Why do people care about empathy so much when it’s not needed?

Submitted ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩ by ⁨CatDemons4@lemmings.world⁩ to ⁨nostupidquestions@lemmy.world⁩

I may not be the best academically, or the smartest, but I’m a damn good leader who keeps everyone in check. I’m a good boss and a good Queen Bee of my friend group. I was (WAS) the main character of my life with the side characters who helped me along the way.

As an adult, I think of myself as less of a main character, but I’m still a good leader who can remember long lists of tasks and rules. I may not be good at empathy, but I’m better at sports than most people, and get mad at people I see as useless or incompetent, especially the women (on the team) who are weak and weak-willed and just are there to make friends. (I also hate weak-willed men)

There’s a goal to follow and we must all do everything in our power to achieve it, even if we must use others as tools to achieve it. In some instances, empathy does NOT matter, like in sports.

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ToadOfHypnosis@lemm.ee ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
Empathy doesn’t matter TO YOU. Society functions on empathy. It is a skill and one you clearly need to develop. You aren’t a good leader if you don’t have it, you just think you are.

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- voytek709@lemmy.ca ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
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  - kate@lemmy.uhhoh.com ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
    i don’t think it’s fair to guess at what medical diagnosis op might have
    
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Sanctus@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
Empathy is the fucking backbone of civilization. I know all this post is nonsense but that just needs to be said. If you can’t feel for your fellow human the rest of us might indeed just be better off with you shitting in the woods by yourself. The state of the world is evident to that fact as megalomaniacs, conmen, and authoritarians surge across the world.

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NegativeLookBehind@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
Lmao, you’re fucking with us right? You’re not really like this.

Right?

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jayemar@lemm.ee ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
Is this a serious question or a parody? I’m honestly unsure.

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- RicoPeru@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
  op appears to be detached from reality and expects reception within their echo chamber
  
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- Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
  Go read her other posts. It gets worse. She’s a complete narcissist and is REALLY trying to find one person to confirm that she’s not.
  
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  - voytek709@lemmy.ca ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
    She “just has ADHD and depression”.
    
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partial_accumen@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

There’s a goal to follow and we must all do everything in our power to achieve it, even if we must use others as tools to achieve it. In some instances, empathy does NOT matter

…and…

I’m a damn good leader who keeps everyone in check.

Those are things that someone that doesn’t know good leadership thinks good leadership looks like.

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Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
You sound like an insufferable bitch whom I’m glad I’m not assosiated with.

If you look at people as either “useful” or “useless”, that means you only see people for what their worth is to YOU.

I’m not here to advance you or your agenda. I’m not playing this undefined sport that you seemingly base your life around without mentioning which one it is.

That doesn’t make me, or anyone else useless. It just means we’re not here for your benefit. You claim you don’t think of yourself as the main character. I disagree. I think you DO think you’re the main character.

Here’s the reality check. There’s 8 billion humans on this planet. Every single one of them is the main character to their own story. There is no main story. Your story is no more more important than any of the other 8 billion stories. And empathy is the mental ability to understand that if something good happens to you, great. That’s good. And if something bad happens to you, and I mean truely awful, like your mom is killed by a drunk driver, then I as an emotionally mature person feel terrible for you. I would feel your pain with you. It doesn’t affect ME. I’ve never met your mom. But I’d feel terrible you went through that.

What YOU’RE saying is “I’M the most important. Fuck everybody else. I’M the only one who matters!”

Which in my eyes makes you weaker than any of the “weak willed women” you claim to despise. My 103 year old grandma before she passed raised an entire community since the 1920s. She’s stronger than you’ll ever be, all without raising her voice, or lifting a finger. She just told you exactly what you needed to hear whenever you neededto grow as a person. As far as I can see, you never had anybody like that in your life to challenge your mental state, and build you up as a person.

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TheReturnOfPEB@reddthat.com ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

I may not be the best academically, or the smartest, but I’m a damn good leader who keeps everyone in check.

How do you know you are a good leader ? Because everyone around you keeps telling you that ? Maybe you are just easy to manipulate.

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drbollocks@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
knew a person who acted similar, she abused me. she ended up losing her punching bag and may well lose her friends. apparently things are going terrible dor her, and that’s how you’ll end up too, with everyone leaving you if you continue.

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Gointhefridge@lemm.ee ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
Well that’s a bit of a cold outlook.

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southsamurai@sh.itjust.works ⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
Jfc, are you for real?

Because everything you just wrote indicates you would be the worst possible leader in any situation.

If this isn’t rage bait, it’s still just narcissistic rambling with no actual allusion question to be answered

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