Sunsofold
@Sunsofold@lemmings.world
- Comment on Will I become a bad person in a year? 3 days ago:
Morally? No.
Legally? Be careful. Some places have allowances in laws to permit relationships between closely aged young people, even if one is technically a minor. Some places do not. Check your local laws. If it’s not explicitly laid out as an exception, a bad breakup, a bad parent, or even an unlucky encounter with a nosy cop can seriously damage your life.
- Comment on What percentage of the world population ages 30+ do you suppose is capable of financially supporting themselves & living & thriving independently? 3 days ago:
~0%. Everyone is reliant to some degree on others. Even if you grant a tropical paradise to somewhat ease the physical needs, even survival is a team activity, and no one thrives under forced solitude.
- Comment on Awooga 3 days ago:
B to GGG in a few months? That’s almost a b-movie horror plot.
- Comment on Are fossil fuels vegan? 3 days ago:
‘Eggs are really small potatoes?’ Got it. Off to make some potato salad.
- Comment on What's the name of the type of man I'm attracted to? (pictured) 1 week ago:
The mockery in ‘chav’ is not about class, but choices in relation to class. Class is not chosen. That particular ‘look’ is certainly chosen.
This is a young man in a pub. They might call him working class, but few would call him a ‘chav.’
The young men in your provided images are absolutely the sort who would be called chavs, not because of something intrinsic to themselves, and not because they work for a living, if they do, but because of the choices they have made in how they present themselves to the world.
The chav look is not respected because it simultaneously follows neither the unwritten rules of modesty and dignity that the working class often use to claim moral superiority over the wealthy, nor the unwritten rules of ‘tasteful conspicuous consumption’ used among the wealthy as their in-group lanuage. It is part of a subculture within working class spaces that attempts to draw esteem via conspicuous consumption, but without wealth. It is a subculture which has ‘bought in’ on the consumerist ethos which says ‘who has the shiniest hat, and the most attention, is the best person.’ The message is subtle, but present.
You can be attracted to the aesthetic, just as some people are attracted to the aesthetic of prison inmates, serial killers, fascist uniforms, etc, but the real-world versions of those things are not something to hold in esteem, regardless of how hot they might be. You aren’t the first person to be attracted to an aesthetic tied to a problematic culture, and you won’t be the last.
- Comment on do you apologize, even if it's not your fault just to make the other person feel validated? 1 week ago:
I tend to treat words fairly literally and try to be precise, so if I say ‘I’m sorry,’ it’s because I am sorry. If I want to sympathize, I can say other things. (‘That’s awful.’ ‘Those bastards…’ etc.) On occasions where I have not felt sorry because the other person has reacted emotionally to something , I tend to ask questions. Calmly giving people a chance to feel heard can often help.
In most cases, though, I try to move people toward solutions-oriented thinking to prevent spiralling. Asking questions lets them put the problem into words, helping them switch from a defensive emotional stance to an open brainstorming stance. Giving people a goal can make them feel a sense of progress, giving them distance from the problem and possibly netting a better final result than even might have happened without the inciting event. - Comment on what does it mean being nice to your coworkers to you? 1 week ago:
Masking techniques
For prying questions, pick up some evasive answers. The response only has to vaguely imply an answer. Use ‘I’m not sure’ or ‘I don’t know’ where applicable.
To skip chitchat, skip the locations it starts if possible, and just look like you are in a hurry if you can’t avoid them.
Learn the signals for uninterest, like not looking at them, one word/grunted responses, beginning work, etc.
Keep in mind though, the purpose of the ritual is to let people feel good about their time working together. If you negate it, you will not have that positive impression in their minds. They will think of you negatively, which will absolutely cause you other problems. It might be worth spending 15 minutes of ritual as insurance to reduce likelihood of problems later because everyone thinks you are a prick.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 weeks ago:
It’s a tough question to even approach an answer to, because, for one, there are people who moralise the issue and say pedos shouldn’t have anything that might make them happy, regardless of whether it would reduce their likelihood of victimizing real children, (the same attitude saying drug addicts are degenerate scum) and less stupidly, the only way to tell what the effect of such a thing would be, would be to do it and see what happens. Then it’s the same problem with any other human experiment. If it led to a decrease in child rape, you’d see some academic writing on it but you would still get a lot of people hemming and hawing about the moral hazard. If it led to an increase, whoever made the decision to give the go ahead on it would be arguably morally culpable for all those extra kids being harmed. Not a lot of people funding grant proposals are looking to risk being put into the bad part of the history book to, just maybe, be labeled ‘the one who helped the most hated class of the mentally ill.’ (If anyone wants to argue the paedophiles aren’t mentally ill, I’d have to question how their definition of mental health includes rape, but I digress.)
Personally, I’d like to do away with the hate and get them all into some form of treatment, whatever that might mean. (I’m not a psychiatrist.) While they hide, they are more likely to be a danger to others. If visible, they could be researched, maybe treated or screened against, but we’ll never know while they are hidden, and it seems better to reduce the hate, usually a good thing to do in any case, and get them to come forward, than to surveil the whole of society as though we’re all criminals, or sit on our hands and pretend everything is going well, as is, when the President of the US, a member of the royal family, and dozens of other powerful people are dodging questions regarding possible involvement with a child sex trafficker.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 weeks ago:
We can’t even get everyone to agree kids shouldn’t be in porn. There is zero chance you are going to get everyone to agree to sacrifice their civil rights on the altar of ‘protecting’ the kids of parents who refuse to do it themselves from something many don’t view as harmful.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 weeks ago:
I mean… yeah. More or less.
- Comment on Weekly Recommendations Thread: What are you playing this week? 3 weeks ago:
Space Engineers
Ares at War scenario with Industrial Overhaul and Weapon Core to make everything as complicated as possible
- Comment on [deleted] 3 weeks ago:
Modded MC, specifically TFC packs
It hits almost all the right points to lock me in.
- Comment on Blackbird Interactive acquires full ownership of Hardspace: Shipbreaker IP 4 weeks ago:
Worried Blackbird was a publisher for a moment. Shipbreaker is great. I beat it twice (normally and no clones) and still play for relaxation. Captain Shack mentioned it during a stream a few days back and I was just thinking how it’s probably the only game where i’d actually willingly buy a DLC for a new set of ships or a sequel with the ability to add ships as workshop mods.
- Comment on Game prices should have increased with every new generation, former PlayStation US boss says 4 weeks ago:
Instead, investors did the fucking, and now here we are.
- Comment on My new laptop chip has an 'AI' processor in it, and it's a complete waste of space 4 weeks ago:
patiently waits for paper to publish
- Comment on Begun the kernel wars have 4 weeks ago:
You could also just not play games that think they are allowed to access the kernel at all. Seems safer, more affordable, and basically without downside. They aren’t even that good of games.
- Comment on [deleted] 4 weeks ago:
How much do you trust your father? This could go great or terrible. She could be a friend’s daughter who he genuinely thought would be a catch, or she could be a prostitute he’s trying to use to manipulate you. You’d be in a better place to know.
- Comment on Mushroom Lamp (Gnarled edition) 4 weeks ago:
I know, but you were thinking it SO LOUD.
- Comment on Can’t put solar panels on your roof? Plug-in ‘balcony solar’ may be for you. 4 weeks ago:
A long time ago I saw a thing about how foolish the creator thought it was people had stopped using awnings. They keep out the worst of the sun in summer and let it in during winter, when the sun is at a lower angle. My immediate next thought was, ‘why don’t we have solar panel awnings?’ They don’t require making holes in your roof you then have to worry about leaking. They can be mounted at the same angle as the roof so they wouldn’t be less efficient in many places. They could be added like eaves and keep the sun from heating the walls too, a huge benefit in hot areas.
- Comment on My new laptop chip has an 'AI' processor in it, and it's a complete waste of space 4 weeks ago:
Correct, for killer functionality to work you have to connect the camera to an automated turret system.
- Comment on Call of Cthulhu 4 weeks ago:
‘It says… no tresspassing?’
- Comment on Call of Cthulhu 4 weeks ago:
There are no runes on the clam. The runes are in your eyes.
- Comment on If CEOs think they can replace everyone with AI, why do they think Wall St. will need CEOs? 5 weeks ago:
- Comment on [deleted] 5 weeks ago:
The first higher part is basically a whimper but the lower part is more akin to mumbling or muttering.
- Comment on Why do people like the Punisher comics? 5 weeks ago:
I mean… James Bond is also just a guy who shoots people. Most non-action movies are just a series of conversations. How the story is told is often far more important than the boiled down concept.
- Comment on How do gameplay youtuber develop interesting commentary? 5 weeks ago:
I heard from one of the old big names of the space, AntVenom, way back when. The most important part is enjoying doing it, and I mean every part of it. You have to enjoy sitting there, talking to yourself while you play. You have to enjoy video editing. You have to enjoy collaborating with other content creators and putting a focus on making it interesting to watch more than interesting to play. If you don’t enjoy the process, you don’t actually want to do it. You want something you think you will get from it, and you won’t last.
Just pretend and give it a try. Use free (as in price) software for the first run. Play a game, something you were already interested in and just spout off to an empty room about whatever comes to mind, because that’s basically the gig. Then edit it down. This might take much, much longer than the recording. Regardless of whether you upload it or not, you get a taste. If you actually enjoy the process (not imagining what it might lead to, but the actual process) do it.
- Comment on Recommendations for games to play on a treadmill (i.e. not too intense) 1 month ago:
Turn-based RPGs generally move at the speed you do, so they aren’t intense in a way you’d have to worry about, and there are a LOT of them. Many Dragon Warrior, Final Fantasy, etc. games.
What I call ‘procedural’ games would also work, things where it’s less about pushing yourself to have perfect reaction times or compute complex values in your head, and more about just walking through the process in search of the Zen of flow state. Lots of simulator games fit in the category: train station renovator sim, house flipper sim, power wash sim, rover mechanic sim, mech mechanic sim, etc. Hardspace: Shipbreaker is a favorite in this category. There are also games like ‘Papers, Please’, ‘Contraband Police,’ etc. where you run down a checklist and try to spot anomalies.
Life games serve as well. They usually don’t have a hard limit on how you play through them so you can play as you like and progress in whatever way. Stardew Valley, Staxel, the My Time At … series, Farming Sim, etc. all lean toward just being pleasant rather than an intense challenge.
- Comment on Whatever happened to the blockchain/smart contract 'revolution' we were told about? 1 month ago:
It’s harder to doctor, but that’s not really the big worry with a contract. Contract disputes are usually more along the lines of ‘he didn’t pay me’ or ‘she didn’t deliver the goods.’ It’s much rarer for it to be an ‘I signed a contract that said BLAH, but they forged a contract to say BLAGH and faked my signature on it.’ As for censorship, I’m not sure what you mean. A government would find it difficult to obscure an on-chain contract but that’s also not really an issue. I don’t want to guess what you mean.
- Comment on How abnormal is it for a mother to be her son a fleshlight for his 18th birthday? 1 month ago:
Quite abnormal. Not bad, though.
- Comment on Whatever happened to the blockchain/smart contract 'revolution' we were told about? 1 month ago:
From what I’ve heard, the biggest problem is the inputs. You can write a ‘smart’ contract that says ‘if I get a pizza, user9000005 pays user30000004 XXX bitcoins’ but there’s no direct sensor for ‘user9000005 has a pizza.’ Someone has to manually put it in. At that point, it’s not automated. It’s just a payment processor with way less certainty, so why bother?
