Dude almost lost his life

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• Catoblepas@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  lol, don’t ask questions you don’t want answered.

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  • victorz@lemmy.world ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Should be able to ask a question without being sexually assaulted though, right? Bro tried to kiss that little boy.

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    • Catoblepas@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      “Little boy” (dude looks early 20s) started asking for information about his sexuality and sex life on the street while filming him. He’s lucky he didn’t get his ass kicked, and I wouldn’t be surprised if he was fishing for content like that (or at least someone getting offended by it).

      Not aware of any jurisdiction where attempting to kiss someone and stopping immediately when they say no is sexual assault, but maybe you can enlighten me.

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    • ook_the_librarian@lemmy.world ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      That wasn’t sexual assault. If you want a lesson to take away for what he actually did wrong here: he attacked the reason for rejection. It’s a natural thing to do. But that’s really the only thing wrong here.

      Going in for a peck is fine. Planting one before they react wouldn’t be. But taking rejection gracefully is nearly impossible. Let’s try to be better.

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    • teamevil@lemmy.world ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Pretty sure the proper term is twink.

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• activ8r@sh.itjust.works ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  That guy isn’t a Dom. He is just a sexually aggressive partner.
  Real Doms require consent and that guy did not consent to being spoken to like that. Once boundaries have been established then that kinda talk can be hot as fuck, but based purely on this video alone the interviewer could have been anyone.

  Overtly aggressive talk like that right out of the gate is not sexy, it’s just aggressive and can go very wrong if the person you are talking to is a sexual abuse victim (which, in my experience, does appear to be more common in members of the BDSM community, make of that what you will).

  So anyone who looks at this video and sees no issue with his behaviour, take a step back and look at yourself. You don’t know what other people have been through and it’s incredibly important to make sure that people have a foundation of safety in any D/S communication, no matter how brief.

  I can only hope that this wasn’t their first interaction and it was played up a bit for the camera. Otherwise this is simply unacceptable.

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  • Catoblepas@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    I think it’s incredibly telling that very few people are considering it sexual harassment at all for a stranger to come up to someone on the street, shove a camera and microphone in their face, and start questioning them about their sexuality and sex life.

    I’m sure it has nothing to do with the guy who started and continued talking about sex being a baby faced white guy and the other dude being a fit black guy.

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    • activ8r@sh.itjust.works ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      I’m sure it has nothing to do with the guy who started and continued talking about sex being a baby faced white guy and the other dude being a fit black guy.

      It’s not.

      I think it’s incredibly telling that very few people are considering it sexual harassment at all for a stranger to come up to someone on the street, shove a camera and microphone in their face, and start questioning them about their sexuality and sex life.

      Asking a question about someone’s sexuality isn’t sexual harassment. That’s a really weird thing to think.

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    • MaoZedongers@lemmy.today ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Yes we should make being an on the ground reporter illegal they shouldn’t be allowed to ask people questions in public that’s crazy and he was forced to answer, he totally couldn’t just like ignore him and keep walking, what an invasion of privacy in public.

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    • Neon@lemmy.world ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      I’m sure it has nothing to do with the guy who started and continued talking about sex being a baby faced white guy and the other dude being a fit black guy.

      Your Comment was absolutely great until you had to make it about skin color.

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  • 0x4E4F@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    (which, in my experience, does appear to be more common in members of the BDSM community, make of that what you will)

    It’s what they know. If they were children when it happened, it shaped their view on sex for their entire life. There is no going back from that. You can surprese the feelings, but you really can’t experience sex in any other way… of very rarely. They even sometimes see love theough that perspective.

    Can’t blame them… it’s fucked up, but the best they can do is just move on and do whatever makes them happy, even if it is BDSM.

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    • activ8r@sh.itjust.works ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      I agree there is definitely some element of that for many people. I am a Domme myself and a lot of that is liking the control in the bedroom. I would never dream of talking to someone like that as a first interaction, but I have said much worse without blinking an eye under the right circumstances.
      The opposite is true as well. I have found many Subs that like to be submissive within strict boundaries. At the end of the day it’s all about having control and that is defined on both sides, just in different ways.
      I’m sure there are infinite more circumstances and thought processes as well.

      Though I would like to highlight it’s not everyone. People are all different and there are many members of the BDSM community that haven’t experienced sexual abuse or any other kind of abuse. Just normal people that like to get freaky.

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• indomara@lemmy.world ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Wow that made me recoil in horror and awkwardness. Image

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• escew@lemmy.world ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  I can see the appeal of responding absurdly when asked an absurd question in public, on camera.

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• Viking_Hippie@lemmy.world ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Yeah…methinks someone’s compensating for some major insecurities 😄

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• jpreston2005@lemmy.world ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  I mean. dude is obvi standing with a bunch of other queens outside a gay bar. Nobody was in danger, and everyone acting like this was so crazy, is probably just reacting to the fact that he was asking a big black dude. What, y’all saying black guys are inherently more violent or something? get tf outta here with that racist BS

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  • MaoZedongers@lemmy.today ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    going for a kiss was the crazy part, that ain’t ok.

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    • jpreston2005@lemmy.world ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      From my perspective, looked like he was goin for a kiss on the cheek. I dunno. the whole thing seems a lot more innocuous than is being portrayed here in the comments and most definitely in the title. “Dude almost lost his life?” Dude talked to a gay guy and almost got kissed on the cheek

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  • erev@lemmy.world ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    that’s what im questioning. if he was a more flamboyant queer person would people have laughed it off? based on the comments i suspect they would have. it’s the fact he was “aggressive”; which i agree he may have been a bit forward and i wouldn’t recommend opening like that but he was also mostly respectful when rejected. I don’t think he’s trying to hurt anyone nor was anyone in any danger, he just probably knows the type of people he likes and they probably know him.

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• MaoZedongers@lemmy.today ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  life ass

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  • 0x4E4F@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Yeah, I don’t think that little dude is gonna survive a night with Demarco 😂.

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• tygerprints@kbin.social ⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  He sounds more like DomSadoMasochist - not there's anything wrong with it! I know some guys are into the domination scene, but when it gets this angry and scary I'm not sure where the line exists between funtime fantasy and rape anymore.

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