning, it has value. And whatever marriage or a wedding ceremony mean - you decide.

  So the question you should be asking is not whether or not you should get married, it is what marriage means to you. Does it have any benefit or value in your eyes? Are the legal benefits enough for you to get married? What is your stance on divorce? Do you feel like you would get “closer together” with your partner? Would you feel it would make things harder to separate? There are a ton on questions like these that you can ask yourself, I hope you get the jist. There are not right or wrong answers. The only thing that is important is that the meaning you assign to marriage is (about) the same as the meaning your partner assigns to marriage. You can both not care about a spiritual meaning, but just get married for the benefits. You can both be a type of “whatever happens, we don’t get divorced, til death do us part”. You can be “we’ll keep reevaluating whether we still belong together”. You can also be “we get married because we have children and this is practical”. Or “we get married because I am hot and you are rich and when one of us loses their asset we split”. Or “we just want a fancy huge ass party to show our love in this very moment and celebrate it with our friends and whatever comes afterwards is secondary”. It doesn’t matter what your view is, it matters that you guys agree.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Which actor did not have a single bad film?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Tbh I struggle to come up with an actual good and not just mediocre movie that Tom Hanks was in.

  Adding to the trash list: Incredibly loud and extremely close. They massacred the book.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Which actor did not have a single bad film?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  He is in this abomination of a book adaptation for Incredibly loud and extremely close.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Which actor did not have a single bad film?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m sorry but… Most of them? Especially since it’s his performance that has become poor. He is playing himself more and more. A similar thing happened to Johnny Depp. Look at both of them in What’s Eating Gilbert Grape and then at stuff like Great Gatsby, Wolf of Wall Street, Shutter’s Island, Django / Willy Wonka, Pirates of the Carribean, Shadows, Transcendence. The acting and characters are so similar and they don’t give an effort anymore (or try to, and absolutely overdo it).

  (Sorry I somehow incorporated a Johnny Depp rant in a critic of DiCaprio, their story of decline is just too similar to me. And Gilbert Grape is an amazing movie.)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨James Bond is responsible for many wasted vodka martinis⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  God that sounds disgusting. I think, for the first time in 4+ years of sobriety, I actually feel genuinely sad for not being able to try that one out. It sounds so awful it must be good.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Please dont feed the creatures 🪱⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  First it was hanging, now it’s shooting. Make up your mind. It might help to first get your head out of your ass though.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Please dont feed the creatures 🪱⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m a parent too, and here are my thoughts on this. I would rather knowingly live next to a pedophile - someone who outs themselves and goes to therapy - than not knowing about whether or not my neighbor has ever had such tendencies. I wouldn’t forbid them from having contact with my child, if they are sure it is not too hard for them, and obviously, keep them supervised. (I have barely ever left my child with another adult outside of the kindergarten setting though.) As was commented above, pedophilia is a valid and incredibly unfortunate, isolating and lonely sexual orientation and a disorder that can be treated, if not “cured”. I wholeheartedly agree with what you said about society’s hostile mentality driving people into the shadows and keeping them from seeking help.

  I also want to point out that the majority of minor sex offenders (sorry I can’t remember the correct term, English isn’t my first language) has no pedophilic tendencies. A lot of sexual assault happens not because of attraction but because of power, dominance, violence, control. It’s something so important to keep in mind. Your local pedo might be the nicest and most harmless guy, while some other, heterosexual and “normal” oriented person in your neighborhood might have actually assaulted a child. Not having pedophilic tendencies does not mean a person won’t commit pedophilic acts.

  In a way, my heart goes out to pedophiles. I can’t imagine how incredibly lonely it must be to have a desire for intimacy only with people who you will never, under any circumstances, be allowed to touch. You will never be able to act on your desires. You will never be allowed to live like yourself, be yourself fully. This must be hell. Even without the witch hunt. The least we can do as a society is to offer all the help and support we can get.

  (It goes without saying - fuck all sexual offenders.)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨dear republicans, what's the point of alienating every single ally of the US?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Yeah now try being absolutely unknowledgeable when it comes to tech and very much into makeup, skincare, 90 day fiance and parenting content. Lemmy, it’s been nice, but after one and a half years I started lurking to Reddit every once in a while again.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Maybe tomorrow⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  For me it’s the other way around. That pizza is looking at me replacing the finished pea package yet again for months and months on end.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨So, is the USA screwed?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m afraid you won’t have time. It will take minutes. And I’m not even sure it would be announced.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨So, is the USA screwed?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  So, in the best case scenario, the US as we know it is done and, after a hard fall and hitting rock bottom, will emerge as a country that is less of a capitalist hellhole. Ideally, in the process, other countries will find more independence from the USA, be it trade wise or security wise.

  The more realistic scenario is that everything will stay the same/similar and just get slightly worse all the time but every other country will still suck up to the USA and everything gets a little worse. Oh yeah and climate change will fuck everyone up the ass.

  The worst case scenario, I would argue, is that this ends in the destruction of the world via nuclear war within less than an hour. This is what I am scared of the most.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Working below minimum wage to save the planet⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Everyone here fixing stuff with 3D printers while I am here struggling how to sew up wool silk leggings in a way that keeps them elastic and fighting for my life with darning

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨my version is better⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I’ve always heard promises promises give an end to those promises in the bridge of Lady Gaga’s Pokerface

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Can you eat soap for acid reflux?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I wouldn’t eat soap simply because it’s amphiphilic, which is why, well, it makes good soap. The molecules have a hydrophilic and a lipophilic side and this will much rather soap off and severely damage the lining of your digestive route, potentially and probably also resulting in dangerous foaming.

  If you take the most simple soap that’s just like potassium ions and negatively charged fatty acid residues, I’m not 100% sure but I doubt that the fatty acids want to accept a proton because they are rather stable when negatively charged, hence they won’t work well to buffer the stomach acid. And again, by the time that the fatty acid thinks about accepting a proton or not it will most likely be soaping up your cells’ membranes.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Choosing pink is chaotic evil?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Nah, I don’t like weed or any of the other options

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Choosing pink is chaotic evil?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I’d take yellow because nothing would change

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨When they tell you "oh of course it's safe" they are lying⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  On a sadder note, there are a lot of instances of men forcing themselves on their partners who just gave birth. Some nurses do catch them trying to make love in the hospital. But it’s usually… not exactly the new mom’s idea to do it. Not sure why you would want to bang a torn, soft, expanded, bleeding treasure cave to begin with but ok.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨America's Next Health Secretary Enjoying A Meal With His Future Boss and Colleagues⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I can smell this picture

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨If a leftist ran for president, would liberals support him?⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  It’s so sad to see this, especially knowing that while you can like or dislike Clinton and Pelosi, I doubt they are unware that Sanders is not proposing socialism. Socialism and social democracy are two very, vastly different things. And they for sure know this very well.

  I sincerely hope that Sanders will found a new party soon, it will have 4 years to gain momentum. Will it win in the next election cycle? No, but it might actually get enough votes to win in 8 or 12 years. Just do it.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨"I'm hungry and thirsty at the same time what do I do???"⁩ ⁨⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Does anyone know the context? Is the soup a metaphor?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Delivery Photo⁩ ⁨⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  100%. Back then I didn’t know that, I assumed contacting the delivery service was the logical step. Some googling then showed me that was wrong and I should have contacted the company right away. But that wasn’t even a thing I thought about googling - it seemed like the feud was with me and Hermes only.

  But everyone, take notes.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Delivery Photo⁩ ⁨⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I had that with a rather expensive parcel from Korea “delivered” by Hermes. They claimed it had been delivered to my post box - a small slit of an apartment building. There were skincare products inside and no way this would have fit in there.

  Anyway, it was not there. I wanted to call them to ask about it and jfc it took me a labyrinth of automated answers in a chat bot to even get the number for customer service. Once I called them - same shenanigans. Robo answers, asking for the parcel number. It always ended with “it has been delivered to your post box. Thank you”. Somehow, magically, I finally managed to talk to a person - after pressing a very specific combination of dials during the robo answers which I will never be able to reproduce - I explained them the situation, they said “uhum” (like a nod), started typing in silence, to then tell me “the parcel has been delivered to your post box” I am very glad this was a phone call because at that point I would have gotten violent.

  I ended up asking the company I ordered from for help and they just resend the parcel. The missing parcel was never found and I hate hermes.