eupraxia

@eupraxia@lemmy.blahaj.zone

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago⁩:

  This was one of the more baffling experiences in coming out - seeing some of the most scientifically minded, media literate people I know suddenly shut off all of those instincts when they encountered “the trans debate.” Like someone with a healthy amount of skepticism around statistics linking me bullshit “average number of sexual partners” figures from a conversion therapy lobbying group. Or someone with an active dislike of sports suddenly deciding that the sanctity of women’s sports is more important than their relationship with their daughter.

  The best explanation I’ve been able to come up with is that gender is regimented by complex trauma, often when we are children, and these are the types of cognitive distortions that occur when we’re in fight-flight-freeze-fawn responses. Flashbacks are often thought of as vivid sensory experiences i.e. re-experiencing the traumatic event, but it’s a spectrum of responses. Many are more subtle and feel extremely normal in the moment, while our ability to reason is actually overtaken by our need to feel safe in the face of a perceived threat.

  I think this kind of statistics vomit can sometimes be a “flight” response to a perceived threat of someone being trans in proximity to them. Flight responses are characterized as attempting to avoid a threat by throwing oneself into action not to overcome, but escape the threat. Perhaps a wall of text with nuanced-and-reasoned set dressing and lots of links and numbers feels like a wall between them and “the problem.”

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Tough question⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  astrology nft or son daughter?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨YSK that there's a better index than the BMI to measure obesity called the Body Roundness Index⁩ ⁨⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  my main beef is that “too fat” is a wildly varying scale from person to person because everyone stores and processes fat differently. and if you’re “too fat” that may not in fact be your most relevant health concern. my experience with health providers that focus on BMI during intake is that if you’re “overweight” many other health problems will be seen through that lens even if they’re unrelated… or in my case, lots of dieting advice, being told to exercise more come to find out I had an undiagnosed nervous/muscular condition. now that it’s treated somewhat, my weight stays pretty much in “normal” BMI with the same or lower activity. I’m kinda pissed it took this long to get treatment for an underlying condition because the ruler said “too fat.”

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Men Harassed A Woman In A Driverless Waymo, Trapping Her In Traffic⁩ ⁨⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Best description of this I’ve read, thank you. It’s not a question about men directly, it’s a question about how women have to navigate a world with a small percentage of men that will hurt them given the opportunity.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨You know who⁩ ⁨⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Hi are you doing anything later you probably don’t want my bank account but I can bring some material to blackmail me with or something