lonefighter
@lonefighter@sh.itjust.works
- Comment on The people who believe "progressiveness is just a fad that one grows out of" are the same people that grew up getting brainwashed into regressive politics. The belief is only true for them. 1 day ago:
I grew up fairly socially isolated. I was always taught as a kid and younger teenager that people different from me are bad, that X type of people deserve bad things to happen to them, yada yada conservative bullshit.
Then I got older. It’s hard to see X type of people as the bad guy when they’re treating you with more kindness and less judgement than everyone you grew up around and when you realize that they may be different from you and want something different from life than you, but they still just want to survive the day and find happiness, just like you.
- Comment on YSK Your smoke detectors should be replaced every 7-10 years 3 days ago:
I work in EMS. When we respond to house fires in the middle of the night there’s kind of two different ways they go. When people have smoke detectors and their house catches on fire in the middle of the night they’re the ones who call us and we get on scene to find them outside their home in their pajamas, watching their house burn, very shaken up but ok. They never need anything from us ambulance-wise except maybe some blankets. When people don’t have smoke detectors in their homes and they catch on fire in the middle of the night a neighbor or passer-by calls the fire in and we get on scene and the firefighters are dragging bodies out to us.
- Comment on You ever wake up and question, "am i the bad guy"? 4 days ago:
I think it’s also important to realize that there’s a difference between being hurt and being wronged. Sometimes someone can do something that hurts you but isn’t wrong, morally, ethically, or legally. It might even be the right thing (ie, breaking up a relationship if it just isn’t working out). It might hurt you, but it didn’t wrong you. And then some people wrong you, such as committing crimes against you, being abusive, or shitty to you, and that’s not ok.
- Comment on 15 degrees fahrenheit feels almost the same as 5 degrees. However 35 degrees feels WAY colder than 45 degrees. 2 weeks ago:
But after experiencing 15 or 5 for a few weeks 35 feels almost like spring. A few weeks ago I was half frozen at 35 with 2 jackets on, yesterday it was in the mid-30s and I took off my one jacket and was just in short sleeves because I was starting to get sweaty.
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- Comment on Ring is always recording and uploading to their servers, even with you're not paying for the subscription 2 weeks ago:
What drives me crazy is that even if you don’t install them yourself, you can’t opt out. I live in an apartment complex. I don’t have a doorbell camera, but I have to go past at least 2 of them every time I leave my home. It feels like an enormous violation of my privacy, especially knowing that some companies participate in facial recognition and tracking and freely share that information with the government. I want to complain to management but I know I’ll just be treated like the creepy neighborhood criminal.
- Comment on Those of you who are angry at the US for allowing ICE to stifle people's liberties - how do you channel your anger and irritation? 5 weeks ago:
I work in healthcare. I’ve been spending a lot of time studying, listening to podcasts, and improving my healthcare knowledge and trying to be a better provider for my patients. You know, do better for the little bit of community I can affect.
I also go to the gym a lot and I’ve started doing a martial art. Get my physical body in shape and get myself out of my head. It gets me to stop thinking of the world and my own problems for a while.
- Comment on You've probably met someone who has killed a person 2 months ago:
Yup. I got a 2 hour lecture in EMT school that dealt with all of mental health and psych emergencies and included a “hey by the way take care of yourself, you’re going to see some really fucked up shit, a large amount of first responders end up with PTSD, the suicide rate is through the roof, if you don’t figure out how to deal with it you’ll be part of those statistics too”. Super helpful. Nothing like the feeling of watching your paramedic partner and your supervisor both crying in the privacy of the back of the ambulance after the death of a child.
- Comment on YSK that in most countries, traffic fatalities have been falling. But in the U.S., the opposite happened. Americans die in rising numbers 2 months ago:
I think e-bikes are such a problem in the US because we have such a car-sentric culture and the majority of people who are riding them seem to be people who lost their drivers licenses due to poor life decisions (AKA, dangerous driving or DUI) or are too young to get a drivers license in the first place. They take the same dangerous, stupid mentality and transfer it into their riding of the e-bikes. I drive an ambulance and every single day I see a suicidal idiot blitzing through traffic at top speed on an e-bike, running red lights and stop signs without even slowing down or looking, going the wrong way up one way roads in the middle of the lane, driving at 3am down the middle of the road with no lights (almost always going the wrong way and running stop signs), ignoring the blocked off bike lanes on the roads that do have them, or just generally being an absolute menace and an idiot. We have so many bikers getting seriously hurt or killed because of their antisocial behavior. I’ve almost hit a couple in my ambulance because they’re constantly pulling out right in front of me or simply trying to bike right into the side of my rig as I’m driving down the road doing the speed limit, forcing me to either swerve or possibly end their entire existence. They just assume that car drivers will get out of their way, which is a dumb assumption when most of the drivers are just as dumb and are fucking around on their phones. Suicidal fucking idiots with zero survival instincts. I have zero problems whatsoever with the ones who are responsible and follow traffic laws, but they seem to be in the low minority around here.
- Comment on Maybe most of society doesn't have much critical thinking because those who get those "critical thinking" genes go crazy from overthinking things and therefore fail to pass on the genes. 3 months ago:
This is such a good answer and I hate that it’s true.
I also am a one income household and also am no stranger to having to choose “rent or groceries” on a regular basis. I hate that you can’t get food assistance unless you make minimum wage, but where I live they release analysis every year that a single adult needs to make at least 3x minimum wage just to be able to afford to exist with a one bedroom apartment at market rates and that’s without having extra money for savings, hobbies, or going out.
I have fucked up so many things in my life but I will always be eternally grateful that I never fucked up and got pregnant.
- Comment on Just work a little harder 3 months ago:
Update, if anyone is interested. Kitty is ok, but things ended up being worse than the vet realized. Externally everything looked good except needing a cleaning and the vet thought maybe a tooth might need extracted, but when they did X-rays 4 of his teeth were being resorbed by his body and the roots were basically gone, so they needed to be pulled. Poor guy is doing good, very unhappy about his current life situation and will be medicated and in a cone for the next 2 weeks, but I’m glad it’s taken care of and he’s home.
- Comment on Just work a little harder 3 months ago:
Oof, I don’t know how I’d function if I had a toddler. Single parents amaze me, I can barely function as a single person. I have pretty bad ADHD and work is an absolute white knuckle struggle, but I have absolutely no one since my last relationship failed and I don’t want to be homeless so I cry a lot at home and then slap a smile on and grind through my shift.
- Comment on Just work a little harder 3 months ago:
Vet bills are the worst, but my cats don’t have the option to do anything about their situation or choose to work different jobs or change things about their life so it feels wrong to decline medical care and potentially make them suffer when they don’t get a say in the matter. I can make that choice for myself and my own medical care, but it feels cruel to make that choice for them, you know? They’re stuck in whatever life I give them, so I try to make it better than mine.
I hope your cat is ok!
- Comment on Just work a little harder 3 months ago:
Kitty will be ok, thank you. Just needs teethies taken care of. If we’re lucky not pulled, just anesthesia and deep cleaned, so not really surgery, but still expensive as hell. If not lucky, teeth pulled and painkillers, so more like surgery. He goes in tomorrow, both of us will be very unhappy.
- Comment on Just work a little harder 3 months ago:
Reading this while working a shift that will put me at 85 hours of work this week. Will be able to buy groceries this month and pay for the surgery my cat needs. Also, am tired AF.
- Comment on It can be harder to surveil private conversations if everyone just used sign language. 3 months ago:
DnD nerds freaking out at the thought of Thieves Cant becoming a legitimate skill.
- Comment on [deleted] 3 months ago:
I’m not a NYC resident, so I can’t vote in their election, but I wouldn’t vote for Cuomo if I was!
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- Comment on People who rely on their phones/computers to tell time probably forgot or didn't realize that a Daylight Saving Time-Change even happened, some might've forgotten that DST existed at all. 3 months ago:
That’s incredibly unfair. Everyone says we don’t, but I just checked my timesheet and it’s listed as a 13 hour shift (instead of 12) with a notation marking it as happening during a time shift.
- Comment on People who rely on their phones/computers to tell time probably forgot or didn't realize that a Daylight Saving Time-Change even happened, some might've forgotten that DST existed at all. 3 months ago:
I work night shift. I got to watch the time on my phone reset and then relive the hour again while stuck on shift.
- Comment on If everyone spontaneously became the same race the world would realize that the rich are the real problem 6 months ago:
I remember a little while ago when it was in the news for a very short time that they found several mass graves in PA of Irish who were brought over to be indentured servants. I don’t remember if they had determined what the cause of death was, whether it was illness or murder, but it stopped being news pretty quickly because no one really cared.
- Comment on Epstein puts my morality into perspective 6 months ago:
This is my random uninformed opinion, and I’m well aware that there are problems with it and it’s not the solution, I merely throw it out there as food for thought. I think every worker should make a living wage as base pay, but as a teenager I worked a job that was a tipped job (not food service).
It was in the late 2000s and early 2010s I made about $5.50 hr base pay, which was twice what my employer was legally allowed to pay me as a tipped employee, although by law at the end of the week if my tips didn’t get me up to the federal minimum wage of $7.25 they had to make up the difference.
I loved it. I did it for several years and at the end of every year I averaged $12+ an hour, and I was one of the employees who worked a larger chunk of slow shifts which obviously skewed my hourly average downwards. For a 15, 16, 17 year old teen in 2008 when the economy had crashed that was REALLY good money. Every other job was either a minimum wage job, or waitressing for tips. If I worked a busy shift I could work 4 hours and leave $100 in tips richer, plus my base pay. I don’t make $30 an hour now working in healthcare.
Anyway, all of that lengthy word salad to say that while I understand and agree with the arguments that tipping culture allows companies to not pay living wages, for teens and college students, who are probably always going to struggle, rightly or wrongly to get a well paying job, finding a job where they are mostly paid in tips can be a life changer. I worked hard in high school and stashed my tips away and when I turned 18 I had a (very) used car that I purchased myself and almost 10k in savings that I used to sustain myself through my 20s when I was trying to launch myself into adulthood through lower paying jobs that didn’t pay a living wage. I do not come from a privileged background, my parents didn’t help me with anything and in fact from the time I was in elementary school I had to work for basic life needs, so having that savings from my own work was a safety net that would have been almost impossible to build up $7.25 an hour.
- Comment on Could one legally get a hold of those bank bill dye security dye packs, dye your own legally obtained cash with it, and spend it places? Just to make people suspect you're secretly a bank robber. 6 months ago:
This sounds like something you would do if you have already robbed a bank and you need to get rid of the dyed money. Buy your own dye, withdraw your own money, dye cash that you can prove is legally obtained, spend it in a bunch of places and make it a “thing”, become known around town as the “crazy dyed cash dude” then start throwing your illegal cash into the mix.
- Comment on Mr. fatass and his fat ass 7 months ago:
So I take hours to fall asleep if I’m on a day shift schedule (I can go to bed at 9 or 10 and still be awake come 4 or 5 am) but when I work night shift and go to bed at 8 or 9 am I’m asleep within 15-30 minutes. I don’t usually dream that often, it seems to correspond more with my mental health. If I’m going through it I dream more. I think it’s both an escape mechanism and my brain’s way of processing things. Normally I don’t notice I start dreaming right away when I am in a full night’s sleep, but I’ve definitely hit the 5 minute snooze on my alarm, fallen back asleep, and had an entire intricate dream before the alarm woke me up 5 minutes later. I can also get incredibly amazing 3 minute long power naps and go from being dead on my feet to completely refreshed and ready to go for hours. No surprise, my sleep schedule is fucked. I work nights and go to school days and sometimes go 24-40 hours without getting sleep and actually function pretty well.
- Comment on Mr. fatass and his fat ass 7 months ago:
My partner at the time also witnessed both cats having a cat fight on top of me while I was asleep and said I never stirred. He also once found one of the cats sitting on my chest, slapping me repeatedly across the face and crying little distressed meows, unable to wake me. Now that I’m single I’m still a heavy sleeper, but I wake up if the cats call for me. I’ve also had a couple people throughout my life tell me that I’m such a still and quiet sleeper that they had to check my pulse because they couldn’t tell if I was breathing and they started to get scared.
- Comment on Mr. fatass and his fat ass 7 months ago:
A few years ago I had small unexplained tender bruises on my chest and arms that would not heal for several months, long enough that I was beginning to get a little concerned (is it cancer?).
One night I was lying awake at 3am when one of my cats chased the other into my bedroom and onto my bed. 4 paws came flying onto me, perfectly landing on each tender bruise before launching back off of me, then the other cat landed on me with his paws in the same spots before jumping off in chase of his furry friend.
Mystery solved, and that’s how I figured out just how heavy of a sleeper I am. My cats had been using my sleeping body as a launchpad for months and I was none the wiser until I happened to be awake.
- Comment on Mr. fatass and his fat ass 7 months ago:
Me all the time talking to my cat:
“Girl you are fat as fuck… … … It’s ok. Me too.”
We’re both working on it.