‘Why didn’t you tell me?’: the Australian push to have all adopted people told their full history and identity

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• Schmoo@slrpnk.net ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Wouldn’t it be better to just make that information available on request? Make it known that they can retrieve that information at any time, but they don’t have to if they prefer not to know.

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  • Taleya@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    that’s the recommendation, to build a framework and make information more easily obtainable to people who are questioning their birth status.

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• AstaKask@lemmy.cafe ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Identity. Most overrated fad thing ever. People with no personality trying to find meaning in completely irrelevant information. Oh, you’re a gay martian? That’s cool I guess, but can you juggle?!?

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  • jerkface@lemmy.ca ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Try living for fifty years without the natural ability to maintain an identity that others enjoy and then tell me its overrated.

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    • AstaKask@lemmy.cafe ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      This magical ability to “maintain an identity” you speak of, is not a real thing that exist.

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    • Taleya@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Ask me in 3 years.

      47 in sept, ASD.

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• Taleya@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Holy shit just landing this on people apropos of nothing is the worst idea imaginable.

  How the fuck can you go “finding out ar an older age i was adopted smashsd my life” and immediately think “Lets campaign to do it to everyone else”

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  • Madzielle@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    My half sister didnt know her step father wasnt her real father. She found out when she was 19 because another half sister of ours (my father got around) found her on Facebook.

    It shattered her.

    I was told when I was 5 years old by my mom I was adopted by my step father. She did it in a shitty way, (during their messy kids in the middle divorce) but at least she was honest.

    Definitely prefer the way I found out, to the way my sister did. Finding out young, I think it was easier for me to adapt, and have support. My sister still doesn’t have a great relationship with her mom and step father, and it’s been some years.

    Kids don’t like it when their parents lie to them, who knew.

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    • Taleya@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      We’re not dealing with kids though, these nutters want every damned adult unaware of their adoption status to have their worlds mandatorily blown apart.

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  • Fleur_@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    The upset stems from being lied to all that time

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    • Taleya@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      of course. so we should hurt them without their permission, consent or involvement. Why, exactly?

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• artifactsofchina@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  This is just too sad.

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• Killer57@lemmy.ca ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  I mean honestly, at the end of the day why should you have to tell them if they look like they fit in, and they’re happy, let that be.

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  • piccolo@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Medical history would be pretty important.

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    • Taleya@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Tbh i was fucking 40 before my mother casually mentioned haematomachrosis "ran in the family’ and there’s plenty of disconnected ignorant or straight up deluded people out there. Not really a strong argument.

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    • Killer57@lemmy.ca ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      I can agree on that, but those are things that can be mentioned as running in the family.

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