Blueberrydreamer
@Blueberrydreamer@lemmynsfw.com
- Comment on Has this ever happened to you? 1 week ago:
I am a man and I’ve been roofied in public. It happens far more frequently than you would like to believe.
I cannot blame any woman who doesn’t want to take that risk with a stranger.
You seem to think I’m targeting men here, but that’s foolish. People are unpredictable, and anyone has the capacity to be dangerous. The only reason to respond to mild caution with such excessive hostility is your own insecurity. Nobody is calling you a rapist here man, it’s not about you, it’s just a precaution.
- Comment on Has this ever happened to you? 2 weeks ago:
Do you all have a different idea of what a date is than me or something? The point is to get to know someone you don’t know yet. I guess if you were communicating for weeks beforehand this might seem weird, but that’s making some big assumptions. You’re acting like this woman has requested her friend accompany her for every moment of their ongoing relationship. It’s wild to me to get so insecure about someone not fully trusting you this first time you meet. Trust is built over time, and it’s not a slight against you if someone wants to protect themselves.
call it a crazy thought, but if i were premeditating sexual assault, i probably wouldn’t choose someone who has my name, photos, phone number, and a history of correspondence to show motive. lol
And yet, a casual examination of history shows that it happens all the time. And more often than not, charges never get brought up.
Now certainly the perceived frequency is far higher than the actual likelihood, but I don’t blame anyone for not wanting to roll those dice.
- Comment on Has this ever happened to you? 2 weeks ago:
Sorry, but you’re coming from a place of ignorance here, but I do get it. I used to feel that way, but I’ve known too many women in my life who’ve experienced assaults in public places to pretend it’s not a real issue. I’ve been roofied in public myself (wrong target, presumably) and have the privilege of only really having to worry about some scrapes and bruises. But the holes in my memory and understanding that that night could have easily gone far, far worse if I had been someone’s target is something that will always stay with me.
If you develop a phobia of men that is so bad that it prevents you from interacting with men, then that is YOU problem and you need to work that out.
This is stupid bullshit. Nobody has suggested anything like this and bad faith nonsense wastes everyone’s time. Grow up. It’s obvious you’re taking this woman’s caution as some kind of personal slight. It’s not, and you should really examine where those feelings are coming from.
- Comment on Has this ever happened to you? 2 weeks ago:
He shouldn’t, and the fact that that idea doesn’t even cross most men’s minds is an enormous privilege.
I don’t know about you, but I generally take a little time getting to know someone before I decide to trust them. Why on earth would you not?
What you don’t seem to consider is the risk involved. When the consequence of misplaced trust is potentially rape or death, a small amount of caution is plainly warranted.
Nobody is out here assuming all men are rapists, that question is as irrelevant as it is idiotic. The point is that any man could be a rapist, and those odds sure as hell aren’t small enough to just roll the dice on some rando you’ve never met.
It’s easier for us (I’m assuming you’re male too). I don’t really have to care. The worst consequence we can reasonably expect is what? A too attached girl who won’t leave you alone? When was the last time you went on a date with someone who could physically restrain you? It’s not the fucking same, no matter how much you want to pretend it is.
- Comment on Has this ever happened to you? 2 weeks ago:
Why should they trust some random dude they met on a dating app?
You act like that’s some crazy fear, but it happens all the fucking time.
If you’re that dismissive of other people’s concerns, maybe you shouldn’t be online dating at all.
- Comment on Has this ever happened to you? 2 weeks ago:
Most women don’t make a habit of going out to bars alone, for good reason. It’s a very real risk.
As a guy who’s been roofied (presumably by accident, still don’t know what happened) I sure as hell don’t blame them.
- Comment on Any tips for designing a fitting part for the golf 6 dashboard 2 weeks ago:
Buy or print a contour gauge: printables.com/…/57209-lockable-contour-gauge
Get the contour you need, trace it onto paper, the. Get whatever measurements you want, or take a pic and bring it into your modeling program.
- Comment on Trump says TikTok should be tweaked to become “100% MAGA” 2 weeks ago:
Good to know there’s some context available if you want it. Thanks for taking the time to reply!
- Comment on Trump says TikTok should be tweaked to become “100% MAGA” 2 weeks ago:
Is there though?
I know this sounds sarcastic, but I’m genuinely curious as I have never used TikTok at all. It there any way to verify the stuff that’s being shown? Do news accounts link to articles or any supporting information?
All I’ve ever really seen from people sharing stuff has been new typical meme stuff and AI generated crap that people keep sending me thinking it’s real.
How can you tell if what you’re seeing is real?
- Comment on Why is lemmy full of insufferable lefties. You could be left wing and end up becoming right. Simply because of the insufferable people you meet here: don’t fit into there rules your gone, your trolled 2 weeks ago:
Maybe it’s just cause I didn’t get to it till this year, so I skipped the janky stage, but holy shit that’s one of the absolute best games ever made IMO.
You got me with better ragebait than OP.
- Comment on Elon musk is a pedophile 2 weeks ago:
You’re drawing nonsense conclusions.
People like to “protect” basic logic. This time it just happens to relate to someone rich. The person pointing out the basic logical flaws is certainly just as happy to do it in other situations.
Your assumption that it has anything to do with the wealth of the subject matter is your own bias at work.
- Comment on Using Tylenol(acetaminophen) during pregnancy may increase children’s autism and ADHD risk 3 weeks ago:
Of course! It’s always refreshing to engage with someone with good intentions.
So, this would only be a misrepresentation if the authors were claiming to look for causes of Autism.
Good science is based on testing a hypothesis. ‘What causes X’ is not a testable hypothesis, it’s too broad, the variables aren’t defined. ‘Does Y effect X?’ is a testable hypothesis, and a solid basis for initial research.
The question of ‘what causes autism’ is a huge one that can’t be answered by a single study. Each potential factor needs to be evaluated on its own merit, and this study does exactly that (with admittedly questionable results).
However, something like the recent HHS report is exactly the place where it’s wildly irresponsible to present only one potential hypothesis as a ‘cause’. That’s where we would expect a high level view of a range of established factors (since obviously there is no one ‘cause’).
- Comment on Using Tylenol(acetaminophen) during pregnancy may increase children’s autism and ADHD risk 3 weeks ago:
I understand your passion here, but it’s a little misguided.
The goal of this study is not to try to determine a singular cause for autism. That’s some outside political bullshit that’s relevant in a broad sense, but not the stated purpose of this study.
They set out to look at a potential link between Tylenol and ADHD, so they look at studies involving Tylenol and ADHD. It’s pretty straightforward. P-Hacking would be selecting only studies that did show a positive correlation between Tylenol use and ADHD.
Your climate change metaphor is just wildly off base, I don’t know what to say here honestly.
As others here have pointed out, the study is mildly flawed but the real issue is that the inconclusive results are being wildly misrepresented.
- Comment on Using Tylenol(acetaminophen) during pregnancy may increase children’s autism and ADHD risk 3 weeks ago:
A search for those terms returns any study that looks at those terms, regardless of whether or not a link is indicated. How else do you expect to determine the validity of a hypothesis if you don’t look at studies that test that hypothesis?
- Comment on Germany's Ecosia, a nonprofit search engine, said on Thursday it has submitted a proposal to assume a 10-year stewardship of Google Chrome 1 month ago:
Honestly yeah that’s even better. How great would it be to watch Chrome slowly die out while funneling money to fight climate change?
- Comment on Germany's Ecosia, a nonprofit search engine, said on Thursday it has submitted a proposal to assume a 10-year stewardship of Google Chrome 1 month ago:
Seems like it allows a non profit to assume control of a company without having to pay out funds to actually purchase it. They apparently have to reinvest all profits back into the company rather than directly benefiting from it. Though the article does mention under the proposal, some unspecified portion of Chrome profits would go toward ‘climate action’, so there’s some vague positive out of it.
Seems like it would be pretty great honestly, so I can’t imagine it’ll be accepted.
- Comment on Games Where Nothing Happens (SPOILERS for various game plots) 2 months ago:
Didn’t play TLoU, but if you didn’t catch it from the start, the point of The Mandalorian was clearly always about Grogu becoming ‘the Mandalorian’. Just cause it didn’t go the way you expected doesn’t mean nothing happened.
- Comment on 'Consumers are not okay with okay': Take-Two boss says BioShock 4 is taking so long because the company's goal is 'to make the best entertainment, not necessarily the most entertainment' 2 months ago:
Making Elizabeth invincible is the only way that game is playable for me. There’s no chance in hell I’d play an entire game that’s one long escort quest where I’m constantly worried about the useless sidekick that I’d rather be without. She may not have added much, but a superficial narrative device is a thousand times better than a crippling gameplay decision.
- Comment on NSFW on Lemmy 2 months ago:
And nobody is going to get in trouble for scrolling past a woman with a bikini on at work. If your workplace is that strict, you’re going to be in more trouble for scrolling social media on the clock.
More graphic content is visible in ads on any major website. The idea that a clothed woman should be censored as if it’s vulgar is excessive in my opinion. Where do we draw the line? Shoulders? Knees? Ankles? I had assumed as a society we had decided it was the actual genitals, but apparently not.
- Comment on NSFW on Lemmy 2 months ago:
And they would be fine with you publicly browsing Lemmy on the clock?
- Comment on NSFW on Lemmy 2 months ago:
NFSW is meant to help people view content at work/in public by making it avoidable.
I agree with this. This is the fundamental point of the tag. I don’t want anyone to lose their job, or suffer undue consequences for happening across something particularly graphic, upsetting, or unlawful.
If it’s debatable and isn’t tagged, that’s inconsiderate and a request to tag it should be treated with consideration and kindness.
This is what I don’t agree with. Everything is debatable. I live in the US south, if my coworkers had their way, any image of a drag queen or a pride parade would have to be marked NSFW. And while thankfully this isn’t a problem on Lemmy (yet), that means a sizable portion of the population would be unable to see that content at all without uploading their ID and giving up any semblance of anonymity.
There’s nothing dangerous, illegal, or upsetting about a woman in a bikini. It’s something any person might see in public at literally any time if you live somewhere warm. And yes, I’m sure there are people who would feel harassed if you waved an image like that in their faces, but I cannot imagine a scenario where someone suffers any professional setback because someone saw them scroll past some clothed tits.
- Comment on NSFW on Lemmy 2 months ago:
NSFW is cultural shorthand for porn or graphic content. It’s not a literal guideline for what’s acceptable in every single workplace. Should ACAB posts be labeled NSFW because saying that at my workplace in the US south would make a hell of a lot of people uncomfortable?
And why are you browsing Lemmy at work in full view of passing coworkers? Is it that lax that you can just openly fuck around and your only concern is someone might see a girl in a bikini?
- Comment on not today, my dudes 2 months ago:
Vent just refers to the general end of the butt. It’s the cloacal aperture that’s the all purpose asshole/penis/vagina. It’s really an all-in-one orifice, quite a time saver.
- Comment on NSFW on Lemmy 2 months ago:
And I think everyone here can agree that any of these subs that are focused on explicit material should absolutely be pressured into setting the sub NSFW.
The part that has people against the OP is that he’s claiming a girl in a relatively modest bikini should be flagged NSFW, and that a sub for non-explicit anime pics should have to adopt the NSFW label, which seems excessive to me.
- Comment on NSFW on Lemmy 2 months ago:
It’s legally sold to minors, available in grocery stores, hell I’ve seen them sitting on a rack in doctor’s offices.
NSFW is the terminology we use for actual explicit material, that’s the point. It’s a shorthand. Getting overly literal about how ‘work’ should be applied to the context is like arguing that all FPS games are actually RPGs because you’re ‘playing the role’ of some character.
- Comment on NSFW on Lemmy 2 months ago:
How is it ‘clearly’ anything? It’s the only example OP provided, what else are we supposed to judge his claims by?
- Comment on NSFW on Lemmy 2 months ago:
Well since you obviously didn’t open the link, it’s a girl in a fully covered bikini. Literally not softcore anything, it’s as racy as sports illustrated.
- Comment on Why does technology create new problems for each one it solves? 2 months ago:
Every action has an equal opposite reaction…
- Comment on Windows 11 will soon be able to describe images on your screen using AI — and it'll all be done locally 2 months ago:
Thankfully I already have for the most part. Unfortunately I’m stuck dual booting until I can find a way to run fusion 360 on Mint.
- Comment on I totally missed the point when PeerTube got so good 2 months ago:
If those people are inaccurately spouting ‘facts’ from some article they can barely remember, yeah that’s pretty much exactly the same output.