Comment on ‘Why didn’t you tell me?’: the Australian push to have all adopted people told their full history and identity

• jerkface@lemmy.ca ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Argument by bucket of crabs

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  • Taleya@aussie.zone ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    i don’t understand this comment

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    • jerkface@lemmy.ca ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Crab_mentality

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      • Taleya@aussie.zone ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        Yes i know what crab bucketing is, i do not understand your comment and its contextual relevance

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• Fleur_@aussie.zone ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Right but if a doctor asked you to check with your biological mother you would know who to go to and be able to get accurate information.

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  • Taleya@aussie.zone ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    uh, no

    1 - Doctors don’t do that. they may ask “Any history of X in your family?” but it’s not a supercritical diagnosis factor, they can easily work without it.

    2 - a number of people - myself included - have no contact with their biological parents despite being raised by them. Quite the opposite, ironically. There are also a number of people who have lost their parents / family over the years

    3 - your parents are not accurate information sources.

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    • Fleur_@aussie.zone ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Right so a doctor would say “any history of x” and you could ask and get an honest answer.

      Sure, only being able to reply “I don’t know” isn’t helpful. But it’s far better than telling the doctor false information that you believe to be true because you are under the impression that you know who your biological parents are

      That’s exactly why adopted children should be required to know they are adopted.

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      • Mister_Ruse@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        Knowing you’re adopted doesn’t make you automatically know who your biological parents are. Or where they are. Or how to contact them.

        Is really not that big a deal and many people don’t accurately know their parents medical history or able to ask them. Generally the only reason is if you say yes, they might monitor some things closer. Or check for something earlier. But they’re not gonna say screw you that condition is impossible because it doesn’t run in your family that you know of. They still follow the symptoms.

        False information regarding history will never harm you. Answering no won’t have them automatically rule it out. Especially because they’re aware bad communication, adoption etc is a thing.

        And if you’re really worried? Just tell them you have a history of everything. Yeah mum had this. Dad had that. Grandma said something about that once. Etc. It really doesn’t matter outside of more attention given to it. You might slightly waste a little more time and resources. And maybe grandpa really did have that thing. My dads dad passed when he was a child. I don’t know jack all about his history or what could have developed later in life.

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