Hey there, I was wondering if this is normal or if anyone can relate to this.

I 20/male was born in Germany and lived my whole life here but since I was a child I was fascinated with America, grew up consuming all the media from there and always wanted to live there.

I always had the feeling that I’m misplaced and don’t belong where I’m from. I was always searching for the place where I feel like I belong but never found it.

I always have this inner conflict of not knowing where I truly belong and what’s better for me/where I will be truly happy and feel more like “home”.

For example I always wanted to go to America cause I thought it was way better and more advanced than Germany especially when it comes to consumerism. The bigness, space, “freedom” and variety of places, stores, culture and nature was always appealing to me. And I also preferred the English language and the social interactions.

But then I’m conflicted if the culture is maybe dominantly shaped by consumerism and wonder if that is really good and truly makes me happy/gives me what I need. I wonder if it actually has stronger hustle culture and am unsure if that might take away from the connection with people and nature and might only make my deep void inside me bigger. Maybe it’s more artificial in the US and I might find more meaning/connection grounded in German society that might focus more on embracing an organic life connected to people and nature and less on individualism and materialism. But maybe it’s the exact opposite.

Never having lived in the US makes it very hard for me to know what the reality would be and what place would make me happier. Maybe anyone here has experience with both countries.