Identity. Most overrated fad thing ever. People with no personality trying to find meaning in completely irrelevant information. Oh, you’re a gay martian? That’s cool I guess, but can you juggle?!?
‘Why didn’t you tell me?’: the Australian push to have all adopted people told their full history and identity
Submitted 3 weeks ago by Davriellelouna@lemmy.world to australia@aussie.zone
https://www.theguardian.com/society/2025/aug/03/western-australia-adopted-people-history-identity
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AstaKask@lemmy.cafe 3 weeks ago
jerkface@lemmy.ca 3 weeks ago
Try living for fifty years without the natural ability to maintain an identity that others enjoy and then tell me its overrated.
AstaKask@lemmy.cafe 3 weeks ago
This magical ability to “maintain an identity” you speak of, is not a real thing that exist.
Taleya@aussie.zone 3 weeks ago
Ask me in 3 years.
47 in sept, ASD.
Taleya@aussie.zone 3 weeks ago
Holy shit just landing this on people apropos of nothing is the worst idea imaginable.
How the fuck can you go “finding out ar an older age i was adopted smashsd my life” and immediately think “Lets campaign to do it to everyone else”
Madzielle@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 weeks ago
My half sister didnt know her step father wasnt her real father. She found out when she was 19 because another half sister of ours (my father got around) found her on Facebook.
It shattered her.
I was told when I was 5 years old by my mom I was adopted by my step father. She did it in a shitty way, (during their messy kids in the middle divorce) but at least she was honest.
Definitely prefer the way I found out, to the way my sister did. Finding out young, I think it was easier for me to adapt, and have support. My sister still doesn’t have a great relationship with her mom and step father, and it’s been some years.
Kids don’t like it when their parents lie to them, who knew.
Taleya@aussie.zone 3 weeks ago
We’re not dealing with kids though, these nutters want every damned adult unaware of their adoption status to have their worlds mandatorily blown apart.
Fleur_@aussie.zone 2 weeks ago
The upset stems from being lied to all that time
Taleya@aussie.zone 2 weeks ago
of course. so we should hurt them without their permission, consent or involvement. Why, exactly?
artifactsofchina@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
This is just too sad.
Killer57@lemmy.ca 3 weeks ago
I mean honestly, at the end of the day why should you have to tell them if they look like they fit in, and they’re happy, let that be.
piccolo@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
Medical history would be pretty important.
Taleya@aussie.zone 3 weeks ago
Tbh i was fucking 40 before my mother casually mentioned haematomachrosis "ran in the family’ and there’s plenty of disconnected ignorant or straight up deluded people out there. Not really a strong argument.
Killer57@lemmy.ca 3 weeks ago
I can agree on that, but those are things that can be mentioned as running in the family.
Schmoo@slrpnk.net 3 weeks ago
Wouldn’t it be better to just make that information available on request? Make it known that they can retrieve that information at any time, but they don’t have to if they prefer not to know.
Taleya@aussie.zone 2 weeks ago
that’s the recommendation, to build a framework and make information more easily obtainable to people who are questioning their birth status.