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• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Socialism is the actual teaching of Jesus⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago⁩:

  I enjoyed that a lot. Thanks

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• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Socialism is the actual teaching of Jesus⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  I wanna see them bible shitposts

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  There is no such thing as a bad reason for not wanting to drive a car. Any reason that makes you not want to drive a car is valid.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Press F to pay respects⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I know that I need to migrate, nevertheless thank you for making sure I know. What I meant with

  How this matters

  Is that honestly I don’t see how I am connected to the instance to begin with. I’m trying to find a comparison that expresses what I feel but I fail to find a good one. Like a browser choice? No, there are differences in using firefox vs chrome. Like an email provider? Nah, also a huge difference. Like a remote control? I have come across weirdly designed remote controls though.

  But the instance - I have no connection to it whatsoever. It is just a random thing that provides me access to (all instances of) lemmy. I’m not sure I could care less about it.

  Maybe the closest I can come up with is the difference between a gmail.account ending in .com or in .de .

  But again, maybe I am missing something important here. I’m really tech illiterate and it is not the area I have an innate grasp at. (I used to drop that I have no idea what a router is, how tf the internet works (there are cables at the bottom of the ocean?!) or how code is even doing stuff. The problem is that I always end up with an inbox of people thinking they will be the one to make me understand.)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Press F to pay respects⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m an absolute noob when it comes to tech and I don’t even know what instance I am on and how this matters to be honest.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Most American headline⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Yeah, well, if a cheese sandwich was good enough for my grandparents and parents, it’s good enough for me.

  My sibling in Christ, your grandparents smoked and drank whilst being pregnant with your mom and dad.

  (This isn’t supposed to be a diss, I’m just trying to point out that this might be some survivor bias and that our ideas of what is healthy or not change over time. Which is great, we always add knowledge. It’s not so long ago we discovered vitamins. My former supervisor discovered the first biotin receptor. God, a couple of years ago keto was the new hot shit.)

  (The Netherlands, moreover, does have a lot going on that plays into its citizens’ health. Doesn’t it? You seem like a solid social democracy and you got more bikes than people. Maybe it’s that and not the cheese sandwiches :P)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Most American headline⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m not sure you know how much a euro is worth if you think 30 euros a month is enough to feed a kid?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Most American headline⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I rather fix the issue of why parents can’t feed their children cause they probably can’t properly feed themselves than working on fixing an consequence.

  I wholeheartedly agree here, but this would mean a huge ass systemic change. It would be infinitely better to treat the cause and not the symptom - but it would also be harder, take much more effort, more change, more willingness from politicians, more consistency. This is just not realistic in the short or even medium run. Providing free and healthy school lunches is already a very hard and difficult goal/job. However, it has the benefit of being very concrete. You have one task that you focus on with direct benefits. Improving the conditions so that parents can feed their children better is very vague and much more multifacetted. Where do you even start? Minimum wage, working conditions, daycare options, healthcare, boosting the economy, increasing social security… 100% you should do all that, but man, you’ll wait a long time for this to become so much better as to have a measurable effect on “lunch performance”.

  Also, even at the end, parents can still make bad choices. As you mentioned, sandwiches are considered healthy even in the Netherlands. I do, indeed, work in nutrition science, and the ideal sandwich is healthy, but 99% of people eat severely unhealthy sandwiches. A friend of mine is a dietician and, my Lord, I’ve at least had the privilege of reading studies and not working with people because people are dumb. I can’t believe that in 2025 you got to tell people that white bread and candy is not good for you or that you shouldn’t drink sugared soda instead of water. People don’t know that sugar makes you fat. People don’t know what a calorie is. People don’t know that you can’t soak your salad in ranch dressing and put 15 fried chicken fingers on top and that’s not “a healthy low calorie salad”. You will always have negligent parents. You will always have parents with mental health issues or other struggles who cannot safely provide food. Especially in a socially rotten country like the US.

  Last but not least, why not do both. You can absolutely both work on fixing the underlying issues and in the meantime work on providing free and healthy school lunches all over the country (or, for that matter, planet). Actually, you absolutely should do both. They don’t exclude each other a bit.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Most American headline⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Maybe I should just bring some leftovers and eat them cold, could do that as well I guess.

  You could absolutely do that, or cook dishes that are meant to be eaten cold to begin with. Onigiri, buddha bowls, gazpacho soup (with some volkoren bread ;) ), a salad with falafel balls, etc. A zucchini-egg-oats-ham-cheese slice from the oven is also a cool afternative, you can cut it up and freeze it and just let it thaw as you need - and eat it with one hand. Bring some baby tomatoes on your walk. Eating a cold lunch doesn’t mean you need to choose between leftover cold spaghetti with meatballs and a sandwich.

  I understand the value of taking a walk, but eating while walking is also not exactly the healthiest.

  Last but not least - our little conversation here is actually off topic. The question is about school lunches. And while you might like your cold, unhealthy sandwich and a walk (all power to you) - school children who can’t return back to class earlier if they eat faster do absolutely deserve a warm and nutritious lunch. Remember that in the US, a lot of people cannot afford to feed their children at home, let alone with a warm and healthy meal. Maybe a sandwich for lunch is fine if you then have a great breakfast at home and a big dinner, but imagine all you eat in a day is a white bread pb&j sandwich for lunch and then the same for dinner, breakfast skipped. This is the reality for many more people - many more children - than we can imagine. And children move more and they are growing and they have to concentrate at school, they need to be full and nourished.

  This is why this is so important. Providing all children with a free or at least dirt cheap meal that is both tasty (as in, accepted by the children’s freakishly picky palate) and nutritious is an incredible challenge, but it is possible. Yet it is treated as an afterthought at best and poor people shaming and punishment at worst. If a child gets a pb&j for dinner and no breakfast, it better have a goddamn delicious huge ass plate of wholegrain maccaroni with vegetables and chicken breast and a low fat joghurt with fruit salad for lunch. And a salad bar. Because salad bars rock. I’d prefer it not to be chicken, but I probably have the only kid that genuinely likes boiled tofu over meat.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Most American headline⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I understand the appeal of bringing a cold lunch, but from a nutritional perspective only few sandwiches really are healthy. Most breads have little to no whole grain part (I remember that ultra fluffy bread from the Netherlands exchange, it was amazing but definitely not nutritious), and at best you can fit in two slices of tomato and cucumber and a salad leaf. The greatest part is the fillers of usually “animal protein” which contain too many saturated fats.

  Don’t get me wrong, you can absolutely make a healthy sandwich with whole grain bread, homemade hummus, grated carrot, tomato, salad, cucumber, sprouts, quality cheese or seitan slices… But most people just don’t do that. Most people take light bread with butter or cream cheese and deli meats and cheese on top.

  I have been at a congress a couple of years back (I work in biomedical and nutrition science) and one presentation was by someone who gave dietary advice in clinics and reviewed some common tips and guidelines of dietetics. One of them was recommending adding bread as a whole grain source. The caveat was that people would not just eat the whole grain bread (if they were even to choose whole grain instead of white or light bread to begin with), but that - even when you substitute lets say a serving of white noodles with actual whole grain bread - you don’t eat the bread alone. You put toppings on it, butter, deli meats, cheeses, which are all high calorie and not exactly healthy for you. Patients (especially the ones trying to lose weight) ended up increasing their calorie intake and their sat fat and salt intake by adding healthy bread to their diet.

  I don’t want to say that a cooked, warm lunch is automatically more healthy than a sandwich - but you have many more options here and more practical ones than with sandwiches. You can add so much more vegetables to it.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨So close!⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Pasta doesn’t lose the majority of its vitamins to its cooking water though. (Mostly because pasta doesn’t have many vitamins to begin with)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨do you think freewill truly exists?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  That’s beautifully written and very to the point. I wish you well in your search for a partner who takes you as you are and, equally important, who you like as they are.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨do you think freewill truly exists?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  But if you feel comfortable, why is it problematic?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why do people care so much that their friend or family member’s partner is attractive and not just loving?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  My mom and sister used to say my husband looks like he just got released from Auschwitz so I feel you 🫠

  Maybe it’s because your dad wants you to get a perfect person. Someone who is nice and loving and interesting and attractive and successful and rich and a good cook and volunteers and whatnot. My guess is not that they would prefer you to have someone handsome and unloving instead, but someone who is both handsome and loving. Because to them, you’re perfect. So they want you to have the (what they assume would be) perfect match. Most of this is probably not an active thought process but just some subconscious thinking.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Thats fair⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  That’s a good point, but in my opinion the other common deaths are way worse. Cancer? Living with the anxiety of impending death and constantly getting sicker, more in pain and being nauseous from medication? Or COPD, feeling like you are suffocating slowly? Alzheimers, Parkinsons? Or my personal fear - dying from a stupid simple cold? Man, I take a heart attack any day of the week.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Fixed: Celebrity Inquiries Season 2 Episode 4⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Favorite affects the booty too. Well thought through graphic

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What would this list look like for your generation?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  I will proceed to check out the national anthem of Djibouti and the state anthem of Mississippi. I might be back with some questions.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  When I was in elementary school I tried to start a protest during the break by getting on the desk and proclaiming that we need to stop the discrimination of the middle finger, it is a finger like the others and should be allowed to stand on its own just like the other fingers. Needless to say I held up my middle fingers during that passionate speech. I was also very sincere about it, not emotional, but I did find it unjust. I’m not sure where I am going with this but it was weighing on my chest for too long and needed to get out finally. Thanks for reading.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What's the point in getting married?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  People have already pointed out the legal and financial aspects. But I also want to address the philosophical aspect of your question, which I think you had in mind. And I think the answer I would give you is this one:

  Marriage has the meaning that you assign to it.

  I strongly believe that if we got rid of any legal and financial benefits of marriage, even if we made it explicitly illegal, there would still be a bunch (or even a lot) of people who would get married.

  I would compare it to a house fire. If my house was burning (and there were no living beings in it) and I could save 5 things, what would I save? What would you save? I would take, for example, my favorite soft toy from when I was a kid, and my old box filled with diaries. Is this worth any money? No. Does it have any value? To me, it does. To you, it doesn’t. Maybe you are a very rational person that isn’t attached to anything (or to nothing material) and you would indeed make the smartest choices, saving your passport and documents and money. Maybe you would save a small gift that someone important has given you. Maybe you would save the first guitar you ever bought. You save whatever has value and meaning to you. And these things have solely the meaning and value that you have attached to it.

  Likewise, people have different value and meaning attached to marriage. If you look at it from a rational, logical side - it has its legal and financial perks and benefits and if they weren’t there, getting married would make no sense. But things don’t have to make sense. The meaning we assign to rituals, things, concepts, aren’t necessarily rational. They are, however, deeply personal.

  So, as a side note, please beware of ridiculing people for their views on marriage or weddings, just like you wouldn’t want to ridicule or belittle someone for other things that mean a lot to them. Always sharing the last piece of bread. Always giving a coin to a homeless person. Having a breakfast for 30 minutes every morning. A good night kiss on the nose from their partner. Drawing a dick in the first snow of the winter. Some things mean a lot to people even if they do not rationally make sense.

  In the case of marriage, of course, some of the meaning comes from culture, history, and tradition. Marriage might have had different purposes than it has now, and surely the origins weren’t that romantic. (Not saying, however, that marriage has to be romantic.) But it is there. It is important to some people simply because they have, at some point in their life, decided it is important for some reasons, rational or irrational, social, cultural, and hopefully personal too. To them, it makes sense, it has meaning, it has value. And whatever marriage or a wedding ceremony mean - you decide.

  So the question you should be asking is not whether or not you should get married, it is what marriage means to you. Does it have any benefit or value in your eyes? Are the legal benefits enough for you to get married? What is your stance on divorce? Do you feel like you would get “closer together” with your partner? Would you feel it would make things harder to separate? There are a ton on questions like these that you can ask yourself, I hope you get the jist. There are not right or wrong answers. The only thing that is important is that the meaning you assign to marriage is (about) the same as the meaning your partner assigns to marriage. You can both not care about a spiritual meaning, but just get married for the benefits. You can both be a type of “whatever happens, we don’t get divorced, til death do us part”. You can be “we’ll keep reevaluating whether we still belong together”. You can also be “we get married because we have children and this is practical”. Or “we get married because I am hot and you are rich and when one of us loses their asset we split”. Or “we just want a fancy huge ass party to show our love in this very moment and celebrate it with our friends and whatever comes afterwards is secondary”. It doesn’t matter what your view is, it matters that you guys agree.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Which actor did not have a single bad film?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Tbh I struggle to come up with an actual good and not just mediocre movie that Tom Hanks was in.

  Adding to the trash list: Incredibly loud and extremely close. They massacred the book.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Which actor did not have a single bad film?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  He is in this abomination of a book adaptation for Incredibly loud and extremely close.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Which actor did not have a single bad film?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m sorry but… Most of them? Especially since it’s his performance that has become poor. He is playing himself more and more. A similar thing happened to Johnny Depp. Look at both of them in What’s Eating Gilbert Grape and then at stuff like Great Gatsby, Wolf of Wall Street, Shutter’s Island, Django / Willy Wonka, Pirates of the Carribean, Shadows, Transcendence. The acting and characters are so similar and they don’t give an effort anymore (or try to, and absolutely overdo it).

  (Sorry I somehow incorporated a Johnny Depp rant in a critic of DiCaprio, their story of decline is just too similar to me. And Gilbert Grape is an amazing movie.)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨James Bond is responsible for many wasted vodka martinis⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  God that sounds disgusting. I think, for the first time in 4+ years of sobriety, I actually feel genuinely sad for not being able to try that one out. It sounds so awful it must be good.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Please dont feed the creatures 🪱⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  First it was hanging, now it’s shooting. Make up your mind. It might help to first get your head out of your ass though.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Please dont feed the creatures 🪱⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m a parent too, and here are my thoughts on this. I would rather knowingly live next to a pedophile - someone who outs themselves and goes to therapy - than not knowing about whether or not my neighbor has ever had such tendencies. I wouldn’t forbid them from having contact with my child, if they are sure it is not too hard for them, and obviously, keep them supervised. (I have barely ever left my child with another adult outside of the kindergarten setting though.) As was commented above, pedophilia is a valid and incredibly unfortunate, isolating and lonely sexual orientation and a disorder that can be treated, if not “cured”. I wholeheartedly agree with what you said about society’s hostile mentality driving people into the shadows and keeping them from seeking help.

  I also want to point out that the majority of minor sex offenders (sorry I can’t remember the correct term, English isn’t my first language) has no pedophilic tendencies. A lot of sexual assault happens not because of attraction but because of power, dominance, violence, control. It’s something so important to keep in mind. Your local pedo might be the nicest and most harmless guy, while some other, heterosexual and “normal” oriented person in your neighborhood might have actually assaulted a child. Not having pedophilic tendencies does not mean a person won’t commit pedophilic acts.

  In a way, my heart goes out to pedophiles. I can’t imagine how incredibly lonely it must be to have a desire for intimacy only with people who you will never, under any circumstances, be allowed to touch. You will never be able to act on your desires. You will never be allowed to live like yourself, be yourself fully. This must be hell. Even without the witch hunt. The least we can do as a society is to offer all the help and support we can get.

  (It goes without saying - fuck all sexual offenders.)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨dear republicans, what's the point of alienating every single ally of the US?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Yeah now try being absolutely unknowledgeable when it comes to tech and very much into makeup, skincare, 90 day fiance and parenting content. Lemmy, it’s been nice, but after one and a half years I started lurking to Reddit every once in a while again.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Maybe tomorrow⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  For me it’s the other way around. That pizza is looking at me replacing the finished pea package yet again for months and months on end.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨So, is the USA screwed?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m afraid you won’t have time. It will take minutes. And I’m not even sure it would be announced.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨So, is the USA screwed?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  So, in the best case scenario, the US as we know it is done and, after a hard fall and hitting rock bottom, will emerge as a country that is less of a capitalist hellhole. Ideally, in the process, other countries will find more independence from the USA, be it trade wise or security wise.

  The more realistic scenario is that everything will stay the same/similar and just get slightly worse all the time but every other country will still suck up to the USA and everything gets a little worse. Oh yeah and climate change will fuck everyone up the ass.

  The worst case scenario, I would argue, is that this ends in the destruction of the world via nuclear war within less than an hour. This is what I am scared of the most.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Working below minimum wage to save the planet⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Everyone here fixing stuff with 3D printers while I am here struggling how to sew up wool silk leggings in a way that keeps them elastic and fighting for my life with darning