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• Droggelbecher@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  Can’t think of a situation where ‘calm down’ is a constructive thing to say

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  • HikingVet@lemmy.ca ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    Emergency situations. There are others. Just because you think all your emotions are valid doesn’t mean they are helpful to those around you.

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    • Droggelbecher@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      Jokes aside, I know there’s many situations where you should help someone to calm down. What I mean is that phrase won’t achieve that.

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    • Droggelbecher@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      Calm down

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  • Curiousfur@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    I mean, I’m prone to spiralling occasionally and having someone call it out can help ground me, but ymmv

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    • Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      it depends on why you’re not calm, if it’s not due to anger then being told to calm down might work, and if it’s fear then having someone calmly say “hey hey calm down, it’s ok” will work by sheer dint of seeing someone else obviously not being bothered

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  • FelixCress@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    Calm down.

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    • Droggelbecher@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      Constructive

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  • cRazi_man@europe.pub ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    When my toddler is over excited and bouncing around too enthusiastically and is about to hurt himself. It seems to work OK to ask him to calm down.

    That’s one specific situation from my life, since you seemed to imply you were looking for an example.

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  • Kyle_The_G@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    has panic ever actually helped? Staying calm is generally a good idea

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    • Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      it helps for the situations it’s actually evolved for: running from a fucking lion that burst out of the bush

      the whole point is that without having to consciously decide to, you start running or fighting and doing so with full force thanks to all the adrenaline, then after you’ve run away or made the nasty thing run away you can analyze the situation and do damage control

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  • DmMacniel@feddit.org ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    Never in the history of ever has calm down ever caused someone to calm down.

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    • LifeInMultipleChoice@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      Works if it comes from someone you respect/ look up too. If a doctor or EMT says it, it tends to have more effect. Because the people believe they are working in their best interest. Anyone who gets more upset at their partner for saying calm down either does not trust them to have their best interest at heart at that time, or does not respect them.

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    • Quadhammer@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      Tay swift has entered the chat

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  • onslaught545@lemmy.zip ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    It sometimes works with our neurotic dog.

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• zeezee@slrpnk.net ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

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  • schmorpel@slrpnk.net ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    Was gonna say that but you did it better

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• ObtuseDoorFrame@lemmy.zip ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  Sometimes telling someone to “calm down” is actually appropriate, but mostly it’s straight up gaslighting. If someone reacts negatively to hearing that, they very likely have a good reason. This meme is borderline misogyny.

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